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boyfriend broke up with me because he's not ready
I'm 19 and a female and my boyfriend just broke up with me about a week ago and we were together for a year and 3 months and he was telling me that the reason he was breaking up with me is because he's not ready for a serious relationship. What does it mean when a guy tells you this and why would he wait over a year to say this also? I am completely in love with him and he told me so many times how much he loves me but when he broke up with me he said that he doesn't think he's in love with me, but he cares for me and has feelings for me but just not ones to keep the relationship going! Why would it take him over a year to feel like this? Everyone's telling me i have to move on, but I can't it's so hard, I love him so much and he is the only guy that I want to be with, and he always made it seem that way with me, he told me that once we both have enough money that he wants us to get our own place together, and he said that about a month before breaking up with me! Why would he be doing all of this, and then just break up with me out of no where? I thought we were so happy together because he never acted like he didn't want to be with me. He did say that he wants us to be friends, and I told him I would try but I don't want to be just friends with him, I want to be with him! Can anyone please help me because I just don't know what to do?! Thank you!!
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You can be in love with someone and feel like it's not a good fit, that things just don't work well enough to stay together.
I'd say there's a pretty good chance that's where this is coming from. He might also just be afraid of committing, whether that's at all or right now I've no idea though.
Take some time. Tell him that right now you need to not be in contact with him so you can get over him, and that if you think you can be friends or want to be you'll call him when you're ok.
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Many, many men are nowhere near ready to settle down into a serious relationship so early on in their life.
He told you he loved you yet he doesnt want a seriou relationship and this is very possible. A man can love someone but are not ready to commit to them for life or love them yet not enough to sacrifice something like this for them.
It seems that he was genuinely falling for you in the beginning yet after a while realised that while you mean a great deal to him, he was in a relationship with you and was questioning whether this is what he wants with you or anyone at this point of his life. He clearly doesn't want it and he did the right thing. it's better he be honest with you then to commit to you all the while not wanting to be in the relationship. He could hae ended up resenting your relationship and possibly even you.
It seems he came to a point where he felt he had to stop convincing himself that a serious relationship was what he wanted. It is easy to want many good things with a person who you care a lot for in the future and still be in their life yet not wanting to be tied down in order to get it.
Don't doubt how he feels for you. you're clearly someone he cares for and in the time you were together he has experienced a relationship and has clearly spent a lot of time thinking about your relationship, you and working through his feelings and goals for the future. People can change in many ways in a year, especially as they grow into adulthood.
He was honest with you when he knew what he wanted from your relationship and his life, he's still keen to have you in his life and he's told you that he loves you even if he isn't IN love with you. There arent that many guys who would have been so considerate.
It's entirely up to you and whether you feel you're able to move past this and love him as a friend, value the time you did spend together and keep him in your life or whether you want to move on from the entire experience, learn from it and cut him from your life. He has made it clear where he stands and now you do too.
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(when he broke up with me he said that he doesn't think he's in love with me
From what you said right there it sounds like he was trying to go about it the easy route. It sounds like he may of lost his feelings for you over time or possibly developed feelings for another person.
The best way to move on from a relationship is to learn to accept, Break ups are never easy but as hard as it is try and look at it as a learning experience. I have been down this road before I know it isn't easy and I know the road of depression all too well. Keep yourself busy, Spend time with family and friends and be social. Now also on a personal note, Do you really think it would be a good idea to remain friends with him?...
I feel the best thing to do would be to cut contact all together as he ended up the relationship with you, Break ups take time to overcome as we all go through the grieving process. Friendship may prolong the pain and eventually cause a bit of stress between the two of you. Also, I really don't think anyone who breaks up with someone deserves a friendship.
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