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I think I'm in love with my best guy friend. And that's cool and all, but he has a girlfriend, who I've met a few times and she's simply awesome. He says he's been in love with her for a few years, and she goes to a different school. They started dating over the summer, and I thought I would be okay with it all. You see, I've liked him since my sophomore year, and we're seniors now. And I really was okay with it all for a while, but then he started getting really flirty, and it's confusing me too much. What should I do?
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As far as having a relationship with him goes, I don't really think there's much you can do. If he's in love with another girl and if they've been together for a long time then getting in the way of that relationship will just cause a lot of problems and unwanted drama. I can't blame you for having feelings for him and I also can't give you the best advice on this sitaution but if I were in your shoes I would set aside a time to talk to him about how you feel. Explain to him that you have had feelings for him since sophmore year and that him flirting with you while having a girlfriend is hurtful and could also damage his relationship as well. Tell him to back off and focus on his girlfriend if that's what he wants or make up his mind because obviously in the back of head he has some sort of feelings for you otherwise the flirting wouldn't be going on at all. Hope I helped and best of luck.
xoxo
//hannah
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thats kewl that yew lyke yur best guy friend.. but yea thats a thing wif guys who are reallie good friends to yew... they tend to b flirty... and it can confuse yew.. but yea if yew lyke him just go ahead n tell him.. hes yur friend and im guessing yew'd normally tell him things lyke this so dont b shy just tell him
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Try not to respond to the flirting and back off a little. He's probably just having some fun because he thinks you're 'safe'. The last thing you want to do is hurt his awesome girlfriend and risk your friendship with this guy.
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If he starts flirting with you, just completely throw him off and say 'why are you flirting with me?' And then if he says that he isn't, assure him that he is, then proceed to ask him if he does this with other girls. (Being totally straightforward is always the best medicine)
There are some possible outcomes:
1) He will realize he has feelings for you.
2) He will realize he might hurt his girlfriend (there are 2 sub-outcomes)
a) and stop flirting because he doesnt want to hurt her
b) and break up with her because he realizes his feelings for her must not be strong if he is overly flirty.
3) Get pissed off momentarily (dont let him walk away from the situation)
4) Ask you if you care about him (in which case, you want to continue to be honest, because if you say no, he will stay with his girlfriend even if he has feelings for you.)
So, yea, be honest and blunt and just figure out what is going on inside the guys head.
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