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Just because I'm curious
I've always wondered this...
Why do teens think that they "need" a boyfriend or girlfriend? What's so great about it?
I follow that at least in high school and college it's kind of a time to experiment with relationships and all, but I just don't really follow why teens think they "need" someone, especially since a lot of it seems to end kind of painfully for people.
Anyway, long story short, I'm confused about why people think it's something they need, why they seem to look so hard for it at a young age, and what's so great about having a boy/girlfriend.
Thanks.
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Maybe because it seems like everyone does it...peer pressure, you know. Plus they're lonely and angsty and horny. And when your friend invites you to the mall and her boyfriend is there too and they spend the whole time kissing and trying to avoid you, you kind of wish that you had a boyfriend so you could kiss him in front of her...see how she likes it...bitch.
Those are my reasons, anyway.
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I think Dating is basically a hunt for a mate. I think teens tend to rush into it to soon. They pair up with one person to soon. They should actually be dating a lot of different people and getting to know different people so they can find the perfect one for them. That's not how they do it though anymore. Steady bf/gf used to be a serious thing...today there are bf/gf who do nothing but say hi in hallways. They want the admiration of their peers for having a bf/gf but in reality they are nothing to each other.
All that being said I think that in todays world most think they "need" someone to prove their popularity. Gotta have the trophies. Those who are slower to start are made to feel like they have something wrong with them when they are actually the normal ones.
So, if you don't feel a great need for someone at the moment...don't worry about it. :)
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People want bf's/gf's so they can feel loved completely by one person. As if that one person was made for them. It is a form of security and when you have someone that loves you that much, insecurities tend to go away.
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When you're a teenager you start feeling attracted to boys or girls and you want to show your fellings. Thats just how it is during that age!!!
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well...i'm 13 and basically most girls in my grade talk about wanting a boyfriend or their boyfriends 24/7. Me? i personally think that young people think they "need" a boyfriend or a girlfriend because they want someone to hold, to talk to, someone that cares for them in a sweeter way than friends do. having a friend and having a boyfriend/girlfriend are two totally different things, and that's probably why girls or boys seek to "need" a boyfriend or a girlfriend. Yes, lots of the relationships people have do end up painfully for people, but that's just life. that's how we people find the "one" but yeah, i agree that it's kind of stupid that people my age are saying they need a boyfriend/girlfriend, but hey, you never know. one of those guys/girls can be the person you stay with up until you pass away. hope i helped.
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being a teenager is a hard age for most teens. they want to find someone that can care for them. especially for girls, dating someone makes them feel better, such as they feel more beautiful. they are constantly self-concious about themselves so they need a boy to help them with it. even though boys don't necessarily make a girl a better person, many girls still believe they do and some are absolutely devastated when they are single. it also has to do with peer pressure. a lot of teens date these days, and that influences other teens to follow. sometimes dating can be really fun and romantic, but yes they can end up extremely painful for others. i hope i explained it well enough lol.
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well, they want to find someone who cares abou them, and someone who is always there for them, i have an amazing boyfriend, and we plan to get married, we have been together for 15months, and have always been strong, and still are!
hope that helps!!
-Kels-
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You know what they dont NEED any one! They just dont want to be lonely or made fun of! I know how you feel I was one of those people that needed some one until I realized I just didnt want to end up alone! I mean the chances are very low to fall in love with your high school sweety! Well you should just try to get in one just see what guys/girls (what ever you like) are out there in the world! Good luck!
~Tonya~
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good freaking question! everyone in my group of friends always has to have a boyfriend and im one of the very few who doesnt. i think they either just want to fit in, or they dont want to be bored when they go out.. yea shallow huh?
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teens want support...like someone to be there and suddenly take all pain away. unfortunatly not many know that its not always like that. theres not need for someone. also many are pressured by peers and siblings and relationships are just kind of there. theres nothin that great about it. for now, single is great. <3
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I think it's because they see other people with them.. and feel they must follow the herd. Also, those little "chick flicks" with those near impossible romances make it all seem so magical; hahah... they learn the hard way that it's tough to find love like that.. and some people NEVER WILL!! And I suppose your teenage years can definitely be a difficult time, and it's always nice to have someone there for you.
Those were the only reasons I could really come up with..
Makes sense though, right?? :)
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Because they don't want to be left out...like if their best friend got a boyfriend/girlfriend and they look so happy together...the person without a girlfriend/boyfriend would become jealous and lonely...Let's say (lets call her Cassy) Cassy got a boyfriend and her best friend Jenna got jealous because Cassy was leaving her out of things and she won't stop talking about this boy..then wouldn't you agree that Jenna would want a boyfriend too? ~*Hope I Helped*~
~*~*Julie*~*~
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its because there is a need to feel liked and wanted in that way...to be close to someone and have a great connection..i think they see that around them and want it very badly for ourselves....
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Dear just because i'm curious
Teens think they need a girl/boyfriend because to them its like a ranking the more girl/boyfriends you have had the better the chance you are at getting a girl/boyfriend
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