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something happened in the past that i cant forget and it really affect me a lot after that incident i can never go out meet other people because im scared that it might happen again i really dont know what to do it happen before my graduation since then i never try looking for a job but well i try once and after that every night i always thought of that day and i cant calm down i cant erase it from my memory i lost my confidence to go out meet other people im even scared of meeting those people involve in that incident im scared to meet them again not just other people im scared even my own family im scared of them i always want alone eating alone watchng alone sleeping alone i dont know whats happening to me. i need help and an advice please
Your question is one long sentence that does not make a lot of sense. What I make of your question is that something, you don\'t say what has scared you to the point of almost being paralyzed by whatever has scared you.
Even if we did know what this thing or event was that scared you was I don\'t know how we might be able to help you at this point. I think you need the help of a professional person such as a psychologist to help you get over this a put it in its proper perspective and get beyond it.
Your family doctor can give you medication to help relieve the anxiety and recommend a psychologist to speak to. This is the best advice I can offer based on the information you supplied.
I have a 2009 Ford.
Its completely paid for. Big positive.
But it needs mechanical work. Big negative.
Big leak in the transmission (estimate of $1500 - $3000).
Needs new tires (2 x $125).
Minor body work (estimate $500).
And the car gets awful gas mileage, 14- 16 miles per gallon, $50 every 5 days in gasoline.
82,000 miles. Estimated appraisal of car would be $8500-12,000.
Despite these negatives, I love this car.
Very comfortable - fun to drive - roomy - large trunk - excellent leg and head room - great heat / air - great sound system.
My options are to make bare basic repairs to the car in order to sell / trade it in, OR make full repairs and keep the car for a 5+ years.
Would the money spent on the car repairs be better spent on a deposit for a new car...? Then I will have a car payment, which I don't have now.
Would a basic repair job on the cars transmission and light body work improve my trade in value...? Trade in's are based on the cars value at auction, right?
I'd like to make a decision within a month. I welcome everyones point of view.
There are a lot of things to take into consideration here.
Spending $3,750 to repair your car is not a lot of money. TO expect to get another 5 years out of the car spending only this sum is unreasonable. As cars get older they need more maintenance to keep on the road. You still have preventative maintenance plus maintenance of those parts that just wear out.
If you use the Federal Government reimbursement standard for mileage, based on your annual mileage. You cost to operator you car for the next 5 years will be $$38,750. This includes all costs including insurance to operate a vehicle.
Now one could say and rightfully so that this is the cost to operate any car. One also has to understand that the amount allotted is a medium number between the cost of operating a newer car and an older car. Older cars cost far more to operate than newer ones. Newer cars get better gas mileage, come with warranties lasting from 3 to 10 years depending manufacturer so maintenance cost are lower. Insurance cost are a bit higher for new cars but offset by the lower cost of the other items.
Now what is the true market value of your present car. Of course if you put the money into it to fix the body and other items it will fetch a higher cost at trade in. Is it worth it. I don\'t think so. First of all the dealer is not going to pay top dollar for any used car. Then there is the fact that the car has over 7,000 miles of excess mileage. They will want to see 4 not 2 good tires on the car and nobody rust, dents or huge scratches. Everything is about appearance. They may not even notice the leaking transmission and if they do it doesn\'t cost them what they charge you to repair.
A good dealership will work the numbers on the trade to let you cover the down payment for the best financing which they make up by not discounting as heavily on the pricing. Remember the dealership is a for profit company. They will work the numbers as best they can to give you a payment you are happy with but they have to meet certain criteria in order to make the sale and finance your new car.
All I\'ve done here is align a thought process for you to use in making a decision. Given these thoughts if you are trying to work with in a budget my advice is to go for the new car at a payment you can afford. Yes the old car is free and clear though at any time you could be hit with a repair bill you don\'t have the funds to pay for.
If this were to happen and you had to go for some type of high cost credit loan to pay for the repair you could be in deeper trouble than something like budgeting for a new car.
There is another option if purchasing a car is too costly. Look at leasing the car for 3 years. At the end of the lease you can; A) walk away from it; B: Purchase it at a price fixed at the time of leasing or C) Lease another car.
I\'ve done the leasing thing in my younger days and it worked out very well. At the end of the lease I went back to the dealer, picked out a new car, the swapped the plates and I drove off without spending any additional money. My entire investment was the upfront cash on the first lease which hopefully your trade will cover.
Hi, so this is a very important question. I am trying to start an organization on my campus that puts on fashion shows. The only problem is that I just resigned from my position as vice-president of another org on campus called the style and modeling company. That organization dabbled in everything fashion related but the president is an idiot so I am starting my own org. The problem is , I cant think of a name for it. I want to differentiate my new group from my old group. I want a name that people will know off the bat that "this group puts on runway shows", but I don't want it to be an obvious name. I also really want it to be creative yet classy. Id like for the name to include something associated with the area my school is in or something that is related to my school. Our mascot is the seahawk, our color is teal, and the school is on the beach. I feel like all my expectations are what's making this such a hard decision but I really want the name to be great because first impressions are everything and I want my group to be perceived in the best way it can be. If anyone can give me any ideas on names, that would be so helpful!!! thank you!
I\'m from the school of keep it simple (KIS). Trying to put everything you want to say into one or two words of a name complicates and blurs the message you are trying to send.
Let the name say who you are. We put on fashion shows your name could be; \"New Designer Showings.\" Then let your posters and fliers tell your story when you put on a show.
To me the name I have used as a suggestion says that new designers can come to you to show their design in a proper setting. If this is what you\'re trying to do the name fits very well. If you want you can include the word Campus, or your location in front of the words I\'ve suggested to get more of what you want in the name. Doing so though may look as if there is restrictions on who may come to you to show their designs.
These are just my thoughts. I hope it helps.
(No category fit this well) Okay so first I'm 15 and im not sure whats been up with me lately. Anyways I have been shutting out some of the closest people I have in my life and I have been mean and rude to the ones who mean the world to me. Like right now I feel like inside my emotions are swirling around and I just get upset I feel frustrated and that there's no hope. I'm not even sure what its pointed at honestly! I have a perfect boyfriend but its long distance which helps me focus on school. My dad and mom and that entire family is total mess that's why I've left and I'm staying with my grandmother. She is a spectacular person she's been there for me when no one else was. She saved my life 3 years ago I was in a depressions I supposes because of my family. I wanted and tried to commit suicide but she helped me realize that killing myself over their actions is ridiculous! That I shouldn't waste my life for them. I'm not sure if that for some reason my "sadness" is coming back or what. I just need some advice on what to do sorta. As in do you think this should just chalk up to hormones going crazy. Or do you think stress could be like bringing back the feeling I had. Also my other thing I need advice on is how do I stop it this time. I do not want to kill my self or anything I know that but I don't want to go back to being sad and depressed. I'm not sure what to do at this point anymore. I want to stop shutting my loved ones out I want to uve happy again. So any advice available? Just making sure you all know this again, this is not the type where I need you guys to say "oh no death is never the answer" I already know that. I just need advice on these things I'll make it simple.
1- what should I do to be happy again?
2- how do I stop shutting them out?
3- what do you think could be causing this?
Thanks for any advice I'll appreciate anything !!!
As I first started to read what you wrote I wasn\'t sure where you were going or asking with your question. Then I got to the part about your past depression. I too have suffered from depression and can identify somewhat with what you are saying.
Those of us who suffer from depression always have to be alert for the signs we may be regressing back into depression. We are never totally cured of this illness we learn what the triggers are and how to manage them better. You are correct in your feeling that hormones play a part in how your feeling and why you may feel you are regressing back into a depressive state.
As we go through puberty our body releases new hormones. Sometimes our bodies don\'t know how to deal with these hormones and it causes tension or anxiety for us. Tension and anxiety are two things people who have suffered from depression have to be on guard for.
I see that you have noticed these problems, which is excellent as this is important to understand as these are the triggers of depression. What is possible is no one has taught you how to properly deal with these triggers so that they don\'t grow into full blown depressive episodes.
Talk therapy with a clinical psychologist is the best way I know of learning how to deal with depression, learning what your triggers are and learning how to deal with them. Talk therapy helped me put my depression in remission. Some people consider remission a cure. I don\'t as once you suffer from clinical depression you are always susceptible to another episode.
As for the hormones that may be part of your problem your family doctor or GYN can probably help you with those. Talk therapy with a clinical psychologist will also help. Your parents or grandmothers health insurance will pay for the visits or should pay for your visits. To truly get control of your depression you need the professional help of a therapist.
There is also a hotline you can call when you just need to talk with someone. It is called the Kids-Help-Phone. It is open 24/7 and staffed by trained volunteers who will talk with you offer help on a variety subjects which teenagers find themselves confused by or troubled with. Their number is 1-800-668-6868.
A freaky weirdo who hangs around without an ID and tried to abduct two kids after school lives unpunished near my school, and I don't wanna go to school any more, what if he's stalking me, or tries to harm me? I'm only 10 and I don't wanna die or be tortured and raped! We have cops and all parents and teachers have been alerted of this, but I wanna hide and never go to my school again! What should I do?
Time for some grandfatherly advice and since I am of that age I will offer some.
Since Parents, teacher and the police all know about this man you are probably safer than you think as every adult in the area is watching him now. He would be foolish to try anything with all these people watching him.
I know you\'re scared and you have every right to be scared but not so scared as to not want to go to school. Being scared is a warning system we all have telling us, in this instance, to be aware of your surroundings.
!. Pay attention to where you are.
2. Don\'t be talking on a cell phone or listening to music as it doesn\'t allow you to be aware of what is going on around you.
3. Walk on the opposite side of the street from
his house.
4. Never walk alone walk in groups.
5. You and your friends could talk to your parents about forming a carpool. In this way you could be dropped off and picked up right in front of the school and not have to walk past this mans home.
As I said it is okay to be scared a little so that you are hyper aware to be on the look out for him. If you see him you and your friends should yell and scream as loud as you can. This will get the attention of other adults and Police in the area as well as hopefully scaring him away.
Just don\'t be so scared that the fear paralyzes you to the point you refuse to do something for then the bad guys win and that\'s wrong.
My gf and I got a new roommate because our apartment has an extra bedroom and it makes rent easier on us. He's a really nice guy that works in the area. He loves to cook. Since he moved in 8 months ago he has made breakfast, lunch, dinner and desserts EVERY day. He said cookings a hobby for him and its great the tastes are really rich. My gf and I both think it would be rude to refuse what he makes for us so we're eating all the time. He always insists that he'll take care of things like cleaning shopping and other errands if we try one of his cakes or pies or something. We both feel lazier and sit around a lot more now. Cant help but feel lethargic and we both agree the foods so good. And we've put on about 30 lbs each and we have to wear stretchy pants now. Even close friends and family have asked if we're alright...
I agree with Razhie; you have no one to blame but yourself. I think its wonderful you now have a live-in chef willing to do the menu planning, shopping, cooking and washing up. But it is not rude of you to sit at the table and refuse the high calorie deserts or other offerings. In fact after all this time it would be very right of you to say something to the effect, \"Jim we love your cooking but it is way too rich we need some lower calorie meals in our weekly menu.\"
I taught myself to coo and I love cooking. My wife and cook together at times. When we do we turn out some really rich food. We have or I should say I now spend my time looking for just as tasty, just as fancy lower calorie meals to make. IF your roommate is the cook you say he is he should be able to do this as well.
You really have only two choices here. You either talk to him about making lower calorie meals. There is a method to making those same meals you have grown to like, through substitution of lower calorie ingredients, or you join a gym to work off those calories.
As a whole western society is one that loves to eat; for the most part we have grown so accustom to the abundance that we have grown seriously obese as well. It doesn\'t have to be this way. We can in a sense have our cake and eat it too if we do so sensibly. As I said we cook meals that are every bit as tasty and look as good as the ones he is cooking or you get in fine dining establishments, just made with lower calories ingredients. Another way to keep the calories of is to stop being a couch potato and get some exercise to work of those calories.
You have those same choices given your present situation. Don\'t blame the cook for something you can control yourself if you want to.
Well, you see, my mom is mad at me for having low grades. She blames me for being too lazy. She keeps telling me stories that their mom and dad teached them to do their homework and din't have to help, so why should she. They keep saying my brother and I are a failure in school. But when I ask them if they think were a failure she denies it she keeps explaining that it's not what she means. But I'll get to the point here, my mom taught me idek but about just 48% in life. And she expects me to be perfect? What the fck? Sorry for the words but yeah.
How do I talk to her about this cause she's been in a really bad mood lately. And I have been cutting myself because my mom thinks I'm not good enough. I mean she can't expect me to act like the way she did when she was my age! In my generation, I hate to say this, but you have to fit in! Imagine letting a person from 1887 teach a human in 2014 how to live! I'm sorry for the explaination for being too mesy but I hope you get it. And, I've been bullied recently (my mom knows and she's doing something about it) so I, too, get depressed. I cut myself, a lot. I mean, I don't give her additional problems, but why she giving me some? :( I feel so enraged to the point that I want to leave the house with all my stuff and scream at my mom. You get me? :(
First of all understand what you wrote is the depression you are feeling talking. You are depressed because of all the stress you are under. Stress that is both real and stress causes by the anxiety you now have. You cut because you need to feel something even if it is just the pain. Depression, stress, anxiety and pain work in a circle. One causes the other and this cycle needs to be broken in order to cure the depression.
You are even reading this in a depressed state are probably saying he doesn\'t know what the heck he is talking about. Well I\'ll clue you in here and tell you that unfortunately I do having suffered from clinical depression and having gone through what it takes to learn to recognize the symptoms and keep it in remission.
If you are as I believe suffering from depression then one of the biggest problem is we perceive things wrong at times. I don\'t think your mom believes you lazy if she says that it may be to motivate you. You say you\'re being bullied and that she is doing something about it. Bullying is another cause for depression in the person being bullied.
At the end I will give you a hotline to call to talk to some people who are professionals who can give you better help than I can.
The first thing I would like you to do is show mom you are cutting yourself. This will take being brave on your part but it will show mom your hurting and need for help. Cutting is dangerous if you cut in the wrong place of too deep you could bleed out before help could arrive.
In the past when teenagers felt as you do we thought it was just a phase they were going through and they would grow out of. Most did some didn\'t. Today we know better and there are things doctors can do to make you feel better while you work with a therapist to find what is the cause of your depression.
IF you are truly afraid to talk to your mother then talk to a trusted teacher or your school principal. Tell them you have been cutting and show them the scars. When you do this they have to by law step in and get you the help you need.
The following hotline is for the Kids Help line. It operates 24/7 and is answered by professional volunteers who can help with a variety of problems that face teenagers today. One of those problems happens to be depression and cutting. Their number is 1-800-668-6868. Call them I\'m sure they can offer you much better advice and help then we can.
Me and my boyfriend have been together for a while now and he's asked me if I would like to have sex with him, we are both at the legal age of 16. I want to do this but I don't feel confident at all with my body, I'm not sure how he would want me to look. I feel embarresed about doing it and if it would be awkward, what do I do? Just sit there and let him do the work? I'm not sure if he would want me to shave or not, I would have sex with him but I'm just not confident yet, I feel as if I am ready, I want to be confident!
Someone please help me! :)
I\'m sorry but I disagree with ShortandPunky. The feelings you\'re having are both normal and a warning bell that you are not yet ready for sexual intercourse with anyone. While it may be legal for you to consent to sex in your state your subconscious mind is saying wait. This is the part of your brain where the safety bells and warning systems are.
Trust me guys have the same thoughts when it comes to getting naked with a woman the first time. Until he is ready to accept his body for what it is he avoids being nude with anyone. You would be surprised at the number of letters we get concerning the appearance of sex organs from both boys and girls.
Short answer to these questions is when the time is right. Image is not important. If the love is right nothing else matters. Sex is all about love and relationships. Sexual relief can be had through masturbation. Boys your age are more likely looking for sexual relief and confuse love and lust. Your definition of love is more to what is in the dictionary. To a 16 year old boy the definition of love is closer to that of Lust.
My feeling is that the reason you are having these warning bells and doubts is that somewhere deep down you have questions about his sincerity.
At the end is a link to a website I have given to many girls like you. This site will help you know if you are ready for sex. I suggest you look at it before you decide to have sex.
If you do decide to have sex, first see your doctor for birth control pills. Under a federal law called HIPPA the doctor must prescribe this medication if you ask regardless of if you have parental permission. Now that you are older than 14 you have certain rights under this law one of which is the right to Birth Control. Just tell the doctor you want birth control meds. If asked if you have parental permission just say you are exercising your rights under HIPPA.
Next even if you are on birth control make sure he wears a condom. Condoms are not only a second line of pregnancy prevention the protect against many of the STDS and the HIV/AIDS virus. Do not take his word for it that he is a virgin or that he is clean without an STD test. Hum using a condom is for your protection. No rubber no loving make that your motto.
http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/virginity/readyornot.html.
I am being intimidated and i dont know what to do.
I cant give you the specifics because it seems so unbelievable.
and everyone I know has turned a blind eye to this issue so I don't know how to complain about it.
We really need more information than what you have supplied to offer any advice. Intimidation reached many levels. At one point it reached the level at which the Police can run interference for you right up to the point of bring criminal charges.
Without knowing just what type of intimidation you are suffering the best advice I can offer is: IF it is not a school yard or work place type of intimidation call the police and ask their advice.
Im a 15 year old girl. I've noticed that I have this hard slightly darker than my skin lump under my skin in my inner upper thigh area. It doesn't really hurt unless I squeeze it. Whitish pus and fluid tend to come out when I do. I want to tell my parents but idk how to. It's embarrassing and I'm nervous about telling them I don't know how they'll react. I did my own research and yes I know the dangers of self diagnosis. Webmd says its a cysts. I know I should go to a doctor about this issue but I still haven't gotten around to telling my parents. How do I tell them? What do I do?
Time for some grandfatherly advice. since I am of that age I will offer it.
First: That spot on you leg I believe is nothing to be embarrassed about as it is most likely nothing more than a clogged pore. The white stuff coming out is pus which means it has become infected. You need to see a doctor and have it drained, the sooner the better as you don\'t want it getting so big you have and unsightly scar on your leg because they had to surgically drain the pore.
I had one on my neck earlier this year. I went to my doctor, she took a scalpel and nicked the top so the pus would drain and then, since it was so small, she was able to get below it and force the puss out. she surprised both of us when the pus shot out it came out so fast it actually hit the ceiling. I awarder her a 9.5 point. In case you\'re wondering the only thing I felt was the tip of the needle she used to inject numbing medicine in the area and I barely felt that as she used a numbing topical spray to numb the skin.
Second: The grandfatherly advice part. Why are you embarrassed to tell your or nervous to tell your parents. I know how they will react. They will make a doctors appointment for you for this is something beyond their ability to care for at home. This is not a pimple although it may be an ingrown hair but I doubt it. What I believe it is, is an oily pore that has become blocked and is now infected. While I\'m not a doctor from your dissipation I\'m pretty sure it is a good guess.
Whatever it is you did nothing to cause it. Clogged pores and ingrown hairs happen. Ingrown hairs happen in areas you save and don\'t shave so shaving too close is not the problem. A clogged pore has nothing to do with hygiene. They happen no matter how many times a day you bathe.
If you had a sore throat or hurt your back you would tell your parents this is no different. Even if this was something to do with your reproductive system and you needed to see a doctor as long as you are not pregnant there is no reason to be embarrassed especially with mom, she is built just as you are.
As a parent and even as a grandparent our main focus in life is our children and grandchildren\'s health and happiness. Your health comes first and we will do whatever it takes to keep you healthy. You have to tell us what is hurting you when it starts so we can see to it early when it is hopefully easily correctable. Just like this spot on your leg, from what you are writing it is easily fixed in the doctors office. If you wait until it grows so large that you can\'t stand the pain. Then it may need surgery to fix and maybe Plastic Surgery to fix the damage done.
I don\'t know your parents financial situation. What I do know is with or without insurance a visit to a clinic or doctor\'s office is far more affordable than surgery.
Stop pre-thinking or pre-judging what your parent may say or do for you really don\'t know for certain. When it comes to your health and wellness I can assure you, even if you become pregnant, which I hope you don\'t, they will do what is needed to be done to make you healthy again. For this I am certain for there is nothing more important in this world than our children. You may not believe this, and why you would not I would not know. What I will tell you is you will believe this when you have children of your own.
Third: My advice. Go tell mom and show her the thing that is bothering you and ask her to make a doctors appointment to have it lanced.
I was recently diagnosed with genital herpes. I am on daily suppressive therapy, and always use condoms. If I have sex with my current partner, and by some chance give him herpes (since it is possible even with a condom..thats how I got it), and then I give him head, am I essentially giving myself oral herpes? Like if he gets it genitally from us having sex, and then basically he gives it back to me orally. Is that even possible to pass herpes genitally to oral in that way? Thanks!
According to the Center for Disease control the short answer to your question is: YES
I am a 22 year old female and I just contracted genital herpes about 2 months ago. I am taking daily medication for it, and always use condoms, and would never have sex with any present sores. I read that with daily suppressive therapy and condom use, there is about a 1-2% chance of passing herpes from female to male, including shedding.
If it is that tiny of a risk that I would pass it to my current partner, what is the point of telling him I have it? Also, 80% of people who have herpes dont know they have it, and therefore are not taking any medication, making it a lot less risky to have sex with me than just some random girl, especially with such a low percentage of me passing it anyways. So, without lecturing me, please give me a legit reason why I should tell my partner?? If you were in my shoes, would you?
Thanks!
You are partially correct when you say 80% of the population has Herpes. Though there are two types of Herpes. There is Herpes Oral Herpes or HVS-1 and Gentile Herpes or HSV-2.
Oral Herpes, HSV type 1, is the most common and the one that infests most of the population. This is the one that puts blisters on your mouth and is passed through oral secretions when kissing, sharing of toothbrushes or eating utensil most commonly revered to as cold sores.
Genital Herpes, HSV-2, can only be passed through sexual contact and is why it is an STD. Both the HSV-1 and HSV-2 can be passed when sores are not present.
Because this is an STD and because it can be transmitted even in a dormant stage, when taking precautions against transmitting it during sex. Is why you must tell a potential sexual partner. Using a condom to protect for Penis to vagina contact it is one only one form of sex. What about other forms of contact during foreplay or maybe before you let him have intercourse with you. STDS can be transmitted though fingering and oral sex.
You became infected with Genital Herpes from someone who either didn\'t know he had the virus or someone who had the virus and didn\'t care enough about you to tell you in advance so you could decide if you wanted to have sex with him. Yes the chance of transmitting it in the dormant stage is low, but would you not have wanted the opportunity to make that decision for yourself.
Now that you are infected what in essence you are saying is. I wasn\'t told why should I tell anyone else. You\'re putting your needs ahead of someone else\'s right to decide and that is wrong. This is very much a case of two wrongs not making a right.
I apologize for the short lecture though it was the only way to make my point. Speaking for myself if you were to tell me before we had sex. My view would be that until I learn more about the transmission and how to spot early signs of possible sores. I may not want to have oral sex. Though intercourse and every other part of sexual life with you would probably be okay. I\'m a little more medically aware than most men so I\'m a little more comfortable with this particular STD. Others may not be.
Below is a link to a page from WebMD that has more information on this subject:
http://www.webmd.com/genital-herpes/pain-management-herpes
May a girl get pregnent if i enject sperm in her hips hole
You really need to learn the female anatomy. I am not aware of any holes on a females hips in which you can insert a penis. There are only three holes that will accept a penis if the female is willing. They are:
1. Her mouth
2. Her vagina
3. Her Anus (ass hole)
OF the three only sperm entering her vagina is capable of making a female pregnant. As this is the vagina is her sex organ and gate way to her reproductive system.
I asked the question about my back would a nerve or disc being damaged cause the weird feeling in my legs and why more at night
While I am not a doctor, having suffered from similar pain myself I can say that if the nerve or disc is sitting on a nerve it can cause pain and or numbness in your leg. Now that is how my pain affects me. What is causing your pain can and may very well be something different and you really need to get a second opinion.
You don\'t say how long this has been going on. IF it is fairly recent, the fact that you can touch a point on your spine and make it hurt worse bothers me. For as I said if you were to call for EMT\"S or Paramedics to come to you because of the pain they would have to follow the protocols I wrote about for stabilization during transport.
If this is a relatively recent event going to a hospital emergency room to be seen is not out of the question and may be the proper thing to do.
As to why the pain is more bothersome at night then during the day. The only reason I know of is we are less active and not having something else to concentrate on allows the pain to come though. Yes my pain has woken me up at night and I have been stiff to the point I have to get out of bed and walk around to loosen up and relieve the pain.
One other thing; Pain is a relative thing. Meaning what is painful for you may not be painful to me. We use a scale of 1 to 10 to rate pain. A score of 1 is almost no pain and a score of 10 is the worst pain you have ever felt.
If your pain score is upwards in the 8 or 9 area I would suggest you consider either going to the ER yourself or calling 911. When my pain scores get that high I have narcotic pain pills to take as breakthrough medications. IF they don\'t work and I hit 10 my wife is calling 911 for I need IV medication to kill the pain then it is off to my pain doctor for the procedures he does.
What is causing my pain is not correctable by surgery so I am seen at a major hospital Pain Management center. At the moment I am scheduled for oblations surgery. This is where they go in and burn the nerve endings so they cannot transmit the pain. The pain does not go away just the nerves can\'t transmit the pain to my brain so I don’t really feel it. This will be my third time in 10 years for this.
It sounds worse than it is. It is done with needles in my back and I\'m asleep for most of it. They have to wake me up before they do the actual burning to make sure they have the right nerves then its 5 minutes and I\'m in the recovery room.
I\'ve told you this so that you know surgery is not always the only option. There are some good pain management centers out there that might be able to relieve the pain without surgery. But first you have to find out what you’re dealing with and if surgery is the only option. Here again if surgery is recommended you have the right to a second opinion which the insurance company will pay for.
We have a new puppy and I don't know how often I am supposed to feed the little guy! Do you have dogs? Can you help me?
New puppy\'s are just like baby\'s and need to see the vet several times during their first year of life. To make sure they hitting all their growth goals and get their proper vaccinations as well as being spayed or neutered.
While you\'re with the vet you should ask the vet about proper feeding schedule and how much to feed your puppy each time. You can also ask the vet to recommend a proper dog food for your puppy.
OK, I've thought about kissing girls, or something like that and it seemed fun, and when I think of kissing a boy I feel… nothing. I never feel anything to boys. There's a lot of other reasons on why I know I'm lesbian, but I won't get into detail. Anyway, my mother accepts gays and lesbians, but that doesn't mean other people will. Some of my friends think that they're gross, and I'm afraid of loosing my friendship in them, and being harshly judged and bullied. Maybe my friends will be able to accept me if they thought I was lesbian. I've tried to have relationships with guys, but ended it because I knew deep in my heart of hearts this wasn't right. I know I'm still a good person, but I'm having trouble accepting myself now. Is there a way to become…un-lesbian?
It would have helped to know your age as it would help justify my answer to you. Since you have not included it I will do my best to explain what I am thinking at the moment.
You say you have a lot of other reasons why you think you are a lesbian. Not knowing what those reasons are I can only go by what you have written. Let me start by saying there is nothing wrong with being Gay or Lesbian.
Being Gay or Lesbian is not something you decide to be one morning when you wake up or when puberty hits. If you\'re Gay or Lesbian that is the way you were born. Being Gay is not a disease that can be cured. At one time doctors once thought this way, thankfully they have woken up to the fact they were wrong and have stopped trying to cure people.
So to Answer your question: No you cannot become Un-lesbian. It is very possible you may find sexual enjoyment in being bisexual. Meaning you would enjoy sex or find yourself sexually attracted to both sexes.
IF you are a lesbian you would have known something was wrong before you hit puberty. If having hit puberty you are finding you are more comfortable with your own sex; then it may be possible you are not a lesbian, that you are just struggling with your sexual identity. This is not uncommon.
Since I do not know anything more about why you feel you are a lesbian I really cannot give you much more advice. What I can do is suggest you take your time and explore your sexuality. That if you decide that you truly are a lesbian that you do not come out as one while you\'re still in High School. Children are very mean to gays and lesbians for no other reason than they don\'t understand. Part of the reason for this is their parents still believe being gay is a disease. It is not that long ago that doctors decided they were wrong in thinking it was. so it will take time for society to change their minds.
At one time Black people were seen as inferior to Whites. In fact at one time Blacks were felt to be worth 2/3 of a white person. That has changed considerably during the last century and still has a ways to go. Our view of gays and lesbians will change too over time, until it does for people of your age still in school; the best thing is to be comfortable with your sexuality but keep your sexuality to yourself until you are out of high school.
Is there a list of general knowledge questions that will help me to know more about the world? I know nothing of trivia and feel like I would get so much more out of life if I just knew more about how the world got to this point. My dad laughed at me when I didn't know who some famous people were, and I feel weird. My dad was surprised I never heard of John Wayne or Maureen O'Hara (I have looked them up since) and I thought my mom was going to hurt me because I didn't know what "Gone with the wind" was. Maybe these people and movies weren't a big deal in Canada where I was born? I don't know, but I am not playing "trivial pursuit" ever again unless you help me figure out what I DON'T know!
Thank you smart people who actually know things! :)
Don\'t feel bad the people you named and the movie you named are of your parents and grandparents generation. I would not expect you to know these people. John Wayne and Maureen O\'Hara were Hollywood movie stars around the time of WWII up through the mid 50\'s earl 60\"s.
Trivial pursuit really needs to update their game for people of this generation. Do you know who Gene Autry, Dale Evans and Hop along Cassidy are? Of course you don\'t they were famous western movie stars. You might even be asking what the heck are Westerns as they haven\'t made one in about thirty or more years.
This type of trivia is the type that slowly becomes less and less important as each generation dies out. Can you imagine sitting around with your children and asking them who John Wayne was or what a western was. They are going to look at you the way you looked at your parents.
Important trivia to me is things we can\'t let be forgotten. Like the events of 9/11/2001. That was 13 years ago you may not have been born yet. To you it is a historical event. To me it was a current event. I spent 12 hours in a fire station waiting to be called to the Pentagon. The wars of Vietnam, Korea, Iraq and the two world wars and their effect on the future of the world are what is important. The cold war and what effect it had on world events. This has been relegated to trivia as most schools do not teach this type of history.
This is the type of trivial knowledge you will need for the future to insure history does not repeat itself. I don\'t think your parents should have made fun of you for not knowing who those people were. A famous line from Gone with the Wind is; \"Frankly Scarlet I don\'t give a Damn.\" Use it the next time they ask you a trivial pursuit question from the early to mid 1900\'s it will shock the heck out of them. There is no reason for you to know much more than the real history of that time and by your writing that is what you say you’re concentrating on. I support you 100% in that effort. Don\'t worry about the trivia it\'s not important any more.
What is it and how do you keep from getting it? Is there a cure?
Pink is generally a virus but can be a bacterial infection. In either case it is very infectious and who have Pink eye are warned to stay home from work or school so as not to spread the infection.
In most cases if it is a viral infection it will pass on its own. I\'ve found warm compresses help as it draws out the crud causing the irritation. Bacterial infections require medication for which only a doctor can prescribe.
How do you know which type you have. If the irritation does not pass in 24 to 48 hours or gets worse call your doctor for an appointment. In the mean time try not to rub your eyes and wash your hands in as much hot water as you can stand with plenty of soap often. Clean hands help to keep from spreading the infection.
Hello Advicenators,
I teach elementary students in a poor community school system and end up buying a lot of school supplies for my kids. Now, I am not complaining, but it has reached the point that I will have to say no to a tear stricken child who can't afford basic supplies, or I am going to starve to death.
Is there a place that I can buy school supplies in bulk, or just more cheaply than I have been?
Any advice is appreciated.
There is a company in Columbia Maryland that may be able to help you. All they sell is school supplies. They have clearance sales as well as special pricing for bulk sales. The link to their website is below. Give them a call and see if they can be of help to you.
https://www.raymondgeddes.com/?utm_source=msn&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=school+supplies&utm_content=school+store&utm_term=school%20supply%20store
I'm a 21 male. For a while now I've had this problem where I get this burning uneasy feeling in my very bottom back and back of my legs. Seems to mainly be at night when I'm trying to sleep its hard to describe the feeling but when I move around it eases up until I'm still again and is still there. If I take pain medication it doesn't seem to do it I guess bc the meds numb your feeling? But I need to know because its annoying! I have this spot on my spine a specific vertebrae that if you touch it its very sensitive and a little below and above it is the same but not as bad and there's times it gets set off and I can't move. To be honest most of my muscles ache my upper back muscles are always tight but don't bug me like the other problem. My Dr refuses to really do any test like a MRI so idk what the bad pain is. Any ideas on either?
First thing I suggest is you find a new doctor. You say if you palpate your spine there is a spot that is very sensitive. I am assuming you mean it causes more pain. You also state that just below and above is a little less sensitive.
If you were to call 911 for help and tell them this they would place you in a neck brace and strap you to a backboard. The reason they would do this is this is this an indication of some type of spinal injury. Protocol calls for a backboard and neck collar for safe transport.
You don\'t say why your doctor will not order an MRI or x-ray and not being a doctor myself I cannot say why he or she refuses or what he or she may have felt when palpating the area. As a rescue squad member I can only say what we would do faced with what you have written if you called and wanted to go to a hospital.
As I said to begin with I think you need a second opinion which your insurance company will pay for. I would suggest an Neurosurgeon. Yea I know you\'re saying you back hurts not your brain. I thought that way too until I was in an auto accident and suffer from the same type of pain you do. Neurosurgeons repair problems with the spine as well as the brain and are more qualified, in my view, than an orthopedic spine surgeon.
You may have a slipped disc or a pinch disc. There are different ways to fix this problem but until it is properly identified the disc or discs are most likely sitting and pinching some nerves which is why you\'re feeling pain and why the pain meds are not giving you the relief you need.
As the saying goes; been there, done that, have a stack or MRI and x-ray film to prove it. If you have a trauma hospital in your area call the patient referral line and ask for an appointment with their Trauma Neurosurgical Department. This is how I met my surgeon.