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Leave or Stay.
Okay here's the story, me and my bf have been together for over two years now and it's getting to the time where I need to decide on a college there this is one college that I was looking into because it had a an excellent animal sciences program but it isn't exactly close and I would have to live on campus. He told me that he couldn't handle me being far away and if I left that he would break up with me. Now there is a school closer to us that I could go to but then I'd have to pick a different major. So wait I am trying to figure out is should I go or should I stay?
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i think that the answer to your question lies in your heart. you have to decide whichc is more important to YOU!! if you really love him go for a diff major but if u really love school and want to animal sciences then hell with it and go.maybe you could talk to him and ask him if you went and when you could come back would he be here waiting for you.
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Wow. Well this may seem like a very difficult decision, and I'm sure it is, you really just need to focus on what is important to you. Is being with a guy who things might not work out with more important, or is it more important to go to school and do what you what to do... something that will affect you for the rest of your life. The fact is things with your boyfriend could end at any minute.. but the decision to change majors will affect you for your entire working life. A boyfriend who has already made his decision to break up with you if you go far away seems a little iffy to me. If he really loved you he would at least be willing to see how the relationship works out at a long distance. if it doesn't, it happens, but he shouldnt already throw something away that might work. I definately think you should go into the major that you want... and just tell your BF to try and see how things work out. If he isn't willing to try for you, and allow you to do what you really want, then he isnt good enough for you!! Hope i could help!! let me know what you decide to do, and how he reacts!! if you need anything else ask me a question, or AIM me Squeakyshoes567
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you should definitely go to college. Your boyfriend has no right to try and keep you away from your education. But if you really truely love him and he really loves you then you may want to stay with him. It's really all up to how much you love him or if your education is more important to you then your boyfriend and your life with him. xox HoPe I HeLpEd xox
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you should definitly go! you cant let him tell you where to go to college. go to the one you really want to go to, not the one he wants you to go to.
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You can not allow him to choose your future. Comprimize is essential in any solid relationship, but to give up your dreams because he's being selfish is no way to live. If you change majors for him and you eventually marry, you WILL resent him for the rest of your life. You will always wonder what if, and bitterness will eventually distroy your relationship and marriage. If children are involved by this time there will be untold suffering for them as well. Now, if you choose to change majors and you break up, you will be extremely bitter and angry at yourself as well as him. If you choose to follow your dreams and he comes to realize what a moronicly selfish thing he was asking of you and stays with you AND faithful then you could have a great relationship that will grow closer as the years pass. If he dumps you for doing what you have always dreamed of and that is important to you, then I am sorry to say that you have wasted two years with a complete loser and are far better off with him out of your life. There will be a man out there who will love and respect you enough to support your dreams as you are willing to support his. Life is not easy. Sometimes what we have is not what we need, and sometimes it is what we need but must to be fought for to be kept healthy and worthwile. Hope this insight helps, it comes from more experience than you could ever imagine.
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You need to go to the school where you get educated in whatever you want to do in life. It wouldn't be good to change your mind on what to do for some guy. Who knows if you will even be together in another 2 years. If you aren't you just threw away a rewarding career doing something you would enjoy. If after 2 years he is willing to throw it away just because you can't be around 24/7...well, it may be time to get out of the rut. It is up to you to decide...just an opinion. Good luck :)
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I think you should definately go. How far away is it? Does he realize that there's always going to be a chance to visit? At least with every college I've been to, there is at least a week of vacation every month or so.
The first two colleges I went to, were really bad colleges where I changed my major and wasted thousands of money, all because of my boyfriend at the time.
I think your boyfriend is doing the absolute most selfish thing right now. He's forcing you to choose between him and what you would love to major in.
Trust me, you need to focuse on yourself and your school, not the needs of your selfish boyfriend. He should support you with your college dreams.
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you need to look after your own interests especially education wise. So if this course is the best one for you you should go there. You need to talk to your boyfriend and say this to him and that you'd really love to stay with thim but this is the rest of your life you're talking about and this course is ideal for you. Long distance relationships can and do work if effort is put in. If he still says that he's split up with you then is he really worth it? If he really really cared about your interests then he would support you and it doesn't sound like thats what he's doing. Good luck
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You need to think of yourself for once just b/c you love does not mean he will be there forever. College is big deal and plus it is the rest of your life. If he really loves you he would support you choice. Do not bother about what he wants do not waste your time making him happy do what you want to do. It is worth it alot.
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Your situation is difficult, and you have a big decision to make. Its between your boy and your future. I would leave it at that, but I will say further. First of all, I dont mean to be offensive, but if you guys really had a good thing going on, and he really cared about you, he wouldn't mind you being far from him for your education. When someone cares about another it goes further than the present, but also the future. I understand how it would be hard for him to accept, but in the long run, whats going to do you better sweetie? I know its hard. I want to point out something - while you're relationship with him may not last - your degree/qualifications from college WILL last, infact I will go as far as saying they will secure your future if you plan on working hard enough at college. Follow your heart - whats more important to you? What do you want to study, and go in life with what you pick to study? If animal sciences is a passion for you, you shouldn't have to reconsider it...what if you regret it? Be strong, be smart, and follow your heart. Good luck.
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Okay, Thats really messed up of him to do that!! do you honestly think that he will be your husband??!! maybe, maybe not but your career is very important!! and tell him that you want that career and that college and that you will visit him as much as possible and you love him. or invite him to stay in the town of ur college. talk to him about it. But if he TRULEY loves you, he'll wait for you!!
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