I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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when people say that something is "overated" what do they mean by that??? (link)
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When they think that somebody gets a score which they feel is more than what that person should've gotten.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Does anyone know where i can see the hate video of Ali Lohan that was put up by girls in her old school...i believe it was taken down from youtube... but i can only assume its somewhere on the internet...
Thanks so much!! (link)
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Okay, if YouTube took away the video, then there is a very good reason for it.
Taking a look around at various websites, I get the impression that she was hurt by what her 'friends' (the ones who made the video she had viewed as friends before the incident) said about her. And the fact that they said mean things about her which she felt wasn't true.
The ones who made the video were expelled from the school. And taking another few looks around, they were jealouse of her.
Even though I haven't given you a link to the video (and I've got no intention of doing so), I hope this tells you as to what was in the video in question.
And another thing, I don't think that the video is on the internet anymore due to the publicity of the story and other video companies on the internet would make sure that if it is found on their system, they would delete it or block it for obvious reasons (such as they've got to stick to their privacy policy otherwise they would be shutdown and that is what YouTube did, they deleted it because of it's content).
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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My boyfriend of a year and I broke up last week. I love him so much, and he tells me that he loves me too, but I don't think it's as strong as it use to be. We're still friends, he still calls me everyday, so I think there's still something there so, I want to win him back.
I'm a bit of a tomboy and I dressed pretty for him and he was all over me that day, I don't know what else to do though... any tips? stuff that worked for you guys? (link)
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Well, why did you break up in the first place? If you love him so much and he loves you too, what went wrong?
If you've got issues between each other, you need to sort them out. Since you didn't put in your letter as to why you broke up, I'm assuming that it was something trivial, which means you can work it out. Then you can ask him whether you can have another go.
Dressing up isn't enough, you need to ask.
You dated for a year, so there must be some chemistry between the two of you.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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When writing a song, do you think of the words first or the tune first? And I mean, how do you make the tune. I dont even know how to start without copying someone else. (link)
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Some people find that finding tune first and then put the words to the tune is easy.
But some people find it easy to write the lyrics first and then find a tune which sounds good to go with the lyrics.
It all really depends upon how you like to work. Try both and see what works better for you. Since you struggle with the tune, I would recommend the second option that way, it minimises the risk of you copying somebody.
As for the actual song, don't forget that the song has to make sense and there must be some sort of story in the song.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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There was a VERY important video on my phone that meant everything to me, but when I tried to put it in on my computer, I LOST IT! Everything went so fast that I didn't have time to unmark the "delete from phone after importing to computer" option - but that was fine with the pictures, I found where they were saved on the computer and copied them back onto the phone, BUT I CAN'T FIND THE VIDEO!
PLEASE HELP ME, PLEASE.... it means the world to me! Is there ANYTHING I can do?? Is there like a back-up file on the phone that saves everything (even though you delete it?) Can I talk to a phone operator to help me get it out in that case? Do you think I can still find it on my computer??
THANK YOU! :'( (link)
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The back-up would only work if you've used it before. If you haven't, then it wouldn't be there. If you have, I believe that there is a way to access it but if you've still got your information booklet on your phone, then it should tell you how to do it. Plus, it depends upon whether your phone does do a back-up. Once again, check your booklet and look under 'Sync and backup' or something along those lines.
You can restore a back up, which means that you restore the conten perviously backed up on your memery card.
On every computer, there should be a file in which videos are kept.
If you've got Windows XP, go to 'My Documents' and there should be a file which should either say 'Videos' or 'My Videos'.
If you've got Windows Vista (all types), click on 'Computer' and select your *username* file (*the name which you're using on the computer eg John's computer etc*), click on it and you should get a list of files. Go to the file which says 'Videos'.
Now, this may or may not work. If it doesn't, I would surgest that you call the company which you're using and see if there is anything which you could do. BUT I would surgest that you make a complete search of your computer AND mobile to ensure that it is/isn't there.
Since you imported it, it is likely to be in a file somewhere on the computer. Look for anything which says 'Unknown' and check to see if it's a video or not.
Good luck and I hope you find the video,
triquetra
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ok so theres this one guy at school and my best friend likes him but i like him to and he knows that she likes him but he donn't know that i like him and he flirts with me and my friend told me that if he starts going out with someone else she would get really pissed and if he goes out with me she is going to be pissed at me and she is my best friend... What should i do... (link)
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Well, you need to make your feelings for him known to him. That way, he can know how you feel about him and see how he feels about you. It may turn out well or not. You need to know about how he feels about you otherwise so you can decide about what to do.
It seems to me that he likes you but as you didn't put in your letter as to what else he does apart from flirting with you, it's difficult to tell if he really is interested in you. But from what I've read, he may like you.
Your friend seems to be very possesive of what she wants. She'll get angry if this guy goes out with somebody else apart from her and she will get angry if you go out with him. To me, she sounds like somebody whom thinks of themselves very highly and only what one person for themselves and don't want anybody getting in the way of that. Do tell me if I'm wrong but that's the general impression I get of her from what you've written.
If you like him, then ask him as to how he feels about you. To me, a love realtionship comes above a normal friendship. She may be pissed at you like you said, but if the realtionship is what you want, then nothing should stop that BUT remember that it all depends upon the fact as to whether he likes you or not.
Cliff notes version: go and ask him to see how he feels about you and then go from there.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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School just ended for me so summer is officially in session. I'm a little depressed because I won't see any of my new made friends over the 3 month summer vacation, which is why I usually loathe the long break from school. Anyway, to the point. There's a guy in particular who I became fast friends with, but it seems that once school ended, so did our friendship. i really like him and one of my friends suggested i tell him that I've liked him for as long as I have. But I'm not so sure since school's out and I won't see him. I don't want things to get awkward but then everything changes over summer, so I'm not sure. One of my friends (not very close) posted pictures up of a brithday party he was at and he seemed so happy with the few people that were there (him and about 4 girls and 5 guys) so I don't wnat to ruin anything.
Well, that's long and probably a "classic" question but I'd appreciate the advice. (link)
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What makes you so sure that the friendship is over? Just because you like him doesn't mean that the friendship is over. He may have feelings for you as well or he may not.
If he's got other friends, doesn't mean that your friendship is over. Why don't you just step off into the deep end and see what happens. To be quite fair, you'll never know as to how he may react to you. If it doesn't work out, then all should go back to the way things were. You'll only being truthful to yourself.
I know what it's like to have feelings for somebody but not wanting to ruin their own life with our feelings. But stupidly, I didn't say anything that now the person whom I liked is now with somebody else and that truely did break my heart. I've felt the sting of heartbreak and I don't want to see other realtionships which could work out never happen.
Take a leap of faith and see how it goes.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I have a bit of a problem and I am not sure how to deal with it. I am 21 and recently discovered my mother is smoking weed. I found a joint and today when I walked in the house it smelt like weed. She is a grown woman and can make decisions, but I am worried that it will turn into worse.
My father was a drinker and druggy and thats how he ultimately died. So I am worried that she will end up the same way to early.
So please tell me if I should just butt out or what I can do about it. (link)
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You kinda asked this question twice in a row. There's no need for that.
I would talk to her about it and see what she wants. Tell her your fears and that you just don't want to lose her yet, like you lost your father to the drugs and the drink.
You're not butting in, because you care for her and just want to have the best for her. Advise her to go to a support group who can help her get off the drugs. You're a loving, caring daughter whom wants nothing more than to see your mum healthy and happy and have nothing to do with drugs.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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My best friend lies to me about everything. ive confronted her about it. and novv she is continuing.. any advice on vvhat i should do?
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If she's lying, then she isn't a real friend to you. If you've already spoken to her about it, and she's continued, then I would speak to her again and tell that you don't want her lying to ruin your friendship.
If she doesn't stop lying after that, then I'm very sorry to say that she isn't your friend. Friends respect each other and they don't lie to each other.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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I hate it when I'm talking and say something not super smart and someone says "Your blonde, what do you expect", or "Well, your blonde". Or anything like that, its really annoying so what should I say to them as a comeback?
Any good ones?
Thanks =] (link)
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Okay, I hate the fact that when people see/hear a blonde person, they instantly think that they're dumb. That just really annoys me!!
Here are some:
"But what's wrong with being blonde? Just because some people who're blonde are stupid doesn't mean that we all are!"
"If you think that I'm dumb, then you don't know me at all then"
"People make mistakes when they say something. Blondes aren't the only people"
"You may think that I'm dumb, but I'm not"
"Do you know how offensive that is to me? Do you know how much that hurts my feelings? I may have blonde hair but I do have feelings as well!!"
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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My family can be really critical, but what they think will always matter to me, as well as my friends. So i just need some opinions from everyone.
Im on track to become a Nurse. but im about three years away from being totally done with it.. I really want to start a family.. i want to be able to have enough energy to have fun with my family. I love kids, i work with kids, but im worried that people might think im too young still. My family atleast tends to think that 35 is the perfect age to have children. So..
My question is: what is the RIGHT age for people to start a family? (assume they would be married)
Thank you so much. sorry if its in the wrong category (link)
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Your family shouldn't have a say as to when you should think about having a family. As long as you're physically, emotionally ready to have a family then that should be all that they need to know. Plus, you need to know that it's want you really want (and by the sounds of it, it is).
I can see as to why you family feels that 35 is a good age. I mean, you're more mature, you know what life is about, you've travelled around and done different things.
In this case, I would say wait for a while. After you've done your nursing course, go travelling for a while, see the world. I wouldn't tie yourself to having a family just yet because after that, there isn't much oppotunity to travel around, to see different countries/cultures/food etc. With a family, it's more expensive and you're not able to do the things that you want to do in that country. Whilst if you travel by yourself, you're able to do whatever you want.
By all means, it's your choice, that was my view. Live your early life a little before starting a new one.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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20/f
I feel a little old to be asking this sort of question. It's less of a "what do I do?" and more of a "what do you think?" Although, if you have an answer to "what do I do?" please feel free to respond with it.
All my life I've had friends, and friend "groups." My groups are pretty separate - I could never really have every one of my friends hanging out in the same space and not have a few fights break out or general tension in the air. I'm realizing recently that I don't really...fit in...with ANY of my friend "groups." I have a lot of guy friends. They all like girls, working out, and sports...and music, pretty much. I mean, I'm a gym rat and a musician in many ways, but I don't have a membership to their gym, and almost none of them have heard me sing, even though I did some national competitions and am very proud of my voice. Even fewer of my friends have heard me play flute, or have seen my artwork.
I have barely any girl friends, and the few I do have I almost never see.
Typing this out, I almost feel like this is my fault. I'm...not an easy person to get close to. I've trusted one person completely in my life so far, and he let me down in a few different ways. I don't really trust any of my friends, and I can't open up. I've destroyed more than one relationship because of this, and I feel like I'm killing pretty much all my friendships, too. Even people I've known all my life, I can't completely open up to, or be completely comfortable with.
This is just all so messed up.
Feedback, anyone? (link)
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Ah, the old Deja Vu. It never fails.
I was exactly like this a few months ago. I was at school and during on of the evenings (I board you see), I had an epiphany which told me that I didn't fit in with the school or my peers. I came to realise that I too was hard to get too, because of my fear of being rejected by those around me and trust me, that was depressing enough itself! After that day, not once did I stop thinking that if I could just go back and change what I did (I was quite, and didn't talk much), it may've turned out differently. I too trusted them, some let me down whilst others kept that trust going till today.
What did I do? I stepped right out of my saftey net during the new term and I began to open up to them and I found to my great surprise that they accepted me for who I was and I even found some new friends whom I never expected to find!!
So this is what may be happening to you: your fear of being rejected by those around you is what is stopping you from the being the person whom you are. You're not somebody whom likes being alone, you're somebody whom loves having people around.
I would adivse that you only have one group of friends to be with at the moment. Becasue having many groups makes you feel as if you've got to live up to those standards which that group sets. This really isn't healthy. Only go for one and stick with that group and give your all and show them whom you really are. If they invite you out, go with them and have the time of your life. Invite them round to your place for dinner or just to go out somewhere. Or just talk to them: little things in the short term, can have big effects in the long term.
Life is way to short and you need to begin to live it too the full.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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Please give me a lot of suggestions for wedding songs! thank you!! (link)
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'I Want To Spend My Lifetime Loving You' - Marc Anthony (duet with Tina Arena). I would surgest this one more strongly than the others (even though I'm a fan of M.C!!!!!)
'My Heart Will Go On' - Celinge Dion
'Can't Let Go' - Mariah Carey
'Endless Love' - Mariah Carey (duet with Luther Vandross)
'My All' - Mariah Carey.
'I Will Always Love you' - Whitney Houston version.
'Thank God I Found You' - Mariah Carey.
Have a beautiful wedding,
triquetra
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i need to prove to my ex boy friend that i dont need him and iv moved on wiv my life. any tips on how??? jay xxxxxx (link)
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I would just call him and tell him that you don't need him anymore. Technically, you don't have anything to do with him anymore, so he shouldn't be hounding you if that is what he's doing.
Don't text him because that isn't just effective enough. Go and call him, don't let him speak, just tell him that you've got nothing to do with him anymore and that you want to get on with your life (well, you do don't you?).
If you know that you don't need him and that you're ready to move on, then that should be all that he needs to know.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
By the way, for future reference, watch the spelling.
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Me= 16/f/usa
sister= 19/f/usa
German Boy= 16/m/germany
My sister turned 18 last summer and then spent 6 months in Europe. WHile she was away, we were joined by a foreign exchange student from germany who is living in her old bedroom. The He and I are both 16 so we have a similar mindset and we agree that eversince my sister has returned, she thinks that she is an adult. Legally she is an adult, but I dont think it is very mature to constantly tell your guest and little sister that they are "soooooo immature". Plus, we hate her stupid ditzy friends.
I have never had a very good relationship with my sister, and quite honestly i have always felt that she is an idiot. Now she goes to community college and I am in all honors in my highschool.
She drives me crazy,i hate her so much, she always nags German boy and I, and I honestly cannot wait for her to move out.
Question:
how can i talk to my sister about how she rubs off on people and convince her to move out?
or at least get her to stop nagging me, it drives me crazy.... (link)
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You can't convince somebody to move out. They move out when they feel that they're ready to do so. Some are dying to move out, whilst others are somewhat reluctant to move out.
When somebody turns 18, you may begint to feel that you're more 'adultish' and want to show that you're maturer by comparing yourself to people younger than you. I do that...sometimes!! By saying they're immature, you put yourself higher than they are and you get a sense of...power and control. This is what your sister is experiancing and she may be getting a kick out of it. I don't know what your sister is like, only you do.
I wouldn't talk to your sister about it becasue the likely hood is that nothing will change... but if you talk to your PARENTS about it, then something can happen, they can have an adult conversation with her and ask her to stop.
Sibling Rivalry is common in most households and sometimes they can work through it and get along well or they hate each other for the rest of their lives. Don't go and do something which could end up you hating her for the rest of your life (and visa versa).
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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i think i like my best guy friend. and some people say that he likes me because he can always find something wrong with the guy i want to go out with. does he like me or is he trying to protect me?
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He could be doing both. He could like you and doesn't want you to go out wiht the wrong guy and get hurt.
But how do you see the guy whom you want to go out with? Do you see any faults? If you don't, then yes, your best guy friend does like you because he's trying to pull you away from him so he can be with you.
But you need to choose between the two. Go and talk to your best guy friend and see how he feels about you and then try and decide between the two. Try and find out more about the guyn whom you want to go out with.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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19/f
I'm trying to understand how my boyfriend is thinking, and even though you guys aren't him, let's just say this was you. There are a couple of things he's done in the past years and I want to know what his motives were. I've tried asking him, but like most guys, he's not the type to express how he truly feels in words to me, which makes it so much harder to understand him.
1. My boyfriend's ex tried calling him again when he and I first starting going out. They had been broken up for almost a year and I know he had been really hurt by her, but he'd always hate on her when the topic came up. Thing is, he never told me that she had tried to contact him. When I questioned him, he said he thought it wasn't a big deal, but I knew for him, it was. He wanted her back for so long, let it go when he met me, but why wouldn't he tell me?
2. His friend told him how his ex was turning into a wild party girl, did some crazy stuff at parties and did all these drugs. He got upset and said how he wanted to tell her mom. Then he wrote her an email behind my back all concerned, but she retaliated back with a "you don't even know me" attitude. I found these emails in an account he knew I didn't know about (but I found it lol). And then he didn't tell me until like a year later that she apologized to him about that email.
My question is, why does he even care? he always claimed how he hates her, so why does he give a crap? He said that it's sad to see someone become that kind of person, but what the hell? He acts like he wants to go in there and save her life.
3. I had cheated on my bf before. he found out, things got bad, but we got back together. Little did I know, he was talking to another girl behind my back. This was his way of getting back at me, but he claims that he never liked her. This girl was always chasing him, then after he found out what I did, he let her in. He never told me about this until about ONE YEAR AFTER they stopped talking. WHYYYYYY WHYYY WHYYYYYYYYYYYY. I know what I did was very wrong, but if I never found out about her, then he never would have told me. so how is that getting back if I never would have known?
4. He likes to throw in my face how other girls are always trying to talk to him. I think that's how he retaliates after I say mean things to him. Why the hell would he say stuff like that? He knows that a lot of guys like me and doesn't even let me talk to guys.
What I really want to know is, why does he wait so long to tell me things? I know there are lots of things that guys don't tell their girlfriends and they probably never will. Same with girls too.
I've been told from a guy friend of mine that when a guy breaks up with a girl, even if he hates her, he will always care about her. Is that really true?
And why can't he just say how he really feels? (link)
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He didn't tell you for a long time was becasue he thought that it didn't matter anymore. What's happened has happened and you can't do anything about it. Sooner or later, you've got to tell your partner as to what happened at points in the realtionship. You both had affairs, now they're over, you're back together, what happened in the past doesn't really affect the fact tat you're together again.
He didn't involve you at the time when he was dealing with he ex becasue he had your best interests in heart and he didn't want your involvment. It was something which he had to do by himself.
It is true that we do care about our ex's because we just want to have the best for them and we hate to see them when their lives are off track. We have this...instinct to help our ex's through times of difficulty.
He cares about you a lot and considering the fact that he knew not to involve you with his ex was a good thing because really, it didn't concern you so you shouldn't burden yourself with the porbelms with those two. As for telling you that he hated her was a way to cover up the fact that he trying to help her when she came to him for help. He loves you dearly and that shows when he tries to keep you away from other boys, so that you can still be together.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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me and my boyfriend broke up last night and he says its because of who i am...that im just a messed up person...our arguements are so dumb and when we get to a point were we are going to break up over them it just kills me and all of our arguments i dont ever have a say so...i dont ever get to explain my self...its always him pointing me out that im wrong for this and that and im just a shady person...and when i do try to explain myself he tells o just shut up those are just excuses and for me to just keep it real...I FEEL LIKE IM BEING LOOKED AT AS A LITTLE KID THAT CANT TALK BACK TO THERE PARENT... OUR LAST ARGUEMENT WAS OVER CLOTHES.... WE WERE SUPPOSE TO GO TO A WATER PARK WITH MY FAMILY AND WE WERE TALKIN ABOUT HOW I HOPE THERES GOING TO BE NICE WEATHER AS SOON I SAID THAT HE SAID, WHY WHAT YOU GOING TO WEAR? I TOLD HIM I DONT KNOW YET ME AND MY MOM ARE SUPPOSED TO GO SHOPPING FOR SOME CLOTHES BEFORE WE GO TO THE WATER PARK. HE GOT MAD AND SAID, MAN WHY DO ALWAYS TRY TO GO AROUND THE BUSH I SAID HOW? HE SAID YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO WEAR DONT ACT DUMB THATS WHAT YOU ALWAYS DO YOU TRY TO TELL ME SOMETHING GOOD TO WERE YOU CAN GET AWAY WITH WHAT YOU WANT TO WEAR. I TOLD HIM THAT WHAT ARE YOU TALKIN ABOUT I JUST TOLD YOU I DONT KNOW YET ME AND MOM ARE SUPPOSE TO SHOP FOR SOME CLOTHES. HE JUST KEPT GETTTING MAD AT ME AND TELLIN ME IM A LIAR THAT I DO KNOW WHAT IM GOING TO WEAR AND THAT I JUST WANT TO NOT TELL HIM BECAUSE I KNOW HES GOING TO GET MAD OF WHAT IM GONIG TO WEAR HE ALSO SAID THAT I JUST WANT TO WEAR WHAT I WANT AND SHOW OFF IN FRONT OF EVERYBODY AND THAT IF I LIKE LOOKING GOOD FOR EVERYONE ELS THEN I SHOULD BE A MODEL AND POSE FOR EVERYONE. THAT REALLY HURT MY FEELINGS BECAUSE THATS NOT WHAT I DO I JUST GET DRESSED BECAUSE I LIKE TO LOOOK CUTE...I JUST KEPT TELLING HIM I HATE WHEN YOU ACT LIKE THIS....AM I WRONG?? OR IS HE THE THATS WRONG...WHAT SHOULD I DO? (link)
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He's wrong. He just jumps to conclusions and assumes everything, even though you've tried or have told him the truth.
If you're fighting over small things (well, he's arguing, you're telling the truth), then the realtionship wasn't working. Plus, he evidently expects more from a girl (not saying anything, just his own views, I'm sure you give a lot to him). He abused you, like telling you to shut up and calling you a liar and calling you a messed up person. He was assuming what you did was for yourself, it's also evident to me that he didn't know you at all, if he did know you then he wouldn't think such things of you and you'd still be together.
Don't look back, you don't have to deal with him. He was the one whom destroyed this realtionship, you didn't. All you did was to tell the truth, whilst he twisted it. Go and live your life the way you want it to. Try and find a guy whom accepts who you are.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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13/f
ok so my ffriend (who is also 13/f) liked this guy. i was kinda friends with him so i asked her if she wanted me to tell him. she said yea so i told him. he didnt like her so i had to tell her that. she didnt seem upset AT ALL. and she really liked this guy. so i was kinda wondering y it seemed like she didnt care.
DO NOT TELL ME REASONS Y IT SEEMED LIKE THAT. THAT IS NOT MY QUESTION.
ok so like 3 or 4 nnights ago i found out y it didnt bother her. she had something much bigger on her mind. she had sex with a 19 year old. yes i know he could be charged for stagitory rape. thats y im not saying any names. well not only did she have sex with a 19 year old but now she is 2 months pergnant. she is letting this guy
(who lives in new jersey and we r in pennsylvania)
take her to get an abortion. i am againts abortion but it is really her only option. her parents do not know and she is not going to tell them.
do not say she is a slut or a whore because she is not. she is one of the most responsible people i know. she just made a mistake. we all make mistakes...her might be just a little more urgent and idiotic.
so anyway i am really worried about her. what can i do to calm myself down? (link)
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I'm not surprised that she had more important things on her mind than the boy she likes doesn't like her in return!!!
To calm yourself down, you have to trust her decisions and just be there for her. Even though you're against abortion and all that is going on in the papers, just help her through this. This is going to be a difficult time for her. She needs support at the moment and if it isn't coming from the parents, then it has to come from you and the 'father'.
Put your beliefs aside for the moment, for this is the real thing and I hope you can see that sometimes abortion can be the only option to women or teenagers who're going through tough times or are in a situation which doens't have any other option (I'm not asking you to change what you believe, but asking you to see why sometimes it's nessecary). I would also trust the 'father' as well, but ensure that the abortion is carried out properly (i.e. in a hospital). If it doesn't seem to be, you need to tell that she needs to get it done properly, for if it isn't then there could be health problems after that.
I'm glad that the 'father' is doing something about it, even though you do live far apart. As long as he's taking resonsibility, there may not be anything to worry about. If he'd left her on her own, I would've surgested going to the police.
I'm NOT calling her a slut because, like you said, she made a mistake. A mistake which is going to change how she looks at life and might change her as a person.
Now, this is important: I feel....no, I know that at some point, the parents will need to be told as to what is happening to their daughter. Her entire attitude might change after the abortion and that will confuse her parents because your attitude can't suddenly change overnight. THEY NEED TO KNOW. I'm sorry but I think that your friend is making a mistake by not telling them, she'll need their support after the abortion.
Good luck to your friend and I hope she can get through this,
triquetra
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I have dated one guys for 5 years now an he has cheated on me 17 times. I moved out from his house an now i live with someone i really get along with. Everytime i try to break up with the other guy he begs me not to do it that he will change. Please i need so advice on how to tell him i dnt want him no more (link)
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Simple answer:
Call him, don't let him speak and tell him right off that it's over and there's nothing he can do about it. He can't date you for 5 years and cheat on you 17 times!!! He needs to see the error of his ways and you need to put your foot down. If he hasn't changed after everytime you've tried to break up, then he won't ever change. Somebody can't change just like that after what they've done. It takes a hell of a lot of time and he needs to know that.
This guy hasn't just broken one heart, but 18 hearts (yours and the other 17)!!!! That cannot continue and you need to tell him that. There's nothing stopping you from breaking up with him. Only his pleas for forgiveness: did he change after the last 17 times? No.
Go and call him now. Not text becasue that doesn't really do anything. Talking to him directly does.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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