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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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there is this girl who follows me everywhere and i dont really like her but i dont want to hurt her feeelings what should i tell her or say to her because shes allways following me in school
If someone is following you and you do not like them, Just comfort her but be nice about it.
She's probably following you around because she likes you, You can just ask her "Why she follows you around" Although it is pretty obvious to why just see what she has to say.
You could write her a letter if you feel uncomfortable approaching her, Just say you didn't want to hurt her feelings but you don't see her that way and it makes you uncomfortable when she follows you around. That is pretty straight to the point and not too harsh.
So today I had sex with my bf and the condom broke but he onlyed pre cum, and I just finished my period on Monday is there a chance that I'll will end up pregnant
There is always a chance, You can get pregnant if you haven't yet ovulated, You can get pregnant 3 days after your period. Anything is possible
Hey!!:) I'm a 15-year-old Chinese. My first boyfriend and I have been dating for a month now. He's really sweet in private but in public we HARDLY TALK!! We don't have much(almost none)to talk about! Someone says Silence is gold, is it really true?!
We're dating in private cause our parents don't approve, only a few friends know about it, is it why he sometimes kinda ignores me when he's with his friends?
Relationships that are kept a "secret" are normally hard to maintain. You cannot freely have a relationship and you can't be fully committed to taking a relationship seriously if you have to work your way around it.
It sounds like your relationship is in the stage of dying out, He's bored and wants probably wants to see what else is available that will benefit him. This doesn't mean he doesn't like you, It likely means the relationship isn't going to go anywhere because your parents disapprove. The only way to really know for sure is to talk to him about it.
What do bed bugs do? How do you get them and how do you know if you have them?
Bed bugs can cause bed sores as they usually bite.
Here is a website where you can check too see if you possibly have the bed bug problem;
http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/home/organizing/how-to-prevent-bed-bugs
http://www.ehow.com/how_2293179_prevent-bed-bugs.html
What is the perfect place to go on a first date? I would like you opinion to know to ask my crush to go.
The first date should be at a place where you two have the opportunity to get to know one another, This is where I would skip the movie idea.
Dinner, (Pick a casual dining) Plan a day at the beach, Mall, You could even stay in do dinner and a movie. A movie at home is a more suitable place rather than the theater it gives the opportunity to talk during the movie. Be creative, If you both like the outdoors you could plan a picnic at the park, Sometimes local college offer day passes to the public for pool use. If you hate the heat and don't like the beach this is also another possible idea you could do too. Look up local events in your town/city to see if there are any cool events going on.
well me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost nine months and he has two friends that are girls that i dont care if he has but the three of them are always whispering and keeping things away from me and i wanna know what i can do my boyfriend says he dont like them like the love kind of way that there only friends but i kinda dont believe that
Communicate, If you are feeling insecure in your relationship then you need to talk too your boyfriend about it. If your boyfriend has friends that are trying to ruin your relationship, Then have your boyfriend tell his friends that you are his girlfriend and that they need to respect that.
Unless the girls are doing harm to your relationship or are intentionally trying to cause drama then there should be nothing to worry about. Guys are entitled to have friends just as girls are. If there is nothing being done, Then just relax.
My boyfriend of about 2 years is moving to alaska for a teaching job (which is realllly far away) he wants me to go with him, but honestly, i am reallly close to my mom and sister (pretty much my only family) and cannot imagine going away and not seeing them for who knows how long. i don't know what to do. i honestly thought he'd be the one i'd be with forever. any advice? I know the story of this isn't complete, but we were together for 2 years so it would be extremely long. i'm just looking for anything that might be helpful in dealing with this
I'm going to tell you what you probably do not want to hear...
That old saying "Family is forever while relationships come and go" is very very true. As much as someone may think they are completely head over heels with someone the truth is nobody knows what the future will hold. If your boyfriend wants to move too Alaska, In my personal opinion it may be best to move on and try and meet someone local and more convenient for you.
What would I do? ..Well I am also close to my Mother and I can't possibly imagine leaving her behind either and the truth is I would never. My mother always comes first and so does the rest of my family. There are no what, If or buts about it.
If you are over the age of 18, You want to move to Alaska with your boyfriend then you do indeed have the right too as this would be your choice. I would suggest thinking about possible consequences first though...and how would you handle the situation IF it didn't work out.
im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m
My mum has told me in the past, before i ever had a boyfriend, that she's aware that i'm at the age where ill start to get sexually active. I never had a boyfriend during high school or anything and never have done anything more then kissed a guy. She was proud of me for holding out on having sex and everything considering alot of my friends lost their virginity when they were 15-16.
My mum is the kind of person that makes alot of jokes about things, but its this jokes that are making things very awkward for me. In the past i wouldn't have minded cause i was single and she knew there was no one that i would be sleeping with. But now i have my very first boyfriend, and the things she says are really affecting me.Especially when i need to talk to her about being safe. When i first told her that the boy of my dreams took me to the lookout on a mountain overlooking the city and asked me out, the first thing she said was "he didn't knock you up or something did he?". She keeps making remarks about me and my boyfriend and it makes things awkward and its making me scared to have a very important talk with her. She lets me stay over his house and everything, and tells me she trusts me, but then she goes and asks my sister if im having sex with my boyfriend when i stay at his house, and when my sister said no, she sighed heavily and said she was so relieved.
My boyfriend and I, have talked about sex. We both want to wait a while and not rush into anything, as i'm still a virgin and he is willing to wait till i'm ready. He wants to make it special for me and told me that he can wait as long as needed, he also doesn't want to move too quickly. The thing is, we both think its a smart idea for me to go on the pill, so that we have protection for when that day comes. My body also needs a couple of months to adjust to the pill itself, and i dont think theres any harm in starting it now, so that i have that security. The thing is, i was meant to go on the pill a couple of months ago, before i even had a boyfriend, due to excruciating period pain. But i kept putting it off.
now im stuck in a very awkward situation. I feel like i cant talk to my mum about going on the pill and getting protected, so that when me and my boyfriend are ready, we will be safe. Most parents would appreciate their daughters confiding in them about sex and being responsible and making smart decision in regards to preventing pregnancy, but i cant seem to do that now knowing how much she doesn't want me to have sex etc etc. The thing is, when i do tell her, i want to let her know i wont be having sex anytime soon. I feel almost like the adult in this situation, as i want to be safe and she seems to make a joke out of anything. It hurts me when she assumes my boyfriend is careless and only after one thing, when she doesn't understand he's not like that and wouldn't force anything on me if i didn't want to do it.
You are an adult, There is no need to get your mothers approval. You are old enough to make a gynecologist appointment on your own, You do not need your mother with you. At 18, You are now an adult and independent.
Your mother doesn't even need to know about your sex life, Your sex life is your business and your privacy. If you were a minor it would be a different story but again you are legally an adult and do not need your mothers approval.
EDIT: Do you have health insurance?..Assuming you don't some doctors office offer a sliding scale and payment plans where they give you samples. If you cannot afford birth control seek planned parenthood. Either or, Use condoms.
Okay, so my ex dumped me six months ago now, and got back with his ex the day after.
He split up with her two months ago now, and we've just left school.
On the last day, he gave me an apology letter, saying he didn't realise what he had untill it was too late, and that he hopes i'll have a good life, and that he'll never forget me.
But even after everything-i want him back. So what kinda things can i put in a letter, to get him back? Thanks
Why do you want someone back who left you for someone else? Going back is only telling him that hurting you was okay and likely seeing he did it once he probably will do it again.
My advice, Don't do it.
Anyway, If you still want to go through with it...
Just tell him how you feel but good luck cause once a cheater always a cheater. I think you should try and put your insecurities behind you and focus on what is best for you rather than back track on what is a has been and not worth being.
i recently got a new boyfriend, and well its really awkward. how do i prevent this.. any tips?
This is normal for new couples, Especially if they do not know each other well.
They say the first 6 months of a relationship is when two people are starting to get know each other. If you are dating your boyfriend there must of been something that led you to where you are now. Try planning things with him, Talk to him as communication is the way to break the ice. Try and relax as the important thing in a relationship is too be able to be yourself. What does your boyfriend like to do? ...
Go to the beach together, Go to a movie, Go out to dinner etc. Talk about random things and things that interest the both of you.
The beginning stage of a relationship is sometimes awkward but the more you two spend time together and talk the more it will be less and less awkward.
If you have sex slot do you get tired of it?
Sure is possible
Having sex so much can eventually start to feel like a burden for some people.
Short answer; Yes absolutely
im a guy in high school, and there has always been this girl in my class who i hate. Ive hated her since the beginning of the year. Im a junior, and so is she, and i hate her so much.
The thing is, i dont even know this girl at all. Ive never spoken to her, i just hate her and the way she is. She is always texting in class, drives a nice car, always has starbucks, shes a materialistic bitch and she thinks she is hot shit, but she's not. I guess she is, because she's a cheerleader and gets all the guys. I just hate her so damn much, how much of a social slut she is, and how she is so spoiled and rich and she doesnt deserve anything she gets. I dont talk to her, but since the start of the year ive only been observing her. And for some reason, i feel obligated to tell her that she is a bitch and i hate her guts. Should I? Is this normal? I just want some advice. And btw, i dont hate her so much that i want to kill her... I'm not crazy, so dont think that. But i hate her enough to tell her off or even slap her in the face. And i just wanna know, is this normal? And what should i do...
Whoa... Geezers
Whatever you do, Do not go up and tell her that you think she is a bitch, Despite what you see the fact is you don't even know her. You don't know what she's been through, You don't know her at all.
Looks can be deceiving not everyone is what they appear to be. This girl could very well be a nice person and you don't even know it because you are jumping to conclusions. Relax, Sure not everyone is well off as some people but that doesn't mean that we have to go and judge someone because we don't like what we see.
Is it normal? Sure it's normal for people to dislike someone but I really think you have a rage of hate and probably should talk to a school counselor about how you feel as that is generally what they are there for. Other than that I really think you should just chill out stop worrying so much about other people and worry about you.
Meh and my boyfriend started having sex bout a mounth ago... he is my first so i realy dont knw much about it... we just now had sex without a condom and he said he pulled out before he came... i wanted to ask him how did he know that it some didnt get inside but i waz too shy n i knw i shudnt be shy when it cumz to that... my question is... iz it posible for a guy to pull out before they cum... and if he pulls out but before its all the way out he cumz just alil inside... cud you be pregnant??? thanz
Yes it is possible for a guy to pull out before hand. However, Is it possible you can't get pregnant from this? NO.
Nothing is ever 100% safe, If you don't want to get pregnant then you need to use protection at ALL times. All it takes is one time and boom your pregnant and from your grammar spelling I'm going to assume you are way to young for that.
If you don't know much about sex, I highly suggest you read up on it more. There are many many ways pregnancy can occur and something as simple as precum can get your pregnant. If I were you, I'd also seek birth control as soon as possible. Try planned parenthood they are completely anonymous but be SAFE about it don't be stupid.
Is it normal for me to be jealous? My GF broke up with me a month ago. I've been getting over it, but lately i've been seeing her with guys and I see her pics on Facebook with guys and she is hugging them and having fun and smiling, and i'm just sitting her pissing and moaning about it. Is it normal for me to be jealous like this? I mean, its been a whole month. Shouldnt i be over it? And when i see her at school, it kills me inside when she is hugging other guys. How do i deal with this?
Normal
Everyone is different, Different people get over things faster than others. Breakups take time to accept and get over too.
How do you deal with it? You keep yourself busy. The first step towards moving on from anything is learning to accept it. Although it has been an entire month for you for all you know it could take another month you cannot rush a grieving process. However, As much as it sucks ass at this point in time it does and will get easier.
Spend time with friends, Family and keep doing what you love to do. The more social and busy you keep yourself the more easier and faster it will be to move on. Try to go out and meet new people and have a good time if you need too but if you aren't ready then that's fine too.
About twice or three times a week, specially when I start reading, my eyes start to burn and tear up and the more tears the more they burn, a couple of times I had to pull off to the side of the road because I couldn't open my eyes, my optometrist said it was dry eye and to use over the counter drops but it doesn't seem to help, anybody there know what it is? Would love an answer...
It could be dry eye but it also could very well be allergies, Try over the counter allergy medication and see if that helps. :)
15f bisexual
so i really like this girl and we're pretty close friends but i want to be more than friends what good flirting techniques could i use to win her
If you want to know if she is into you then you could ask her out to dinner or a movie and you could see how she acts towards you. Drop hints; Make eye contact, Smile, Compliment her etc.
The best way to test someone have a sleep over and play truth or dare. Little things...
Well im ready and he tells me that hes ready but he wants to wait until he gets up on his feet, and gets his own place... Ive told him that i dont care if its a ring out of the 50 cent thing but he tells me that " no i want you to have the best you can get" or something along thos lines... Is he just trying to avode it or do you think that he really wants to wait...? All i want is to be able to let other people know that im his and you cant have it... And no this is not the reason that i want him to ask... I truly love him with all my heart and soul... I want to be with him forever and i want to start my forever with him... Sorry it was so long.
USA/F/18
Your boyfriend is not ready for marriage yet.
Also, He is right. If someone proposes marriage you want to make sure that person is stable and able to provide. The last thing you want is someone to give you a ring that still lives at home with mom and dad and is not independent.
For one, Cheap rings means they would rust, Turn your finger green over time and you have a high chance of the ring breaking. I'm not saying men are cheap sakes, Not at all but what I am saying is at least set yourself some sort of expectation instead of wanting something out of a cracker jack box.
You are being unreasonable and the more you continue to talk about it when your boyfriend is not ready the more you will begin to put pressure on your relationship. Marriage comes with both partners are ready and right now...He is not ready. If you love him as much as you say you do then be patient with him.
15f
what is the best way to deal with depression without seeing a doctor or using a hotline???
Depression is a serious condition that needs to be treated by either therapy or medication. It is almost impossible to treat depression on your own.
I'm 19 and a female and my boyfriend just broke up with me about a week ago and we were together for a year and 3 months and he was telling me that the reason he was breaking up with me is because he's not ready for a serious relationship. What does it mean when a guy tells you this and why would he wait over a year to say this also? I am completely in love with him and he told me so many times how much he loves me but when he broke up with me he said that he doesn't think he's in love with me, but he cares for me and has feelings for me but just not ones to keep the relationship going! Why would it take him over a year to feel like this? Everyone's telling me i have to move on, but I can't it's so hard, I love him so much and he is the only guy that I want to be with, and he always made it seem that way with me, he told me that once we both have enough money that he wants us to get our own place together, and he said that about a month before breaking up with me! Why would he be doing all of this, and then just break up with me out of no where? I thought we were so happy together because he never acted like he didn't want to be with me. He did say that he wants us to be friends, and I told him I would try but I don't want to be just friends with him, I want to be with him! Can anyone please help me because I just don't know what to do?! Thank you!!
(when he broke up with me he said that he doesn't think he's in love with me
From what you said right there it sounds like he was trying to go about it the easy route. It sounds like he may of lost his feelings for you over time or possibly developed feelings for another person.
The best way to move on from a relationship is to learn to accept, Break ups are never easy but as hard as it is try and look at it as a learning experience. I have been down this road before I know it isn't easy and I know the road of depression all too well. Keep yourself busy, Spend time with family and friends and be social. Now also on a personal note, Do you really think it would be a good idea to remain friends with him?...
I feel the best thing to do would be to cut contact all together as he ended up the relationship with you, Break ups take time to overcome as we all go through the grieving process. Friendship may prolong the pain and eventually cause a bit of stress between the two of you. Also, I really don't think anyone who breaks up with someone deserves a friendship.
What other type of gum will make your breast grow
Are you serious?...
There is no such gum that will "make" your breast grow. Be happy with what you have