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why am i hurting so bad and everythings getting blamed upon
me and my boyfriend broke up last night and he says its because of who i am...that im just a messed up person...our arguements are so dumb and when we get to a point were we are going to break up over them it just kills me and all of our arguments i dont ever have a say so...i dont ever get to explain my self...its always him pointing me out that im wrong for this and that and im just a shady person...and when i do try to explain myself he tells o just shut up those are just excuses and for me to just keep it real...I FEEL LIKE IM BEING LOOKED AT AS A LITTLE KID THAT CANT TALK BACK TO THERE PARENT... OUR LAST ARGUEMENT WAS OVER CLOTHES.... WE WERE SUPPOSE TO GO TO A WATER PARK WITH MY FAMILY AND WE WERE TALKIN ABOUT HOW I HOPE THERES GOING TO BE NICE WEATHER AS SOON I SAID THAT HE SAID, WHY WHAT YOU GOING TO WEAR? I TOLD HIM I DONT KNOW YET ME AND MY MOM ARE SUPPOSED TO GO SHOPPING FOR SOME CLOTHES BEFORE WE GO TO THE WATER PARK. HE GOT MAD AND SAID, MAN WHY DO ALWAYS TRY TO GO AROUND THE BUSH I SAID HOW? HE SAID YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING TO WEAR DONT ACT DUMB THATS WHAT YOU ALWAYS DO YOU TRY TO TELL ME SOMETHING GOOD TO WERE YOU CAN GET AWAY WITH WHAT YOU WANT TO WEAR. I TOLD HIM THAT WHAT ARE YOU TALKIN ABOUT I JUST TOLD YOU I DONT KNOW YET ME AND MOM ARE SUPPOSE TO SHOP FOR SOME CLOTHES. HE JUST KEPT GETTTING MAD AT ME AND TELLIN ME IM A LIAR THAT I DO KNOW WHAT IM GOING TO WEAR AND THAT I JUST WANT TO NOT TELL HIM BECAUSE I KNOW HES GOING TO GET MAD OF WHAT IM GONIG TO WEAR HE ALSO SAID THAT I JUST WANT TO WEAR WHAT I WANT AND SHOW OFF IN FRONT OF EVERYBODY AND THAT IF I LIKE LOOKING GOOD FOR EVERYONE ELS THEN I SHOULD BE A MODEL AND POSE FOR EVERYONE. THAT REALLY HURT MY FEELINGS BECAUSE THATS NOT WHAT I DO I JUST GET DRESSED BECAUSE I LIKE TO LOOOK CUTE...I JUST KEPT TELLING HIM I HATE WHEN YOU ACT LIKE THIS....AM I WRONG?? OR IS HE THE THATS WRONG...WHAT SHOULD I DO?
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Hey,
I usually hate to be the one to say it but this guy sounds like an insecure jealous possibly abusive DOUCHE BAG. He's probably one of those guys who are afraid to let his girlfriend out of his sight. If these are the nature of your fights where he accuses you of things and is overly paranoid. He's sounds like he could possible become abusive. I personally think you're better off without the deadbeat. Even if he doesn't normally accuse you of things like this he still sounds like a loser. You're not wrong about this. Be glad you finally got rid of that punk. You deserve way better.
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Geez you should already know the answer to this one. But sometimes when it is under our noses we cant smell it...metaphorically of course ;]
bottom line:
hes a jerk
its his fault
hes insecure
dump him
move on
you dont deserve it
hes just a prick
-hayley
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Thank God it's over!!!! This person is very controlling and he sounds like a spoiled brat himself! You and your boyfriend broke up because he wants you to allow him to control you, even how to speak, and dress. I will tell you this, if he hasn't put his hands on you, that's next.
If I were a gambling woman, I would bet you that he has some things in his life that he isn't proud of and has no control over. People who like to dictate and control others are people who can not control themselves or certain issues within their lives! Well, I am hopeful that you allow this relationship to go ahead and dissolve and move on with your life so that you can be happy and enjoy the fact that you still have a mom. You have been raised by your parent(s)and you don't need a man or a boy to re-raise you! Have fun at the water park and be cute!!!!!! YOU ARE NOT WRONG AT ALL.. HE IS WRONG.
His thoughts are wrong, his words are wrong, his actions are wrong and the way he has treated you is also wrong which made that relationship you were in with him wrong. Relax and feel the burden lifted off of you and breathe fresh air instead of feeling his HOT air from always yelling, fussing and wanting to dictate to you all the time...
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He's wrong. He just jumps to conclusions and assumes everything, even though you've tried or have told him the truth.
If you're fighting over small things (well, he's arguing, you're telling the truth), then the realtionship wasn't working. Plus, he evidently expects more from a girl (not saying anything, just his own views, I'm sure you give a lot to him). He abused you, like telling you to shut up and calling you a liar and calling you a messed up person. He was assuming what you did was for yourself, it's also evident to me that he didn't know you at all, if he did know you then he wouldn't think such things of you and you'd still be together.
Don't look back, you don't have to deal with him. He was the one whom destroyed this realtionship, you didn't. All you did was to tell the truth, whilst he twisted it. Go and live your life the way you want it to. Try and find a guy whom accepts who you are.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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In my opinion he sounds like he is the shady person and that he really has some control and anger issues. You are right to be angry at him for getting angry with you and blowing up on you like that. If you can't communicate and talk about your problems rationally then there really is no room for a relationship.
I think that you should really get out of the relationship as quickly as possible. Relationships like this can quickly escalate to abusive ones, physical and emotional. You need to stay away from him until he learns to deal with his anger and control himself. Let him know that you don't like the way he has been acting and that you believe that you need to get out of the relationship. But be careful about it, because you don't want things to get out of control. If he does hit you or you believe he is emotionally abusing you, tell someone quickly. Remember it's not your fault, it's his.
Hope I Helped.
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