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How do I talk to my mother?
Well, you see, my mom is mad at me for having low grades. She blames me for being too lazy. She keeps telling me stories that their mom and dad teached them to do their homework and din't have to help, so why should she. They keep saying my brother and I are a failure in school. But when I ask them if they think were a failure she denies it she keeps explaining that it's not what she means. But I'll get to the point here, my mom taught me idek but about just 48% in life. And she expects me to be perfect? What the fck? Sorry for the words but yeah.
How do I talk to her about this cause she's been in a really bad mood lately. And I have been cutting myself because my mom thinks I'm not good enough. I mean she can't expect me to act like the way she did when she was my age! In my generation, I hate to say this, but you have to fit in! Imagine letting a person from 1887 teach a human in 2014 how to live! I'm sorry for the explaination for being too mesy but I hope you get it. And, I've been bullied recently (my mom knows and she's doing something about it) so I, too, get depressed. I cut myself, a lot. I mean, I don't give her additional problems, but why she giving me some? :( I feel so enraged to the point that I want to leave the house with all my stuff and scream at my mom. You get me? :(
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First of all understand what you wrote is the depression you are feeling talking. You are depressed because of all the stress you are under. Stress that is both real and stress causes by the anxiety you now have. You cut because you need to feel something even if it is just the pain. Depression, stress, anxiety and pain work in a circle. One causes the other and this cycle needs to be broken in order to cure the depression.
You are even reading this in a depressed state are probably saying he doesn't know what the heck he is talking about. Well I'll clue you in here and tell you that unfortunately I do having suffered from clinical depression and having gone through what it takes to learn to recognize the symptoms and keep it in remission.
If you are as I believe suffering from depression then one of the biggest problem is we perceive things wrong at times. I don't think your mom believes you lazy if she says that it may be to motivate you. You say you're being bullied and that she is doing something about it. Bullying is another cause for depression in the person being bullied.
At the end I will give you a hotline to call to talk to some people who are professionals who can give you better help than I can.
The first thing I would like you to do is show mom you are cutting yourself. This will take being brave on your part but it will show mom your hurting and need for help. Cutting is dangerous if you cut in the wrong place of too deep you could bleed out before help could arrive.
In the past when teenagers felt as you do we thought it was just a phase they were going through and they would grow out of. Most did some didn't. Today we know better and there are things doctors can do to make you feel better while you work with a therapist to find what is the cause of your depression.
IF you are truly afraid to talk to your mother then talk to a trusted teacher or your school principal. Tell them you have been cutting and show them the scars. When you do this they have to by law step in and get you the help you need.
The following hotline is for the Kids Help line. It operates 24/7 and is answered by professional volunteers who can help with a variety of problems that face teenagers today. One of those problems happens to be depression and cutting. Their number is 1-800-668-6868. Call them I'm sure they can offer you much better advice and help then we can.
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I think that probably most of moms are like your mom coz my mom is like that too. However, they are just being like that because they want us to achieve more.
I understand you. And cutting is not a solution to that. When I was highschool, I used to be an honour student but when I was senior I wasn't able to get into the honour roll coz I did something stupid and almost kicked me out. And my mom almost killed me and I tried to commit suicide alot. Your mom is teaching you lessons in here generation to your generation and it feels like it's so sucks. However you still need to listen because it is good for you.
You need to talk to your mom about it. Tell your mom that it is hurting you. And also tell your mom that telling you and your brother about being failure is causing you suicidal thoughts. However, you need to study harder and next grading you should get higher grades to impress your mom. I mean that you don't need to impress her all the time to be called a perfect daughter but to prove her wrong that you're not a failure.
Stop cutting yourself, it'll just make you a total failure. I know that you are smart kid. Try to achieve more of what you can and if it so, then your mom will be so proud of you.
Your mom is a good mom and just want you to aim more. And she is proud of you however she just wants you to get higher grades and achieve more so she is being like that. You need to understand your mom.
Hope this help.
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