I can answer questions about pretty much anything! I love helping people, especially kids with the same issues I have gone through, so feel free to ask!
E-mail: kim20850@netzero.com
Gender: Female
Location: MD!
Occupation: Student
Age: 14
AIM: IStilBelieveNLuv
Member Since: May 31, 2005
Answers: 13
Last Update: June 24, 2005
Visitors: 3874
Main Categories:
Theater
Friendship
Love Life
View All
|
| |
|
i lost a big part of my life...the person i loved more than life itself...he told me i was annoying and a bad girlfriend...it tore me up...i want him back and now hes talkin to my friend...i just want to die...how do i get over him? someone help me please before i do somethin stupid (link)
| |
He actually told you that?? How rude...Well, honestly I know it must be so hard, but trust me you will get over him. Just look beyond him. He clearly isn't good for you! You sound like a caring sweet person and he isn't ready to handle that. Just try to find other people because there is someone out there perfect for you and he is not that person.
|
f/13
ohk so i've gone out with many people b4 ... some were crushes, dares you know your typicall 12 -13 year old stuff only like one or two i really truly loved . yes loved i would do anything for them. i have had my heart broken a couple of times and i have broken a few ... but why is it that all a sudden i feel like love can be/ is such a scary thing ? (link)
| |
Honestly, love is a scary thing. It's like you are giving someone your heart to hold and take care of, but that also gives them the power to break it. I am afraid of love as well and I still take chances because I know that one day that perfect person will come along and all those broken hearts and tears will disappear. Just think of it like, love is about taking chances and your heart may be broken a few times, but in the end someone will come along and mend it and keep it safe forever.
|
Okay, i went over to my friends house this one night and this guy that i liked was over there. The thing is that he had a girlfriend. Well, we were on his AIM and his g/f told me to call her, next thing i know i am on the phone with her and she broke up with her boyfriend. About 5 minuted later she was with another guy. I felt so bad for this other guy! So, me and this other guy started to flirt next thing i know we were holding hands and stuff. i felt really bad for doing this when my best friend just broke up with this guy but all that was going through my head was that she is with another guy so why should she care.
well, the girl who's house i was at told this other girl everything that me and this guy were doing and my BEST FRIEND got pissed and called me a whore and slut. it was such a suprise i couldn't believe it! she has another friend and she cheats on her boyfriends and she doesn't get mad at her. the next day of school i was dreading! but first thing she did was walk up to me and we talked for like 5 minutes and she wasn't mad at me anymore...the thing is that i was mad at her for saying all of those nasty things about me. and you can ask anyone at my school i am not a whore or slut.
i still hold this against her but at the same time i'm nice to her, should i still be mad or what?
signed,
confused (link)
| |
You should deff tell her that you are pretty sad. Don't get angry just say you didn't appreciate it when she turned on you. It wasn't fair what she said so be nice, yes, but tell her you don't want her to turn on you like that anymore.
|
|
i feel that i am progressing to the point of an eating disorder. i hardly eat breakfast lunch and dinner. i snack on a little bit of cheese nips and water everyday. i usually do 200 sit ups a night but sometimes i do less but never less than 100. i am noticing i am getting very tired latley also could that be becsaue i am not eating what i usually eat. i just hate how people think only the really skinny girls are attrctive and love their bodies. i just want to make people look at me like that. i am not fat i just have like a tummy, i mean its not huge, but i am average maybe alittle below. i have tremendous boobs which do not even fit my body they ar elike bigger then my head. i just hate the way i look, i have pretty much given up on eating and i have been very attitudish latley and i cant take crap form anyone. i jsut dont know what to do, does anyone have any advice that well make me look better or feel better about myslef and my body, i jsut hate not being skinny enough and ji cant wear tanktops becasue of mt DDD boobs which look retarted when i wear one becasue it goes from a huge chest a small body and it looks retared like i got reductions and i didnt i am so depressed i do not no what to do with myself!!!! can someone give me advice i think i need help???? (link)
| |
Don't even worry. I have been going through the same problem wondering why I can't be accepted too. Look, girls like us are gorgeous. Do you know how many stick girls would want your body? And your boobs. Trust me boobs are a good thing to have and you will learn that soon enough, lol. And do NOT stop eating. Eat healthy it is sooo much better. When dieting it feels great knowing you can discipline yourself enough to not eat too much bad food...when you don't eat it's like you are giving up and just not trying by not eating. Just remember no matter what anyone says you ARE beautiful. Having a tummy is better than not having anything to be proud of. Be proud of your tummy! I know I am! Guys love it when girls are confident! So, carry yourself in a way that guys can see your confidence even when you aren't sooo skinny. Good luck!
|
There's a group of girls at my school who have been cutting themselves. I talked to my counseler and he said that it was the right thing to tell him, and he would have me remain anonomys. One of the girls and she found out from my counseler. She got mad at me, and she said that I should mind my own buisness. Was she right, or was that the right thing to do?!? Please help!!!!!!!!!
Lily (link)
| |
You did the right thing. No matter what anyone tells you. You may have saved her life! How horrible would it of been if she died because you didn't say anything? It took courage for you to do what you did and if it means anything, I am proud of you and in the end those girls will thank you.
|
|
Alright tp start this off, i`m 14/female. For about a year or so, I`ve been so down and sad/angry all the time. I never smile anymore, or things that used to be a blast too me, is no fun anymore. I don`t like hanging out with any of my firends anymore. I just like being alone all the time. Well, a few months ago my mom and dad took me to a conselour because they were concerned about me and such. They just said I needed too be on anti-depressants. I didn`t start using them right away, just recently. Well, I`m cutting myself now. I know its really bad too do and I know how stupid I am for doing it, but It just feels so right when I do it. I really need too stop or talk to somebody about it. My mom asked me what these marks were on my arm, and i told her is was eraser burns ( because they leave scars ) and she hasn`t realy noticed that more and more keep appearing. What should I tell her? I want too tell her the truth. I know she will probably understand but she`ll get really upset ( sad ) because she hates seeing me like this and i`ll feel really bad. What should I say too her? (link)
| |
Unfortunately you do need to tell her. Or some adult that you know can help you. Because you do seem to be lost and like you have lost all hope so now is the time to realize you need help. Please do get help because then you won't need to cut and after you have gotten help you will be so much happier. Believe in yourself!!
|
My friend is a suicidal massicist. She cuts her wrists. She was molested when she was younger. She also does drugs and gets drunk a lot and likes it. Her mom is suicidal and her dad is a pot head. She went to a therapist before but stopped because he was annoying and cost too much. I think her life is taking a large turn down into a huge pile of shit, but I don't know how to help her. She is insecure, clingy but outspoken and is willing to fight anyone who makes fun of her, and that is admirable. She is also bisexual which has caused other probs. Can I do anything?
(link)
| |
You need to tell her that she is scaring you. Make it known that you are worried. If she doesn't care then someone needs to know like your parents. You can tell them and then you would've done enough. As long as an adult that can do more knows then she should be fine. Don't wait...it might be too late so quickyl, someone needs to get her help.
|
|
Everyone is saying that my boyfriend is bi! Even my bestest friends! It's really annoying! I don't think he is but everyone else does! I know I should just go with what I think and ignore all of them, but it's really hard for me to do. He is soo cool and nice and hott! And I don't want everyone thinking that, cause it might ruin my rep. too!! Help me please!! (link)
| |
wow, i had the sameeeee exact issue with my boyfriend. lemme tell ya your friends, if they dont have any proof they could just be saying their own opinion in form of an accusation. he prolly isn't bi and people were saying my bf is gay and we ended up dating for 11 months. ask him, not your friends!:)
|
I've always wondered this...
Why do teens think that they "need" a boyfriend or girlfriend? What's so great about it?
I follow that at least in high school and college it's kind of a time to experiment with relationships and all, but I just don't really follow why teens think they "need" someone, especially since a lot of it seems to end kind of painfully for people.
Anyway, long story short, I'm confused about why people think it's something they need, why they seem to look so hard for it at a young age, and what's so great about having a boy/girlfriend.
Thanks. (link)
| |
People want bf's/gf's so they can feel loved completely by one person. As if that one person was made for them. It is a form of security and when you have someone that loves you that much, insecurities tend to go away.
|
|
ok heres the story: my friend, lets call her becky, well she has had a boyfriend for about 2 months now, lets call him bob. becky really likes bob but then again she can't make up her mind who she likes. she flirts with other guys and like me and her sister and her ex-bf think that bob is using her. bob is younger than her by a couple of months. every time i am with becky and bob they hold each other and crap and i am tired of it.(i'm not jealous b/c i have a bf.) bob makes faces behind beckys back and talks about her and shit and it makes me laugh so when becks asks what is so funny i say bob and then like he totally denies it. something is fishy about him b/c he wouldn't let becky see his yearbook. (btw becky is homeschooled and bob goes to public school. i don't know how to confront becky about this. i tried asking her before but she doesn't listen. i don't know what to do! HELP! (link)
| |
Only way is to just tell. her. Bob is being a jerk and if she's truly your friend you'll tell her.
|
|
this is kind of long.im 16. ok so I have had this friend that I have known since pre-k, and we used to be super cool. and now that its summer we had all these plans to have sleepovers and everything and just have fun. but we only have gotten together once since the beginning of summer and that was like for only like an hour and a half. and the first day we planned to have a sleepover and she said she would call when shes about to come over, but she never called that night. so i called the next day and we planned to have a sleepover that night but she didnt call again. after a while i just gave up and we havnt talked since like the last time (a couple of days ago) that i asked for her to come over. she never gave a reason for her not coming over. do you think she still likes me? I mean we've known eachother sing PRE-K! is it really that easy to just forget someone? please dont be sarcastic if you answer this because it herts to loose a friend.... (link)
| |
I think that if you feel you are losing her it is time for a serious talk because I know how hard it is to lose a really really close friend. Make sure she knows you're upset, but not completely angry. Don't yell or explode jusdt let her know how sad you feel .When you do that things should turn out better!:)
|
ok so there's this really hott guy in my grade and i really like him (b.c. hes really nice too not just hott although thats a plus) and he would always smile at me and compliment me and say hi to me and i started liking him and all my friends said that he liked me and than my friend (without my permission) called him on my cell while i was in the bathroom and was like hey do u like Carry (me) like would you go out with her? and he was like umm i like her as a friend but i dont think i would go out with you and Allison (my friend) told me and i was super pissed and the day before i heard from one of his friends he liked me so the next day i asked him who he liked and he said he like Allison so i don't know what to believe. would you please help me!?!? thanks in advance!!!
and im not the most popular girl in my grade, but my friends totally is.
*.:~*totally confused*~:.* (link)
| |
Okay...so your friend called him? Not you? Well, in that case I think you should definetly talk to him yourself. He might've just lied to your friend because like the previous person said, he's probably shy.
|
|
hmmm where do i start? well im 13 and me and my friend "Jane" went to this little bbq cook out thing for another friend "LEE" and her frind "sam" well they invited another boy named "JIM". well that night b=me and him really hit it off. we flirted and talked and i really like him and i think Jane does too andi kbnow LEe does and i think he likes me cus he flirted alot and said i was hott and stuuf. Jane wouldnt mind if i went out with him but i know Lee would probally tell him some lies about me.well he entered his cell # into mine for the heck of it and hes lijke i may call you somtime. and he didnt call so and i think lee mighta said some stuff about me so he wudnt call cus she is obsessed over him. My questions are do you think he does like me or do you think i should call him cus i really like him . What do i do? (link)
| |
I think you should definetly not jump to conclusions:). If you feel Lee has said something you need to talk to the boy you like. Call him, definetly. There's really no other way out because talking it out is always the best solution!!:)
|
|