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I'm Hallie. I'm really understanding, and love to help people. Feel free to ask me anything! I'll never be rude, unless you are asking questions that are agianst my beliefs, and you come across as totally selfish or just plain stupid. I wont answer questions that just go on and on about he said she said type of stuff. and i wont answer questions that are like "omgee, i need a personality! help me find one!" NO. thats gay, and ill just tell you to be yourself! PLEASE give me feedback. idont care about the rating, i just wanna know if i helped any!
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So, in my family, mainly everyone is Catholic.

I feel like an outsider because I just recently had an epiphany that the Christian faith, and religion in general, just isn't for me...

Well, I told my family that I still believed in God, but I didn't believe in religion because I believed in simplicity and don't really like fundamentalism.

I don't like how priests, popes, bishops, .etc speak for God. It just doesn't seem right. I also don't like it when we all come home from Church and my parents are talking about what the priest said during the homily, or something like that, but they never ever say what God said at Church.

I just feel really tied down and confused right now.

I told them about this and they totally flipped out. They gave me the whole, "While you live under this roof, you'll believe what we believe" lecture.

What should I do? I feel as though I should be given at least a little portion of freedom.

I'm just so confused right now.

You have more freedom then you think. If you believe there is a God, and you don't like how preist and popes speak to God, you could try praying to him yourself. You are very smart, figuring out what you believe for yourself, so you shouldn't feel bad. Look deeper into what you believe, read the bible, talk to God. I am a christian, but I don't believe in denomination, I believe the bible is absolute truth, and sometimes denominations, like catholics can take away truth from that, and even baptist. So just try to figure out what YOU believe, rather than what your parents say. It will get you much futher!

Tonight was the episode Hundred, and sadly I missed it because of work and I really want to watch it now and I've checked a few sites for the whole episode but I can't find a place that has it on there yet. Does anyone know where I can find it now? Or if you saw the episode please give me full details of what happened.

The CW website usually has all the episodes...They might have not posted it right away, so keep looking.
And it comes on on sunday at 5:00 if you missed it..
It was good!! lol

I had a boyfriend of 8 months. My first love. We broke up in September. I was heartbroken. I've learned to let it go and things aren't awkward or anything. But just recently, I've begun to miss him a lot. I think it's because I found out he was moving on to another girl and I was cleaning out my closet and I saw all the stuff he gave me, and I just broke down into tears. I like other people and things, but I always just wonder what I could have changed to make him not break up with me. I want to tell him this so bad because no one else can help me through this. He still knows me the best. I'm not expecting him to take me back, I know he won't but I don't know what else to do. I'm over it, I'm just not fully over him.

I kind of believe that people never get over their first love. You become emotionally attatched to this person because they were your FIRST, and you can't froget that. Of course you are going to miss him, because you obviously have history with him, and you obviously loved him at first... but just make sure you aren't just traveling back to the way you used to feel. Remember it is now, and things have changed. And maybe it would be best to find someone else, because the best way to fall out of love is to fall in love agian with someone else. And maybe, if it is love... let it find you! things will work out for the best!
And it wouldn't hurt to talk to him how you feel. He might be able to help you distinguish your feelings, because you said he knows you the best and all... best wishes!

I'm 16. I've never drank, done drugs, or done anything with a guy. I'm pretty okay with that because I do really well in school, have never gotten in trouble before, and still have alot of fun with my friends. I actually have a good time just reading a book or watching TV or whatever. Is that weird? I mean, I kind of hang out with a really straight-edged kind of group of people, and I don't really mind that. Am I the only one in high school who actually IS a good girl like that? Because sometimes I feel like everybody's out getting drunk at crazy parties while I'm at home reading a book. Haha. Hopefully good things come to those who wait and DON'T make stupid decisions in high school? I just don't want to look back at high school when I'm older and wish I did crazier stuff... What do you think?

Thats not weird at all, and its actrully a good thing that you repsect yourself and your lucky to have friends who dont do those things so you can have fun WITHOUT drugs and achlohol. and good things DO come to those who dont make stupid decisions. Don't worry about looking back at the crazy stuff you didnt do, or feeling left out, because thats just not you, and you can proudly tell your kids you never did any of that stuff.i hope you stay by your morals and your high expectations, because thats really rare and the world really needs more people like you! dont listen to the people that are like lighten up! or enjoy your teen years while you have them! because you still can, just without the bad stuff. you dont need those things to make you happy, otherwise i find it truely pathetic. hope to help:)

I don't think I look all that pretty.

But I'm trying to come out of my shell and be happy with the way I look.

I've noticed that I don't smile much. Especially in pictures and school ones. I stand out SO MUCH in the yearbook because my smile is bad.

How do you get a better smile? I don't mean my teeth are crooked, I had braces for years.. but my teeth are stained..so I try to avoid smiling as much as I can. Bleaching kits don't do anything. And my smile is crooked and.. i don't know. how do you change your smile? because mine is weird. i can't relax when i'm in front of the camera. my eyebrows seem to lower a lot and i don't look like a girl :( my cheeks puff up a little.. and bleh.

do you just practice in front of a mirror?

I have stained teeth also, and the dentist told me that no matter how much i bleach it it wont go away because they are so deep into my teeth. But ive been using arms and hammer whitning gel tooth paste and its made for stains. it doesnt take them completely away, but its blends it in with your teeth or whatever and makes them look gone! To smile, the best smiles are natrual, like when you smile because you are happy, or smiling because you are laughing, those are the prettiest! not the pose ones because its just a fake smile and its obvious it is! and puffy cheeks are really pretty sometimes, i ahve them too and everyone teases me about them, but i also get alot of compliments on them. For your eyebrows try getting them plucked and if they are lower use hairspray or gel to push them up. Just don't obsess about it either, smile because your happy, not because you want to look good.

i need to whiten my teeth
whats one thing that works the best? like a product or baking soda or something like that. and im not intrested in buying a 20 dollar thing. please help.
-yellow fellow

arms and hammer whitning gel. its like a tooth paste, but by the end of the first tube i went through(which usually is 2 weeks) my teeth were so white! it works really really good! also try whitning listerine which also does the trick ;)

I really need help on taming my short temper and jealousy streak. I have extremely bad road rage and I tend to blow up and freak out on people very easily over stupid things. I also want to be "the dominant female" so I get jealous when a pretty girl is around and I feel the need to be better than her.

Is there anything that can help me besides medication? I'm desperate.

I also have anger problems, and jealous streaks, but I've also changed a bunch too. Try keeping a journal, and realize your inner feelings, what really makes you mad, and what really makes you jealous. Mostly every girl wants to be the prettiest, but you really have to look past that, you have to realize taht you are beautiful in your own way because you are YOU! there is always going to be someone prettier, smarter, or even just plain better in alot of things than you, and you have to just step out of yourself and say so what! If you keep a journal, you will become alot deeper and that will make you alot more intouch withyourself which makes you happier about your self, because you know YOU. i hope this makes sense, and if your having a hard time with your anger problems, try seeing a counsler or phycologist because anger is built up of sadness, and things you keep bottled inside, and sometimes we need help to open that up.

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I like to see death on movies and shows. It's so cooL! I just love seeing people killing people on TV. Sure, maybe a few times in real life, but not all the times. My prolbem is, I'm obbsessed with it and I'm freaked taht I might become a seral killer. I don't really want to be one. I want to be a writer. Is that why I liek action adn blood and gore? Because I'm a writer? Please help ASAP!!!!

you aren't going to be a seral killer unless you have lots and lots of anger in you and feel the need to kill. You probably like blood and gore because thats what intrest you, you like the action kinda stuff. I mean it probably is because you are a writer and soemtimes writers are deep thinkers, which makes them see the darkness sometimes, and sometimes they LIKE darkness. Someones gonna have to write the blood and gore, and someones going to have to write scary movies or books! It doesnt mean your a bad person! look up famous horror writers like egar allen poe or even more modern ones to see waht they are like, and you will probably relize they have the same intrest as you!

i have a split persinality 1 of them im just a plain old teenager and im in a cristianrock band where i play base and sing and always do right the other side of me im a relly bad kid i did do drugs but quit but i still dip drink and do sexual things and steal and im always depresed but im not bipoler weve tested that and what should i do

You are probably like this because you feel that you need to be accepted by both of the "sides". Or maybe you just enjoy both. I'm guessing you are a christian because you said you are in a christian band, well do you enjoy this because you like music, or do you enjoy it because its the right thing? It's called morals, and you need to set them straight; you need to straighten out your prioraties and know who and what you are going to live for. Christ? or the drugs and the sexual things. It's hard but thats what life is about. don't be two faced about it, because its not "another side of you", its you, because you feel the need to do those bad things. Its not bipolar because thats when your happy and then your so depressed, not multi-personalities. Ask God to help you rise above those bad things, and pray for frogiveness, and maybe you could get some help with your depression. i realy hope to help and i hope i didnt come across as mean because thats not what i intended!

Hey I don't know who to ask but I really like this guy and we are close friends and I've told him before that I like him but we did'nt get together. I want him to notice me as girlfriend material. How do I do subtle things that will slowly turn him on? I can't do kissing on the neck or sitting with a short skirt on. I wanna be classy but seductive how do i do it i thought you would probably know. Help as much as you can please. Thank you =.=

Well, in order for him to see you in a different light, you really have to shorta play hard to get because hes so used to viewing you as a friend. Like flirt alot, and dont be trashy, but kinda show a little skin you no? that way he will start thinking of you of not just a friend sister type, but you will attract him. Try touching him occasionaly, like put your hand on his knees when your sitting by him, but make it seem on accident. When walking with him just randomly grab his hand, or just put your arm around him. when talking to him put your hand on his shoulder occasional. Also you could try to make him a little jelous, but not to much to make him uncomfertible. Smile alot, and laugh alot. laugh at his jokes, and dont do "guy" things with him, because then he'll only see you as a friend. and slowly start to do more and more of this stuff. hope everything works out:]

Ok. ive never had a boyfriend before and ive also never felt this way about a boy. the problem is that we havent EVER talked to each other and i think he likes me. Hes at my bus stop and i will always catch him glancing at me. But i REALLY want to talk to him but im the really shy type especially when it comes to a cute boy like him. he lives on the street right behind mine. does anyone know what i should do to talk to him. and since its summer, i dont see him and all i do is think about him all of the time. Please help me

Im really shy when it comes to guys i like too, so i understand. I always try to have my friends around me so that i can feel comfertible, and hopfully the person i like can see me. It sounds weird, but just find a wingman i guess, like have a friend talk to him so you can talk with him too, it makes it much easier. Just make sure taht after she starts talking to him a little bit, make sure you make time to talk to him on your own too. Then before you know it, you will probably be commferitble with him and you could try asking him out, or flirt with him the more and more you get to know him. For the summer you could either use this time to build up your self confidence, and practice overcomming shyness, orr if you and your friends could walk down his street make a scene lol and maybe he'll come out so you could talk to him or something lol. i dont know ... well i hope to help! :)

so, my best friend, can treat me like DIRT.
i mean horrible. she's just sooo rude! what do i do? i mean i love her so much, and shes amazing. but when shes rude i dont know what to do! i just take it. beucase i NEVER want to loose her. i NEED HELP!
15fem.

You should definatly talk to her about it. Although you dont want to loose her as a friend, shes going to keep treating you that way intill she learns she cant do that to you. You have to let her know that you won't let her treat you like that, because shes probably just used to you wanting to be her friend and thats probably what she thinks, that you are always going to be there no matter what. That is a pretty good thing, because no friends are perfect, but if she really was your best friend maybe she could rethink of how she treats you.

I got a kitten in the winter she is getting bigger now but I was wondering when cats go through heat or whatever to they call it do they bleed like dogs do? I was also wondering because i think she is going through it now what to expect...she meows like constantly.

Any Answers??

I just got a kitty last year, and no, she doesnt bleed. All she does is rubbs herself on things and meows like crazy. We got her fix though because they are in alot of pain when they are in heat so i suggest you get her fix, or you can find her a friend, if you no what i mean lol. hope to help:)

well im pretty sure this isnt the right catorgory but well im a female 13 years young and i have really deep voice i guess like a mans!! i need to fix it can i have some help and will it be like this forever?
please help im scared! :(

deep voices are awesome :)

the reason i converted to atheism was because i felt like christianity just didn't suit me anymore, and i put a ton of thought into it- it wasn't just some random decision i made.

And i wished u a good future with christianity because i believe that everyone should have a religion that suits them, and i never argue with people about their religions because i think they all have their place.

i'm not the kind of atheist who'll just go and try to convert other ppl so i guess you could say i'm more agnostic than atheist.

Yeah thats good. but dont you believe that their is just one reason why we are here? i mean, their has to be... why didnt christianity fit you if you dont mind me asking

Are there any websites where you can watch movies for free?

movieforumz.com
!!

I've always been interested in writing and I used to think that I was a respectable writer,but now it seems like everything I do is really plain and boring.That's only when I can write anyway...I usually can't think of a subject and once I do I can never put it into the right words.

Is there anything that I can do to become a better writer?

A good writer, is an honest writer.
Dont try to write unnatrualy, write how YOU write!
if you want to become better, keep a journal, write stories, read books-because it inspires you.
If you are having a tough time deciding topics, talk about real life. be creative and expand your imagination, because thats what being a writer is all about!
and if you cant get it into the right words, you have to not over think it AT ALL! you just have to write natrually and what comes to you, and then the words should just flow.

being a writer is something that you have to be born with, and it seems to be you are because you have a love for it!

i guess my advice for you would be,
dont force anything,
keep a journal for practice,
write about your feelings and use metaphors to explain them..

everything else should be your natrual talent :]

I have some stomach fat and It makes me feel unhealthy. What can I do to make it 'disappear'? I am 14/F. I want it to be a secret from my parents because they will be worried that they think I'm to fat and I'll go too thin. I'm planning to go on this loosing stomach fat within a month if that's possible. Any ideas?

Drink tons of water, 8-10 glasses.
And then do 50 sit-ups a night, and 10 push ups a night.

After a few weeks you will loose an inch off your waist.

my boyfriend and I are going to be cuddling up to a few movies tomorrow night and I just realized, I don't have popcorn. I don't have the money at this point to go buy a whole box for one night, does anyone know any good alternatives to eat during the movies?

i think i have some of the popcorn kernals, like, uncooked popcorn...how do you cook that right? it never works for me.

I know how to cook uncooked popcorn! OKAY..
first you put cooking oil in the bottom of a pot and make sure it covers the whole bottom.
Then, you put in the popcorn seeds, also making sure it covers the whole bottom of the pot.
Next, turn your stove on med/high..and wait for it to start popping.
when you hear it start to pop, shake the pan just a little bit and turn off the stove. keep shaking intill popping is done.
and pour into bowl.
Thennn you can put butter in the micowave and put it on top.. then add salt.
lol, i hope this makes sense..

Ok I weigh 135 lbs and I want to lose atleast 10.
I'm 5'3.

Its mostly my stomache that bothers me,
what are really effective exercises that will help that, that I can do at home.

I'm also trying to eat right,
but no matter what I eat in a day, even if its healthy and not huge portions I always gain atleast 2 pounds, and yesterday I only had 1,000 calories.

I'm so confused, help?

If you are going to go on a diet, you really have to put your whole self and mind into it. You have to be fully commited. Drink ALOT of water, around 8-10 glasses, and eats tons of fruits and vegies. Do 50 sit ups a night (you can break it apart too) and 10 push-ups. Its old fashion but it does help. Try fast walking for about 30 minutes 4 times a week, it burns calories like amazinglyy!! Portion controll is very important too, and you seem to be doing that. Also, dont pay attention to the scale as much. Just focus on eating healthy and eating a little less to swrink your appetite, and exercise and being active! You always weigh less in the morning, and 2 pounds isnt alot, because one day i weigh like 108 and then ill weigh 116 and then back to 109 in like three days! its just because we are growing and sometimes we eat more. I know its hard but you have to be patient. try getting a more accuret scale, but dont weigh yourself obsessivly: try doing it only once a week. Like every saturday track down how much you lost. i really hope to help, and i hope everything works out successfully! :]

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