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Where both ready for the "I Do" but..
Well im ready and he tells me that hes ready but he wants to wait until he gets up on his feet, and gets his own place... Ive told him that i dont care if its a ring out of the 50 cent thing but he tells me that " no i want you to have the best you can get" or something along thos lines... Is he just trying to avode it or do you think that he really wants to wait...? All i want is to be able to let other people know that im his and you cant have it... And no this is not the reason that i want him to ask... I truly love him with all my heart and soul... I want to be with him forever and i want to start my forever with him... Sorry it was so long.
USA/F/18
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Your boyfriend is not ready for marriage yet.
Also, He is right. If someone proposes marriage you want to make sure that person is stable and able to provide. The last thing you want is someone to give you a ring that still lives at home with mom and dad and is not independent.
For one, Cheap rings means they would rust, Turn your finger green over time and you have a high chance of the ring breaking. I'm not saying men are cheap sakes, Not at all but what I am saying is at least set yourself some sort of expectation instead of wanting something out of a cracker jack box.
You are being unreasonable and the more you continue to talk about it when your boyfriend is not ready the more you will begin to put pressure on your relationship. Marriage comes with both partners are ready and right now...He is not ready. If you love him as much as you say you do then be patient with him.
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He is not ready. He is telling you that he isn’t ready. He probably does love you and wants to marry you, but he isn’t ready. For him, personally, the ring and the place of his own are an important part of being ready, and you need to respect that. You don't get to define what 'ready' is for him. His idea of what 'ready' means are very important as well.
You need to try to enjoy the life you have together in the place and time you are together now, or else you will doom your future by disrespecting his opinions, his values and his timeline. If you are going to be together forever, then your forever has ALREADY STARTED. Right now. This is your forever happening each day. What you are doing right now, is an important part of your forever. Give this time - and your boyfriend life at this time - the respect it deserves. You are young and preparing for independent life. Let him have some prep time to get to the kind of independent life - with you - that he desires.
It’s okay to want something, but when you are in an equal, loving relationship with another human being, you have to take into consideration what they want too! Right now, you aren’t doing that for your boyfriend even though he has been very clear about what he wants and needs to be able to move forward to the next step.
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i think that its just that he wants to get you what you deserve. guys are loike that so just let him get on his feet and see what happens but if your really doubting that his ready talk to him, ask him if he is ready for this comunacation is the key thing. good luck.
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