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hey im a guy, 13. If you go onto this website theres a pic of me. Tell me if you like what i look like... www.advicepic1.piczo.com

okay.. what's this all about ? you're cute though..

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Although this is long, I dont know where to turn and would appreciate any responses. Thanks.

Hi everyone. I'm 13/f and my best friend is 14/m.

Well, he moved here last year and his old school was kind of bad, but we clicked right away, I helped him fit in, so to speak (even though I'm not the most popular), and now he's the most popular guy in our school, by most people's "standards."

I didn't think he'd done anything bad at his old school, and I still don't.

But, as I've been becoming "closer" to him I've been finding out things like, he seems to have a girlfriend just to "do things" (not bad, that I know of - just like kissing) with her. When I first found out he kissed his girlfriend I cried- I know it sounds pathetic, but he seems to go out with girls who have NO redeeming qualities, and now he's going out with a "sl**" (I hate to say that, but most people think so.)

But she's not the worst. One other girl in our school is really bad, does drugs (well, it's a rumor) and is the sl***iest. She's probably done really bad things with guys.

Well, I feel horrible about this - and I'm still guilty - but, I found out someone's email password from my grade, and happened to see an email that said "____(the girl) got down on her knees for ______ (my bff), just like i did with _____ (some other kid) and started sucking away. But no one's mad at her and they're mad at me."

I bawled for a half-hour, because I couldn't believe that he would do this with someone/let her do it! I just still can't believe it, and I don't know if it was someone else but it is a pretty uncommon name (my bff's) - and I can't ask/tell anyone, because then theyll ask how I knew and I can't tell them I was on someone else's email! (I feel horrible - never again.)

My best friend seemed so nice when I met him. He seemed like such a good boy, he does well in school and has an amazing family but I don't think they know he's like this! I didn't even know! although it's becoming more apparent recently.

I just don't know where to turn. I can't believe he would do that. It's so shallow and DISGUSTING for an 8th grader! (I know lots of people do now - but I really thought he was waaaaay above that. that's gross, and he doesn't even hang out with her.)

I'm having a really hard time dealing with this. I can't even look at him anymore. I don't want to even associate with him! But he's still my best friend, so I can't just leave him like that - esp. when I don't know details.

I just can't believe it. I'm in such a state of shock. You might not know how I feel, but thanks for any advice you give.

I'm really grateful because I don't know who else to ask about this - thank you sooo much for your responses.



-Disappointed

You're acting like such a drama queen, and TOTALLY overreacting. He's a boy, he's going to get a blow job or kiss girls. This is not considered a bad or wrong thing. Also, its none of your business that he's done that and you SHOULDN'T be crying over it. This doesn't make him a bad person, and it has nothing to do with his family or grades. Get over it! While reading this I felt a need to punch you in your face because of how naive and drama queen-ish you are. Don't ask him about it, its not your place to. You're making this a way way way bigger deal then it ought to be.

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what if you made out with a guy in party and when you were drunk is that slutty or what? this is your second or third time

not at all

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15/f. the other night i was out with my sisters friends who are all 17 & 18 and apparently they all think i'm hot. and i know that when i go places that guys notice me. so i must be pretty. but its weird because in school it seems like guys don't even notice me. like i've never had a boyfriend.

why is this? i'm not saying i want the guys at school to be like staring at me and stuff. its just weird because my sisters friends couldn't believe it that i've never had a boyfriend because they think i'm really pretty.

also i'm not a bitch or anything. i'm really nice and i have a lot of friends. could it maybe be because i'm a little shy? like around my friends i'm more outgoing but around people i don't know i'm a little shy.

so what can i do to get more guys to think of me as a potential girlfriend?

This is the same for me -- at school I don't think guys see me the way other guys do that don't go to my school. For me I think its because when I was younger, I was ugly and now apparently guys find me hot and pretty. So it could be that the guys still don't see you that way, or you need to be more outgoing. You could flirt more, laugh more, and make sure you always look prosentable. Always be confident, guys like that. Dress cute, a skirt and t-shirt, guys like that. You could always go for your sisters friends if possible. Hope I helped =/ ?

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I am so vain, shallow, and pathetic. But I realized this a long time ago and cannot change it. My whole mood depends on how good I look. I skip school when I look bad (when I havn't waxed my disgusting excesive facial hair..im a girl, it unfair, i hate that i have it!) and when im forced to school, i get in fights and lots of trouble.. I fail tests.. etc etc etc.
When Im in a good mood, i get good grades, make friends, help people - all is good.

Problem is.. im getting more and more vain every day. I hate my huge nose, my excessive hair ALL OVER MY BODY, my tiny eyes, my small lips, my uneven skin. I get more and more depressed everyday. I've looked in to surgery but they refuse to do it on someone my age..too young.

Help me please.

Just so you know being vain means being over confident, concieted, and into themselves. So when you said " everyday I'm getting more and more vain. I don't like..." that didn't make sense at all. You're actually getting more and more insecure. Also, there's no way to change this or help you with it. Just look on the bright side, you have all those body parts & some people don't. Also, all girls feel this way at some point in their life. Just get all the hair waxed, go to smashbox or someother professional makeup place and tell them you want something to even out your skin complection on your face, they have some & they work good. And for your small lips get a lip gloss that has lip plumper stuff. Hope I helped.

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ok, let's say there's a girl at your school, and *everyone* knows that her boyfriend is cheating on her, but she doesn't seem to realize it. do you feel sorry for her, or do you just think she's stupid for not seeing it? and then... when she does find out, she forgives her bf and gives him a 2nd chance. do you think she's a nice, forgiving person who loves her bf, or do you think she's a complete idiot for letting him play her like that? just wondering, becuz that girl is me and i wonder what people might be saying/thinking about me!

You're a fucking idiot. Break up with him, you don't deserve that, although it doesn't seem to bother you..which is weird.

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about 5 days ago my current boyfriend asked me out and i got so happy that i havent been able to eat or sleep much. i force a little food down at meals but i really dont have an appetite anymore. when i think about food it seems good but then i put it in front of me and i have no desire to eat it. sometimes i feel a little sick if i start to eat, too. and in about 4 days i lost 6 pounds. i dont mind it, i was happy actually, because i was looking to lose a few pounds but i know thats not healthy. is my appetite ever going to come back?

This happened to me too, I got too busy and interested in this guy that my appetite went away. But I lost 10 pounds in a week. To answer your question, your appetite will come back, but your stomach may still hurt when you eat. So try to eat more and more each time.

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Okay so my one friend keeps telling me that my other friends ( who doesn'treally get along with me anyway ) is calling me a whore behind my back. My one friend is standing up for me but she says that my other friend is saying that im a whore because my boyfriend of 7 months and i make out during movies - i understand yeah maybe she doesn't want to see it but the thing is his dad hates me and we can NEVER see each other and thats pretty much the only time i can do that with him its getting really hard ! i just want to know if i really am a whore for this or is she just being lsfijsdlf ?

You are definatly not a whore, you are the farthest thing from a whore. That girl may just be jealous that you have a boyfriend, or actually kiss boys ( im not sure if she does lol ?) So just forget about it, and confront her, or just show her you don't care. And yes she's just being lsgfjghk :) hope i helped

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okay so i shaved my bikini line for the first time, and now my vagina itches sooooo much...and sometimes it hurts a little. i shaved my bikini line yesturday and it still itches. i think i have razor burn. what should i do? it itches a lottt!

just put lotion on everyday, or the days you shave. but this is normal, after a while it won't itch anymore. nothings wrong. and there's nothing you could do.

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Ok well I have no idea about make up and I'm thinking of wearing it on my friend's wedding next month. I always beleived in natural beauty but since it's my friend's special day I want to look special just to not wreck anything.

Ok Well first thing, the make up is 2 years old but never opened before. Will it give any bad look effects? Will it be okay to use?

There's some stuff in the kit that I have no idea what they are and what they are used for or used with. The words listed in brackets are the ones that I know.

The ones that aren't, could you list what it is possibly, what it's used for, what it's used with maybe, and maybe how to use it if I don't know?:

Ok first drawer:
-Um these small circle boxes and the stuff are coloured dark blue, light pink, red, orange, purple, light orange or peach, black, and brown. Are they eye shadow?

Second drawer:
-(Lip stick)
-(Mascara)
-(Lip Gloss)
-(Nail Polish)
-a small sharpener like for pencils, what in the world is that for?!
-And a pretty big brush, what's the used for and what is it used with?

Third and last drawer:
-Eye Liner, it says. No idea what you use for though I have a clue since it says EYE.
- A TINY brush
- 6 tiny little brushes but the brush isnt' like hair it's like soft material and white and looks like a heart shaped.
-A brush that's big and is wide but it's really flat. =S
- And three circled containers that are bigger then the ones for I think eye shadow. They're Pink, light pink, and some ugly red and brown mixed. Blush?

And I haven't opened any of them as I said so when I lifted one set to remove the clear plastic stuff there's a packet at the bottom that says DO NOT EAT! SILICAGEL! What's that and what's that used for?

I know it's long and I'm really sorry but if you answer everything I asked for, I'm pretty sure you know what your rate is oging to be. Thank you so much!

First off-- the make-up is way too old. Even if it is not opened, make-up should not be used after 6 months. It shouldn't be used, it could cause you to break out, cause redness & irratation in the face, and also the colours won't look the same as they would as if they were new.

In the first drawer I'm guessing it's eye shadow.

In the second drawer :
- The sharpener if for eyeliner or lip liner.
- The brush is probably for blush or powder.

In the third drawer :
- Eye liner is used to outline the upper eye lid and/or the bottom.
- The brushes are used for eye shadow.
- The brush that's big, wide, and flat, could be an eyeliner brush, but I may be wrong, since I've never heard of a BIG brush like that.
- The three circle things are blush.

The stuff that said " do not eat" is just stuff they put in everything that's packaged. It keeps animals and bugs away.

But, you shouldn't use the make-up ! Hope I helped.

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im fourteen and i was at school and we were in gym. and i was sitting in the bleachers talking to my boyfriend and all his guy friends. and we were just talking and sitting there. and then i relized i think i got my period. so i got up and it was all over my shorts. and all his friends started laughing at me it was so embarassing and he looked extemely embarassed too. and then hes told them to shutup and then they started laughing at me and him not sure why they were laughing at him. but now they always tease me and he always tells me just to ignore them but i cant and he alwayssss hangs out with them since there all like best friends and they constintly make fun of me what should i do?

Right now it may seem embarrassing but later on you will realize that everyguy knows girls get their period. So just listen to your boyfriend and if they keep saying shit, be like "stfu every girl gets their period losers." And be glad your boyfriends sticking up for you the way he is, that's special. Good Luck !

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15/f

i'm jewish, go to a jewish private school with a dress code that's not strictly enforced.

so my boyfriend and i just broke up and i'm on the market again. before i had a boyfriend, i used to dress...well, not slutty, but let's just say i wore revealing clothes. unconsiously, when i had a boyfriend, i wore more modest clothes. now i'm single again, i just bought new stuff last week from h&m and urban outfitters, and i'm not sure what to do. should i continue to dress modestly or is it ok for me to dress...well, slutty? i didn't dress exactly like a slut...just bared some cleavage and wore short skirts. i have big boobs and small legs and i want to play them up to my advantage.

i know my teachers (and my mom) would like it better if i continued dressing modestly, but i know that guys...well, appreciate me being a little revealing. and i am looking, not for a relationship, but to have some fun. so should i be modest or be "slutty"?

Like you said, you don't have a boyfriend so why should you dress modest. Just dress how you want, slutty is good. Since you are looking for fun. Have fun & show skin. It will let guys know you are looking for fun.

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Tonight my mom saw me trying to scratch my back. I had a terrible itch. She came over and scatched the itch on my back for me. And in a teasing voice said: ech, you are so bony; Should I be upset or just ignore it. She said it a kidding way.

I would just forget about it. There's nothing wrong with having a bony back. If it really makes you uncomfortable that she said that gain a pound or a few. But having a bony back is fine. Wouldn't you rather her say you have a bony back, then say you have a fat one ? lol. But she was just kidding so don't worry about it.

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How do you get a guy to fall head over heels in love with you?

You can't MAKE a guy fall in love with you, he has to figure out who he loves on his own. Its just like how guys can't MAKE us girls fall in love with them. Sorry, yeah its devastating. and love takes time to develop, it doesn't just happen over night. Hope I helped !

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what turns guys on? like what do they look for or like in a girl. also how can you get a guy to really notice you? thanks so much!

First off-- look cute. As for ways to act, guys usually like girls who are confident, smile and laugh a lot. But don't try to much. Be flirty, but not slutty. Believe me, I do this, and I get noticed. And if you see a guy checking you out or smiling at you, make eye contact and smile. just have fun with it.

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i sit next to this boy in my science class. Over the year we started to get really close. We talk all the time and we bascilly know everything there is to know about each other. We fight like brother and sister and our personalities really click i guess. During the year he had a girlfriend, whom he just recently broke up with. Everyone says that we should go out. I met his parents and even his parents think we should. We just make eachother happy. I just found out that he broke up with his girlfriend for me. Now his ex is basiclly out to get me.He hasnt asked me out cause he is waiting untill he can do it in person and we are alone, and im think thats when we are in Washington D.C next week. I cant think of this boy as anything more then a friend. I feel really bad cause he's really funny and nice and i do like him alot, but not like that. And to top it all off, i like his bestfriend. I dont want to hurt the boy i sit next to, but how do i tell him i like his bestfriend? =[ But what i dont understand is that i have so much more in common with the boy i sit next to in science then i do with his friend, and im just so confusedd. and i dont know what to do.

Try it out with him, the boy you sit next to. You two have so much in common so it would be a nice relationship. Sometimes love starts out as a friendship, not saying you are going to love eachother or anything. But don't tell him you like his best friend, its one thing you need to learn about guys. If the girl they like likes their best friend, he will never talk to you or his best friend again. Hope I helped !

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ok. so ive been going out with this guy for like a week know. i liked him for about a month before we went out and yeah. but anyway hes kinda the prep type and i liked him better like that but last night we went to the movies and hung out and all that and he like looked emo in a way. like he was wearing this black shirt with a skull on it and these like black shoes and it was really weird. idk it was kind of a turn off. should i tell him that? or just go along with it? i mean i dont want to sound like someone who judges someone just how they dress but its really unexpected from him and hes not really that type. it doesnt really fit the way he is. what should i do?

Deal with the fact he wore that. You need to accept it, and go along with it. You're supposed to like him for him, not the way he dresses. Because no offense but that's really really lame. And you were saying that's " not really the type he is " but how do you know that, you don't! You have only been going out for a week, you don't know barely anything about him. Just deal with it. Sorry for the rudeness, but these things upset me.

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so i never had a boyfriend, but ive kissed 4 boys, im 14 by the way. does this make me slutty in any way to be kissing/making out with boys who arent my boyfriend?

NO, it does not make you a whore, slut, ect. Being that would mean you doing more sexual things with random guys. But, people are going to call you a slut, whore, ect. even if you are the prudest girl in school. That's just what people do, they judge people. So even if somebody does ever say that to you don't listen.

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i was over my boyfriends one night. and he wanted to have sex. and i want to wait till im married so i said no. he flipped out and got on top of me and hes much bigger than me and stronger and he started fingering me. and then his friend came and helped hold me down and he stuck his penis in my vagina and it hurt i kep tscreaming for him to get off but he didnt. and now he keepsasking me why i wont talk to him. what should i do. i really honestly love him also.

you're really dumb if you still love him after that... that is considered rape and you should tell a parent or police about it. you shouldn't talk to him anymore, because he went against your wishes, and what he did was extrememly wrong. if he really loved you he would have listened to you when you told him no. breake up with him and never talk to him again, because people who rape people need help !!!

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I was babysitting this ten year old... he was bein a brat and wouldnt go to sleep... my girlfriend was there and we couldnt have any time alone... so we had coke n we did it cause we were gonna have to stay up to watch him... he said he wanted to try so we let him... he started running around and actin like an indian... we got a pipe and some pot and smoked... he wanted to try but when he did he coughed n said he didnt want to do it... i told him if he didnt he would die... so we smoked 3 bowls with him and he got sleepy and went to bed... I feel bad that i gave this kid drugs... His parents never found out... what should i do???

you are a fucking dumbass. it was your responsibility to take care of that child. you should know some kids don't always go to bed on time, or when you want them too. you should never give children drugs. I recommend youdont babysit. and you should feel bad !!

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