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He's younger than me and I think he likes me :S
Hey :B I'm in eighth grade and 14.
Last week, I was at my friend Emily's house and her little brother had his friends over. Amongst them was a 12-year-old boy called Cody in 5th grade. He was really cute, the kind of kid you KNOW will be hot when he gets older ;)
So later that day, he added me on Facebook and has not stopped talking to me since. He goes to my school, and I see him around sometimes but there's no time to stop and talk.
I'm not trying to sound full of myself or anything, but I think that he has a crush on me? Because
- he always starts the conversation first
- at school if he sees me, he smiles and waves
- on Facebook, if I ask him a question, he's always like, "oh, I'll tell you tomorrow if I see you"
- if I don't see him at school one day, he messages me, "i didn't see you today :( "
- he told me that he had been held back a year in kindergarten and how he's supposed to be in sixth grade, and how sixth grade and eighth grade arent really that much of a difference :>
- He asked me to go over to Emily's house again one day so that he could meet me there
- he asked me if I was busy this weekend and if I could go to our school baseball game to watch him play
- if there's an awkward pause in the conversation, he's the one who goes , "soo, whats up?" come on talk!"
It's really cute and sweet and all. I think I may be starting to like him as well:/ I'm always thinking about him, the song that he told me was his favorite soon became my favorite, and I'm online more often in hopes that he'll come online :P
But it's just wierd dating a kid like, three grades down and I just, I dont know. I'm confused:/ What should I do from here?
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There is a HUGE maturity gap between a 14 year old and an 11 year old. And it will widen as you move into high school. So any relationship between you two will be doomed.
The legal stuff another commenter brought up can be tricky. America is so panicky about sex that they sometimes this country loses all sense of reason.
So do yourself a favor and give his overtures a miss.
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well considering that your 14 and he is 12 isnt that bad. but he is in 5th grade and you are in 8th. think back to when you were in 5th gradee. think about how young everyone looked compared to how mature they are now. and not that anyones opinion counts, but wont you be embarressed to say your dating a 5th grader meanwhile your in 8th? i wouldnt do it...or at the least wait a few years. you will find yourself in a lot of trouble if you date him. (he is also to young to relize what a relationship is, odds that it would last long would be slim)
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Dear "he's two years younger, he likes me, what should I do?"
I have to admit, when I first read your question; I couldn't help but smile because this is a classic case of a 12 year old boy crushing on an older girl. Happens all the time!
There are several issues here but one of the main ones you need to focus on is, you start high school after summer right? Well the 9th grade. You need to look at it from that perspective. While your starting your young adult life and braving the chapters of high school. Your boy crush will be starting his pre-teen life in middle school.
It isn't so wrong that your crushing on this kid, after all he sounds like a total heartbreaker but let's take a look at something current; How many grown women wish they could be with Justin Bieber? The answer, TOO MANY! LOL So it's not so uncommon for an older girl to crush on a younger boy.
BUT you said it yourself "it's just weird dating a KID" and "KID" is the key word here. My advice to you is to not take it to that next step until he is at least in high school with you. That's a long time from now right? Which is exactly why you shouldn't go for him. Your branching into a whole new level of life. After school activities, new trends, new clicks, the famous "Am I too cool to ride the bus now?" question, and of course. New but guys. Who will be your age and in your category of maturity. Just a little imagery. You really wouldn't want to be seen hold hands with a 12 year old at the movies would you?
So take some time to yourself and really think about what I told you. Not that this kid doesn't deserve a chance but he is way too young to even be dating anyway. At least to be dating a high school girl.
Hope this helped,
Braylen
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iThink you shouldnt date him because you are going to want to keep seeing him because youre dating him so while youre in highschool he's still in middle school , its more like a long distance relationship , dnt go for it but then again follow your heart .
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At 11, This kid has either barley or has not even hit puberty.
Razhie is right, You shouldn't date him.
Although you are 3 years apart in age, This kid is only 11 years old. While you are early in your teen years he still has another 2 years to go.
While he is just hitting 7th grade you are soon to be entering High School. High school is MUCH different then junior high.
My best advise, Find someone in your age group not someone who is pre pubescent.
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You should tell him he is sweet, but that you can't date him.
'Cause ya shouldn’t. In many states he is so young or your age difference is great enough, that there are laws against you having any sexual contact with him (and some states are vicious enough to view hand holding and kissing as sexual contact). It’s not criminal behavoir, but there are laws that are empowered to separate you.
The larger reason is that even though he is talking a good game - he isn't at the same place in life as you are. It’s not possible for him to be. It's the same thing I tell 16 year old girls who want to date 20 year old guys - or 20 year old guys who want to date 16 year olds girls. Just because the younger person knows the right things to say, doesn't mean they are ready for the actions beyond the words. Just because they talk like they are in the same place in life as you are (TV teaches us the scripts when we are very young) doesn’t mean they are. They can’t be. There are very real differences in lifestyle and expectations. You cannot be equal peers.
The difference between 5th grade and 8th grade IS huge. Regardless of what either of you feel - that’s a like trying to have romance with the grand canyon between you. It’s a huge gap in knowledge and experience. The gap between high school and grade school will feel even bigger. That gap isn’t even going to begin to close until your late teens - at the earliest. When you have similar lifestyles at school are both well into your teens, two or three years won’t feel like quite so much. Right now, three years might as well be ten years.
There is nothing wrong with liking him - obviously he likes you too. But you are going to have take a deep breath and as the older person here, take the responsibility of not letting this get out of hand. It’s a very risky thing for you both emotionally, and could even be risky for you legally. Moving beyond a friendly crush is extremely unlikely to be a healthy situation for either of you.
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Be aware that if you don't have time to stop and talk to him, how much do you really know about him then?, what do you actually like about him? Age is just a number but be aware that there may be differences when it comes to maturity but then again there may not. I'd get to know him more and speak to him more often in real life before you confess any feelings you may have. Get to know eachother. My boyfriend is younger than me and we have been going solid for nearly two years now. Just be prepared for any bitchiness from girls around you, because there will be.
Good luck.
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