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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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There is this guy that I have liked for atleast nine months now. We used to hang out but then we sort of stopped. Recently i have been seeing him before school and he would come over nd we would talk.

Now I wont you to know right now that he is not one of those godly guys. He is a bit of a rabel and I hope most of you know what that means.

Now I know he is somewhat atracted to me but I was wondering if you guys had any ideas on how to make him really want me. sort of like how to real him in until i have him hooked and also some ideas of how to get us to hang out.

please help i rate high. (link)
There are so many sites covering the topic I will let you choose!

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My kids are 24 and 26. We've had a hard time since their dad died 17 years ago. He was an alcoholic and my son has turned into one also. He's had one DWI but I did not bail him out. I left him there to do his time to teach him a lesson. I still can't seem to keep him out of the car. Three times now he has snuck out and driven his sister's car while drunk. I thought all the keys were hidden but I found out this morning that she GAVE him a key to her car! They both work part time jobs and help very little around the house. I know I should kick them out; they could rent if they pooled their resources, -but- I made my husband move out and he was murdered. I'm on the edge, ready for the funny farm. They take almost no responsibility except toward their jobs.
Meanwhile I'm 60 years old and getting so damned tired because I work two jobs to make ends meet. They contribute little to the household. I know I am a failure as a mother and it's too late to try to change things. I did try, though. I tried.
We have no other family and my 'friends' don't want to hear about my problems.
We seem to be so isolated. The future is a black hole.
What do YOU think I should do?! (link)
You sit them down and you tell them they have 30
days to find a place of their own and get out.

You are not a bad mother but your children are lazy adults sponging off of you. They both need full time employment and their own place. Do not allow either of them to have your vehicle. Your job is done. There is not a lot left you can teach them except to
force them into adulthood.

Whatever happened to your husband was not your fault. You would benefit from some al-anon meetings.
Check your local phone book for a chapter in your area. They will help you deal with those things that are not your fault. Yes even now.

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/english.html

Good luck!


so this sucks.
homecoming is coming up in a couple of weeks and all my friends have dates with people they REALLY like.
so that's cool.
but now they are all over me to get a date.
and there are all these scary guys that like me.
scary like...just gross.
totally not people that I would want to even talk to.
and my friends decided they will tell all of the guys that like me that I don't have a date for the dance yet and i'm interested in them.
yeah.
bummer.
and they keep trying to ask them to go with me!
it's so annoying.
i mean, i'll find a date on my own, but it's so annoying that every single moment they won't shut up about how they are going to go tell them.
i've told them they're making me really agitated, but they won't stop!
i don't know how to make them stop.
and if it's not asking me to the dance, it's just to tell them I like them back when I totally don.t.
does this make any sense? (link)
Tell them they might as well stop because you will turn down anyone they have ask you. Be sure to tell
them you appreciate their efforts, but it isn't going down that way. :)


i want my toe nails to look like i got them done lol. what colors/brand can i get to achieve this look: clear but shiny purplish color with a white tip?

thanks :] (link)
Here is the whole routine if you want them to look professionally done!

http://www.catalogs.com/info/personal-care/how-to-do-the-perfect-pedicure.html


What does this song mean?
/// Meaning behind it?

(link)
Here ya go!

http://www.songmeanings.net/lyric.php?lid=35142


Msn won't log me in today, my internet is perfectly fine, and my msn is set to log in me automatically so I didn't get my password wrong.

It told me to click troubleshoot so i did and it said DONE but it didn't say what was wrong -.- help? (link)
I've had this problem too. I think it is just one of those crazy MSN glitches. It will eventually log
you in. I have switched to SKYPE because of this very thing. There are many messengers out there.
Consider switching. :)


i gained 20 lbs over the summer.
now i have like
where your bra is fat sticking out
it is so embarrassing
what are the best exercises to get rid of these love handles up there! (link)
Actually you don't need any one exercise. You can't get fat to move from any one spot, though I wish we could!

Just do any kind of exercise. Blast your music and dance around your room! Eat a healthy diet & it will
come off. :)


Does anyone know a good way to get rid of the hair down there other than shaving or waxing? (link)
They do make Nair and other creams that will remove hair. Just be sure you look for a product made just for using in bikini areas. DO NOT use regular Nair made for legs or underarms. It is to harsh and will cause severe burns. Try it in a small area before
you go nuts with it. Better an allergic reaction or
burn in a small area rather than your entire pubic area!


1.well how much trouble do you get in if you are caught downloading music online?

2.how much trouble do you get in if you falsely accuse someone for sexual harrassment? (link)
According to an article I read for illegal downloading, you can do jail time and face fines of
150,000 for each song, movie or software product downloaded.

Falsely accusing someone of sexual harrassment usually costs you loss of reputation plus you
can be sued for damages done to the person you accused. They probably lost their job, reputation,
had court costs, lawyers fees...you're looking at
a lot of money.


Ok well this school year hasn't really started out that great. Well this summer, me and my best guy friend started liking each other & kinda acted like we were going out. But we couldn't cuz our other best friend likes him too. So I ended up kinda not talking to them much anymore. But when this school year started, I sorta changed. Like I used to dress wicked preppy and now its just like jeans & a band T-shirt. Not really a big deal. And I really don't care if anyone else has a problem with that. Well I started to talking to my guy friend again a little bit and he asked me why I changed. But he didn't mean clothes, he meant personality. I truthfully don't see it. All I know is I acted sorta sad when I was around him in class because I miss him and I still want to be with him. And it turns out that our other friend doesn't like him anymore. And he told me that he never got over me and he still loves me.But i hafta show him that I haven't changed my personality. Cuz I'm still the same nice, crazy, person I was. So I really need help in showing how to do that, Please!

15/f (link)
What you wear shouldn't make a difference at all.
He will see you are the same person if you give it time. You might explain to him why you acted so glum before. Let him know you are still interested. :)


ok so my ex an i were together for about 6 months and we broke up for a lot of reasons.
1. we live in different cities
2. he is still married but not living with his wife
3. i became really clingy and paroniod about everything.

anyways after we broke up we stopped talking to each other for about a month, but we just couldn't stay aways for long it has been 3 months now and i still love him so much and i think he still cares i mean he tells me that he wants to be with me that he wants to see me and asks when i am going to move to his city since that was the plan to be closer and because i want out of where i live.

but every time i ask him is he is being true with me he doesn't answer me, he was never like that he always answered any question i had.

how can i get him to asnwer me? i just don't want to get hurt anymore. (link)
To be blunt and honest if you don't want to be hurt anymore put this relationship way behind you and move on.

He isn't answering because he isn't being true and doesn't want to lie about it. He isn't divorced, makes it real easy to say "I can't marry you". You
are more than likely not the only one he is messing with. You became clingy and that is a problem for him.

Find a nice guy with no baggage and who treats you
like you are the best thing that happened to him.
There are guys like that out there.


I've had the same hair for a long time.
I can't think of any styles.
In the past i've had : side bangs, really really short, angles, layers
and right now i have angles and layers except the angels are growing out. I am trying to grow my hair half way down my back, but i dont know what to do with it when it is that length.
some things about my hair:
it does NOT scrunch
its really thick
it doesnt frizz
right now its about 5 inches past my shoulders

anything would be nice; pictures or just a description.. thank you (link)
There are tons of sights for how to style long hair.
Have a look. :)

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does anyone know where you can download skins for iTunes for free?
thanx!
=] (link)
Hear are some free skins sites for you.

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does anyone know any songs abouttt
loving your boyfriend and him not loving you
back or something.???

my situation is that i'm with my boyfriend
and i love him;; i'm not in love with him..
not yet at least, i just love him. i care
alotttttttt about him. sooo muchh. but i guess
he doesn't actually love me back... he just
has strong feelings for me, he just likes me.

does anyone know of any songs for this kind
of situation? i reallllyyyy need help..

a list of songs would be nice :]

thankss i REALLY appreciate it..
(link)
Hear is a good search for you. Lots of choices. :)

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i'm a junior in high school this year. and i live in queens, ny. i was wondering if anyone in the area knows a good SAT prep that's free? if that's possible. but if not, one that is pretty cheap and is good also? thanks! (link)
ygsgirl is correct about the school counselors.
They will know all that stuff and give you the info.
There are a lot of websites offering free online practice tests. Here is my search if you'd care to have a look. :)

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please help!
\
its like being half-cross-eyed?

one of my eyes is normal (like the iris and pupil part stay in center of my eyeball) but in the other eye the iris and pupil part is closer to my nose like its close-set in one eye.

has anyone ever heard anything like this? (link)
I have heard of this but don't know what its called.
you should probably see an eye doctor about it. I'm
sure they would help you out in getting it corrected. :)


i'm getting my wisdom teeth removed in like 2 weeks and i'm really nervous....how bad is the procedure? thanks.

:) (link)
Its really not bad. They usually put you to sleep.
You may feel a little uncomfortable the first day after surgery. mostly you'll just be groggy. They
will give you something for pain, but its usually
not near as bad as they pain of the teeth before they are removed. So its really not bad at all. :)


I was wondering what the average dick size is? (link)
Here you go. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/penis_size.htm


14/f

ok, i hear a lot of people on here talking about masturbating...but what is it? I feel so stupid asking this but i'd rather this than asking my friends though! HELP ME!!! I RATE HIGH! (link)
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I want to sing a song for my mom's wedding (in October), but I can't seem to find one. I'm an alto, so it's hard for me to find songs to sing since it seems like every female singer has a super high voice. I was thinking about singing my own version of "Hero" by Enrique Iglesias (their song), but I'm not sure. Does anyone know of any songs I could sing? A list would be awesome : ) (link)
Anne Murray. She has some great songs that would be very appropriate for a wedding. Here is a discography of her music. If you click the album it will take you to songs on that album. Click the song title and it will take you to where you can click on lyrics. :)

http://www.google.com/musica?aid=E973BIx1EcP&sa=X&oi=music&ct=result




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