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I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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my attitude depends on the kind of people getting along with me or people i get along with...
but sometimes it irritates me and just thought
"why do i have to be not myself when dealing with these people? what will i get for faking myself...?
i'm tired faking my smile and holding back my thoughts and my real feelings. why can't i just be myself?"
what should i do?
-17 male, asian
There is a difference between being yourself and simply being polite, You don't have to like someone to be polite.
If you are talking about hanging around someone whom you feel you need to pretend to be someone you are not then just start being yourself more. If someone can't appreciate you for who you are then that would be their problem. Nobody should have to pretend to be someone they are not to make someone else happy.
There will be times in your life where you will just have to deal with people you don't get along with. (Example: School/Coworkers etc.) This is just a part of life, We can't avoid people forever. Even so, This shouldn't keep you from being yourself but someone like your boss would be someone whom you want to try and get along with.
Okay, so I'm a 15 year old male. Over the past year and a half I've undergone somewhat extreme changes. (To me at least) So I've been feeling depressed, lonely, and very puzzled for a while. I can't talk to girls like I used to, I've lost interest in a lot of things too. I was reading up on how dopamine works. I have a bad porn addiction. Not just regular, transexual and scat too. I think that this is what is causing my depression. I haven't been myself for a long long time. I think that being aroused by this extreme stuff is causing me to lose interest in things. With dopamine and the early exposure, is it possible to reverse any of this? Is there any hope? I feel slightly better now that I've discovered this. But its still a long journey. The real me is open minded, optimistic, social, wierd & crazy (In a good way) And I miss it.
If you have a problem then you need to seek some sort of counseling for it, Addiction can be helped but only with taking the proper steps.
Recognizing that you have a problem is the first step, It is normal for people to look at porn but if you are over doing it then you should try and find other things to do during your free time.
Therapy and Counseling is my best advise
Hi, i'm 13 years old and have wanted a piercing for about 2 years now.My guardians have said i have to wait until i'm 13.And i was wondering if anyone knew of any places near Muskegon MI that will do a tongue piercing?
I'm going to be fully honest
I worked at a tattoo parlor about 4 years ago, We would not pierce anyone under the age of 18. We ask for a licence and to sign an agreement form stating that you understand if anything goes wrong we will not be held responsible.
Now on the other hand, Some parlors will make an exception if you are 16 or older under a guardians consent and even so that is hard to find because the legal age is technically 18
Not many parlors will pierce someone who is 13 even if you have a guardians consent.....so basically good luck with that one.
My child wrote all over my sofa while my babysitter was on a social network website. The sofa cannot be cleaned because it is chenille. What do I do?
If you hired someone to care for a child, It is their responsibility to look after that child.
This babysitter was on the computer during this time while the child was in her care then she should be responsible for the damages that were made while she was babysitting.
This is vandalism and may need to be taken to court.
i am a male from pakistani want to fuck my mom she is really very sexy having large boobs
That is just disgusting
A friend of mine has asked to meet a cousin of his GF, shes 17 and im 29... We both are ohio residents.
Im afraid to even meet her for something that might not be legal.
Please advice if i should say yes or no, with legal considerations about age of consent in OHIO...
She is 17, She is still a minor.
It will not be consent until she reaches 18 years of age, She is still legally a child. If you two want a relationship then wait until she is legally an adult.
Personally, This person is very young and at the age of 29 you are a lot more experienced in life. Why would you be looking at a girl of age 17????
I've never told anyone this, but when i was younger, like from when i was age 5 to age 11, my cousin would molest me.
i just feel like i dont want to keep it bottled up anymore but i'd feel embarrassed and ashamed to tell anyone.I think it will probally rip my family apart because Im really close to my aunt which is my cousins mom. And I dont think anyone will believe me. I think I'll feel bad forever if I say something.
I think my family will hate me if they think IM lying
It is NEVER to late to let someone know that someone abused you, It is also nothing to ever feel embarrassed about. Your cousin took advantage of you and someone needs to know that.
Sit down and tell your mother, If you feel more comfortable then sit down alone with her and inform her that there is something you need to let out. After you discuss this with your family, Seek therapy. Therapy is the best thing and helps people cope and overcome things. NEVER feel embarrassed or guilty your cousin is 100% wrong and you should not let him get away with it. If it needs to be taken to court so be it.
is it normal to have cramps so bad that you start throwin up. female/17
If you are talking about menstrual cramps, Yes
Okaay , so im a 12 year old girl and i dont have my PERIOD YET.So I got a tampon and took out the plastic and just got the cotton and string i put the cotton in and just left the string out for like 3 or 4 minutes and took it out but it didn't hurt am i at risk of yeast infection please help!
Your fine
If you wear a tampon make sure you change it frequently, Also NEVER pee when a tampon is still inside. Urinating when a tampon is inside can cause infections and increase your chances for a bladder infection. Always make sure you take it out first
I made a question before about changing my first and last name, I looked into it and i can change my name with no parental input when I'm 16. There is this thing called a UK Deed Poll that can change your names and has loads of people already used it, It also doesn't say anything about it being thousands of pounds from what I've read. Can anyone give me a heads up or something about a Deed Poll because it looks cheap so I'm slightly confused. Thanks!
I'm going to rephrase my last answer because you misunderstood
It isn't thousands of dollars to change your name along, The money process comes when you change your social security, licence, birth certificate and any other sort of identification. This is where it gets costly not by simply changing your name alone.
If a guy comes inside your butt can you get pregnant?
It's possible
If the sperm comes to contact with the vagina or near the vagina, There is always a change of pregnancy.
I've been out of school for about a month, and since I've been home for the summer, I've hardly ever left the house. I go to bed around 1 or 2 AM and often don't get out of bed until 1 or 2 PM even if I wake up at 11 or 12. I feel useless and depressed since I don't have anything to do during the day, which is why I stay in bed after I'm awake. I don't want to start my day at 3PM anymore, but I don't know how to fix my sleep schedule so I can be up by at least 10. Has anyone experienced this kind of problem before who can offer solutions?
Set yourself a sleeping schedule
If you go to bed around 1 or 2, That is the problem
Go to bed at 10:30 or 11, If you have been off a sleeping schedule for awhile then you will need too gradually work your way back to a normal sleeping pattern. I personally need no less than 9 hours of sleep, I go to bed around 12 and I wake up for 9 on the weekends. During the week, I wake up at 5am.
People with depression have a more harder time waking up and they often require more sleep. Stay away from any sort of greasy foods because it is found in many studies that greasy foods often put a drag on depression. Try and eat healthy and exercise. If you find your schedule to be boring during the day then try and take up some volunteer work somewhere.
My boyfriend says that we haven't been together long enough to be married and I don't understand. He and i met each other when i was 16 and he was 17. He always told me that once we graduated from college that we could get married. We were in programs in college that didn't allow us to get married or we'd get kicked out. Now that I'm 23 and he's 24. He still hasn't proposed after 7 years.After all of the family christmases, sex and 'i love you's'... It hurts. Do you think we haven't been together long enough?
Seven years is more than enough time, In fact you would think after all these years you two would at least discuss the topic. You must really love this man to stick around because I don't know many people that would this long.
Your boyfriend could just simply be afraid of long term commitment, Talk to him. If you two have been dating this long then it shouldn't be a problem discussing it. Tell him you want to take things to the next level and you feel you two are ready. See what he says and how he reacts.
Why is my period blood light brown?
Periods are different for everyone
Sometimes when a period is coming it brings on some discharge, Discharge can be light brownish color, sometimes a white clear color.
It is normal
Also, It could be just dried up old blood or your period could be coming. Many reasons why
If you aren't experiencing pain or a foul smell then you shouldn't worry too much. Women need to clean out sometimes and this is normal. :)
i am looking for a pet name for my husband. his name is Parfait like Perfect
I'm going to be a little blunt
You are a married women wanting to give your husband a pet name?......
Perhaps I never understood the whole pet naming thing but I find it awfully childish.
My boyfriend and I get invited to the same parties, and he tells me that he doesn't want me there, so I don't go (even though i really want to), and he does go. When i say that i am going to a party he is also invited to, he will say he doesn't want to go. Should i take a hint from this or not? It just makes me feel like he doesn't want to spend time with me. Also, we have gone to parties together and it was fine, so?
Take a hint
What is a party? Think about it...
A party is where many people go, They drink and often get drunk. A party is also where a lot of single guys go to meet up with girls.
You are his girlfriend, You were also invited to these "parties" and he doesn't want you to go? I can understand if your boyfriend wanted space and spend a day doing guy things with his buddies but going to a party alone sounds very suspicious.
It isn't right, Your boyfriend cannot tell you want too do. This guy does not own you and he certainly doesn't control you but to be honest I think you may need to move on.
EDIT: Well, Then don't ask questions if you don't want to hear the truth. If you want to be cheated on then so be it.
15/f
Next year I will be leaving high school and have the chance to start a new when I head to college. I've wanted to change my name for ages now, my surname is embarrassing and I hate my forename. I know new people I meet wont be phased but I'm worried that my girlfriend won't like me anymore. She says that I suite the name I want and that she wouldn't be bothered. And she has called me by my name I want more than my real name and I've pointed this out. But I keep thinking she wont like me or she will hold a grudge against me. I want to change my name to a more boy name because I do think I was born a boy in a chicks body and I've already spoken to her about that. But I wanted to change my name to Kai which can also be used as a girls name. I know that I will have to do paperwork but I was going to get a name change thing instead of going to my school prom since I dont want to. So I guess i just wanted to know what I should do about this. Advice about my gf and whatnot.
Thanks!
I may not be the best of help with this one but I'll try and give you information on what I already know...
Each state is different with the name changing, I know I have looked into changing my name in the past because I didn't want to have my fathers last name. Changing your name cost thousands of dollars and often has to be approved by a judge. Social Security has to be changed, birth certificates, licence etc. There is soooo much paperwork to be done and it all doesn't come free. If you really think it is worth the hassle then you can start by going to a courthouse and obtaining the proper paperwork but it is not a cheap process and it is costly. I never went through with it because no matter if I changed my name that doesn't mean I am no longer who I was 2 years ago.
Hi! Im Gracie and Im 13 years old. I have an older brother named Matt(16) and a twin sister called (Lissa). Our dad is a single parent. Hes 36, he and my mom had kids really young. Hes 2 years older than mom. Dad says my mom had depression, I think it was Post Partnum depression. Anyway, My mom left a few months after we were born. Me and Lissa were 8 wks early so we had to stay in the hospital longer than most babies. Mom left a few months after we got out. The thing is, Ive been feelin a little upset lately and Ive been thinkin about my mom alot. I love my dad, he's the best dad in the world but I really wish my mom were around. Dad doesnt get things like boys and periods and hair and make-up. Its embarassing when I have to talk to my friends mom about periods and what to take for pain and its kinda annoying when I have to come on this website and ask people I dont even know about things that my mom should have been here to tell me (although I am grateful for the advice everyone here on advicenators give me, I didnt mean to be offensive guys). I just see other girls with their moms hanging out or going to school stuff and its not fair. Everyone tells me that I shouldnt get upset about something I cant change, but I cant help it. I try to get over it but I cant. Its stupid but I miss my mom even though I never got to know her. I guess I want to know how to stop feeling so bad about my mom, and how to get over it? Ive spent my whole life thinking about my mom and how great it would be if she came home and how awesome it would be to have a mom around like all my friends do. But Im soo sick of thinking about stuff that'll never happen but I STILL cant stop wondering, why did she leave? Why didnt she love me enough to stay? I really wanna forget about it, and stop caring because If she cared about me at all she would be here,right? Anyway, sorry for rambling and venting soo much, I sound pathetic lol. Any advice?
I am not exactly in your shoes but let me explain something...
I am adopted, I have the most wonderful Mother in the world but sometimes I do wonder about my biological mother.
Sometimes instead of dwelling on what is not in your life you should try and appreciate the things that are. There could be many reasons to why your mother left, Your father told you she had depression and I'm going to assume that is only the tip of it. Your father loves you, He stuck by you and took care of you. Your FATHER is what should be what you look forward too everyday. You don't miss your mother, You miss and want a mother in your life and that is okay. You shouldn't be embarrassed about talking to your friends mothers about what you are going through, All women go through it and it is better to talk to them rather than to talk to nobody.
Anyway, Besides the adoption thing.....I don't have a father in my life. I often think about my father and wonder what it would be like if he were around but you know what?.....I think about my Mother and how she is always there for me and I couldn't possibly want anything else in my life. I know it's hard, You are a teenager going through changes in your life and are experiencing things that your father really can't explain too you but what I am trying to say is that you aren't alone. Try and talk to Dad, If not then talk to your friends Mom she is better than nobody.
my boss n me was in a relation few days back.
but now we hv some problems in our relation,he is already married n having 3 kids.
i accepted him the way he is,but he can't able 2 accept the way i m.m a very fun loving n friendly nature girl n hv many guys as my friends.but not as my boyfriends....
n he has a bad habit to use others shoulders to fight n saving himself n showing his back to tht people who respect him the most. he has a friend who suggest him 2 behave rude with me n not to talk to me...his friend is also working with me n behaving rude with me.n thy r insulting me everyday.
now a days my boss is avoiding me,n nt answering my calls n sms. suggest me wht 2 do??
Your bosses behavior is highly inappropriate, He is a married man with 3 children and this man is also dating his coworker. Guess what, He is putting himself on a real thin line.
If I were you, I'd have a talk with your boss. Tell him you feel you made a mistake and that you would like to start fresh and keep things strictly to a coworker relationship.
Your boss is immature and you should not be supportive of someone who is having an affair especially when they are married with 3 children. Dating your boss is like playing with fire. Sit down with him and get it situated.
I ate a pineapple yesterday (the real ones, like in Hawaii) and now the corners of my mouth hurt! How do I make it stop? Why do pineapples make your mouth hurt?
I really couldn't tell you to why the pineapple made your mouth hurt.
However, It is possible that maybe you could be allergic.