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Mood depends on LOOKS
I am so vain, shallow, and pathetic. But I realized this a long time ago and cannot change it. My whole mood depends on how good I look. I skip school when I look bad (when I havn't waxed my disgusting excesive facial hair..im a girl, it unfair, i hate that i have it!) and when im forced to school, i get in fights and lots of trouble.. I fail tests.. etc etc etc.
When Im in a good mood, i get good grades, make friends, help people - all is good.
Problem is.. im getting more and more vain every day. I hate my huge nose, my excessive hair ALL OVER MY BODY, my tiny eyes, my small lips, my uneven skin. I get more and more depressed everyday. I've looked in to surgery but they refuse to do it on someone my age..too young.
Help me please.
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I know you probably are looking for answers to fix your flaws, but you just need to stop focusing on looks, and relize how beautiful life is! their is so much more than to look pretty. Although their are things you can do, which is pretty much in the other advices people have given you, maybe you are just obsessed and a perfectionist with beauty. Maybe you are looking in the mirror to closely and being way to hard on yourself. I really hope to help, but if working hard on your self to be beautiful is more important than to work hard on yourself to change your shallowness than thats pretty sad. but i really hope you see what im trying to tell you.
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Every morning when you wake up say one nice thing to yourself in the mirror. Realize that other people don't see as many faults in you as you do. Most people probably don't notice the hair that you fret so much over. You can love yourself...but it isn't going to happen over night. If you want to love yourself for who you are...then try to just accept yourself and all of your flaws. Embrace them and realize that you are who you are. Recite the serenity prayer to yourself before you go to bed or in the mirror in the mornings. You don't need surgery you just need love. Yea I know this sounds cheesy, I thought so too, but this helped me and now I want to help you. Just try.
If you want you will,
If you don't you won't.
-Natasha Richards-
And never stop believing in yourself...because people care...I care or else I wounln't answer you...but people close to you care. Just believe!!
~futurePsychologist~
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Just so you know being vain means being over confident, concieted, and into themselves. So when you said " everyday I'm getting more and more vain. I don't like..." that didn't make sense at all. You're actually getting more and more insecure. Also, there's no way to change this or help you with it. Just look on the bright side, you have all those body parts & some people don't. Also, all girls feel this way at some point in their life. Just get all the hair waxed, go to smashbox or someother professional makeup place and tell them you want something to even out your skin complection on your face, they have some & they work good. And for your small lips get a lip gloss that has lip plumper stuff. Hope I helped.
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all you need is confidence and the ability to be comfortable in your own skin..and believe it or not, confidence is easy to obtain. stop focusing on the things you dislike about yourself..nobody is perfect and you should tell yourself that youre beautiful because being truly comfortable in your own skin will change your life. try focusing on the things you LIKE about yourself and realizing that people arent looking at your flaws..your friends and others around you like you for YOU and theres so much more out there thats a billion times more important than how you look..beauty comes from within..if you find yourself feeling bad because you dont think you look as good as you should..tell yourself that it doesnt matter..you are who you are and being self-conscious will get you nowhere. stop insulting yourself because loving yourself is essential..confidence shines and you will feel WAY better..lots of girls get facial hair its not a big deal and if youre waxing it then dont worry about it..im sure youre very pretty and just concentrate on the good things and get out there and enjoy life and stop yourself when you start to think about how you look at that moment..it will take time but i promise itll get easier. cheer up! youve got your whole life ahead of you this is just a problem that you definetely have the ability to overcome.
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im the same way, i just always try to be happy, no matter what. even if im dressed like a bum, just try to be nice. i have acne, kinda bad too, but i dont let that bring me down, i just always re apply my make up, so ppl cant see it. wear eye make up that seems to open your eyes and take ppl's attention away from your nose, dont get it pierced, that will be attention. Buy one of those little pen looking things that shave off hair and carry it with you. yeah your not suppose to shave your hair, but if you always do it, and never let it grow back bad, no one will ever now. hope i helped<3
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