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Should I wait, or is she playing me?
Hi, this will be a long question, so only read if you're serious about tryin to help me. Ok, me and my girlfriend got together on October the 18th, and things went great from there. I was interested in her, and she was interested in me. To my knowledge, I never made her mad, and tried to cheer her up whenever she was down and always tried to make her smile. Recently, she was always busy with honor classes, basketball, and conformation class (a catholic after school class once a week to become an adult in the church). And so she told me that she couldn't do it to me to keep on with this relationship, she told me it wasnt fair to me, her being so busy and all. So she broke it off. I hung up the phone, started to feel down, and later during the night, she logged on AIM and said she needed to talk to me about some stuff. She told me, "I never said we wouldn't ever be together again, just not right now" I was optomistic, and suspicious at the same time. I talked to family about it and they said I should move on. Then the saturday after we broke up, me and some friends went bowling and while we were at the counter getting our bowling shoes, i turned around and saw her and her friend. I immediatley turned the other way, and when I looked back, they had gone to the bathroom. We bowled, and then we went to Wal-Mart. We saw her there with some of her girlfriends and I never approached her. Later that night she logged on and we started talkin and she told me that she was just hangin out with her girlfriends. Then I asked her, "When you told me you said we may get back together, were you trying to make me feel better?" and then she said "I meant what I said." I've talked to her on AIM on and off since then and she's acting like her old self again, sort of. I was talking to her friend and she said that we had a good thing going and made a good couple. I was talking to my friends about prom the other day and they think I should ask her to it. I am just having a hard time believing she still likes me as much as she used to. What would yall do in a situation like this?
Sorry for the long question, just had to get it off my chest.
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I don't think she is playing you. She should be commended for letting you loose temporarily. I am taking catechism classes as an adult, and it takes a lot of time to plow through. This is besides honors school work, which also takes a lot of time. She just didn't want you suffering while she was tending to her work. I know she was out with friends, but keeping a boyfriend happy is sometimes harder than just being with friends.
If she were with another guy, then I would worry.
I would date someone else for a little bit. If she cares for you, she will be back. Just don't get serious yet, you are pretty young. What makes me the most optomistic is that she is still contacting you, if only on messenger.
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First of all you have to ask yourself, "Is this the right girl for me?" That depends on you. Prom is a great event in your life and the best person to go with is with someone your going to have fun with. Before you decide to get back together with this girl you have to be sure that you are not going to keep getting the runaround. You have to make sure that she's not going to change her mind again. Then you'll know she's not playing games. Or maybe you should meet other people and see if there is someone out there who you think you can have fun with at the prom. If this girl you went out with is worth it then ask her, but if not look around and see who you think you would have the best time with. You never know because it could develop into something more.
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