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Depressed.
Alright tp start this off, i`m 14/female. For about a year or so, I`ve been so down and sad/angry all the time. I never smile anymore, or things that used to be a blast too me, is no fun anymore. I don`t like hanging out with any of my firends anymore. I just like being alone all the time. Well, a few months ago my mom and dad took me to a conselour because they were concerned about me and such. They just said I needed too be on anti-depressants. I didn`t start using them right away, just recently. Well, I`m cutting myself now. I know its really bad too do and I know how stupid I am for doing it, but It just feels so right when I do it. I really need too stop or talk to somebody about it. My mom asked me what these marks were on my arm, and i told her is was eraser burns ( because they leave scars ) and she hasn`t realy noticed that more and more keep appearing. What should I tell her? I want too tell her the truth. I know she will probably understand but she`ll get really upset ( sad ) because she hates seeing me like this and i`ll feel really bad. What should I say too her?
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Unfortunately you do need to tell her. Or some adult that you know can help you. Because you do seem to be lost and like you have lost all hope so now is the time to realize you need help. Please do get help because then you won't need to cut and after you have gotten help you will be so much happier. Believe in yourself!!
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You shouldn't be on here trying to get advice on how to hide the scars, love. It seems to me like you believe you've lost all hope. Well don't. That happened to me. I didn't do what you did. If you truly want to find a solution, no not to hide your scars, but to true happiness, you will. I just think that you are too bored with your surroundings, and that maybe you should try and convince your parents to send you off to another town with a cousin or something. Meet a few people there, do a few activitites. If suddenly you find it fun, then its obvious that you have stopped liking your friends back home. And if thats not it, then I'm telling you, and I hope that you think about it hard, for you, not me, that you try more than once to try and be happy. More than once. You don't just try once and go: Oh look it hasn't worked, bully for me.
No. You don't do that. Your parents care about you and I'm sure other people do as well. But still, what you do is for yourself in the end. Do you really want these scars for the rest of your life? Or do you really, truly want to live like this everday?
Think about it. Drop me a line if you need anything. I truly wish you good luck...try and not lose hope, okies? =].
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wow u sound like me. thats exactly how i was. i was sad all the time, my friends were boring, i just wanted to be left alone.. etc. i was a cutter.
you are not stupid for cutting yourself. its COMPLETLY understandible. its a way to cope with your pain, sadness, and depression.
you want to tell your mom u r a cutter. do it. i encourage u. i did. right after i had a fight with my mom i went and cut myself.. and i felt better.. but i didnt.. so i told her. YES she was sad.. she would have been sad either way. idk exactly what to tell u to tell ur mom, but ill tell u what i said.
mom i keep cutting myself. i dont know why, im not happy, i hate everything, i cry all the time and i just dont know why. i want to get better.
maybe that might help u.. idk if it will but it may give u some idea of what u can do...
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Dang, well the problem isn't telling you'r mom. It's to stop cutting. I know what you mean, cutting makes you'r mind go off of the problem, or pain. But. you need to think back, before you where depressed. What made you that way, what made you feel down. Sometimes it can be hormones, but I have never seen them do that much damage. It could have been a boy, or a friend, or even you'r parents. Whatever it is, you need to try and fix it, make it stop, because cutting, is very additcting, I would know.
Note: I think you should wait to tell you'r mom.
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Ok, what you need to do is tell your mom. She can help. Also, try to stop cutting yourself, in the long run it will do nothing for you! Instead write or draw out your feelings. Just admit to yourself that you are depressed and try to find out why you are. If you can't you should go see a consulour or someone who can help you figure out why you are acting this way! You can make it if you really want to!
PS If you need anything else, feel free to message me, I have a friend just like you and I'm helping her.
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you know you have a problem, and thats good. now you need more help. talk to your mom. Tell her you NEED help. keep taking your anti depressents though. If the conselour thought you hsould be on them, then you probably should.
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The 1st step to helpng yourself is admitting that you have a problem. It seems to me that yuo have already done that, so now all you have to do is keep going. tell your mom what you've been doing and tell her you want to see a therapist or stay at a clinic or something. But it seems to me like you want some help so go get it.
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I went through the same exact thing as u. i never told my mom which i regreted cuz she was just more upset then she would have been if i did tell her. U should definatley tell ur mom just say to her ur really upset about whatever is goin on in ur life and just talk to her and tell her that cutting urself helps take the pain away. If u feel uncomfortable talkin to ur mom talk to a friend or someone who is really close to u that u can trust. But u need to tell someone b4 it gets worse. Hope i helped.
~*~shannon~*~
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well, i know how you feel. id be a hypocrit if i said that you shouldnt self mutilate, but you need help. just by the fact that you want to tell your mother the truth, is a sign that you want help. just tell her whats going on and how you feel. she'll be upset at the fact that you may be doing things to hurt yourself, but on the other hand, she'll be impressed with the fact that you went to her with your problem and that you actually want help. ive been clinically depressed since i was 13, and believe me, it fuckin sucks crying and cutting my self all the time. im 18 now.. you dont want to keep going through it. besides you deserve to happy. everyone does
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You explain to your mom how you feel and why you are cutting. You should also see a psychiatrist to help you with your problems. So your already on anti-deppresents? Sometimes they take a while to fully work so things should be getting better for you! Just keep taking them :)
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