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The good girl.
I'm 16. I've never drank, done drugs, or done anything with a guy. I'm pretty okay with that because I do really well in school, have never gotten in trouble before, and still have alot of fun with my friends. I actually have a good time just reading a book or watching TV or whatever. Is that weird? I mean, I kind of hang out with a really straight-edged kind of group of people, and I don't really mind that. Am I the only one in high school who actually IS a good girl like that? Because sometimes I feel like everybody's out getting drunk at crazy parties while I'm at home reading a book. Haha. Hopefully good things come to those who wait and DON'T make stupid decisions in high school? I just don't want to look back at high school when I'm older and wish I did crazier stuff... What do you think?
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There is nothing wrong with you. You have self respect. Not very common with teenage girls these days. I am 15 and have a lot in common with you. I haven't done much with guys either and I am a "good girl" too. Girls who do stupid things with guys come from families that do not have enough love so they need to get it another way. There is plenty of time to drink and party when you are 21. It is pretty impressive that you can stay out of trouble and still have fun. Reward yourself for that.
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IM THE SAME WAY! Haha, but seriously. I'm straight-edged and I feel like the ONLY one who is. But my brother is straight-edged as well adn he graduated high school two years ago. And he told me that it's so much better going through high school REMEMBERING everything you've done instead of getting drunk and forgetting all the shit you've done.
Hope this helps, and plus once high school's over you'll be SO happy you didn't do stupid stuff like everyone else. :]
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Thats not weird at all, and its actrully a good thing that you repsect yourself and your lucky to have friends who dont do those things so you can have fun WITHOUT drugs and achlohol. and good things DO come to those who dont make stupid decisions. Don't worry about looking back at the crazy stuff you didnt do, or feeling left out, because thats just not you, and you can proudly tell your kids you never did any of that stuff.i hope you stay by your morals and your high expectations, because thats really rare and the world really needs more people like you! dont listen to the people that are like lighten up! or enjoy your teen years while you have them! because you still can, just without the bad stuff. you dont need those things to make you happy, otherwise i find it truely pathetic. hope to help:)
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No honey! It may not seem like it now but it is SO much better to be the good girl. Being a bad girl just to look back on experimenting with it doesn't seem like a very good reason to me. I can tell because I know that "real bad girls" don't even think about it this way, they just do it.
I'm about to be a senior in college and high school is almost completely forgotten. I know that may be hard to believe, but it's true and it's true for almost all of my friends too.
You'll see, not too long after high school it doesnt matter at ALL what you were like: except grades. Grades prevail, nothing else does. If youre reading books, expanding your knowledge and your brain (and not killing its cells with drunk and high-ness) you are one above those people, even if it doesnt feel like it now.
I'm one of the ones who partied and probably all I have out of it now I have to quit cigarettes and not party so much! I'm still very intelligent and I have goals for my future but those that were the "good girls" in high school are probably doing better than me!
So to make a long story short, experiment if you must but just know that it REALLY doesnt matter what you did in high school or who you were friends with (except those few friends that you will still talk to years after high school. and yes, it is always just a few. i talk to more people from high school than most people i know and i only talk to less than 10 people frequently).
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I'm just like you. And I think its a good thing being like that. I can't imagine looking back on my high school years and remebering the times I passed out from drinking, or pregnancy scares, or got so high on weed that I nearly died. I know that when I look back on my high school years, memories will float up of my friends, the good times we spent together, of my succeses in school. I wouldn't want my past to haunt me.
You can do crazy stuff when your twenty, that's what the twenties are for! You will be old enough to drink, but mature enough to be fully responsible for your actions, for example.
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I used to be JUST like you in high school (& still follow rules to this day, just not every single one of them now, ha). It's not weird, it's called being mature & having good judgement. Most 16 years olds try way too hard to act older, when really they are just complete MORONS. You're still young, there are many joys in life you have yet to experience. Never doubt your morals & think you're missing out on anything. You have plenty of time to have a drink or party with your friends, but do it when you're of age. I admire people like you who know how to have fun with their friends without the help of alcohol & drugs. Keep doing what you're doing & you'll turn out just fine. :)
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No worries. I'm pretty much just like you. I never drink, smoke, etc. I hang out with basic people and I'd rather stay home anyways. I agree about not wanting to look back and see this plain person I was, but you gotta remember the downsides to having a "crazy" lifestyle. You could get caught drinking/smoking and get in a lot of trouble with your parents/the police. It'd just be embarassing to look back to that.
Just stay the way you are. :]
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Contrary to popular belief, not everybody gets drunk and make decisions in high school. The ones who do tend to be loud about it so everyone will know about the exploits they had the previous weekend, and the ones who don't make bad decisions are often overlooked. At my highschool, there are plenty of down to earth people who don't drink or smoke and probably never will. As someone who makes a lot of bad decisions myself, I envy those people; those who are able to have a lot of fun without the help of alcohol or marijuana
As for you when you're older, I'm pretty sure you won't look back at high school and think, "Damn, I really wish I went to that one party and got completely smashed."
If anything, I'd say you are smarter than your years.
You'll find that going to make late at night with a bunch of friends is just as exciting as getting drunk and rolling down a hill.
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Peer Pressure honey. You don't have to get high or drunk to feel like your missing out on things. Go to parties have fun, but don't make 1 night ruin your whole life. A lot of the people who are on drugs and drinking are the ones that will be missing out on life in the future. Your making a good decision by doing good in school that will help you with a bright future. For example lets say you wanted to do crazy things by getting drunk at parties, then when you look back at that your not gonna think good times, your probably going to think "wow i was pretty dumb back then" Not everyone in high school is getting drunk. Thats what growing up is about, you get more oppertunities. Hope I helped!
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Well you don't need to be drinking and doing drugs to have fun. Thats what i've learned, but i do drink ocasionally, ha. But i've had my good share of fun times with my friends and we've done some crazy things. You and friends should just go out and more often and see what happens. Don't be shy, if you are. Then thats the problem, you should be ready for anything. But if you guys bring up drinking and drug use. If you want to go for it, make sure you do not get caught.
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This sums up how I feel. Never compromise your morals. Seriously, never make exceptions for people or certain situations if it contradicts your beliefs. I'm soon to be a Junior in High School and you'll be surprised with how many people admire you with your good use of judgement. I'm known to get giddy over simple stuff and people who are around you will be appreciative for you in that aspect because you're grateful for most of the things others overlook. Don't ever feel down on yourself and think you're missing out because you're making a success out of yourself! =]
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It's not weird at all. In fact, I'm exactly the same way. Growing up, I had two parents who were alcoholics, so alcohol is kind of my enemy and drugs never were appealing and I'm waiting until I'm a responsible adult to have sex. That's just the way I've been brought up and my friends are similar to me as well..so good for you for staying clean, I know it can be hard since most teens aren't but it's good that there are other good teenagers out there with me :)
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Do you have fun with the people you do hang out with? Because that is what you will remember anyway. You don't need to do drugs and go to wild parties in order to have great memories. I'm pretty much the same way. I don't need that stuff to have a blast. Too many kids at my school have died from drugs and alcohol and driving their car at 80 MPH, I don't want to look back and think about how I was such an idiot and lost my friends because we were being crazy.
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