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I know this may sound weird, but i'm a girl, and i like hanging out with boys more than I do girls. It just seems that theres always awkward silences and I don't know what to say with girls. With boys, I can just act like myself and whats on my mind around them. Its not that im not friends with girls, i actually do have alot. but its more fun with boys. should I try to hang out with my own sex more or is this ok?? I feel a little weird and different thats all.

dont worry i actually hang out with the guys more too. I also have girl friends though. The girls just seem so boring.. all the want to do is shopping and talk about guys and you cant be as open. Where the guys are all open and stuff and they do more. So dont worry theres nothing wrong with you.

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my brother has a illness called fibromyalgia (fi-bro-my alga) it is somthing women get when they are older and he had it when he was 12 now he is 14 he is always mean to me i've told my rents they don't care he yells at them to and cuesses i need help when he beats me up it hurts. i do't know what to do plz help

what you need to learn is how to block. Maybe try tyquando (sp?) or karatee. Or excersize to build up your muscle to defend better. Other wise i'm not quite sure what you could do.. sorry.
h.i.h. though!

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my little sister is OBSESSED with jamie lynn spears and her show zoey 101. she's watched every episode like 10 times and she even wears clothes almost EXACTLY the same as the ones zoey wears! she searches for them everywhere! and she always wants to role play them..and i get dragged into it! she wants to be zoey for halloween, but guess what..she's zoey EVERYDAY! this is driving me insane, my parents think it's cute. i thought it was at first, but now it's getting out of hand! please help, her room is covered with zoey 101 & jamie lynn spears. her aim is zoey101lover something and jamie lynn spears is her idol! she's so totally obsessed..it's becoming unbearable! HELP!

well i mean when your younger you want someone to look up to. Apparently Jamie is hers. I remember when i was obsessed with MKA but i mean once you get older you kinda slip out of it. So let her go one for a while more. Im sure she'll grow bored.
hope i helped and good luck!

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i just got my nose pierced and i dont like it. how do i turn this around and make it look like it was my moms fault?

well if you dont like your nose pierced then just dont wear the ring. And dont try to turn it around and give the blame to your mom. It will mess things up and plus it's completely RUDE! So just dont wear the ring and forget about it.
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ok.... i have this friend. her name is angela. we both have a crush on the same guy. his name is matt. and well... she also likes this other guy.... say his name is ken..(it is not him) well i like him 2.. she does not kno dat. i also like someone else secretly.. well i think i do.. wen im with him i like him.. but wen im not with him i hate him.. i dunno.. so we are all friends. so it is strange..bcuz.. if i go out with my secret crush... he is friends with ken so he would kno so then ken wouldn't think im available so he won't ask me out. but with me angela and ken and the secret guy.. okay say his name is kent......it is not though.. me angela ken and kent are friends but we torture each other.. and it is fun.. rite now we have a job together... tonite actually i love it... we do this camp thing so we are all alone together and it is so much fun. but i don't kno what i need advice on in this situation but i need advice.. like i don't know what i should do with my crushes/ friends.. considering i like them all... kuz if kent asks me out before ken then i will say yes.. but i want ken... but if ken asks me out i say yes.. but i want kent.. i am so confused... also... our parents arn't that friendly so it would be very strange. omg.. i am so confused.... wat should i do??? help.... sry this is long

well it seems like you like ken and kent the same way. Maybe you should try going for someone who you can actually pic :P And umm.. lol this is confusing im not sure how to anwser but im trying lol. Since your friend likes ken too it think then let her have him. Then you can go for Kent. But since you dont really know who to choose then i would look for someone else unless your sure that one of them likes you back.
h.i.h.

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well i havent gotten my period yet, and i m short(i m almost 14) and everyone says when i do get it i will get taller, and thin out. does anyone know if that is acctualy true? pls help!

i dont think so. i mean i still look the same lol all that changes is your hips just wided and get all curvy :P and you maybe grow some more. But yea you dont get skinnyr or fatter. you just basically stay the same.
h.i.h.

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is it true that if you sleep without ur bra on that you breast will grow bigger faster???

naa it's not true. most women sleep with out their bra because its more comfterble and you get better serculation.

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*13-f* I have a big crush on my friend. He is so cute and we alway flirt in class. But the problem is idk if he likes me. I meen when I got in a huge fight with my friend he was so sweet he tried his best to cheer me up. And every time he is funny and I laugh he blushes so much, it's really cute! There is one other problem my friend likes him but she is kind of shy, and she told me she doesnt care I like him and she even said that she doesnt really like him any more. But for some reason I think he might like her. My question is do you think he likes me and if he does should I tell him with out being a bad friend? (sry so long) +i rate 5's+

Yea i would tell him. I mean you never know when you'll run out of chances. And i think he may like you so go for it grl! And yea your friend might like him too but if you want the best for each other and she doesnt mind much then i think it'll be fine :)
h.i.h. good luck!

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ok I'm on FF.net too anyway this needs help asap
ok There is this guy that my Bff let us meet. At first he was like hi whats up etc and he ask for my pic hannah (bff) sent it he said i was hot but he could fine a better girl that looks better but i told him that was a really bad pic and i look diffrent he said ok so far we have tlked really good but awhile back he asked me if i would do him i said when i;m older and then he said that too but before that he said that he wasn't going to go out with me cause we never meet i said ok i agree but them he said can i call you my girl and said yes and today or yesterday whenever u get this he said he will never go out with me but then he said when we r older but i really like him and then i tlked to this guy he helped me see that one guy won't control me but i still like him I'm 13 f though and i need your help bad help if i confused you tell me

well the guy your suposedly like seems like an air head, not to be mean or anything. But i mean theres probably someone better out there for you. Im not sure what your question was but i hope i helped

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omfg!!! i have the worst cramps ever today!! i took ib profen already and that didnt work!

i need some way to get rid of them or make them not so bad!

ik ppl say working out helps..but there is no way in hell im working out with this bad of cramps!

HELP!!

ill rate 5s!

try taking a hot/warm bath and soak for a while. It should loosen up the cramp so it wont hurt as much.

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a few days ago, my friend slept over at my house. she's worried about me because she thinks im starving myself!! i dont eat breakfast ; ususally have a pop tart or a bagel for lunch ; and mostly crackers for dinner. i dont think im starving myself.. but she does and my other friends are seeing it too. what do u think? im scared.. i dont want to be starved. please help .. ill rate high for good answers!!

well you should eat a little more. Maybe something small and healthy for breakfast. Lunch maybe a sandwitch. and make sure you eat another meal for dinner. its also fine to have little snacks here and there too. But what you're doing is not eating enough.
h.i.h.

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Can i ask seriously. When people come on this. Do they answer questions genuinely to help people and hopefully help them through a tough patch or whatever; or do they do it for ratings? It makes me mad when you see a confused person askin a serious question; only for it to be answered by someone. Who at the end makes it obvious(or seemingly) that they don't care byu saying "please rate"Ok i know they jus want acknowledgement and appreciation. But if the person is willing to or want to im sure they will. Why do you ask or say things like this? I really don't know so any answers are appreciated.
Anthony

well i give advice to help the people. I dont really care if they rate or not but im happy when they do :) but i mean i just try to help the person out. But i guess there are some people on here that just do it for ratings. Why? i have no clue but it's kinda bizzar in a way right?

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Ok..My friend Max brought this friend with him to my house and like to where we work and everything and like my and his friend, MarC, had a connection you know like I'd known him my WHOLE life and like we were best friends or something and like at the end of the summer he has to go back home to GA and i live in NC and im worried that ill never see him again or talk to him or nething is there anything i can do to like keep in touch since it would be too far to call all the time and im not sure if he has a computer?!?

I rate HIGH!

well see if he has a computer. If he doesnt you two can write letters back and forth. Thats always a good way to keep in touch.

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my mom is really overprotective. she doesnt like to let me go hang out with my friends. i guess she doesnt trust me, but i just dont know why. she seems to thimk that i will get kidnapped or something. but whenever i go out its always with a lot of people, but she still doesnt trust me. none of my friends parents are like that. how can i earn her respect and trust? oh yah im 13 and a girl

maybe shes having a tough time letting you go, since you're getting older and more indapendent. Try talking to her about it. I'm sure you two can work something out.
good luck!

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I told my best friend something that i didnt want anyone to find out, and she tells someone i dont think i can trust her ever again should i?

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you have the right not to trust her. Or atleast not as much as you would like. Maybe give her some time and see if the trust grows back. It might take a while though.

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ok, well, im a christian. and i look at the horoscopes ALL of the time and im starting to think that there true. but my mom says its bad and i dont know how they r bad. how r they bad and is it really gonna affect my relationship with god?

their ok for a while until you dont really need them anymore but that time you'll find your self so if they're helping you at the moment the just keep reading them but i guess later one you'll just not need them as much. I read mine every day and i mean i guess im just waiting for something to happen :P
h.i.h.

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okay so whenever i wake up in the morning i always feel so nausious that i cant eat anything but it usually goes away by about 10...excpet sometimes it gets worse and i either throw up or are about to throw up...and its not because im hungry because i usually have like big midnight snacks and stuff so whats wrong wtih me

you could try smallering your midnight snacks and see if anything changes. If not then stop the snacks for a while maybe eat some where between you eat dinner an midnight like 6-7 or so, and see if anything changes.
hope i helped!

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How can I be sure that I am ready for sex? I want it, but im scared. So how will i know?

if your scared to do it then your not ready. Wait for the right person to do it with though..

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how do i get a guy to call me????

you give him your fone number?

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