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Many of my friends say that I am a good listener and advice giver. Because I have experienced many good and bad situations, I know what it is like to feel down or confused. I am a mother, daughter, sister, girl friend, and friend. And if I can't figure out how to answer a question, I'm sure I know someone who can. And I've come to notice that most of the questions people ask they already know the answer to, they just need a little reassurance. But I will warn you that my policy is, if you ask a stupid question, you will get a stupid answer. But i will say that it is my joy to help anyone with a real problem, so ask away!

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Okay,
c i have these two male friends and they r BEST friends with me n eachother. and tonite they told me that they werent friends anymore n its my fault. the reason is cuz i told evan sumthing that his riend told me the other night becuz i didnt feel safe with his telling me that and i needed to talk to sumone about it. so i told evan and when i told evan what i told him made him mad so he told me that him and chris werent gunna b friends anymore and that it was my fault. When i was talking to chris he said that evan called him and told him they werent friends and all. Not only dont i feel bad cuz its my fault but i feel bad becuz they arent friends and its my fault. I love them both a whole lot like really no joke. but the thing that also scares me is that sumtimes they joke and this time i dont know if its a joke+ i wanna help i want them to b friends but they wont talk to me. I have NO clue wat to do plz HELP ME REALLY BAD!! i need it or im planning on killing myself if i cant help!

well if I knew the smething that the one guy told told you, I could answer your question better but anyways... try explaining to the person you told the secret to that you didnt tell him so he could mad you told him becasue you know he cares abotu your friend as well and you wanted the 2 of you to help him. And it explain the same thing to your friend with the problem. Remind them how much you all need eachother.

My friend keeps copying everything I do. Like getting contacts.. my sneakers.. classes. Stupid stuff like that. It just annoys me and I dont want her to get upset over it but it just gets on my nerves. How can I bring it up without hurting her or making it seem like I'm sick of her or something liek that ?

Try helping her find her own style. Or like go shopping with her and pick everything she picks just to see how she reacts, if she gets annoyed, then you can be like "now you know how I feel" but if she doesn't just put the shit back and be like "I can't believe you were actually gonna let me buy the exact same stuff as you, thats really fuckin elementry. i ahve my own style and you have yours." either way she will get the point.

does thermasilk work if you let your hair air-dry then straighten it ?

no. if you let it air dry then you have to apply their hair syrum or leave in conditioner cream stuff before you straighten it.

(15/I)OK, I have a boyfriend and we JUST started going out yesterday and I think my best friend is jealous that I have a boyfriend and she doesnt. She says little things like.. "I have nothing to wear tomorrow..oh well it doesnt matter,I have no one to impress anyways." She never did this stuff before I had a boyfriend and I know I shouldn't feel guilty but I do. Plus she's being SO picky with boys now.. I was trying to hook her up with one of my boyfriend's friends but she's saying she doesnt like any of them. Is there anything I could do to make her feel any better? Thanks.

No there is nothing you can do. You friend might not exactly be jealous, but she sure is trying to make you feel sorry for her. Don't give her the satisfaction. Her little self-pity trip will end once she relizes no one is spaying attention to it.

I really like this guy and he said that he won't really know if he likes me until he gets to know me better, but when I talk to him online he says that we should get together sometime and says that we should do stuff. I'm not like that, but I guess he seems to think so. We haven't really talked in person, but we have a class together. What should I do?

Leave this guy alone. He may not think you are that type of girl, but obviously his idea of "getting to know you better" is by doing sexual stuff with you. Sounds like a fuckin jerk, if I were you I wouldn't give him the time of day.

WHat does it exactly mean when u ask a guy if they like you and they say i dunno..??DO they rly no..

umm... maybe it means I DONT KNOW.... how are we supposed to know if you don't even know anyway?

My friend has a boyfriend and she says she loves him...she wrote i love him on her hand...but she says she also says she loves this other guy from a class she is in..i think this is wrong.But she obviously doesnt since she is always saying she loves both of them.Should i tell her boyfriend?Should i try and convince her that it is wrong?This is advice for my friend also...please anwser soon!!!

yeah to say she loves noth guys is wrong. Its also very disrespectful to her boyfriend, and it probably means she is till really immature and doesn't truelyl love eitehr of them. She either just thinks she does or just likes saying it. If I were you I wouldn't sweat her immaturity. If you try to explain to her what she's saying is wrong shes just gonna say your wrong, so don't even bother saying anything, just leave it alone.

okay well i've always told myself that i'm going to wait until marriage before i have sex... but now that i'm older and in highschool i've faced reality. and i'm not gonna kid myself. if i'm ready to have sex, i'm going to. of course i'm gonna wait for the guy i love, but still. everyone always says "wait til marriage" but in reality WHO REALLY DOES? and even if i have sex with a guy and we break up and regret it, that doesnt mean i'm gonna be depressed for the rest of my life would it? so whats the big deal? who agrees.

This is a very true point. If you feel ready than you go ahead. there is no law saying you HAVE TO wait until marriage.

Hey everyone, Siren here...I'm lost on this. Here's my shpiel:
This girl has been my best friend for around 13 years. Last year, I got a boyfriend and she got really clingy; called me every day wanting to hang out. It drove me nuts, but I think she stopped calling once she realized I wouldn't abandon her.
That was the start. Now, I never wanna hang with her anymore...Being around her bothers me, and I can't figure out why.
She sits with me and my choir friends at lunch, but she doesn't speak to them, only me, and when she does, it's off topic. She'll interrupt a convo I'm having with another friend to talk to me about something else and it's...grr. I feel like I wanna talk to her sometimes, but I almost don't want her to sit with us...
I know sometimes friendships die, but I really don't want to lose her, and I hate feeling like I don't wanna be around her. I used to tell her EVERYTHING, all my secrets...she used to know the most about me of any of my friends, but I stopped telling her because she doesn't seem to...care?
It might be that I grew up a lot, and she hasn't quite, but I'm not sure that's the only thing that's screwing up our friendship. I'm sixteen and a girl, she's seventeen, if that makes any sort of a difference.
What should I do about this? I asked my dad (he's a psychiatrist) and he didn't know what to do; neither did my mom...so I turn to y'all.

I've been through the same thing. And you're right, sometimes friends do grow up and seperate. maybe you are a little more mature than her and she just hasn't reached your level yet. If you really wanan keep her as a friend, you will give her some time to grow up and catch up with you. Eventually you will be able to understand eachother again. I know its hard right now though, dealing with her annoyingness and all, but it will all turn out good in the end, just give it some time. You guys have been friends for a long time, and theres gonna be a time when one of you are gonna need eachother so don't ruin your friendship.

ok im confused. this might be long, any response is greatly appreciated.

i go out with this boy, lets call him jon.
we've only gone out for like 5 days. his frind has alreay gotten us into like 10 fights. his friends really jealous and he wants jon like basically all to himself and he doesn't like me so everytime i want to come over, he'll start shit. just anything so me and jon cant see each other and argue. i talked to jon about breakin up today and he flipped out on his frind and then told me how much he loved me and didnt want to lose me..but then i was at a soccer game today. i ended up spending the whole day with my ex b/f. we went out last year for 2 months. we broke up because summer came and we lived too far away, other then that the relationship was perfect. well my ex. lets call him chris, told me today that he still has feelings for me and wants to be back with me. i still have feelings for him too, me and him went trhough alot together! but i mean i'd feel so bad for jon, i do like him alot too! idk..im confused..=/

theyre both great guys, who treat me good, and who i care for and dont want to hurt.
=( hmm.. what should i do? what would you do if you were in my place?

thanks so much in advance,so sorry it was long.

Okay, well if you and your ex get back together, what will happen when school ends for summer again? you willl break up? let me remind you also, that 2 months isn't very long of a relationship, and after a whole summer, there could be things about him that have changed. if I were you i would stay with Jon, he seems to really care about you. Who cares if his friend doesn't like you? Jon obviously places you in a higher place than his friend.

I am soooooo entirly confused! See I've liked this kid named... well lets say CJ.... I've like CJ for 2 years now... and from what I know he hasn't liked me. We've been friends for 2 years and I want something more of our relationship. He's been dropping clues that he has liked me but he also did this before, like 1/2 a year ago. The other day I was talking to him online and he asked me if I had a boyfriend and I said no and asked y hoping he might ask me out... but he said "uhh...nvm gtg" and then he signed off. So I am totally confused and I need advice of if he likes me and also what I should do next....

~*Confused*~

Maybe he is a little scared about asking you out or telling you he likes you. I think you need to give him a little push to help him out. Go ahead and tell him how you feel and ask him if he likes you too. I'm sure this will help him to open up.

i haven't had my period yet, and i'm 13. my mom was 15 when she got hers and my sister who is 15 hasn't got hers yet. i thought that i would get those "genes" but lately my discharge has been tinted red in some spots. Also today i had no discharge at all. am i going to be starting soon? because i haven't had cramps, or PMS yet.

That red tint in your discharge is probably because you are "spoting". usually this means you will start your period soon, but it doesn't necessarilly mean it will come immeidtately, you may spot for a while before you actually get your period. It doesn't matter if you haven't had cramps or PMS yet, not every woman gets cramps and PMS and all that. Just be patient, your time will come. And don't stress cuz stress makes it take longer to come.

I have a cold. I feel so gross and all I want to do is sleep. But I cant because I have loads of homework that I should be doing right now but I just feel..gross! Is there anything I can do to make me feel a little better so I can concentrate(sp?) on getting my work done? Besides taking medicine..I rate :(

Drink some tea. If you put lemon or honey in it its even better for you. or you can put a cough drop in it. That always helps me , and it wakes you up too.

Okay, I like this guy a lot.. and he's mixed. That doesn't bother me, but a lot of my other good friends are rednecks! That's like the only kind of people I really hang out with. I used to be a HUGE redneck, and was really racist... but I'm not anymore, because there's no point in that. My friends are friends with him, but they wouldn't go out with him... what do I say to my friends? I don't want to lose them, because they're awesome.. but I really like this guy, and if I have a chance to go out with him, I want to. I just don't want my friends to say rude things about us and make fun of me... What do I do? I'LL RATE!!

If you're friends are that inconsiderate and rude that they can't accpet5 the fact that you like this guy and he makes you happy, and all they can see is the color of is skin, then they are not real friends nor are they worth your time.

I like 2 people a LOT!! One of them has a girlfriend, and the other one is my good friend. We're not BEST friends, but we talk a lot. I know that the first one is kind of out of my reach right now.. so I want to go for the second one! How do I get the second one to notice me as more than a friend?
-*I'll rate, thanks!*-

Don;t beat around the bush. Just tell him exactly it is how you feel. Let him know you like him and you want to try to be something more than firends and see what he has to say. he will never know who you feel until you speak up. good luck! :)

There's this guy I like, and I've known him for a while now. I went out with him about a year ago, and we broke up after a month because a misunderstanding. He was so shy and everything, and I was the first one to break him out of that. We had something special.. and I was the one to break it off, so it was my fault. After that, I STILL liked him.. and I still do. It's been over a year!! But I don't know what to do.. should I talk to him? And if I do, what should I say? I'm not the hottest person in the world, and I want to know how to get his attention, and make him come talk to me! Help!! *I rate*

Just be honest with him. tell him you've missed over the past year and you want to give things a chnance again.

does n e one know good ways to relive stress...i've been through a lot latley and i would like to know if there was n e thing i could do to help myself get over it!

MUCH THXZ

try writing down how you feel, listening to music, relaxing in the tub, watching a movie or reading a book. those are some things i do when i'm stressed out.

what is the difference between a flat iron and a straightener..and which one works better? don't say they're the same thing because I know they're not =) thanks!

Honestly, they are exactly the same thing. They have those double handles, they heat up, and you press them on your hair and press down, so that it gets straight. So a flat iron IS a straightener, people just sometimes call is that. And flat irons are the best. they straighten your hair way better than a blow dryer.

i really like this guy sam. but he only likes the popular girls. im not saying im a nerd or anything, but im just not popular like that, for the reasons these girls are. they've all done IT and we're only in 8th grade!! well anyways, i like sam, and i know that he doesnt like me, but he knows i like him. he doesnt talk to me anymore i guess cuz he thinks its awkward. i wanna be his friend still but i cant get the courage to even say hey. can anyone help me?

You shouldn't feel bad because you are not popular, because look at the reason WHY those girls are popular. They are popular cuz they are little 13-14 yr old whores, thats not cool. Be proud that you don't let people take advatage of you and disrespect yourself like they do. And as for this Sam guy, he probably is more intrested in those girls than you becasue he knows he can get some from them. But, that still doesn't mean you should start having sex just so he will like you. You are doing the right things. If you still wanna be his friend thats cool. Of course he feels a little ockward around you now, now that he knows you like him, but with time that will chnage. Just don't be afradi to say whats up with him, and act like things have never chnaged, that way he can tell you still wanna be his friend.

im a big christian. very religious--but the guy that i like, and likes me, is jewish. i know that sounds dumb, but seriously, i dont know how my parents would feel. what should i do if he asks me out?

As long as he's a good guy it shouldn't matter what his religion is. And the jewish and Christian religion isn't so different, if he's very religious as well, that should be a plus to your parents because it means he has morals and comes from good people just like you.

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