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Hey loves. My names Hannah, I'm 18 years old and I'm currently a freshman student majoring in psychology at Midwestern State University in Wichita Falls, Texas. I'm an easy going laid back type of girl who loves to have fun and help people out. I'm great at giving advice that most of my friends consider me the "motherly type" minus all the boring lecture and things you definately don't want to hear. Some of my hobbies include surfing, snow boarding, shopping and just having a good time with the people I love. If you have any questions at all don't hesitate and feel free to ask. I'm open to answering anything that will help you out in the long run and make you feel better about the situations your struggling with. Thanks a lot and lots of love :)

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ok, i have been with this guy for a while, and the only time i ever see him happy is when we are together, and our mutual friends say the same thing, but he keeps pushing me away, his mom died in his arms 3 years ago and he was really close to her, some one told me it sounds like he loves me cuz he doesnt wanna lose me. does anyone have any ideas???? please help me!

Personally, I think he's pushing you away because he does't want to lose you. He's trying not to get too close because he's afraid of abandonment. Usually people who go through such dramatic experiences like losing a parent most likely become this way. It will eventually heal, however, he may struggle with this problem throughout his entire life and possibly even adult hood. Tell him about your feelings and let him know that you support him 100%. Best of luck.
xoxo
//hannah

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i took a girl on a first date with a girl and she is a sophmore and i am a freshman. she made me pick the movie and i accidently picked a blood and guts movie. she said she liked it and i asked her the next day for a second date and she said yes. do you think this is a second date out of pitty?

absolutely not. she obviously had a great time on the date and just wants to spend more time with you. i wouldn't worry about it at all. congratulations, you may have a new girlfriend on your hands! :)
xoxo
//hannah

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Im a sophmore and we just got told that a representative from Jostens(the ring company) is coming to the school this friday to take class ring orders. We got the information today and theyr sooo expencive but i found 3 that i love. Problem is theyr all at like the $200 and up mark...YIKES! So i want to know if any of u have any good ideas to help out my parents pay for some of it without really having to get a job that im stuck too (cant cuz i play soccer 3-5:30 plus h/w every night) If anyone has any ideas PLZ help!

I know class rings are really expensive because my parents paid 400 for mine so i definately feel for you. You could try getting a babysitting job on the side working for a friend of the family or maybe even a neighbor. Make flyers advertising your services and post them at the nearest library, grocery store or child care center. Another option is that if your really good at a specific subject start a tutoring service doing the same thing by advertising your business with flyers and such. if neither of these options work for you go to www.meetmark.com. click on "find a respresentative" in your area, fill out the form and a mark rep will contact you. mark is a line of makeup and beauty products created by Avon but targets a younger audience. you can start selling these products as early as 16 years old and it's really easy and fun to do. you pass out magazines, give free samples, set up appointments and clients buy products from you. you get 40% of everything you sell. it's an awesome way to make some cash. good luck with everything :)
xoxo
//hannah

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Hi, I straighten my hair everyday, but now that its rainiing im afrid it will get frizzzy and wavy. I use john fried hair serum and i have a chi. Do u think it will go wavy on me? Or do u have any ideas wut to do with my hair so it wont get frizzy and wavy? * I rAtE*

My suggestion for you is that on rainy or windy days either scrunch your hair or wear it in a cute ponytail. Not all ponytails have to be so boring so try buying some cute accessories or hair pins to dress it up a little. As far as scrunching goes bed head products work really well. When you get out of the shower towel dry your hair a bit, flip your head upside down and spray the scrunching serum randomly all over your head, making sure to get close to the roots as well. Scrunch your hair until your satisfied with the way it looks and add some hairspray to keep the hold. You can even put it in a cute messy bun or ponytail when it's scrunched too. Good Luck!
xoxo
//hannah

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Heya! I'm passing out candy on Halloween, and I want to know how I should decorate my porch. Nothing too big or expensive, just stuff I can do from things I have around the house. I think I'll have the candy in a hollowed out pumpkin, but I'm not sure what to do to decorate my porch. Any suggestions? Thanks!

find a lawn chair from your garage or back porch. if you don't have one borrow one from a friend or neighbor. you can make a really easy scarecrow out of clothes and other items around your house. take a pair of your dad's jeans, a checkered flannen shirt, some old boots, a hat, some gloves and maybe a hankerchief. stuff the clothes with leaves from your front lawn and set the scarecrow on the chair in front of your porch. you can also add some detail to the clothes (if your dad will let you!) by adding buttons and extra shirt scraps for patches on the jeans. you can place the bowl in the scarecrows lap and still incorperate the "Please Take One" sign but this way you won't have to sit outside all night! you can also buy a bag of cobwebs and put them all around your bushes, the chair...connect them everywhere for a really cool look. hope i helped and good luck with everything :)
xoxo
//hannah

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i was w0ndering if there is anyway i c0uld get a free ab0rti0n with0ut my parents kn0wing? =( ManDie x0o

There is a way to get an abortion without your parents knowing, however, I don't believe that you will find a doctor who will offer free services. Just to warn you, having an abortion without your parents knowing is very dangerous and can lead to extreme problems in the future, or even death. Usually doctors that offer operating without your parents finding out are with A. not licensed or B. not practiced. Be very cafeful about the decisions you make and please try to think about giving the baby up for adoption. Best of luck.
xoxo
//hannah

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Okay I asked a question before about the pill and I was wondering something else....If I do decide to have sex w/out a condom, and get pregnant say five months later....if I keep taking the pill, will it kill the fetus before it gets into the really late stages of pregnancy? If anyone knows any websites with that information, i'd appreciate it a lot...i've searched and can't find anything....Thanks

Female, 16

If your too immature and irresponsible to have sex without a condom then you shouldn't be having sex at all. No, the pill does not kill the fetus and it won't 100% prevent yourself from getting pregnant either. My mom got pregnant with me when she was both on birth control and using a condom. My suggestion for you is not to have sex at all since clearly it's obvious that your not ready. If you do however, make sure your on birth control and use a condom. There's always a chance you could get pregnant. Make sure to take extra precautions.
xoxo
//hannah

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Why is it that all teenage boys only want sex, sex and sex? Are there any teenage boys, anywhere, that want a serious relationship? It's so hard to even find a half decent guy anymore. Don't guys just ever want to take things slow and want a girl for more than just sex?

I know it's rough to find a decent guy who is committed to a relationship and wants more than just sex from a girlfriend but trust me, there out there. A lot of young guys are just immature and going through a phase where they want every girl to themselves for one thing only, unfortunately that thing is sex. I promise that one day you will find a guy who loves you for you and not for the pleasure that you give him. Keep lookin girlie.
xoxo
//hannah

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Can I Give My Kitten Infants Tylenol?

lol what?

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Ok I know this may sound wierd and all but the other day I was searching around in my parents room and i found strange things like handcuffs, whips, and wierd looking masks. I remember watching something on television about this sort of thing but im not sure if its really happening with my parents. Can somebody tell me what i should look out for.

It's hard to face the facts but your parents still do have sex, just like all other parents. It's rough and also kind of disturbing to think about what your parents do when your not around but it's completely normal...they love eachother!
xoxo
//hannah

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First off, I'm not sexually active and am pretty much a 'good girl' when it comes down to getting serious and sexual with any guy. The problem is, I have these very sexual, heated fantasies. When I meet a hot guy, and we start talking, I start to daydream about us having sex. I don't mean normal sex either - like rough, hard and in odd places. Is there something wrong with me? These fantasies are taking over my life and mind.

The reason your most likely having these sexual fantasies is because your such a "good girl." Your curious about sex because you've never experienced it for yourself. Everyone has them at one point in time and personally, I think it's completely normal and actually healthy. I wouldn't fret much about it if I were you. Good Luck.
xoxo
//hannah

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Ok! Well I have to go to the doctor tuesday with my mom to get birth control. Im just really stressing out about the papsmear. I shave down there and Im not sure whether or not I want my mom in the room when they do that. They also have to ask you if your sexually active and I really dont want my mom knowing all that either! Any info, advice, etc.?

When you get taken to the gyno they usually bring you into a seperate room with out your mom and ask you if they are allowed to give out any personal information to your parents like your sexual activity and so on. If you sign the paper than they are NOT allowed to tell your parents anything. As far as your mom goes, I would just tell her that you feel uncomfortable with her in the room and ask if she can wait in the lounge. I'm sure she won't be offended. Good Luck!
xoxo
//hannah

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Hi. I have been having this problem with my blatter. I haven't been able to tell weather i have to pee or not. I have recently done some drugs that I beleive could mess up my kidney's but I have also had sex. I am wondering if sex can make you not know if you can pee, and also give you a felling of for example. A day when you havent pee'd for a while and you need to go really bad. That feeling...but when u sit down..nothing comes out. Could that be from sex? Or no. Plz do not delete this. After this question I'll never ask it again! Plz and thank you.
-911 help

What your probably suffering from is a urinary tract infection also known as a bladder infection. Lot of girls get them all the time and it's easily cured but can be very painful if not taken care of. Drink lots of cranberry juice and avoid having sex for a few weeks and you'll be fine. Just to make sure that it doesn't come back again try to clean yourself before and after you have sex, use condoms, try to stay out of hot tobs and drink lots of water. A glass of cranberry juice every other day or so wouldn't hurt either. Get well soon and best of luck.
xoxo
//hannah

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what is adhd?? please help me bc my ex bf has it and every1s like YOU WENT OUT WITH A ADHD BOY?!!!

I think it's sort of shady how people look down upon you just because you went out with a boy who has adhd. Adhd is just a disorder that almost half of the population has but just doesn't know about. It's called attention deficit hyperactivity disorder and it's a mental illness that causes you to lose concentration and act extremely hyper when under pressure or lots of stress. It can be helped with medications like aderol or ridilin but never cured.
xoxo
//hannah

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i guess this might be a stupid question, but something kind of depresses me. my boyfriend asked me last night would it be okay if he spent new years with his guys this year. he said that him and i spent the last 2 new years together and he wants to hang with his friends. ofcourse i said yeah, because im not the controling type. well, even though i said yes, it makes me a little sad knowing that he doesnt want to spend it with me. its like, why cant i chill with his friends too? its not like i never had. do any of you guys think i should tell him how i feel? or do any of you think that im wrong for feeling the way i feel?

thanks for your time.
18/f

I don't necessarilly think your wrong for feeling the way you do, however I do think your over reacting a bit. It's not like your boyfriend doesn't want to hang out with you it's just that he wants some alone time with "just the guys" because he's spent the last two new years holidays with you. I would look at this situation as an advantage and grab a few of your girl friends together to party. Don't feel so down about it. It's really not as bad as you think and I'm sure your boyfriend didn't intend to hurt your feelings. Best of luck!
xoxo
//hannah

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Hey there. Well, I started birth control last Sunday. I haven't even been on it for a complete week. Well, my boyfriend and me had sex, and I read in this little book I have about the birth control I'm taking, and it says it takes a month for birth control to become effective. I really worried now. Is there a chance I could get pregnant? I mean, does it actually take a month, or do they mean, the first time you take it, it's effective?

No, it takes a whole month for the birth control to become effective. If you didn't use a condom then yes, there is a chance you could possibly be pregnant because any time two people have sex there is ALWAYS a chance. My mother got pregnant when she was both using birth control and a condom, it just depends on how safe your being. To be completely honest, if your not responsible enough to read the packet that comes along with your birth control then your not responsible enough to be having sex. There is a lot of very important information in that tiny little packet that about 97% of the female population toss into the garbage because they think it's not important. You should really stop and think to yourself if the choices your making right now are the best ones.
xoxo
//hannah

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im 18/m. I had a gay realtionship about a year ago, and it went on for about 6 months. Im now tired of guys and im with my girlfriend. I really should tell her that i was with this guy, she has no idea that i was. She even knows the guy. How can i tell her w/o her finding out who it was, and will she leave me if she finds out?

Unfortunately if you tell her that you were in a relationship with this guy, she will most likely find out who it is in the long run no matter if it's through the grapevine or through a close friend. I do believe that you should definately tell her because trust is the most important element in any relationship. Try setting up a time to make dinner for her at your place and break the news then. If she leaves you then it wasn't meant to be in the first place. I hope everything goes well and best of luck.
xoxo
//hannah

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Okay, I'm only in the 8th grade but lately I've be thinking about my future and college. Well I've thought about it really hard and decide that I want to go to Yale University. The only problem is I don't know what requirments it takes to get excapted. Like how well do I have to do in grade school? What should my scores be? Any one who can give me any info would be great!
*Future*

Yale is an extremely highly selective school. I'm not completely positive on exact requirements but expect to have a 3.8 GPA or higher and between a 27-35 on your ACT. Do some research and make sure you know what your getting yourself into. I've changed my major at least three or four times throughout highschool before I finally settled on one. Your only in eighth grade, you have plenty of time to decide.
xoxo
//hannah

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I think I'm in love with my best guy friend. And that's cool and all, but he has a girlfriend, who I've met a few times and she's simply awesome. He says he's been in love with her for a few years, and she goes to a different school. They started dating over the summer, and I thought I would be okay with it all. You see, I've liked him since my sophomore year, and we're seniors now. And I really was okay with it all for a while, but then he started getting really flirty, and it's confusing me too much. What should I do?

As far as having a relationship with him goes, I don't really think there's much you can do. If he's in love with another girl and if they've been together for a long time then getting in the way of that relationship will just cause a lot of problems and unwanted drama. I can't blame you for having feelings for him and I also can't give you the best advice on this sitaution but if I were in your shoes I would set aside a time to talk to him about how you feel. Explain to him that you have had feelings for him since sophmore year and that him flirting with you while having a girlfriend is hurtful and could also damage his relationship as well. Tell him to back off and focus on his girlfriend if that's what he wants or make up his mind because obviously in the back of head he has some sort of feelings for you otherwise the flirting wouldn't be going on at all. Hope I helped and best of luck.

xoxo
//hannah

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hey well....my ex boyfriend and me were best friends b4 we went out...(the entire reason i didnt wanna date him) but now that we broke up after almost a year of dating every time i read something about relationships being torn apart i break down and cry...but now that he broke up with me ive started to cut myself and go into deep depressions...i want him bak bc when i was with him...there was never a time when i wasnt happy...he could make me smile no matter how sad i was...he might have made a few mistakes but so have i...i juss want him to b happy but i also juss want him to say that in order for him to b happy he needs to b with me...i also started smokking when he broke up with me...idk what to do...my life is going to hell since he broke up with me...idk waht to do...i want him bak but i want him to b happy...

signed ~*lost...

P.S.- y cant i b happy???

unfortunately you can't change the way a person thinks or feels. if your boyfriend broke up with you and you know that he doesn't want to get back together then you have to learn to accept the fact that things are over and move on. it's a harsh reality but it's true. i know that your going through a very hard time because ironically enough i've been through a similiar situation myself. it took months for me to realize that things were really over and that i would never be able to look him in the eyes and tell him i love him with all my heart ever again. it's rough for any girl to tackle but it can be done and i know this for a fact because it happened to me. staying strong and keeping a positive attitude will help a ton. make sure to keep your friends and family extra close, letting them know the situation that your in so they could offer some comfort and compassion. take up some after school activities or go to the gym a few days a week. keep yourself occupied and your mind off the situation and eventually you'll notice that each and every day you'll forget about your ex a little more. stay strong and don't turn to inflicting pain upon yourself because it will only make the situation worse than it already is. best of luck.

xoxo
//hannah

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