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I hate this girl in my class... A LOT but I don't even know her!
im a guy in high school, and there has always been this girl in my class who i hate. Ive hated her since the beginning of the year. Im a junior, and so is she, and i hate her so much.
The thing is, i dont even know this girl at all. Ive never spoken to her, i just hate her and the way she is. She is always texting in class, drives a nice car, always has starbucks, shes a materialistic bitch and she thinks she is hot shit, but she's not. I guess she is, because she's a cheerleader and gets all the guys. I just hate her so damn much, how much of a social slut she is, and how she is so spoiled and rich and she doesnt deserve anything she gets. I dont talk to her, but since the start of the year ive only been observing her. And for some reason, i feel obligated to tell her that she is a bitch and i hate her guts. Should I? Is this normal? I just want some advice. And btw, i dont hate her so much that i want to kill her... I'm not crazy, so dont think that. But i hate her enough to tell her off or even slap her in the face. And i just wanna know, is this normal? And what should i do...
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Dude, minding your own business is a virtue. Take care of yourself first. The more energy you devote to people you don't know the more time you're wasting that could be devoted to other things. It's just like I don't understand why people are so preoccupied with the personal lives of entertainers. I mean, who cares?
So relax and handle your business and block out extraneous crap that doesn't mean anything, like that cheerleader.
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So let me get this straight: This girl has never insulted you, never rejected you, never made fun of you because you don't have the material things she has, and SHE's a bitch? Really? You haven't talked to her or had any interaction with her, but you want to insult her and slap her, and SHE's the bitch?
Okay, let me switch off the snarky and switch on the serious. *Click**Click* There, much better. The issue here is you. This girl may be materialistic, she may be getting her sense of self from the wrong things, may be investing her time and energy in the wrong things, but this has nothing to do with you. Your life wouldn't be any different, certainly not any better, if she didn't have the things she has or do the things she does.
So, this is about you. Sounds like you're jealous, and that means you essentially value the same things she does, but are frustrated because you don't have them. That indicates that you are getting your sense of self identity from the wrong things. You need to get a better sense of who you are and what makes you a valuable person. You need to learn to be okay with yourself, and that will help you be okay with other people being who they are. This other girl really is only the focal point of your projected sense of inadequacy.
So, what should you do? Zane's suggestion of going to the school counselor is a good place to start. If he or she feels they cannot help you, they will be able to help you find someone who can. You need to have a heart to heart with someone who can help you gain a healthy focus on who you are, what you have to offer, and how you navigate life. right now you are wasting your emotional energy hating this girl. Invest that energy in improving your own person, that will pay dividends far into your future.
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Whoa... Geezers
Whatever you do, Do not go up and tell her that you think she is a bitch, Despite what you see the fact is you don't even know her. You don't know what she's been through, You don't know her at all.
Looks can be deceiving not everyone is what they appear to be. This girl could very well be a nice person and you don't even know it because you are jumping to conclusions. Relax, Sure not everyone is well off as some people but that doesn't mean that we have to go and judge someone because we don't like what we see.
Is it normal? Sure it's normal for people to dislike someone but I really think you have a rage of hate and probably should talk to a school counselor about how you feel as that is generally what they are there for. Other than that I really think you should just chill out stop worrying so much about other people and worry about you.
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