Hey my name is Chad im 21. I met this girl last october online and we have been talking since then. I called her a few times but her sister ratted her out and since then I havent been able to call. By the way shes 18 and her name is Emily. In march I asked her out and we have been close since then but its come that time we really want to meet. Thing is they are are christians and her mom thinks I only wanna take her virginity. Her step dad just left sunday so its only the mom, her and her sister. I really want this relationship to work and so does she but, I need to know some ways to prove to her mom that I really just want to be with her daughter for a serious relationship and not for sex. Any ideals?
You could start by not going behind their backs, and go meet them face to face.
I'm a female, but I'm in a similar position. My boyfriend is 24, and his family is quite religious. Me and him have already talked about sex, we both have different views, but we've decided to wait for now. My mother knows this, and she knows I have no reason to lie to her. But, his parents don't seem to believe him. They don't like him staying at my house, and don't want him to take a trip with me.
I'm starting to think that they will eventually begin to think of me as a bad influence more and more. I wouldn't pressure him into anything of course, but if he stays up late talking to me for instance, then they will blame me if he ends up waking up late, and misses a couple hours of work that week.
Basically, I'm trying to be honest about myself, and be open with his parents. I would definately suggest going to meet her mom, be nice to her, be all polite and stuff. Also, treat Emily very respectable and all that good crap.
They are most likely going to be hesitant at first no matter how nice you are. But it ultimately has to be up to Emily. Once you and Emily are together for a while, they will begin to see that your a good guy and not just in it for sex.
But, whatever you do, don't try to hide the fact that your dating and sneak around.
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how do you get a girl that is a pussy to tell you stuff to tell you how she really feels...cuz its getting pretty annoying...
(P.S. my guy friend asked this question...not me--no, not a lez)
Maybe she doesn't want to tell you how she feels because, for some strange reason, she feels that you will put her down.
Seriously, anyone who referred to me as a pussy for not telling them how I really felt, is someone that I would never feel comfortable enough to tell how I really felt.
So, stop being a dick and calling her names. Instead try to be nice and make her feel comfortable.
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So it seems no one cares that its right to wait untill marrage to have sex (in the chrsitian religon) and now to me it seems seroiusly wrong, but later on it probubaly wont. I just wanted to know at what age do most people lose it? Since im in 7th now, and next year is supposibly the year everyone starts. Most likly the guy I marry wont be a virgin, right? 5's for anyone who is reasonable.
Since when is 8th grade the year that everyone starts?
To me, I don't feel that there is a certain age when you lose your virginity. I don't really believe in saving yourself for marriage. I'm not a religious person, my viewpoint is about knowing that your compatible with someone completely. See... I believe that sex and passion is a big part of a long term relationship, and you can't commit yourself to one person for life without knowing whether or not your compatible with that person in every aspect... sex is included.
But, I'm now dating someone who wants to wait until he's married, so I'm in a complicated little predicament right now.
8th grade is not when everyone loses their virginity. Going through highschool, you always think that everyone else is doing "stuff" because that's all you ever hear about. But, trust me, it's not true. I know plenty of people entering into college who were still, and many who still are, virgins.
There will be a point in your life when you learn that everyone else is just as confused about the whole sex thing as you are. Everyone thinks "everyone else is doing it, so I might as well do it" But, seriously, at your age, everyone is not doing it.
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hey peps. well this question is for pet-people. I allready have one guinea pig and he used to be paired up with another male then i adopted him(he was the last one so i couldn't get the other). but, i live in texas and i was wondering if there were any adopting websites. I tried yahoo, google, ask, and all those so if u no any please tell me!!! ill rate just watch!
I would stay as far away from petco or petsmart, or any other pet store you find as possible.
Pet stores are notorious for having very sick animals who are extremely aggressive. Any guinea pig you find there will not be nice and friendly and the two will most likely try to kill each other.
Try to find a hand-raised bred guinea pig.
If you go to google and search for "guinea pig breeders" you'll find tons of websites all about different guinea pig breeders all over the place.
Go to this site: http://www.guinea-pigs-guinea-pigs.com/guinea-pig-sick/guinea-pig-breeders.html
That might help you.
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My dog won't sleep on my bed anymore. Do you think it's possible that he is annoyed that I wake him up when I have to get up for school at 6:00 A.M.? Is there a way I could teach him that it's o.k. to sleep in my room on the weekends?
Your dog is goign to sleep where he is comfortable. If he's been uncomfortable in the past, when he is woken up at 6:00am, then he is going to remember that, and remember that sleeping on your bed is not comfortable.
I think that the dog bed in your room is a good idea. That way, he can always sleep in your room, yet not get woken up on weekday mornings.
Dogs don't know what day of the week it is, so they really have no way of knowing when the weekend is.
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Hi my dog Jefferson, Great Pyrenees 10 years old died on May 5th. He had a tumor in his foot and on may 4th he didnt move and wouldnt eat. So I got really scared and thought about what could happen. Then the next morning he was outside with his tongue out of his mouth with a pool of saliva. His blinking reflexing weren't working anymore and he was breathing very shallow. Well when I got home he had died. And it was very sad for me and I cried a lot for the first 2 days. Now I just only cry when I see his hair somewhere. I really miss him and I've had him for 9 1/2 years. I dont know what to do right now because I miss him soo much and I need advice to make me feel better.
I wouldn't think about the last couple days of his life. From what you just described, it couldn't have been the happiest memory you have of him.
Ten years is very old for a Great Pyranese. Ten years is also a long time to have a dog, especially when your young.
I recently had to give up my Rottweiler that I had for seven years (since 14). For the past year or two, I took him from my mother's home because she couldn't care for him anymore, and he became "my" dog even more. He went with me everywhere, and always stared at me when there was a room full of people.
It was extremely hard to give him up, but the only thing helping me is knowing that he's better off now. For me, I know that he's alive and well, living on a farm with an older lady who stays with him 24/7, as opposed to a college student who goes to school full time and works part time. After 4 months, I still want to cry every time I see something that reminds me of him. He was my puppy and always will be.
Anyway, the advice to get a new dog should not be followed at all. When you feel like this, you will not be able to give a new puppy the care and attention that it deserves.
After I had to give up my dog, I had to watch my friends dog for a week, and everytime I had to walk her dog, I would cry. Simply because I wanted my dog back. My dog was much cooler than my friends dog, and it wasn't fair that I couldn't keep him, yet she keeps her spoiled dog...
Anyway... The only thing keeping me going is knowing that my dog is in a better place. You should be thinking about that. I know you want him back, and wish he could have stayed for another ten years... but he's much happier where he is now, as opposed to where he was the last two days of his life.
You gave him a happy home for ten years, and now it's his time to go.
Good luck, if you need anything else, just ask.
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urgh i hate this! it feels like my jaw is gonna fall out like in the grudge! i can't open my mouth really wide to eat because it feels like theres an extra bone there that isn't allowing me to open my mouth any further, and if i chew it feels like my jaw is like cracking.. like it kinda feels like when you crack your knuckles. anyway this really hurts so does any of you have any advice on how i can deal with this? thanks in advance i really appreciate this
It sounds like you have a TMJ disfunction. TMJ stands for the temporo mandibular joint. It is the joint in our body that is used the most, so there are often disfunctions with it that cause pain. You use it when you eat, swallow, spit, etc.
I had it when I was a teenager, there's a few exercises you can do to help, but you should really see a dentist and probably a physical therapist about this.
First, stop slouching. The TMJ joint is related to your spine, when you spine is out of whack, your joint is out of whack.
Stop chewing gum/eating beef jerky/etc. Chewing gum makes way too much stress on that joint. At least for a while, you should stop chewing it.
Get a mouth guard for when you sleep. A lot of times, tmj is caused because of teeth grinding. Getting a mouth guard will help you to stop grinding your teeth as you sleep.
There's also a little exericise that I did to stop myself from grinding my teeth.
You close your front teeth together. But put your tongue on the roof of your mouth towards the back, and push up with it. This will keep your front teeth closed, but keep your back teeth from touching, and keep them from grinding.
Also, you should get a couple of heating pads and put them on your jaw joint twice a day for thirty minutes each. The heat will loosen up the joint and make it more plyable.
I learned all of these things from my physical therapist when I had TMJ. You should do these and go see your dentist. A lot of people get TMJ, and a lot don't even realize that they have it. Go to a dentist to get it fixed.
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Theres this guy that i like. I see him usually twice a week. Well the think is his mom, she looked find last week but then when i saw her today she looked kinda pale and yellow. Maybe even a little tierd. I dont think shes worn out or anything but i have a feeling she might be sick... does anyone know any sicknesses that have the symtoms of pale/yellow skin?
thank you for those who help :)
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My art teacher once told me about how he would notice a couple of students who had a slight yellow tint to their skin, and then they would end up getting horribly sick in the next month or so.
Yellowing of the skin is called jaundice. Jaundice isn't a disease, but a symptom of a disease. It is a yellowish tint of your skin and whites of your eyes because of high levels of bilirubin in your blood. It can either be yellowish with a small amount of bilirubin, or may be brown with a large amount of bilirubin. Jaundice can be caused by many things from anemia, defects in the liver, to cancers or gallstone blockage.
Hopefully your not the only one who's noticed her yellow skin and she's gone to the doctor about this. If not, then mention something to her, or her son.
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Okay here's the story, me and my bf have been together for over two years now and it's getting to the time where I need to decide on a college there this is one college that I was looking into because it had a an excellent animal sciences program but it isn't exactly close and I would have to live on campus. He told me that he couldn't handle me being far away and if I left that he would break up with me. Now there is a school closer to us that I could go to but then I'd have to pick a different major. So wait I am trying to figure out is should I go or should I stay?
I think you should definately go. How far away is it? Does he realize that there's always going to be a chance to visit? At least with every college I've been to, there is at least a week of vacation every month or so.
The first two colleges I went to, were really bad colleges where I changed my major and wasted thousands of money, all because of my boyfriend at the time.
I think your boyfriend is doing the absolute most selfish thing right now. He's forcing you to choose between him and what you would love to major in.
Trust me, you need to focuse on yourself and your school, not the needs of your selfish boyfriend. He should support you with your college dreams.
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i have begged and begged but mom will not let me get my tongue peirced! she says im too young to make that kind of choice.im 13! one of my family members got it done when she was 11 and my mom approves of it! i really want this done but i dont know were to go that will let u with out your parents permission and one of my friends said to do it my self which i thought about but then another friend said that if you hit the wrong spot it can kill but still this is a choice.what should i do?
13 is really young. Actually, in most states in the United States it is illegal to get any body piercings when your under the age of 16, even with your parents permission. It's not as simply as just getting your ears peirced.
If your seriously thinking about going somewhere that will illegally pierce a 13 year old... then think again. Anywhere that will do that could also possibly re-use their needles. Or skimp on a few disinfectants to save some money.
Now, I will go on and give you a few pointers. I have gotten a total of 6 body piercings, not including my ears. My tongue was my third piercing 4 or 5 years ago. My first piercing was my navel, and my mother did not approve of it at first.
The only way to make your mother think that your responsible enough for a body peircing is to actually BE responsible enough for a body piercing. This means you need to research the topic a bit.
Learn about the care of your piercing before you start to think about getting it done. Then start to examine the different piercing salons in your area. Find the perfect one and know EVERYTHING about them. Make sure they are clean and go by all the rules.
Your should also research the things that can go wrong. It is possible that your tongue could get infected, learn what to do if that does happen. Learn about the dangers of what can happen durring the piercing. There are a lot of viens and such in your tongue that could get in the way of the needle. This would not be good. Thats why you need to make sure that your piercing has experience piercing tongues.
Seriously.... "im 13!" Does that mean you actually think that your old and mature? 13 is very young.
Don't listen to your friend who said to pierce your tongue yourself, and don't let a buffoon who will pierce children's tongues illegally touch anything in your mouth.
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ok so i am 7th grade- 13 and i like an 8th grader.... we aren't going out (yet) but i really like him......my friend asked him he said he liked me..... tomorrow we dont have school and its suposed to be like 88° well he lives really close to me..... i he was like what are u doin 2 maro and i was like bored and he goes well maybe if you can you can come over and chill with me and austin (his friend) and he was like i have a pool and its supposed to be hot so swimmin !!! i was like sounds awesome.....well i really wanna go but im afraid what my mom will say if i ask her she isnt home 2moro shes at work and i wont sneak out.... but im afraid she'll be likes im not letting you go over to a boys house ur 2 younge..... WHAT DO I DO OR SAY OR W/E will my mom freak or what?
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I might approve this question if you spelled better and wrote in actual sentences.
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my dog is 6 months old and recently she started having seizures... shes reallyplayful and all that... but the past week ive been scared to death for her... weve already been to the vet and they said to take her off this certain medicine for fleas/mites... idk...and it scares me so bad... what do u think is wrong? and what do you think could helP?
To anyone who says "My dog has seizures every now and then, but he's still happy" Or "My vet gave me this medicine to give my dog, but I decided I was smarter and would simply stop giving him the medicine"
Please, Please do not listen to those people.
You should call your vet back up and tell them about every possible poison that your dog could have gotten into. Until then, give your dog spring water instead of tap water or the well water. If there are chemicals in the water, then that's very likely.
It could be a mixture of the flea medicine and the bee chemicals, or one of the two. A lot of flea medicines can be way to harsh for dogs. I believe Harts is the one that I would NEVER recommend to anyone. I've seen and heard stories of it doing some pretty nasty things to poor little dogs and puppies.
Anyway, Go back to the Vet, or at least call (free advice if you call) and tell them about every single chemical your dog could have gotten into.
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me and my friend found a baby blackbird yesterday whilst mowing the lawn.Its hurt its wing. we kept it in a cage over night and put her in a rabbit run this morning.Its mum keeps on coming and feeding him and we don't no what to do. should we lets him go or should we keep him for a couple more nights. by the way next door have five cats!
Cheers James
First of all, it's a myth that the mother bird will reject it after humans touch it. If the mother bird is coming to feed it now, then that shows that the mother bird has been doing everything possible to keep her baby.
You never should have taken the bird. You should seriously let nature do it's thing. How do you know the bird hurt it's wing?
Anyway, I would take it back where you found it. Perhaps, if there is a nest close enough, set it back in the nest.
Next time you see a wild animal that you think needs help, then call animal control or any wildlife rescue thingy around your area. They are much better suited to help out any wild animals.
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Okay, usually advice on my relationship is the last thing I need, but you know what, I want/need advice.
Here's the situation.
My guy and I have been together for about a year and a half. I'm 17, he's 18, if it matters. This year (senior year for both of us), I'm going to a prom at my old school with one of my guyfriends. In the beginning, my boyfriend didn't have a problem with it, but he just called me and we talked for like half an hour about it. Apparently, he doesn't like the way my guyfriends look at me.
Now here's where half the problem lies. I have a LOT of guyfriends. I mean I have like 5 female friends and the rest are guys. I always felt more comfy around guys than I did with girls. The thing is, I know he's right. There are a lot of my guyfriends that I know like me, but the thing is - They know they could never get anywhere with me because I'm utterly devoted to my one and only.
But he's said he's gritted his teeth and not kicked their asses because he wanted me to be happy.
First of all, how the hell do I get him to stop hating my guyfriends so much? They like him, and they think he's good for me - I agree, he is, which is why I accepted his proposal.
(Don't freak out, it's gonna be a looooong engagement.)
Secondly, what can I do to make him feel better about the whole going-to-another-prom-with-another-guy thing?
There was another situation earlier this year when I had to kiss someone onstage, and he was kind of disgruntled about it in the beginning, but he turned out to be okay with it. When I brought this up, he told me he was okay because he was there to see it, and when he was there, the guy I had to kiss acted like he had no interest in me whatsoever (offstage).
I told him it sounded like he didn't trust me, and he said he did, he just didn't trust my guyfriends.
My guyfriends are like my brothers. Yes, okay, I know a few of them like me, but they're not getting anywhere, and their feelings for me are becoming a long running joke.
So what I do about my boyfriend's issues? He's not a jealous guy, really, and this is the first time I've ever had this issue with him.
So basically, help me out. What do I tell my guy? How do I fix the tension between my boyfriend and my guyfriends? Help me out, please.
I don't mean to be discriminatory, however, I rate ones for stupidity and fours for bad grammar and spelling. Thanks in advance!
Honestly, I don't think it's your boyfriend who has a problem. I think you need to talk to your guys friends and tell them to back off.
Even if you say that they could never get anywhere, and it's been a long running joke, it's still completely disgusting and disrespectful to let it be known that they like someone's girlfriend.
If these guys are pretending to like your boyfriend, and then turning around and hitting on you, then that's another reason to think that their disgusting and disrespectful.
I feel this way because I have been in your boyfriends situation. At first, I thought nothing of it, because I knew(thought) my current boyfriend would never actually do anything with any of his many female friends who flirted with him. But, as time went by, I got more and more disgusted. I never wanted to be around those certain girls, and hated the fact that my boyfriend never told them to back off even more.
As time went by, me and that guy broke up, but we've remained friends, and have talked about those past issues many times. I can finally get the truth out of him of why he never told those girls to back off.
When we were going out, he would always tell me that he never noticed it, they were just friends, etc. Now that we're broken up, he can tell me the truth of why he let them flirt. It was because he liked it. He liked the attention he always got.
You might not realize it, but that's probably why you don't want to tell your guy friends to not flirt with you. Even if they do like you, it's hugely disgusting to try to flirt with you, especially since they like your boyfriend and think he's good for you.
Trust me, if you have guy friends who flirt with you. MAKE THEM STOP. If they have no chance with you, then make that perfectly clear. Make it clear that YOU want them to stop flirting, and it's not just that your boyfriend wants them to stop.
What would you rather have? Your boyfriend, or have your friends flirt with you? You need to choose. It doesn't mean you need to get rid of your friends, and you definately shouldn't. But you do need to make them realize that they shouldn't try to flirt with you.
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hey everyone, it kinda seems like everytime i look at this stuff on the internet, the next day, something bad happens. If god knows that we are gonna look at that stuff, why doesnt he try to stop us, or why did he even create that stuff???
This answer is coming from someone who has no religion and doesn't know whether or not I believe in god at the moment.
But, here's my opinion on it if there is a god.
This "stuff" that your wondering about was not created by god, it was created by us.
God doesn't stop us? How can you sit there and say that bad things happen after you look at this stuff, but then say that god is not trying to stop you at all? Perhaps those bad things that are happening are gods way of telling you not to look at "stuff"
People need to stop blaming god for every bad thing and start blaming themselves. You have free will, then use it. Make the "right" choice on your own and don't say "well god didn't make me stop, so it's not my fault" If you believe that looking at "stuff" is bad, then just don't do it.
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i want to dye my hair out of a box as opposed to getting it done professionally. is this a bad idea?
I've been dying my hair since I was around 15 or 16 (6-7 years). I have almost always dyed it myself and had no problems. The only time I did get it done professionally, is the only time I've had problems with color/texture/fading. I also have very dark, blackish brown hair, so don't let anyone tell you that you can't do it if you have dark hair.
I have often found that colors come out brighter when you have dark hair, compared to when you have blond.
Anyway, for a first timer, you should definately have someone help you out. It can be a little tricky to get the color evenly saturated throughout your hair, especially in the back. If your really worried, you might want to do the allergy test also. I've never bothered to do it, but the box always says to do it.
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I'm going to be applying for a job soon, and on my resume..do I put on there that I do a lot of community service hours or does that not matter?
To me, someone who doesn't have a whole lot of professional work experience, especially in the field that I'm going to school for, and trying to get a job... volunteer and community service is what stood out of my resume the most.
It's not just that they will know you care about the community, it's that they need to know what sort of experiences you have had in a job type environment. Especially if the community service you've done is somewhat related to the job that your applying for.
If you worked with people, that's ALWAYS a plus with pretty much any job you're ever going to apply for.
It will also show them that you care enough about something to work there without pay. If you care that much, then it won't be very hard to get you to work when you actually are getting paid.
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I have two dogs, one by the name of symba... and one, by the name of Brownie, and i love both of them equally. Though, lately they have been extremly burdensome, especially each time they run away...poop or pee on thier bed or in the house and have to continously be groomed and get thier monthly shots (which are very expensive). So... every once and a while... my mother will suggest giving them away to one of her close friends, who would take equally good care of them since, (now that my brother has moved out to collage..) are sometimes left outside for the entire school day and only given walks once a week. the problem is, as stubern as it may seem, i love my dogs dearly and could never give them away. never. Am i being impossible... how can i show my mom that they are extremly special to me and i love them too much to give them away...
You can show that you care about them by taking care of them
They aren't house trained, they are left alone enough to run away, and you complain about grooming them??? And, to top it all off, you don't take the time to walk them.
Ok, I'll try to remain calm, and I know you love your dog, but do you love your dogs because they are cute and cool looking to your friends, or do you love them because you want them to be happy and have a full, healthy life?
If you want to keep yoru dogs, then read through some of my answers on training, walking, and socialization of dogs. I'll even help you out by finding a few of them...
Housetraining: read my answer to this question:
http://advicenators.com/qview.php?q=293608
Socialization/walking:
http://advicenators.com/qview.php?q=287934
this is a question that I answered specifically about "how do I convince my mom to let me keep this dog?"
http://advicenators.com/qview.php?q=279489
To be completely honest with you... if your dogs have a chance to get to a home, where people will have more time for them, then you should give them that chance.
If they are extremely special to you, then you need to groom them daily, walk them daily, and TRAIN them.
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It's nice to see that somebody else agrees that most of what is posted here is bullshit and should come naturally. In fact, I have quite a few more columns on here that you didn't post about, to tell you the truth, there are some that I actually do help people.
This one, the one that I have spent the most time on recently, was made because after spending 1 month here, I couldn't stand how the people were asking such ignorant questions, look at the "give advice" page. What do you see? At least 80% are about relationships, this is crazy, why can't these people handle their own lives?
Indeed I don't really care for this site, it's not one that matters too much to me. I come here repeatedly because I am either in the process of a large download, or am waiting for "something" to happen. I come here usually to answer a question, but I have yet to see one that doesn't concern either the lack of common sense, or pre-teen "love".
Once I see this, I don't show the self control that you do. I WILL tell somebody that their question is bad, that their relationship doesn't matter, if you're in 6th grade and like that boy across the room and he doesn't talk to you and it makes you cry and cut yourself, I WILL tell you that your fucking retarded and need to grow up. See, I don't act like some Dr.Phil wannabe, if you have a problem, you need real answers, not people to feed you sugar coated bullshit answers. That's where my column comes in.
What is the column(s) where you say you have actually tried to help people?
The fact that I don't tell everyone how stupid they are doesn't really have a whole lot to do with self control. What is the point? If someone asks a question that really pisses me off, then I'll tell them that they're being stupid/annoying/immature/spoiled/etc. But what is the point of going through and telling everyone the same thing? You complain about how all of the questions are the same, but then, you and other's who have columns like yours, go through and answer every single question with almost the same response. What is the difference?
I approve a lot of questions, and answer questions that have to do with pet care. Like I have already said... If I see a question that I can lend my opinion and experiences to, and actually help someone out, then I will answer it. It's lovely when I see questions written by adults, or mature teens, who have real problems.
But then, when that does happen, there is always some asshole who says "what are you doing on a website with a bunch of stupid teenagers?" I see that from a lot of people with columns like your own. People like that, who complain about the redundancy of the teens with stupid problems, and then tell all of the people with real problems to just go away, people like that piss me off more than anything. I would rather see some idiot answer with "OMG, i dunno, you should ask someone else".
Like I've said before... there are a few other columnists who feel the same way that I do. We DO NOT sugar coat answers. We also do not act like a complete ass just to get a few laughs. Your column does not give real answers, it gives insults.
You must realize by now that most of the people on this site are incapable of picking up on sarcasm. They aren't going to understand it if you give an insulting answer full of sarcasm.
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i was looking through columnists, and yours stood out. i am in need of alot of good advise, and i thought i would ask you, but its really long and i dont really want everyone who visits your site to see it, so can i email it to you? what is your email address?
Everyone who visits my site doesn't know who is asking the question, so it really shouldn't matter. If you want to write it all out, and put it in my inbox here, I would be perfectly able to answer it when I find the time. I will give you my honest opinion and advise you to the best of my ability.
If you ask me through my e-mail (which is on my column on the left side) then it may get lost, or I may find it. But, it will automatically go to my junk mail folder. If you try to add me to aol or msn messenger, then I will probably be busy when I'm on and will not be able to talk, so do not do that.
The best thing you can do is ask me the question on here. Like I said, no one on here can even see your username, it's all confidential.
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