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new years
i guess this might be a stupid question, but something kind of depresses me. my boyfriend asked me last night would it be okay if he spent new years with his guys this year. he said that him and i spent the last 2 new years together and he wants to hang with his friends. ofcourse i said yeah, because im not the controling type. well, even though i said yes, it makes me a little sad knowing that he doesnt want to spend it with me. its like, why cant i chill with his friends too? its not like i never had. do any of you guys think i should tell him how i feel? or do any of you think that im wrong for feeling the way i feel?
thanks for your time.
18/f
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i've felt the exact same way you have. when i first met my boyfriend it was me and him 24/7. he never even talked to his friends. than a year or two into our relationship he started hanging out with his friends and talking to them. that is perfectly fine. but he would never include me with his friends. it's not wrong to feel that way. i would let him know how you feel. ask him why you weren't included to hang out with his friends for new years. maybe it's an all guy thing. who knows ! but you need to find out why. maybe you two could do something new years day to make up for it.
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hey..its not that he doset want to spend new years with you...maybe you should give him some time with his friends for the holidays. i mean dont get me wrong but maybe he misses spending the holidays with his buddies...dont worry about it...youll have everyday after that to be wit him..you naw mean? peace out
--PinoyBoi
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hi im danny 15/m i think u should tell him how u feel not all of us men think befor we say but i dont think its right for him to not be with u one day he could be with u one day u may be gone sorry to say that but it is true no one know what god has planed for us day to day and he need to hold on to u girl if i had a gf i would try to be with her enery second of my life and cuddlre and kiss her i love to cuddle and kiss maybe some men dont but i do and ne ways u need to tell him how u feel cause not every day a man gets to spend his time with his gf thanks for readin my thoughts
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No, it's normal to over react about that, especially since you two have been together for a long time. Maybe somethings up. Or maybe he just wants to spend it with the guys and do guy stuff, you know? I think you should talk to him about it, but be respectful and hear him out. You don't need this to turn into a huge deal/fight. Just hear what he has to say but also tell him how you feel. It's normal feeling that way.
Hope I helped,
Emi*
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its natural for you to feel like that.. i totally get that you're not the controlling type so don't worry. but naturally you'd want your babe to yourself and only yourself. let him have this one night with is friends.. and im bettting you more than anything its not that you're not cool enough to be with his freinds.. its just that he needs some guy time... all guys need that. =] hope i helped
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i dont think its wrong at all. im a lot like you, i never say anything but then i feel horrible after. and in this situation i would fell the same as you, i think you should talk to him, ask if you could hang out with him n his friends too. its better to try then to not and never know what would have happened. hope i helped n i hope everything works out. if you ever need anything just leave one in my inbox.
~Kare
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I don't necessarilly think your wrong for feeling the way you do, however I do think your over reacting a bit. It's not like your boyfriend doesn't want to hang out with you it's just that he wants some alone time with "just the guys" because he's spent the last two new years holidays with you. I would look at this situation as an advantage and grab a few of your girl friends together to party. Don't feel so down about it. It's really not as bad as you think and I'm sure your boyfriend didn't intend to hurt your feelings. Best of luck!
xoxo
//hannah
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i think you should tell him how you feel
you guys have been together for 2 years so you probably already have an understanding for each other.. and who knows? maybe he will let you chill wit his friends. go for it. good luck.
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I think he just wants to hang out with the guys for a day. I'm sure you like to hit the mall with the girls, just the girls, right? And I don't think there's any need to tell him. It's definatly not wrong to feel that way though. Have fun on New Years!
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I don't think you're wrong to feel that way, but I think you should keep it to yourself. He did spend the last 2 new years with you. And when guys hang out alone, they can do stuff that they can't do with girls around. Like they feel more comfortable and don't have to worry about upsetting you. I'm not saying your overly sensitive, that's just how guys see girls and it really isn't going to change. Why don't you hang out with your girl friends on new years? If you've spent the past 2 with your guy, that means you haven't spent it with them. You'll have fun.
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