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I have this friend named Allyson. We have science class together and I always see her flirting with this guy named Mitch. She told me later that she has a HUGE crush on him. I mean..yeah, he is pretty cute but his attitude is awful. He sexually harasses her all the time and says really perverted things to her. She thinks that he is doing this as his way of flirting but I think he is being a plain jerk. Am I having a bias because this guy was mean to me way back in elementary or is he really an ass? I mean..I know this is bad but I've got to say this to explain how bad it is. "Hey allyson, you have this bruise on your cheek..whats that from, huh?" "Allyson, you've got some hair stuck in your teeth" "You got something white dripping down your lips" Sometimes he even calls her a heffer and she isn't fat at all! She is like one of the skinniest friggen people I know. If he is being a true jerk, what do I tell Allyson? It's not like I can forbid her from dating him...

wow stuff like this never ends peacefully. maybe you should have a heart to heart with her...is he really worth the harrasment? dont try to break them up, it will make you look bad. just tell her the way you and people watching this happen see in the relationship...this could lead to other things so just do it soon..hes a jerk, and shes blindly infatuated.

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I'm questioning my faith
i'm not sure what it was in the first place really
um... but I think i'm just kind of having a bit of a crisis, not sure where to turn
I come from a semi-Christian background

well what are you questioning? where it comes from, what you are supposed to believe or just what religion you are? add this info and i think i can help u out.

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Does anybody speak albainian as a first or second language? Is it a hard language to learn?

If not wat about Latin or French? I already no spanish and i want to get into a thrid languege.

i too speak both english and spanish...i would recommend french b/c its used more than the other and ive heard its a mix of both so its easier to learn.

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So when I wear eyeliner it always seems to go into the side of my eye and goop or w/e. help me!

try a different kind...it take a while to find one that works for you.

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how can u be half virgin?

hahaha someone said they were on the column and im like ok that the first time ive heard that. those are people that gave head. oh its on mean girls too..the ditzy mean blonde says it and of course the audience cracks up cuz its so dumb.

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K, so I have two male cousins.. both are 21. They are also cousins. So basically we all have parents that are siblings. One of them I'm only reminded of how much I like him when I see or hear about him, and the other I can not get off my mind. They probably wouldn't like me even if we WERENT family, but since we are there's absolutely nooooooo chance we'll get together. My questions are... has anyone else ever felt affection towards a family member (though I doubt anyone will answer that if they have). Is it "normal". I mean, I kinda know it's not "normal" but does it happen more often than people think? And how do I get past this? I know incest is frowned upon... but I'm just so stuck on them...

well yeah i guess its normal...i think my cousin has a crush on me lol but thatd just look wrong. oh and if you guys broke up or fought, what would that do for the family? not to mention the reunions... so yeah try, make an effort to find someone else.

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I have 2 kids no husband. I have made alot of mistakes in the past escpecially being premiscuous. I have compltly turned my life around now. Is it too late for or will God forgive me and except me into Heaven. Please someone who belives in God or is a Pastor or something help me.

if you truely want to be forgiven, im sure god will accept your plea. no, its never too late to start...God's been waiting for you. go to a local church and im sure they wil welcome you in and tell you that you can be forgiven.

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I have no idea whose column this is. I saw this in my friend's favorite advice sites. So I'll ask you. There's this girl at my school, Natalie D., real b****. Okay, she always bumps into me and doesn't say sorry and thinks shes so cool cause she went out with 'Chris S.' or whatever his name is. She is being a real bother. What should I do!?

i got this question in my advice column and i really want to no who it is. how do i find out who put this on my site. by the way natalie is me...i just didnt want to but my name on this site. and chris s. is my ex. how do i find out who sent this to me?

wow that is so low...and immature. this is obviously a girl so find the people that envy you. theres really no way to find out on the site so ask around an see if anyone you know has a column or knows about the site.

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I just revealed our family seceret to the biggest blabber mouth in town. I told her that we thouhght [this other family] hated us and I told her why. See, the mother in this family had once refused to take me in her car at the bus stop when it was below zero degrees out. My dad is always talking about how low it is that she did that. I told this blabber mouth woman how we feel about it and now she might tell the lady!!! My parents are all like "I don't want to talk about it" What should I do? I already apologized a million times!!! I might have ruined my families reputation!

ugh...wow ive done that a million times over. even my mom did and yeah it came back to smack her in the face but really, life went on and in the end it wasnt that big of a deal to begin with.

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Okay, sorry this is going to sound really stupid and like im really rude and stuff, but i know im not skinny and im kinda fat..i weigh 128 pounds and im 5'5..but in PE we weighed ourselves and thats what it said (then i went to the doctor and it was the same weight there too..so i know its right) my friend in PE was like the same as me..but she likes to feel better about herself and shes telling everyone i weigh like 140..i guess thats not that bad..but still, i dont want everyone to think im even more fat then i already am. She told one of my friends (lets call her F) that and F WONT believe me at all. Then i told one of my other friends (lets call her X) what i really weigh and she told F. But F was like no she doesnt, she weighs 140. uugh its just really annoying that she won't believe me. I guess i don't really care that much..i don't even like people knowing how much i weigh. But yeah. What should i do to get her to believe me and everyone to just shut up about it? Should i just ignore it?
Thanks for any help..

your "friends" are just stabbin at your weak points. they know the insecurity so really,, dont listen to them. not only are you not fat but i doubt you look 20 pounds heavier. ignore it, if they see your unaffected, theyll stop. you dont have to prove your weight...

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Thsi will sound stupid alot, but I'm only 12. My heath teacher didn't explain this to us, She explained everything else exept this. ( I also give advice) Okay, what the heck is STD?

um you might not wanna say you are 12...you have to be 13 to be on this site and you can get banned for a year. i think you have enough answers to work with.

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hello my name is muhammad amando chintagumpala. i live in kenya. all my life i have eaten bananas. bananas are my favorite food and my room is made out of them. except sometimes it falls apart or smells. anyways i love bananas but now i am moving to tanzania, where there are no bananas!! noooo i cannot live without the beautiful bananas! what shall i do to overcome this deadly desire for the wonderful yellow monkey fruit!!! i will suffer greatly from banana loss, for i am a monkey that climbs trees and scratches its butt!!!!!!!!!!!!! no i need the bananas!!!!!!!!

plant another tree, silly. and while your at it, i want you to meet a "friend" of mine..she looks like you.

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Ok so my boy friend and I were making out one day when he suggested sex, I said i didnt think I wasnt ready! and he got really pissed off and his face turned red and his head was shaking you could see his veins! He started cursing at me and called me the c word! I started crying and begged him to stop because he was scaring me! He slapped me and forced my shirt and bra off, i was pushing him away and then he took off my pants and underwear he started licking me evry where, I tryed to get him off but he wouldnt stop. The next day he left 26 messages on my cell phone saying that he was drunk and he was sorry! I love him half to death but I dont know what I should think of him! Please please Help!

he doesnt love you...he raped you. you deserve better than that. being drunk isnt an excuse. if you "love" him just dont tell the cops but pleasseee stop seeing him.

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Ok I dont know how this happened but I am skinny with HUGE boobs! I'm not kidding all the guys go up to me and just stare I feel to uncompterble (sp) I wanted to get a boob reduction, but my mom wont let me! What should I do please please Help!

if you are young, you'll grow into them. you might have developed them faster than the rest of your body so it will look a bit odd for now. just get comfortable with it...girls with no chest envy you...(being and A-B cup myself, i know this.) so just wait n see. if you are 20 and stil look out of porportion, consult your plastic surgeon.

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I'm scared, i dont know what to do. Should i involve myself into sexual intercourse? Theres this boy, and i've known him for four years.. He has been t here for me through everything. I recently dropped the highschool scene and went for cyberschool.. It was all because of some friends that wern'et being so friendly... And out of all people he dumped his girlfriend because of me and took my side on it. My bestfriend was his girlfriend. I sorta felt bad about it... But then he told me all the stuff she did to him and how she hurt him. She had cheated on him... and she admitted it to us. He has been there through everyhting... We talk all the time and we are each others best friend. We want to take that further but not sex... When it does come up though... Whhich could be at any given time... How should i react? Should i just give it up? I'm scared because i wouldn't know how to telll my mom... Me and her are sooo open with eachother and i tell her EVERYTHING. but what happens when i lose my virginity and need to go to the gyno? We're gonna hangout at his place this Thursday and i get to meet his family... They are soo nice to me on the phone... hope they are in person to... wish me luck...

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sounds like you feel sorry for him...i say dont do it unless it comes up and its like unevitable. if you are open with your mom, just tel her, use it to your advantage...it will help you. your just now meeting the family? dont do it until you already make a good impression..you dont wanna be known as the chick that comes over for the family picnic and then does stuff right after, u know what i mean? so maybe not right away. oh, you might not want to if your not actually bf n gf..it could lead to some drama. take care,

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I've always wondered this...
Why do teens think that they "need" a boyfriend or girlfriend? What's so great about it?
I follow that at least in high school and college it's kind of a time to experiment with relationships and all, but I just don't really follow why teens think they "need" someone, especially since a lot of it seems to end kind of painfully for people.
Anyway, long story short, I'm confused about why people think it's something they need, why they seem to look so hard for it at a young age, and what's so great about having a boy/girlfriend.
Thanks.

teens want support...like someone to be there and suddenly take all pain away. unfortunatly not many know that its not always like that. theres not need for someone. also many are pressured by peers and siblings and relationships are just kind of there. theres nothin that great about it. for now, single is great.

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I always have no idea in the morning on what eye shadow to put on. The main thing is I don't know what colors look good with my hair color. I have a light brownish-blonde hair with a nice light tan. and what color would look good with my lips?

go with a light pink...you cant go wrong. if you want a coordinating lip color, put on clear lipgloss then rub a bit of eyeshadow on it with your finger and put some more gloss on it...it works!

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hello i am very white and would like to get a tan but i dont want to wait for it to be hot enogh to tan i want the tan now and im only 13 and i cant go in a tanning both my mom wont let me she wont even let me in a tanning bed or spray tan and it also causes cancer so i dont wanna risk it and alot people in my family have had cancer so theres a good chance i wil get it so i dont wanna even spend alot of time in the sun either so i figured a sunless tan i really wanna get jergens sunless tan but i cant find it anywhere so does anyone know where i can get it besides e-bay or other auction places or websites?

i got the jergens lotion stuff and it doesnt show drastic results but it does help a bit...it has a lot of shimmer n i like it. its like 4-5$ at drugstores or walmart.

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i'm 15 and my last serious bf was when i was in the 7th grade. i'm not shy, i talk a lot, i get along with everyone,i have a good sense of humor, i don't want to sound stuck up but i'm not ugly. my two best friends have bfs one of them has many pimples on her face, my other friend has been know as the ugly duckie. their bfs are really cute. is there something wrong with me, that i can't get a bf? i feel so alone and behind my smile there is a girl depressed that has a problem with self harm, and has no one to talk to, and feels unloved!

guys are afraid to date girls better than them. dont worry bout it. boys suck..throw rocks at them.

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what are pilate?

its excersizes that tone the core. thats like your abs and stuff. im sure you can find some stuff online. i wish i could explain it better...theyre fun by the way.

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