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new relation advice
Hi,
I'm a 26 years female married from 3 years and a have a lovely happy family one baby boy.
I met a new colleague at work he sexually likes me and tried so many times to have some sexual relation with me,
After i refused so many times,i'm feeling that i'm getting along with him and i'm falling in love with him i can't stop thinking of him I want to be with him all the day.
I need your advice. what shall I do
Thank you
Bouba
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If you are married, there is NO WAY that you should be having sex with a guy at work. You'd really be hurting your husband and child. Spend more time with them, and less time with your co-worker. Also, would you like your husband cheating on you? I dont think so.
*Randy T*
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even though you are happy at home with everything.. these feelings for this co-worker may just be a small feeling for something new and exciting..and erotic. of course it's natural to after a while get bored or tired of the same old routine. for the time being i suggest that you tell this guy to stop harrasing you (yes technically he is) and maybe get moved to another section or even another work in general. tell your husband upfront that he is bothering you. it's ok to think about straying but it's not ok to actually do it. you should stay faithful to your husband (especially now that you and him have a child). you can also look into counseling to see if there's anything you can do to spice up your marriage or keep you from thinking about this other guy. hope i helped.
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well if you are married i would definately just forget any feeling u have for him because that would mean that u are cheeting on ur husband. if he wants to have sex with u just say no because that would mean just like i said be4 that u would be cheeting on ur husband hope i helped!!!
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girl you need to get yourself together im only 15 but i know that its wrong you said it yourself you have a lovely happy family keep it that way maybe you should get a new job.
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Tell your husband that he sexually likes you and what he has tried to do. Tell the guy that sexually likes you that you are not interested in him that way, and tell him that you just want to be friends or something like that.
XOXO
Charmed-Cherry21
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would you like your husband to cheat on you? think about how he would feel it would ruin your marriage and family.
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Marriage is supposed to be a commitment. You also have a child, something to consider, because anything you do to screw up your relationship with your husband WILL have impact on your child's life, and by impact I obviously mean in an adverse manner. It is no longer just about you and your desires - you have others you have to keep in mind at all times. Think of the love you have for your child and your husband - is it worth putting all that at risk?<br>
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I mean, flirting with a co-worker is one thing... wanting to take this into reality is something else.<br>
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And add to this the impact this could have on your career, and how people view your professionalism. This could not only ruin your family, but destroy your job.<br>
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Think about it. It shouldn't be that difficult a decision.
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ok im 15 and i dont know that much about marrages but all i know is this. You need to talk to your husband and tell him the truth b4 he finds out the hard way. Then go tell the other guy how you feel and tell him you r married. Thats the only way its gonna work. TALK TO THEM.
Its good you refused. Dont cheat on your husband and kids. Do the right thing.
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I agree, in large part, with Farren. You need to first look at how this would affect everyone in your life. Think hard about the stability of your marriage, and whether or not you think you can be happy in your possition for the rest of your life. If you, in any way, think that it will end eventually, then end it now. A baby boy will be much less affected by this as opposed to an adolescent (My parents got a divorce when I was a year and a half old, and unlike children who have adapted to living with both parents, I was unaffected). Keep in mind most marriages end in divorce, especially when the marriage commences at such a young age. Based on what you're saying, I think you should go for it. But end all things with your husband first.
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I think perhaps you feel like this because you see him as an escape from your responsibilities. Maybe you and your husband have gotten to that point, and you wanted the spark of something "new and exciting".
I think you shouldn't do anything with your colleague. How would you feel if your husband was cheating on you? Do you even love your husband?
Besides, too many children grow up with disfunctional families, missing a parent, or constantly split between the two. Would you want your son growing up like that?
Although, if you don't love your husband, and you think you really do love this man to the point where you'd enjoy a life with him more than your husband you should split. Growing up with two parents who don't love each other and fight a lot is bad too (believe me, I know).
Hope I helped, I'll pray for you hun.
-Farren
P.S. might want to read the "i know it's too soon
Posted Tuesday October 12 2004, 12:24 am" question, apparently he's feeling the after affects of cheating.
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dont do something your going to regret be shure u kno wut u want first
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