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I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.












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hi im going to beach in 2 weeks with my friend and she has no clue ive ever got my period and she hast got hers and shes that kind of person whos shy and stuff im going to the beach with her in 2 weeks but i cant go in the water with my period and im to scared to use a tampon what should i do and also her mom knows i have gotten my period before but im still to shy to tell her mom and also will my period end by the time i go to the beach im just concerned!!!!! thanks so much please answer



Hun,


Most periods don't last 2 weeks, That is a very long time for a period to last. In most cases they last no more than a week. Unless you have a serious medical condition you should have nothing to worry about. Relax


Also for future references never wear a tampon in salt water, Salt water carries sand, Seaweed and you don't want to risk getting anything stuck and clogged up there. Never wear anything like that if you are going to the beach or a pool it will end up soggy, wet and uncomfortable. If you have your period when you are going to the beach try slipping on some dark shorts so nobody will notice. Just relax, You will have a great time!

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I've had the same hair style for years now, and I'm looking for a way to spice it up.

Here's a (kinda bad) picture of me.

I have long auburn hair that is naturally slightly wavy and straigthens/holds curl pretty well. I have long layers and long side bangs.

Any ideas?

I've considered blonde highlights for summer, do you think this would look good on me?

I'm not sure if I want to go short, but I really love this hairstyle. Do you think I could pull it off?


I appreciate any advice or tips! Thanks!



I'd go with a bleach blonde or try the blonde highlights.


If you are looking for a new cut, Maybe a bob look? I'm not sure what you like but I think bob cuts look really sophisticated on women. Try something different that you normally wouldn't do everyone could use a change from time to time.

However, I would maybe lighten your hair up a little bit.

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okay so I'm a 13 yearold girl and i know it's normal to have acne and I don't have a lot like some people do but I have some pimples. what some good acne cleaners that actually work? thanks for all your help, I really appreciate it:)



Pro active is supposed to be a wonderful product and it's about 20 bucks.

Also, Another thing that helps is to wash your face daily with warm water, If you don't take fish oil pills I highly recommend looking into it or anything with omega 3.


There are cheap products at Walmart and one I recommend checking out is Aveeno. They make a fash wash product and it worked great for me during my teenage years. Avoid greasy foods and makeup

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i'm 17, i'm gay.

i had sex with a 40 year old guy,
working overseas
it was my first time.

now STD scares me.



I would start using condoms, Sure condoms don't always protect against STD but it does the job a hell lot better rather if you didn't.


If it makes you feel better, Schedule an appointment with the doctor and get checked out.

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now this isn't as scary as it seems i'm 22 and my bf is 25 so we are both adults. we just found out we are expecting. its a bit of a surprise but we are very excited. there is only one problem my family. i'm sure his family will be okay with it but our familys are very different. his family are very close while mine is not. since we are not married i'm scared that my parents will be upset with us even cause a fight. i'm very emotional about it and my bf keeps telling me to calm down since the stress isn't good for the baby. i'm scared and really have no one to ask about this sice only my bf and i know about the baby right now. i'm really nervous any advice on how to break the news to my parents without tears being involved. some extra information my bf and i live together for 8 months and been together for more than a year. thank you



You and your boyfriend are both adults, Whom have been together for quiet awhile and lived together for over 6 months.


Personally, I really fail to see where things could possibly go wrong.

The person below me is correct, Sometimes there is no easy way to bring it up especially with someone who is old fashion and agrees with marriage before starting a family.

Now let me point you to reality as you probably already know..

It is 2011, Rarely anyone waits until they are 22 years old and have their own place. Hell, Half of the people out there today don't even wait a year into their relationship and here no matter what the circumstances turn out too be you and your boyfriend did the RIGHT thing. You waited until you were independent and on your own and nobody can take that away from you. Another thing hun, Is sometimes parents don't always agree with the choices their kids make but in the long run somewhere down the line they will come too terms and learn to accept that it is what it is. Your boyfriend is right, You need to relax and calm down. There are many people out there who are in worst situations as you. If you feel more comfortable you and your boyfriend can sit down and both discuss this with your parents. You are of legal age now where you can make your own choices, Nobody can force you to do something you don't want too. If you also need too you can find support groups where people will support you throughout the pregnancy.

Happy parenting and congratulations!

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I am 14 years old. I know for a fact i am not pregnant because i have never had sex before. I have missed my period the last 3 months. The longest ive ever missed it was 2 months. I have been stressed out latley and i do get nervouse when it does not come around. Could it be that i will never get it again and somethings wrong with me? i would rather not go to the doctor, i am very shy and do not like to talk about these things. Also the last time i got my period was the first time i used a tampon. Someone please help.



Make an appointment with your gynecologist, Nobody here on this site can give you a diagnosis as we are not doctors. However, Stress can cause your period to delay but 3 months is a bit long to go.

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i don't know why?
i've been here for almost half a year
i tried to get use to them... but it's really annoying!!!




Many people are social fanatics, Likely your neighbors are looking over in hopes of you talking to them one day.

I've been living where I am now a little over a year and half. I live in an apartment building with 12 units and believe me when I tell you..I've only attempted to talk to one person.

I'm not exactly what you'd call a social butterfly, If you don't feel comfortable having a discussion or getting to know your neighbors then that is perfectly fine too. Nobody is forcing you to go out of your comfort zone but on the other hand you would have to live with them trying to study you. You don't have to get to "know" them personally if you don't want too but at least smile and say hello. Try and be friendly and it should ease up in time.

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17/f
My brother just said I was a slut because he saw the hickey on my neck.
I made out with this guy, he's one of my friends and I've liked him for over a year. We like each other and stuff but aren't dating, he's 19 though, which is why we aren't dating and are planning to wait.
Does it make me a slut for making out with him? It's not like I'm doing this with every random guy right?

Then my friend told me I wasn't a slut, I would have been if I had sex with him.
Does that mean if I had sex with him it would have made me a slut?

I know this isn't really a big deal but it kinda bothers me so I might as well get people's opinions on it.



My answer is going to be slightly different then the others.

Having a hickey on your neck does not make you a slut but in my personal opinion I do find it sort of gross when someone has a hickey where everyone can see it.


If you were to have sex with someone of age 19, In many states that would be considered statutory rape because you are not legally an adult. So, It is smart of you too wait.

If you were to have sex with this man when you are 18, No this doesn't make you a slut.

The definition of slut, Often means sleeping around with many men, A slut is often related to someone who is "loose" and gets around.

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I am a collegiate athlete and have been on my team for three years. I have always had a solid relationship with my coach and my teammates have commented randomly that they can tell my coach tends to have her favorites and that I'm definitely one of them. She does a good job of making everyone feel included and important to the team, but there are some people who she has gotten to know more. Over the last few weeks, however, she's been unhappy with me.

She told me in front of a couple other teammates (outside of the team context, though, so not during practice) that I look like a bitch sometimes. I think she realized she stepped the line because she clarified that I just don't tend to smile all the time. It took me aback.

There were other instances, but mainly it was just abrupt interactions with her. We're out for the summer, and never resolved anything (although honestly I don't know what could've been done, other than surprising her with a "you make me feel bad" conversation).

I suppose I could've formulated this question better. A part of me wants someone to tell me that I'm not a bad teammate/person and that my coach was out of line. But really what I want and need to know is how to deal with this situation. It's made me question myself and I feel so raw and full of self-doubt.

Thanks for any input!



Your coach was out of line, If something bothered her she should of found another ways of putting it too words. Calling one of her students a "bitch" or implying that you are one is highly inappropriate and could cause the coach her job.

If your coach continues to harass you I would definitely look into reporting her actions. It is not appropriate to treat anyone unfairly because you not "smiling" makes her unhappy. She is glad I'm not on the team because I also never smile now does that make me a bitch?..No, I just again never smile.

You be yourself don't let others behavior and actions define who you are, but I do suggest reporting her the next time she pulls such a stunt.

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2 days ago i was at my boyfriends house (we r both 18 and have been together for 2 years) and he was studying for some upcoming test. I was getting bored so I started talking to him asking him questions like "how is the studying going" etc. I didn't mean to get on his nerves and I didn't know I was annoying him. Then all of a sudden he just snapped saying "SHUT UP B****" and pinned me on the wall and was about to punch me but at the last second moved his hand and punched the wall instead leaving a hole in the wall.

I was scared and I felt the tears coming but I don't like him to see me cry so I told him "maybe I should leave so I dont interfere with his studying,and I didn't mean to make u mad." So I left and when I got home I just went to bed crying and like 15 minutes later he knocked on my door and was apologizing saying "he was just stressed out, I wasn't the reason why he got mad and he would never treat me like that and he was just really stressed and he loves me so much and doesn't want to lose me etc." he gave me flowers Chocolates and a stuffed bear and the apologizing went on for about 30 minutes and I did eventually forgive him because I feel that if I wasn't bothering him he wouldn't have done that and he's normally a very calm person. But now i'm so scared of him, I don't know why but now he just scares me and I'm always nervous around him. I don't know if I made the right choice forgiving him or if I made the wrong choice



I agree with both Siren and Voice

You need to get out, You have received your first warning.

I am also a survivor of domestic violence, I was in a relationship for 5 years before I decided the hell with it.

Abusers have many excuses but there is NO excuse for laying a hand on someone, "Almost hitting them" or pinning them up against a wall. It is completely 100% unacceptable.

Guess what, I've been pushed down a flight of stairs, Had things thrown at me, Punched, Slapped and also pinned up against a wall and one of the reasons just so happened to be "He was stressed about his college" You know what else? ......That was just the beginning.

Your boyfriend has serious anger issues, His apology is his way of trying to get you to become sympathetic and forgiving. Don't fall for it, Forgiving in my last relationship ended me with a black eye and in the hospital.

Realize you are better and that you deserve better, Nobody deserves to be treated poorly not even in the most stressful of situations. If somebody truly loved you they would appreciate everything about you and would never think about hurting you.

My question is, You don't want to break up with him because you don't like seeing him in pain but yet it is okay for him to cause you and see you pain? NO, It is NOT okay. You deserve much better than that. Hopefully you will see that soon

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Well i'm 22 and i've been with my bf for 2 years. I've always been insecure. Anyways my problem is that when we first started dating my friends wanted to meet him, so i introduced them to him. One of my friends then introduced him to one of my ex gf's (i'm bi by the way). Now long story short about me and my ex gf is that she cheated on me so i dumped her and never had anycontact with her sense i broke up with her. Anyways I was not around when my friend introduced him to my ex gf. So when i found out he was talking to her I started being insecure and scaed that he would cheat of me with her.

My bf constantly tells her our problems and when we fight (which is alot of the time) and she constantly butts in when he tells her whats going on in our relationship. I told him about it one time that he needs to shut his mouth because and none of her god damn busniess what we fight about or anything else for that matter, and his answer was "well i needed someone to talk to about us" Told him sure he could tell someone like one of his guy friends or something but NOT my ex gf. But he said he'll tell anyone he pleases which got me mad at him for a while. She gives him advice about us, which she has no right to because she always cheats on anyone she's with and as so many bf's and gf's at one time.

He told me yesterday that he was talking to her AGAIN for the second or third time this week, he told me that she called him baby. I'm not upset about that i'm just upset that she'll make moves on him and he'll go for it and cheat on me with her (onless she already has made moves on him and he hasn't told me about it).
Am i over reacting or do i have every right to be scared that there's a chance that he'll cheat on me with her?

Any advice on what I should do?




Get out


Your boyfriend has crossed the line, Relationships should be kept private and worked out with your partner unless you need to confront a therapist or someone you both agree to see and talk too. Your boyfriend is disrespecting you, He is exposing your relationship openly to someone you previously dated. Needing someone to talk too is one thing but there is a fine line about having a big mouth and letting just anyone into your problems. My advice, Dump him. Find someone who will respect the privacy of your relationship and will respect you cause frankly your boyfriend has a big mouth.

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So I've been with the same man for almost 2 years now, we've known each other for about 3. I do love him, but honestly, I'm getting bored. I've seriously thought about it and I've almost left him a few times. The thing that stops me is the fact that I could never get him back and my fear of being alone. So what should I do? I'm not sure if this is something I should talk to him about or maybe just something I need to decide on my own.


Any help appreciated!



Each relationship is an experience, Some work out and others don't.

If you feel there is nothing left in the relationship then it is time to move on and find someone new. It is unfair to lead someone on in a relationship because you don't want to be alone. If you are no longer committed then you should be honest about it.

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what does eating out a girl taste like? Ive always heard that it smells weird and tastes bad. Is this true?



Dude I'll be honest


If you have really bad gag reflex, pass on the pussy eating.


There is a fact...Women smell of either chicken, fish or body odor.


Take the pass card and go another route

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I don't have a vibrator and icant buy one. What is a good way to masturbate using vibrations? Like hat can I use instead of a vibrator that vibrates? 14/f



I'm not really sure what you can use that vibrates but most places that sell adult toys require you to be at least 18 and they ask for ID's.

The only way I could possibly think of is to have an open discussion about sex with your mother or someone you feel comfortable talking with. I know it's extremely awkward but I think your Mom would rather that then you having sex at your age.

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M a 21 female,wit a 28 yr old guy,we r in a relationshp bt we can'nt even see each other for a month although we r lyk few stps away from each other jst separated by one floor..i love the guy but he does'nt treat me special,he never bought anythng for me even on da 14th of FREB whch is a speacial day lovers bt he did'nt bother...we do have sex and he even wants for more evrytym durin our intimancy,. Does he love and care about me?? kindly help me..??




It sounds like the guy is all about sex, Not commitment. Honestly, I think you'd be better off if you completely cut the contact and stopped seeing him. This guy is using you, He wants sex it's that simple.

Stop sleeping with him, Stop seeing him. If you don't want to be a bootycall then find someone who will appreciate you for who you are and be more sensitive to your feelings. Screw this asshole

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im 17 years old and a guy. I realy want to have sex. I know this might seem like a really stupid question, but how do i get sex? Can you get a hooker if you are under 18?

No you cannot


You are a minor

Hookers, Escorts, Prostitutes are all illegal and if caught you can be charged with numerous crimes.


Masturbation is your best bet in the meantime, Sorry but until you have a stable girlfriend whom you've dated for a couple months.......There really is no other option.

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i get very angry when my 2 kids fights and when i dont get what i want i always hit my kids why?



You didn't give a whole lot of detail but from what you've written, You need anger management classes.


Hitting your children is child abuse even if you think it's just discipline. It's not acceptable

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Hey :B I'm in eighth grade and 14.

Last week, I was at my friend Emily's house and her little brother had his friends over. Amongst them was a 12-year-old boy called Cody in 5th grade. He was really cute, the kind of kid you KNOW will be hot when he gets older ;)

So later that day, he added me on Facebook and has not stopped talking to me since. He goes to my school, and I see him around sometimes but there's no time to stop and talk.
I'm not trying to sound full of myself or anything, but I think that he has a crush on me? Because

- he always starts the conversation first
- at school if he sees me, he smiles and waves
- on Facebook, if I ask him a question, he's always like, "oh, I'll tell you tomorrow if I see you"
- if I don't see him at school one day, he messages me, "i didn't see you today :( "
- he told me that he had been held back a year in kindergarten and how he's supposed to be in sixth grade, and how sixth grade and eighth grade arent really that much of a difference :>
- He asked me to go over to Emily's house again one day so that he could meet me there
- he asked me if I was busy this weekend and if I could go to our school baseball game to watch him play
- if there's an awkward pause in the conversation, he's the one who goes , "soo, whats up?" come on talk!"

It's really cute and sweet and all. I think I may be starting to like him as well:/ I'm always thinking about him, the song that he told me was his favorite soon became my favorite, and I'm online more often in hopes that he'll come online :P

But it's just wierd dating a kid like, three grades down and I just, I dont know. I'm confused:/ What should I do from here?



At 11, This kid has either barley or has not even hit puberty.


Razhie is right, You shouldn't date him.


Although you are 3 years apart in age, This kid is only 11 years old. While you are early in your teen years he still has another 2 years to go.

While he is just hitting 7th grade you are soon to be entering High School. High school is MUCH different then junior high.

My best advise, Find someone in your age group not someone who is pre pubescent.

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here is the situation me and my girlfriend having oral, i had pre ejaculation outside vagina but i have just touched my penis to outside of her vagina , we both are virgin,can she be pregnant with that



It's possible


If you want to prevent pregnancy then you should take all precautions. Use a condom and be safe


Just because your penis was not inside her, Does not mean there is no chance of pregnancy. Something as little as precum can do the trick. Nothing is ever 100%

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I had sex with this girl who i was seening. We had sex for the first time on jan 29th 2011.
We also had sex on feb 5th and 6th.
She was seeing another guy for long time before i knew her.

She called and said she is 16 weeks pregant as of June 1st.
She said there are many days in between her periods longer than normal way over 30 days.

I know by taking the dna test i will know but my attorney said to wait till the baby is born for legal reasons but i want to move on and find out now.
If someone can help it would be appreciated
She is trying to figure out who is the father she thinks it could be me or the other guy.

I counted the weeks back and figured week 1 was Feb 14th 2011.

How many weeks do you back before Feb 14th to find out who could be the daddy?

Any feedback would be appreciated.


Wait until the baby is born, Once the baby is born you can request a DNA test.

When the baby is born, It can be done

If the mother wants to find out whether the baby is yours or not and is willing to take the DNA test then you can going from there.

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