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okay before my mom got re-married, i went out with the guy who she was datings son. when they got engaged (my mom and her husband), we broke up, but i still have VERY strong feelings for him.i thik he feels the same way too. he always tickles me and stares at me, and he smiles all the time when he looks at me, etc. does that mean he likes me?, and do you think it would be okay to go out with him since were not related by blood just by rings?
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It would be okay but maybe a little strange. I mean should you break up, you still have to see each other all the time! Not to mention your parents might be a little upset.
However, there is nothing morally wrong about dating him.
I do want you to be careful that he isn't using you
OK? It would be very convenient for him to try and start a sexual relationship with you just for sex.
Please use caution.
He could have feelings for you. The only way to know is to ask him. Like I said though be careful. You could be hurt in a relationship like this. :)
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If you have anul sex, can that damage your ovaries? (link)
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No it can't. :)
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14(almost 15) F
Hi, Im 14 going on 15 years old in about a month and a half. Today I was watching a show and it mentioned Gonorrhea... I didnt really understand what it really ment till I went and looked it up. When I found out, I got woried. Im not 100% sure if I have it or not. You see, I had sex about a year ago with my ex bf... and well, having him as the 1st guy Ive done that with, it HURT like HELL! AHH. But the pain went away. My cherry poped, and well... now Im with a girl for 8 months. Latly shes been making me bleed when we 'fool around'... I dont know what to do. Im affraid to ask my mom to take me to see my doc. But im affraid if it could be something big. When I go to the bathroom it burns. One of Gonorrhea's symptoms are that. Just need HELP!! Please ='( Im affraid.
Also... another ?... when I 'finger' my gf.. she tends to throw up. She wont see her doc, though her mom said sure... what is wrong? Am I doing it? (link)
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There should be no reason for your girlfriend to vomit because she is being fingered. She needs to see a doctor.
As for burning while urinating, that sounds like a urinary tract infection. You should probably see a doctor for medication. It is very common in females
so no worries about telling your mom.
Here are some symptoms, you don't have to have them all for it to be the problem. :)
Burning
The usual way for a urinary tract infection to announce itself is with a strong burning sensation (dysuria) during urination.
Frequency
Typically, people who have a urinary tract infection find that they want to urinate more often than usual, but only a small amount of urine comes out each time. Health care professionals call this frequent need to urinate "frequency."
Urgency
Besides wanting to urinate often, people may feel each time the strong need to urinate immediately. That need is called "urgency."
Pain and muscle spasms
Some women who have urinary tract infections do not feel a burning sensation when they urinate. Instead, they feel pain and muscle spasms in the genital region either while they are urinating or immediately afterward.
Pressure over the pubic bone
Almost every woman who has a urinary tract infection feels pressure or discomfort in the up-and-down center (midline) of the abdomen just above the pubic bone. Pain or pressure in that place is called suprapubic pain or pressure.
Back pain
Back pain during a urinary tract infection is an important clue to tell the health care professional. That combination of symptoms can mean a kidney infection (pyelonephritis).
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hey, i dont really get the part, how to like write messages back and forth to the people. I give advice out, and then they write back, and i always have to edit, and edit my work. Is there another way how to do this? plzz help, i really need help. I WILL rate you good. Thanks (link)
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You don't write "back and forth". They ask, you answer, usually end of story. You don't edit in a comment. The edit button is in case you make an error and need to go in and fix it.
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Alright, every since about 6th grade, I've had problems getting to sleep. It takes me anywhere from 2-4 hours to fall asleep no matter what time I go to bed. I've tried drinking a type of tea called "Sleepy Time Tea", but that hasn't been helping much. Even if I can fall asleep, I wake up about 5 times in the middle of the night and it takes me another hour to fall asleep each time. So, are there any good ways to help you fall asleep? (link)
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Turn around and sleep with your head at the foot of your bed. Might just be a small change but for some reason it works. :)
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My best friend's dad did something that really offended me, and we've normally gotten along really well. I wrote him a letter to try to express my feelings. Should i send it? or let it go? If yes, can you suggest any changes?
Here it is:
Mr. ****,
I feel the need to express my feelings over the incident yesterday. I value my friendship with Sascha very much, and the relationship I have with her parents is obviously a big part of that. Frankly, the way you communicated your displeasure over me failing to call you back really offended me.
I have done my best over the course of Sascha’s and my friendship to maintain a good relationship with you and Mrs. ****, and I feel that I have done a pretty good job of doing so. For example, when Sascha sprinted out of your house the first time and ran up and down the bike path, she had called me. I talked her to her, made sure she was okay, and let her vent a little to get her emotions out and allow her to begin calming down. Immediately after that, knowing how worried you and Mrs. **** must be, I called your home, and spoke with Mrs. ****. I let her know where Sascha was, that she was okay, and that she planned on coming home soon. Another time, even though many teenagers would feel very intimidated talking to an adult myself included, I put aside my fear and came to you asking if there was anything you thought I could do to help Sascha through the difficult point she came to in her life. I wanted your take on the situation, so I could help Sascha without doing anything that would either offend you or cause you be reluctant to trust me with your daughter. I definitely do not take this trust for granted. When you trusted me to take Sascha to a party whose host you had never met or talked to, everything I said about the persons attending the party and how the party would run checked out when you came to pick her up. It was very safe and fun. I believe that these cases and many more throughout the course of our friendship have really shown that I have taken special care to maintain a good relationship with both you and Mrs. ****, and that I really do have your daughter’s best interest at heart.
When Sascha ran to me again a little less than a week ago, I handled the situation in the best manner that I could. You have to realize that I was in a very tricky situation—do I go against my best friend and call her parents or do I support her and give her a way to let out all of her emotions? Most teenagers would have chosen their friend, and completely disregarded the parents completely. Though I did choose to console Sascha, I did not disregard the fact that you and Mrs. **** would be very worried about her. Calling you right away would have seemed like betrayal in Sascha’s eyes, so I did what I felt was the next best thing. I called my mom, let her know that Sascha would be over, and that she needed to vent for a while. If you or Mrs. **** needed to know where she was, I believed that you would eventually call my mother, which you did, and then find out what you needed to know. Yes, I could have asked my mom to tell you where Sascha was, but just as before, this would seem like betrayal. I did not answer when either of you called because Sascha asked me not to specifically for the same reasons. I was planning on calling both you back as soon as Sascha had calmed down. However, my mom informed me that Mrs. **** had called her and that she had let her know exactly where Sascha was. The reason I had been planning to call before was to assuage your worry, and as that had already been done, I did not see any reason to call back as it might cause Sascha to feel that I was not “on her side,” if even just a little bit. She needed support, and I gave it to her.
Though I did not call in the heat of the situation, I knew it would be important to talk to either you or Mrs. **** about the circumstance so that I could explain my actions and clear the air of any misconceptions. I did this the morning after, thinking that it would give everyone a chance to cool down. I talked to Mrs. ****, brought up what had happened, apologized for not picking up the phone, and explained my reasons for doing so. She seemed to understand completely and explained that I should not feel like I need to put myself in those uncomfortable situations. Then we both hung up the phone. In my mind, the whole fiasco had been resolved, and I had felt good as I had handled it in the best way I knew how. To me marriage is a complete partnership. If I talk to one member, they will share it with the other. If the other member still needs clarification or something of that nature, I feel that they will take it upon themselves to speak to me about it.
Because it has been clear that I really do do my best in every single situation I have been put in throughout Sascha’s and my friendship, I feel extremely offended in the way you expressed your feelings. You made it seem as though me not calling you back was a serious conscious error on my behalf, when obviously my past actions show that I do everything in my power to not disappoint either you or Mrs. ****. You made an extremely big deal of a mistake I wasn’t even aware I made, and completely demeaned my very very hard efforts to make this ordeal end on a good note. As opposed to calling me right away and letting me know that although in most cases calling one member in a marriage would be fine, you would like to be called back as well, you let me sit for a couple of days thinking everything had worked out and then decided to shell shock me. I feel this was completely uncalled for. For one, I am just a kid. I’m still learning the right way to do everything. I understand making such a big deal out of something if I had made the same error before. However, this was my first offense. Presenting it nicely would have been more than enough. As I’ve said before, I have a good track record, and I feel that with that I deserve to be treated with respect.
I’m extremely sorry if anything I’ve said in this letter insulted or offended you in any way. It was not meant to do so. I only wanted to express my feelings so that our whole families could maintain the good relations we have kept in the past.
Sincerely,
******* (link)
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Don't send it. I take it he was worried about something and you didn't return his call. Big deal, he will get over it if he hasn't already.
A simple I am sorry, I didn't realize you wanted me to call you back too, should be enough. I'm sure he knows that you and his daughter are good friends.
Your friend sounds like kind of a troubled girl. Reminding her dad about all her short-comings and how good you are really won't score any points with him. It might even make him mad.
*edit*
In reality it is a letter saying "look how great I am". As a parent it would put me off. He isn't mad at you, so just chill out. You can of course do what you want to do.
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i like this guy he likes me too but the problem is that everyone is telling me something bad about him.he asked me to be his girlfriend .although i like him i am worried.what should i do. (link)
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Unless they have a very good reason for not liking him, just ignore them. It might be that they are just a little jealous.
If YOU like him, thats all that matters.Don't let what others think discourage you. :)
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hey, well.. i heard you give really good advice.. so i was wondering if you could help me with this..
14/f.
mmk, well I knew this kid, who was like my bestestestest friend ever. like, i asked him for help with everythinggg. & he always looked out for me. & then eventually, we dated. for a couple months. then, he broke up with me, but a couple months later, we were best friends again. & it was like we were dating. but we never made it offical. considering, i just had gotten out of a bad relationship at that time, + i wasn't 100 percent sure if i liked him & only him completely.
that all happened in 6th grade. [ i met him in like 4th grade, & we became like best friends at the beginning of 5th grade.]
so anyways, 7th grade rolled around, me & him were still the best of friends. & i was like wow, yano we've been friends so long, most girls i know dont stay that good of friends with guys for so long. so then, at the end of 7th grade, in the summer, well, i have a sliding glasss door in my room, which leads out to my deck, & like, its confusing.. my house is like on a hill, but anyways, its really easy for boys to sneak up there.. & stuff. so i had alot of visiters during that summer, most of the boys that i didn't really care too much about. but then, my best friend [the boy] was like omg your so hot. & i'd so wanna do you. & i was also talking to my old best friend at the time [well she was still my best friend then] & i was like hes tottaly kidding right? & shes like oh yeah deffinitly. so i kinda played along with what he was saying. but then he got all weird. like he was like, do you love me? tell me you love me. & i was like wtf is he high. & he just kept saying stuff like that. so then, he was like ok im comin over. & im like.. its kinda late bud? & he was all like it would be fun. & i was like whoa nooo. & he kept insisting. & like, it wasnt like him, for awhile i didnt even think it was him. so hes like, hayley you said you loved me. & all this stuff like that. & i was like, idno i was starting to get mad. so hes like..whatever i'm coming over."
so he came over alright. & i was like, well you should've known before you walked here, i wasnt going to do that. i'm only 13. i'm not a slut. & all this stuff. eventually, i told him to go home. he ended up being really mad at me. we talked for a couple months longer, & then, that ended that. he like tottaly just stopped talking to me, completely.
& i was like so upset. because i then felt like so wrong & guilty. i mean, i didnt know he was being serious. i never thought, that he actually would have came. i never knew i dont know. so then now, i go to his school. hes in like 5 of my classes. & my lunch period. so i see him alotttt. & he looks at me alot. like alot. but he hasnt talked to me yet, & i've been there for like 2 months. & so, also, some of the kids he hangs out with, like hate me. & stuff. &thats not fair, because he basically twisted the story. saying i liked him & everything.
so, now its basically screwing things up there too. like there like, oh wait.. your that girl?
so, i don't know what to do. am i suppose to go up to him apologize? or should i just forget it?
& its like so confusing. because people though keep walking up to me. & theyll be like, wait you dated him? yeah, he always talks about you, in a good way. so like i don't know. i feel weird going up to him & just being like hey.
what should i do? i cant just forget about him. & i'm always feeling so guilty. how do i make it better? & show him that it wasn't my fault, that i didnt know. (link)
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You have nothing to feel guilty about. He is the one who should feel guilty.
Any guy who puts the moves on a 13 year old girl expecting something she isn't willing t give up should really be ashamed of himself. And then to go
blabbing to all his friends about it? Hun this guy is a loser and a user and you really need to find a guy who will respect you.
You can't make it better because you aren't the one in the wrong here. Unless he apologies and means it
I wouldn't encourage you to pursue him. :)
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14-f
do you know of any websites that tell you how to put a tampon in i am too scared to ask my mom even though she wouldnt care. (link)
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Heres a site for you. There is even a video if you would like to watch it. :)
http://www.beinggirl.com/en_US/pages/goods_tampinsert.jsp
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Hey. I'm really stressed. I think the "emo" stuff and the "prep" stuff is both really pretty. I have cut myself before, if that's what you want to call it. They didn't even bleed and honestly, I don't plan on making them. I like the way the "preps" dress but also the way the "emos" dress. I'm blonde and I have fair skin so I don't know how good I would look with a lot of eye makeup and stuff like that, but I really really like it. Also, I'm worried that I might lose some friends. I know my friends are supposed to love me for me, and I think they will, but I think that we may not be as close. What should I do??
13/female/seventh grade, if that helps. (link)
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The best way for you to dress is to just wear what you like. What you are comfortable wearing. Don't try to fit into any particular "group". People are individuals. Stand out instead of blending in.
Regardless of what you wear, true friends will not
ditch you because of clothes or make-up. If they do then you're better off without them. :)
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I think i have genital herpes - how do i know if i have it? I have dots on my testicles and my penis is getting itchy and whenever i itch it, it becomes red. Should i tell my parents? Please tell me the symptoms of Genital herpes. THANKS! (link)
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It is most likely a rash of some sort. In a sensitive area its best to see a doctor if it doesn't go away. Medicated or even plain old powder would help.
Here are the symptoms of genital herpes.
Painful sores (blisters) on the genitals of both sexes, thighs, or buttocks
Tingling, and itching
Fever (often only with the first outbreak of blisters)
Flu-like symptoms (headache, muscle ache, fever, chills, fatigue)
Painful urination
Painful sex
Tender, enlarged lymph nodes in the groin
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This may not be the right category, but couldn't think of a better one. Anyway, I'm 18. I've made an appointment to see a doctor without my parents knowledge. Is there any way they'd be able to find out? It's a really private matter which is why I can't have them finding out. Would it make a difference if I used our family's health care card?
Thanks for your help. (link)
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If you use their insurance card (US) they will get
a detailed billing statement or a statement letting them know the bill was paid. It isn't the doctors office that does that its the insurance Company. So you can't ask that they not do it.
If the majority of your private matter is talking, they won't know what you discussed. They will only know you were charged for an office visit, and any tests that were done. Labs usually charge separately
by the way.
Since you are 18 you can request they not bill your parents, but bill you. That could be a bit expensive though. :)
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15/female. I've got a head on my shoulders, and all the opportunities in the world. Guys like me, sure. But they're intimidated by me (they're convinced I'll turn them down because I'm "smart" or "beautiful")
Here's the thing. I don't think I'm that pretty. So I think these guys are kidding. When they're clearly not.
I find myself falling for complete a-holes that, in my best guy friends' own words, "Don't even come close to deserving you; you could do so much better Laura"
Any advice? Do I need a slap across the face or a reality check? thankyouu. :) (link)
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Why not try asking out a guy you like? If they are intimidated and don't ask you, give it a try.
Once you go out with one of them, others won't feel
scared to ask you out themselves.
Steer clear of the assholes. They will just hurt you. :)
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im 16 and im male. i have been going out with this girl for a little wile now, 3 months and 2 weeks, and we dont have anythink to talk about there aint not conversation between us so what do i say to make conversation or what should i do (link)
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You just need to find things that you have in common and talk about those things. Movies, music, family, friends, school etc. It will get better as you get to know each other better. :)
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im a level one mod.
i know how level twos are chosen.
are there level threes and such also/ (link)
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All moderators above 1 are chosen to be moderators.
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i like this guy im19+ hes the type that all girls want- but hes picked me- he has kids of his own though i have one but he still lives with his babys mama- they dont love each other or even sleep together and they both have sex with other people- but is that crossing the line-- i dont beleive that two people can love one another - im not trying for a realationship- more like friends with bebefits- but is it crossing the line (link)
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Sure it is. I can't believe you actually believe this guy. He is going nowhere. He is probably sleeping with the mother of his child. This is the oldest line in the book. Hes married. Period.
You will only get hurt if you go there.
Edit:
"but he still lives with his babys mama"
Kinda sounds like they live in the same house to me.
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if ii`m sixteen &&` ii`m dating a 19 or 20 year old is that legal? (link)
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Dating is ok with parents permission.
Sex with the guy would get him jailed. :)
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is sex bad what is a oragasim and can u do it to yourself?
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No sex isn't bad if you are old enough to handle
the emotions that go along with it.
or·gasm (ôr'găz'əm) pronunciation
n.
1. The peak of sexual excitement, characterized by strong feelings of pleasure and by a series of involuntary contractions of the muscles of the genitals, usually accompanied by the ejaculation of semen by the male. Also called climax.
2. A similar point of intensity of emotional excitement.
And here is a site for do-it-yourself answers.
http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation.htm
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When you go to a courthouse for a wedding, what is the actually procedure. Like, what questions do they ask you before issuing a marriage license, do they usually already have a justice of the peace there, do you just need to sign the license for it to be valid or does there actually need to be a ceremony, etc. If anyone who's actually had a courthouse wedding could just tell me about their experience, that would be greatly appreciated. (link)
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You actually have to get a license first. There may or may not be a waiting period in your state. They can tell you the next step.
Then a judge is usually who marries you and its over in less than 5 minutes. Me & My husbands parents came along so I don't know about the witnesses. I'm sure there are secretaries or clerks around who would witness for you. :)
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so you know how if the test thing says negative you should take another one just to be sure? if it says positive should you have to take another one too? can it ever "lie" when it says positive? (link)
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Yes it can show a false positive. If you get positive, take it again. :)
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