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scared he will cheat with my female ex now that they are friends!
Well i'm 22 and i've been with my bf for 2 years. I've always been insecure. Anyways my problem is that when we first started dating my friends wanted to meet him, so i introduced them to him. One of my friends then introduced him to one of my ex gf's (i'm bi by the way). Now long story short about me and my ex gf is that she cheated on me so i dumped her and never had anycontact with her sense i broke up with her. Anyways I was not around when my friend introduced him to my ex gf. So when i found out he was talking to her I started being insecure and scaed that he would cheat of me with her.
My bf constantly tells her our problems and when we fight (which is alot of the time) and she constantly butts in when he tells her whats going on in our relationship. I told him about it one time that he needs to shut his mouth because and none of her god damn busniess what we fight about or anything else for that matter, and his answer was "well i needed someone to talk to about us" Told him sure he could tell someone like one of his guy friends or something but NOT my ex gf. But he said he'll tell anyone he pleases which got me mad at him for a while. She gives him advice about us, which she has no right to because she always cheats on anyone she's with and as so many bf's and gf's at one time.
He told me yesterday that he was talking to her AGAIN for the second or third time this week, he told me that she called him baby. I'm not upset about that i'm just upset that she'll make moves on him and he'll go for it and cheat on me with her (onless she already has made moves on him and he hasn't told me about it).
Am i over reacting or do i have every right to be scared that there's a chance that he'll cheat on me with her?
Any advice on what I should do?
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Your boyfriend has crossed the line, Relationships should be kept private and worked out with your partner unless you need to confront a therapist or someone you both agree to see and talk too. Your boyfriend is disrespecting you, He is exposing your relationship openly to someone you previously dated. Needing someone to talk too is one thing but there is a fine line about having a big mouth and letting just anyone into your problems. My advice, Dump him. Find someone who will respect the privacy of your relationship and will respect you cause frankly your boyfriend has a big mouth.
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What is keeping you in such a dysfunctional relationship? You a drama vampire or something? Simplify your life and leave him and then find a boyfriend who has better defined boundaries.
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No you're not overreacting. That situation is ridiculous and he is disrespecting you. But at 22, you kind of hang around losers not realizing there's so much more out there. All of those people around you suck. And you should realize that you can have nice people around you that you can trust and enjoy being around. If you have to watch your back all the time, you will regret wasting these years of your life with these people.
Do yourself a favor. If there's any other state you thought about living in, or something you wanted to study or a job you wanted to try doing in your life, please do so right now. If you and your guy are arguing all the time and he's talking to your ex about it, it's just highly disrespectful and nonsensical. If your ex were a man, would he be doing the same thing? No, because he's a chump. I know you might not believe me now, but he is.
Trust me when I tell you, there are great people out there for you to date, and you should not waste time with people that make you feel unhappy. There's just no need for it. The world has far too much to offer. And when you meet someone great, you're going to be like, I can't believe I stayed around those jerks for 5 years dealing with that uncomfortable situation.
Try Eharmony. They match you based on compatibility. You will probably find happiness there.
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