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It's another crazy year in my world of entropy. I am engaged now and very excited. It will be a little while before we can get married due to money constraints, but it will happen.
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Every time someone says I wanna go to Mardi Gras, I'm always like "ME TOO!" but the truth is, I don't know exactly what its for and what you do there. I've only seen clips of people partying on the street... I think it would be fun, but what is it your doing and is it some type of celebration of some sort? It looks fun, but what is it?

Mardi Gras is the party season from Jan 6 (Epiphany/Theophany) until Ash Wednesday. The last day is Fat Tuesday when the last big party is usually thrown. It ushers in Lent and the Easter Season when you start fasting for 40 days.

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ok my dad is like a total complete jerk! he doesnt let me do anything! i havent been to school at all this week because i have contusions all over my left leg and theres blood in them and yeah well it hurts badly..and latelys hes been threatening me "were going to move if you dont go to school" blah blah blah and it doesnt scare me or anything because i know hes all talk but i mean how am i supposed to go to school if i can barely walk?? how can i explain to my dad that its hard to go to school if my legs are hurting so bad i cant walk? and oh yeah that the idea of moving doesnt sound half bad? because it really doesnt it could be a good experiance to get away. Thanks i rate

You need some serious help. Talk to another trusted adult or counselor about what is happening to you at home. You shouldn't be treated this way. It's not just about going to school, it's about being physically and mentally abused. If your mom won't stand up for you, you need to not be there. Maybe there is a family member who can help you.

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my mom always say that when ever i wear make up i wear wayyy too much but im really not...what can i say to her?

Why don't you two make an appointment with a make up counter at the mall? You can bring this up for discussion and have fun at the same time. They will do your makeup for free. It takes some time to really get it right and make it look natural, and this will help. And your mom probably needs an update.

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(14/f) Hey. I'm having lots of problems with one of my friends at school. Ever since she had joined the school play about a month ago, things have been going downhill. Her and I, including 3 others, were such a close group of friends. We sat together at lunch every day and talked about everything. Get where I'm coming from? I was totally happy with school and it was the only place I could go to get away from it all.

I thought I would do the right thing and not say anything about the new part of her life and let it just blow over and everything would go back to normal. The play's been over for awhile, but even still she's been paying more attention to everyone that was in that little play of hers than to any of us, and I feel its primarily us two that are drifting apart the most. Every conversation seems to wander to how the play was "so fun" and how she misses it. Me and the others just feel like we're horrible friends and we aren't good enough.

She's a member of NJHS (a group that meets after school and during lunch sometimes) and today she had a meeting. She came back in about half way through the lunch hour, put her backpack down where we were sitting, and just walked off and talked to her acting pals. I was really hurt and I felt like I was gonna cry.

I've tried confronting her about it and she just thinks we're being protective. I'm sick of them planning things right in front of our faces and I just want my old Taylor back!! Please please please, give me some help. I'm gonna die without her!

-Nicole

Guess you are going to have to die. Friends drift apart sometimes, it's just part of life. Maybe you guys should think about include her and her new friends in a gigantic sleep over. She probably doesn't even realize she's doing it. Maybe you guys need a new hobby to talk about when you do get her attention.

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If you have your permit or license answer this for me please cuz i am gettin my permit tomorrow and i heard this question is on there and i have no absolute idea! when your right back tire blows out.. what way do you steer

The rule book says with the swerve, but out of traffic would be a better idea.

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I have this tendency to go to drive thrus on the way home from school because I don't know what to have for lunch at home. I'm trying to give it up but its harder then it seems. I need help before I end up gaining the freshman 10.
Signed,
could be fat

Try the Freshman 50. Anyway, if you insist on eating out, make yourself go inside. You can have more food at home for the same amont of calories and a lot less fat. You are wasting gas and adding more CO2 to the environment.
If you take one day and plan your meals out for the week, it is easier to resist. Start with just not going one day and add to the days you aren't going. Maybe then get it to a couple of times a month. Take the extra money you are saving and do something good for yourself or someone else that does not include food. Add up how much you spend at the drive thru in a week and figure out how much you are spending for the month. It's a pretty fat sack o cash even at $5 a day. That's $150 bucks a month and $1800 a year . You can eat at home on half of that. Cooking some food ahead of time and putting it in portions in the freezer helps a lot too. Buy yourself a crock pot and a cookbook. Good luck. I feel your pain.

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15/f--my boyfriend and i have been together for a long time but the other day i was at his house and his mom came upstairs and saw us coming out of his room (we were looking at yearbooks) and she freaked out and thinks we're having sex even though i'm not anywhere near ready to do that, and she won't even let us watch tv without someone else in the room. she used to like me a lot, how can i get her to trust me/us again?!?

Just don't give her a reason to mistrust you. The heart to heart is a good idea. She is just trying to protect her son from making a serious mistake. You should probably get him to talk to her. But accept the chaperone for a while, and maybe she will lay off. And don't go into a room with the door closed. If you aren't trying to hide anything, then try not to look guilty.

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OK, I am so pissed off right now, I had a crush on these guys and they dared me to wear my short pink lavender skirt to school and wear a thong under it, and bend over while throwing away a piece of paper, so I did it, and when I bent over I let out a huge toot and now they keeping making fun of me! I am embaressed, but now they pobably don't like me, huh?


help please.

You ought to be embarrassed anyway regardless of whether you farted or not. I hope you learned something.

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is it phisically possible to lick your elbow?
please answer, me and my friend are mad at each other because she says it is possible but doesn't care to prove it.



lee lee

Yeah if you are a contortionist.

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The first time I had my period it was from the 19-22 then it became 25-29 then 3-7.Wat is wrong?Is this normal? I need advice and i rate very high.thanx

It is not going to be the same exact day every month because it is on a 28 day cycle. And if it is your first year or so, it can be a little erratic. If the first month was 19-22 of let's say November, then the 25-29 is only three days off. Then a bunch of things could have happened, stress, diet change, exercise, anything really. Or you could be lining up with your friends. Don't panic.

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Since October last year, I haven't been having a proper lunch at school. At first it was because I just wasn't as hungry as I used to be and I didn't need to eat. Now, I do get hungry at lunch but I don't like bringing in a lunch from home and I hate queuing in the lunch hall to buy a school meal, I never have money to buy it anyway. My friends have started to comment on how thin I am getting, I have always had a slim build but now they say I am getting too thin. I can see what they mean, I am thinner but I haven't lost any weight at all. I don't think I am overweight or anything but they think I have an eating disorder. I know I don't, how can I get them to see that?

Maybe its not merely an eating disorder. It sounds a little like social anxiety. You do need to talk to a counselor, mom, or doctor about it. It's hard to do good in school if you aren't eating properly.

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Is it okay if you have little hairs on your boobs? I think its sort of gross and I'm not about to shave my boobs but does everyone have it or am I the unfortunate one?

Nope I got a few big ones. I pulled a few big black ones out with the tweezers. Blonde ones aren't a problem to me.

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Ok. There is this girl at our school and like 2 monthes ago, i got the same shoes as her. Now, yesterday she wore these shoes to school and my friend and I alreayd have them but we were just too scared to wear them. So anyways, should we wear them to school or what, beacuse this girl gets mad whenver people :copy: her. What should we do?!

Here's what you do: Wear your shoes. Hopefully she is wearing her shoes. Say: "Hey, I like your shoes!" and then she will look at yours and say "I like yours too (if she has any sense of humor at all)" Maybe she would be friends instead an immature, petty, brat. You paid for them. Wear them.

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i was a week late on period, i took several pregancy test that came back negative. the last one i took came back positivebut the next day i started bleeding, is there a chance that i am or was the test possibly wrong?

Go to the doctor and ask for a pregnancy test. It's the only true way.

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im 13f n ive been going out with my boyfriend for almost three weeks now and we still havent kissed. he kisses me on the cheek all the time but thats it. is this going too slow?

No. It's probably just right. (And it's really cute).Why don't you just ask him if he would kiss you on the lips? You could even make a Valentine's Day asking for it for a present.

I still get kissed on the check sometimes (usually because he wants me to pay attention and kiss him on the lips).

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im an atheist,and im considering Christianity,because someone really made me realize,that there has 2 be a God.She gave me so much proof, but i'm still not sure if i'm ready because i've been an athiest for about 2 or 3 years.what should i do?

I would go with that person to church. God doesn't care that you have been an atheist. He will forgive you if you turn towards him.
Just try to think about the reasons you think God is who he is and try to find the religion that fits your beliefs. I would go to several churches and hear what they have to say if I had to start from scratch.

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Why do sum people always say G-d insted of God!?It's only bad wen u use His name as a swear word!So its ok to say God if ur not swearing!it's soo annoying!

Sometimes G-d can be used instead of "God Damn."
And the Jewish guys never said the true name of God out loud out of respect because H is more to us than we can ever express in words.

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Hi, this will be a long question, so only read if you're serious about tryin to help me. Ok, me and my girlfriend got together on October the 18th, and things went great from there. I was interested in her, and she was interested in me. To my knowledge, I never made her mad, and tried to cheer her up whenever she was down and always tried to make her smile. Recently, she was always busy with honor classes, basketball, and conformation class (a catholic after school class once a week to become an adult in the church). And so she told me that she couldn't do it to me to keep on with this relationship, she told me it wasnt fair to me, her being so busy and all. So she broke it off. I hung up the phone, started to feel down, and later during the night, she logged on AIM and said she needed to talk to me about some stuff. She told me, "I never said we wouldn't ever be together again, just not right now" I was optomistic, and suspicious at the same time. I talked to family about it and they said I should move on. Then the saturday after we broke up, me and some friends went bowling and while we were at the counter getting our bowling shoes, i turned around and saw her and her friend. I immediatley turned the other way, and when I looked back, they had gone to the bathroom. We bowled, and then we went to Wal-Mart. We saw her there with some of her girlfriends and I never approached her. Later that night she logged on and we started talkin and she told me that she was just hangin out with her girlfriends. Then I asked her, "When you told me you said we may get back together, were you trying to make me feel better?" and then she said "I meant what I said." I've talked to her on AIM on and off since then and she's acting like her old self again, sort of. I was talking to her friend and she said that we had a good thing going and made a good couple. I was talking to my friends about prom the other day and they think I should ask her to it. I am just having a hard time believing she still likes me as much as she used to. What would yall do in a situation like this?

Sorry for the long question, just had to get it off my chest.

I don't think she is playing you. She should be commended for letting you loose temporarily. I am taking catechism classes as an adult, and it takes a lot of time to plow through. This is besides honors school work, which also takes a lot of time. She just didn't want you suffering while she was tending to her work. I know she was out with friends, but keeping a boyfriend happy is sometimes harder than just being with friends.
If she were with another guy, then I would worry.

I would date someone else for a little bit. If she cares for you, she will be back. Just don't get serious yet, you are pretty young. What makes me the most optomistic is that she is still contacting you, if only on messenger.

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i have this friend that i've known since 4th grade (we're now seniors). i love her to death but there are some things that make me really ticked off about her. lately, she has given up at everything in which she can't succeed. we do the same sport, and she is quitting. she used to be really really good at it (she was #1 on the team for a while), but she hasn't been as good because she really stopped trying. also, she is considering dropping one of her ap classes because she is getting a c+. she always complains about how the teacher doesn't grade anything and how the whole class is failing, but i talk to others in the class and they say that it's not true and that the problem is her. if she drops this class, she'll be a valedictorian. if she doesn't, she won't. all of my friends and i think that she should stick it out because colleges will like her getting a c+ and then working her way up to a b/b+ (because we know it's possible) rather than her dropping a challenging class. what do you think she should do and if you think she should stick it out, do you have any ideas for us to tell her? nothing seems to be working...

There are so many schools out there making more than one person valedictorian that it doesn't mean much anymore. They look at what you are taking and what you achieve. And even if you don't do as well in the AP class, sometimes you can still score well on the AP test and get college credit for it. She is being lazy, and she needs to wise up. Grades aren't everything. It's what you do with the knowledge and skills that are give to you that is the real deal.
Try to encourage to keep grinding away. It will benefit her in the end.

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I was invited to a black tie event for the first time my escort is wearing black and white so what should i wear im 5'5 132 pounds should i go with a short dress or long one please help.

I would go with a long dress that makes you look taller. Go to a formal dress store and just try on a bunch of stuff to see what you want in the style.
Black and white will go fine with anything. Be sure to tell him what color your dress is so that he can get matching or coordinating flowers (if that is appropriate for this event). I would consider getting him a small boutinere for his lapel in a lovely red rose or the color of your dress. Most of all use your manners, have fun, and dance often.

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