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okay well i've always told myself that i'm going to wait until marriage before i have sex... but now that i'm older and in highschool i've faced reality. and i'm not gonna kid myself. if i'm ready to have sex, i'm going to. of course i'm gonna wait for the guy i love, but still. everyone always says "wait til marriage" but in reality WHO REALLY DOES? and even if i have sex with a guy and we break up and regret it, that doesnt mean i'm gonna be depressed for the rest of my life would it? so whats the big deal? who agrees.
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i dont agree...i think you should definately wait til marriage because if your a christian you would know y but if your not then well u should b....but i am waitin til im married
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i say you fuck everybody, a lot
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i agree!! b4 i was alwaez thinkin yea imma wait! im not readie..but now that i am in highskool..things r different! were meetin guys...nd we r fallin in luv wit them! were readie for sex..but not tha merrage!...and plus marrage will take a long time 2 find out who will be tha perfect one!
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I don't agree... because when you have sex the first time its suppose to be special.. I was stupid and went ahead and did it and believed the guy when he said he loved me.. now I'm all heartbroken and sad and actaully it has been about 3 months.. so don't get yourself fooled like I did.. hang in there.. wait till you feel like you are really ready.. then from there its all up to you
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personally... your not taking this as serious as it is. it is a pretty big deal. im not a virgin anymore. i lost it to my boyfriend who im madly in love with and we're still going out. i also said told myself all my life that i was going to wait til marraige, but when u fall in love everything changes. just do me a favor and make sure ur really in love before you go off and have sex.. hope i helped...
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While having this same discussion with a couple of guy friends, one of them said something that I'll never forget.
He said, "Choosing a wife is like choosing a pack of gum. Would you prefer a nice fresh pack all to yourself, or a pack that everyone's already had a piece of?"
Another guy said. "The greatest gift that a wife can give to her husband is herself, and knowing that I would be the only one to receive that gift would make it so much more special."
If you choose to not wait until you are married and end up regretting it, you won't be depressed for the rest of your life. But sex is a very big deal. You should respect yourself enough not to do anything that you'll regret.
I guess all you can do is follow your heart and everything else will fall into place.
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I don't agree. I think you have a pretty bad attitude about sex, and I just think you think because you're in high school, you should have sex.
People DO wait until marriage to have sex.
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if you do meet mr.right i really dont think u should have sex yet. n if u date someone then i dont think u would b depressed... i mean really
Always here to help
JLC
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you keep saying in your question .. 'who else' and stuff like that . WHO CARES WHAT EVERYONE ELSE DOES? its YOUR life, and YOUR choice, and if you wait until marriage, who is really gonna know. and if they do, do you think they're going to label you or something. like if you knew a girl who was waiting would you be thinking ' o my gosh what a stupid person'. no, probably not. its a personal choice, and if you're going to be phased by the world on an issue so personal, thats kinda shallow. make this choice for you, not for 'reality' or society.
lana
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sex until marriage is not popular these days. people wanna go out and experiment before marriage...dont listen to other poeople and dont get pressured into doing it. do whatever you want doll. do it with some one you FULLY trust and some one your almost positive u wont regret it with. and make sure u kno he wont hit it n quit it:)
*jesikuh
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i agree, if you feel like you dont need to worry about that then go for it. but don't just flaunt yourself all over having sex with any who ha guy =) that'll cause you a notorius reputation that no one needs.. remember: Practice Safe Sex lol good luck
xoxo` Rinny
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i do i totaly agree with what your saying. Waiting for marriage to have sex is a personal decision and personaly i'm not waiting till marriage.
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I totally agree with you. It doesn't matter if you have sex before your married. As long as your in love with the guy and he's in love with you, it will be very special =)
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i agree with you there are alot of people that always say "wait until you're married" or "wait until you're older" but i feel that if you TRULY love someone and they love you in the same way and you want to be intimate with eachother in that way. i say go for it. you also have to note the risks that are involved. for one there is pregnancy and then there is disease. another is if people find out you can get a rep of being a slut. I know i'm not going to wait until i'm married to lose my virginity. when i feel that i'm ready to have sex with my boyfriend i'll talk to him about it and if he's okay with it then we are going to take every precation necisary (sp?) and we are gonna do it.
hope i helped =D
..::..emily..::..
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Personally I think that no sex before marridge is a little stupid. After all, you DO only live once don't you? I have respect for people who do live by that though and I know if that's their choice then fine. Having said all that, I don't think that you should have sex with any guy/girl that turns up, you should wait til you find someone you love, I guess that if you wait til you get married then you know almost for sure that the person loves you.
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The big deal is that its very very hard to divide yourself from that person once you have had sex with them. Its like an invisible control. I would wait for marriage if you can.
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I totaly agree w/ you. I never told myself i was going to wait till marriage...but i did tell myself I was going to wait till LOVE. I lost my virginity when i was 16 to my boyfriend and almost 2.5 years later...we're still together and as happy as ever. Even if we would have broken up shortly after having sex...i would have been heartbroken but i wouldn't have regretted it one bit.
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Yes, I'll have to agree with you on that one. Going into highschool really makes you old. Im highschool you will face EVERY KIND OF REALITY THAT EXISTS!!1 EXCITING!!@!@1! But seriously simply going into high school doesn't make you all that experianced and all knowing.
What you don't know about sex is that you give your soul to the first person you ever have sex with. Then they will control you.
Ok. Why does the person you lose your virginity to matter? I seriously don't see the whole fuss about this but I never really got worked up over most things in my life. Why? Because they aren't important.
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Hey...
I was gonna wait 'til marriage, even in the beginning of last year, when I met my boyfriend. He'd hint at sex, and I'd say "Hahaha yeah right. You realize that's never gonna happen, right?" and he said "yeah, I know."
But I - er - changed my mind? Lol.
I used to say "I'm gonna wait 'til I'm married to have sex." Then I changed it to "I'm gonna wait 'til I meet the guy I'm gonna marry to have sex," and that's been working pretty well for me...
I do agree with you, but we do tend to attach ourselves to guys we do intimate things with. Depressed for the rest of your life? Nah.
*Raises hand*
-Siren =)
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i agree, i dont think being married is as important as just make sure u love him and he loves u back
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Who actually waits for sex? Lots of people. Jessica Simspon .. and yes you may regret it and be depressed for the rest of yourslef, its very possible. Or you could be left with early pregnancy or STD*s is it really worth all that? Lots of people wait for sex, and i discourage you to just give up so quick, if you'll just listen to me a little longer i'd appreciate it. IM me or inbox me .. and i promise to help.
Good luck
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don't wait until marriage - but wait until you're in a stable, committed relationship that you're willing to continue to work hard towards... aka, wait until you're with the person that you're going to marry.
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hey yah thats true! if your ready then go for it!! Humans are humans and make mistakes no ones perfect. Yah that is true- these days its hard to wait until marriage.
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go ahead with it! you won't be depressed for the rest of your life unless the sex was bad. ;) haha, but it's just living your life and you only have one life, so you should make the best of it and do what you feel like doing. ♥
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This is a very true point. If you feel ready than you go ahead. there is no law saying you HAVE TO wait until marriage.
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