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"Do not pity the dead, Harry. Pity the living, and, above all those who live without love" - Albus Dumbledore

Hi, I'm Laura. I'm a senior in college & I'm slowly deciding what I want to do with my life. I love Harry Potter, coffee, writing, and sleeping (amongst other things). I'll never claim to know everything, but I'm confident in my ability to help people with their problems. Feel free to send me an inbox question; I'll get back to you!

A few thoughts I've gathered from my teenage years (and being on this site for most of them!):
1. If you Google song lyrics, the song will come up 99% of the time.
2. Dress to fit your body type, and buy the size that fits. If you're a size 6, squeezing into a 4 won't make you look skinnier. It makes you look fat when you aren't.
3. You will never regret waiting to lose your virginity.
4. There is such a thing as a stupid question, but we're all allowed to ask them.

BU 2014 :)

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ok so i cant look at this one persons profile/away message. my computer always says "Please Wait..." does this happen to anyone else and do you know what's wrong? thanks.

They're probably tricking you. If "OK" is grayed out, then there's a problem loading, it can happen. Otherwise, they typed "Please Wait..." in Times New Roman as their profile.

I have a lot of necklaces. But I have no way of keeping them organized. Right now they are all tangled in a little box.

Do you guys have any ideas/advice on how to help me get more organized?

I got a bunch of cute, oversized pushpins at Target and Walmart. I stuck the pins in a sort of wave pattern on my wall near my dresser, and hung the necklaces off that. It came out pretty cute and they don't get tangled anymore!

ok. so im making a music myspace thingy. and i have limewire. and when i go to upload it onto myspace it says:

There was an error:
The uploaded file must be an MP3

what do i do?

You... make sure the file you're uploading is an MP3. You must have the wrong file type.

Or it's possible that there's a problem with myspace. Try it agian later, then try a different MP3 file.

I have a cold right now. It isn`t too bad, but my nose runs alot and I cough like crazy.
Tomorow school starts again, (because I was hoping I would be better by then time the weekend was over)
Anyways, I`m not really sure if I should miss school, because it isn`t anything too serious, and I would fall behind in school.
AND >>> I have field hockey every day after school for two hours, and so I don`t know what to do about that.

When you wake up tomorrow, see how you feel then. Are you up for going to school? If you are, go. Then, if you're still sick, and the coughing and nose-running will interfere with your practice, talk to your coach and skip it. She'd probably much rather have you rest up and get better, than practice anyway and get worse.

okay so me and my ex broke up about a month ago and we still love each other we just broke up because he had to concintrate on school and football but he said well get back together when hes figured things out..and like i was always number 3 on his myspace and then i saw two days ago it changed..his friend who was a girl became before me..and i mean it kinda hurt because im thinking maybe his feelings changed or something.But he told me that hes been friends with her just as long as his best friend (whos a guy) and he said that shes his best friend too and like that they skate together and that hes been always with her(not in a love relationship kinda way)and that people always say that they are together and stuff but he said that if i dont believe him fine because no one else does.And i do believe him i guess..but i mean he switched me and her sometimes but only like twice..and i was number 3 for a long time soo now if hes been best friends with her for a long time then why all of a sudden change it so shes before me? why wasent it like that before you know? i feel silly feeling like this but the orders do mean something..so what do you guys think about this? do you think he likes her?

I'm pretty sure he still likes you. Don't hound him so much about it. IT'S MYSPACE!!! A top 8, no less. People change the order of theirs all the time. They may have 16 people that they want on their top 8, so they switch people up so they don't have a top friends that takes up half a page. Should people whine about getting booted out of number three for spot seven? Of course not; that's stupid. It's a top 8; it doesn't determine if the person still likes you.

You should ask him directly about your relationship, not about the order on his top 8. Ask if he's still interested in a relationship with you, or if he wants to date this other girl. It's the only way you're going to know.

what does that quote mean i wear my heart on my sleeve i was just wondering b/c i could never figure out what that meant!!!

It basically means that you openly express your emotions and aren't afraid of who sees it. Like if you literally had yor heart (where emotions come from) on your sleeve, everyone could see it.

Or, if you're like my friends, you make a heart skicker out of contact paper and put it on your arm :] That would be a literal translation.

ok, i was at a house party last week and i didnt really know everybody who was there, it was really my friend who wanted to go. everybody got really drunk but i didnt because i dont drink.
anyway these guys started talking to me but i said i wasnt interested because i have a boyfirend. (ive been seeing him for a year and i love him to bit.) so we just sat talking and they brought me a drink from the kitchen and i remember i felt ill and went to the bathroom but i dont remember anything after that except waking up in a bed. i think they spiked my drink and im worried they did something to me and i dont know who they were.
do i tell my boyfirend and if so, how? i dont want him not to believe me and think i cheated on him.

Yes, you should tell yur boyfriend, but tell your parents first. They can help you get the treatment you may need. They could have raped you and you may have STDs.

Your boyfriend should know what's going on, so tell him right after you tell your parents. If he has at least an ounce of compasson in him, he'll understand. And if you've been honest with him all along, he'll have no reason to believe that you got drunk and cheated on him. Be patient when you're telling him, and he may get angry (but not at you, the guys who spiked your drink)

I hope it all turns out okay, good luck with everything! =]
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Depending on what it's like, a song can change my mood or outlook on a situation from moment to moment because that's just how I am. What are some good songs that make you feel mellow and chilled out or happy. The songs themselves don't have to be happy or sad...just how do they make you feel? Please give me some names of good songs.

Well, this would be different for everyone, wouldn't it?

But I personally love the album Everything In Transit from Jack's Mannequin. Also, Something Corporate, Straylight Run, Cartel, Motion City Soundtrack, the Fray, and AC/DC (i know, the odd one out here!)

For individual songs: "Good Riddance" by Green Day, "I'll Be" from Edwin McCain, and "Sexyback" is funny if you need a laugh and/or mindless amusement =D

well. i straighten my hair every morning. it will look fine. but when i go outside to wait for my bus its gets wavey and frizzy.

what can i do to make it not get frizzy??

-A good (ideally ceramic) straightener that gets really hot.

-Frizzease. Or some other serum.

-And lotsa hairspray.
If your hair gets crispy, brush it out a little afterwards.

Also, I tried Herbal Essences Dangerously Straight finishing spray, and it makes my hair really shiny. It also seems to work with the hairspray and keep frizz down, because my hair stays almost perfect all day now =]. Even better than just hairspray.

hope I helped!

How do you get rid of underground pimples?
I already know how to get rid of normal ones.

Agh. Cystic acne SUCKS.
This type of acne isn't caused by the environment OR makeup, and is instead the result of either overactive hormones or excessive bacteria in your pores.

I had this kind of acne reallllly bad last year, and I tried everything. Proactiv (one of my last resorts) helped it somewhat, but it was still pretty bad. My doctor referred me to a dermatologist. He gave me a prescription for antibiotics, which cleared up the problem nicely.

The only side effect to this was that antibiotics can make your teeth slightly yellow. As long as you brosh everyday, you'll be fine. Plus, you won't be on them forever, so don't worry about it. Most of the damage done to tooth enamel is done by the time you hit pubery anyhow =]

Regardless of whether you go the dermatologist route or not, here's a couple home remedies and treatments:
-a warm/hot facecloth, held up against breakouts, helps make everything clear up sooner and makes spot treatments more effective. Apply a spot treatment with salicylic acid (it'll minimize the scarring this acne will inevitably cause)

-a clay mask will draw excess oil from your pores

-find a good foundation that doesn't look fake. Even if your acne isn't that bad, it'll make you feel more confident and then you'll be less likely to pick at your face (a big no-no, because popping cystic acne makes it 92878934758 times worse!!)

Lastly, don't do too much to your face, and be gentle! You don't want to overdo anything.

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hey this is Ankur from india.i am stuck in a pickle of what should in do. my ex is so beautiful right now that i feel like i should go back to her. at the same time i feel like of patching up a relationship with girl in my class.at the same time time there is a girl whom i like who in another shift of the same school.i am a science student and she is commerce. please somebody help me out of this pickle, damn i am really stuck

Your ex.. if the only reason you want to get back together is because she's pretty, that probably won't work out. What did she do before that made you two break up? was it something trivial (like chewing her nails) or something huge (like cheating on you). If it was a stupid little thing, it may be worth getting back together.

As for the other two girls you like, be friends with them for awhile and see if you're still interested in them. And if things don't work out with your ex, you could date them if that's what you still want.

I hope I helped; good luck with everything!

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what is the significance of history? i mean how would it be significant to me? i have a paper to write for social studies, and the question is: What Is The Significance of History? i know that it is important because it helps us learn from our mistakes, but the teacher wants to know why it is significant to ME. and i don't know how to answer this. i also need to include specific facts and examples.

thanks if anybody can give me any imput on this :]

History's important because if you don't know your past, then you don't have a future.

You could probably write a lot based on that. Plus, did any of your ancestors come to America through Ellis Island or on the Mayflower? Imagine how different your life would be if they hadn't!

i am 13 and i pretty much have alota zits, but only on my forhead. i wash my face 2 time every day AND use acne medication. its working well, but i really want something to get rid of them FAST or some kinda cover-up that will hide them reallly good. any suggestions?

I use Clean and Celar Advantage Spot Treatment. It truly works wonders, and I love it =]. As long as the cleanser you're using doesnt irritate your skin, keep using it the way you are.

Since you're on acne medication, I'm assuming you have a dermatologist? If not, ask your regular doctor (next time you go, no need to rush out now) if something like Differin or Retin-A Micro would work for your type of acne. I started using them last year, and I went from typical "pizza face" to a normal teenager with a few zits now and then; it was a wonderful improvement. It's worth a shot, and also isn't that expensive (especially if you have insurance already; it covers alot of the cost)

For make-up, I use foundation. I use a combination of Maybelline Pure makeup and Dream Matte Mousse (the Mousse I use more as a concealer; it's less cakey than concealer). And as long as you don't get oil-based makeup (it'll be labeled "non comedegonic" or however it's spelled =] and also may say "oil free") it won't clog your pores, so long as you wash it off at night. But don't overdo either, because you'll end up making it look worse.

sorry I went kinda overboard here, but I know alot about this stuff 'cause I went through the same thing last year =D

best of luck, and I hope I helped!

My parents are coming over for dinner and I'm not sure what kind of music to play in the background. What's some good dinner music that sounds okay when played softly and that won't upset the relatives?"

Anything that isn't loud or metal-headish. Classical is always a great choice. Also, maybe John Mayer or Jack Johnson, Coldplay, et cetera.

im getting my hair cut tomarrow. my hair is just below my chest (i like it that length) and it has grown out layers (shortest layor- to my shoulders) and grown out bangs ( to my shoulders) i have a oval face andbig brown eyes ,black eye brows. im confused on what to do to shape my face or really complete my look.im kinda of preppy/different style,if that helps. i dont know if i'll do something about the color (because the color is so different from my eyebrows,should i change it a little?) also i have fair skin (moderately fair) i was thinking of bangs to the middle of my neck,angles and some thing with color.any other suggestions? also whatis low lights? anything will help!!
thank you veryyyyyy muchh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
x3 x3 x3 x3 x3

My hair's a little shorter than yours, but I think I have the same kind of cut to frame my face. It actaully started as an accident (I set my hair on fire and broke it off with a hair dryer motor) and my hairdresser completely fixed it =]. I don't know what it's called, but if you have a bunch of layers framing your face, it will compliment almost any face shape, and will also be easy to manage in the morning.

Changing your color could be cute, but I recommend getting it done at the salon the first time so you dont totally screw up the color and look like you're ready for Halloween. Lowlights are like highlights, only darker. I had them done and they're really cute. Plus, you don't need them touched up as much as allover dye.

No matter what you decide, make sure you get a trim (even if you keep the length). Otehrwise, the roots will soak up too much dye (if you're getting it colored) and your hair will split more easily and get all frizzy and icky.

hope I helped! =]

Is there any way to see what pictures have been deleted from your photobucket? Like, a history of pictures deleted or a trash can thing or something? Or once pictures are deleted, are they pretty much gone?

I'm asking because someone I share a photobucket account with says they didn't delete pictures off of my account and I'm almost 100% positive that I uploaded them there.

Thanks.

If the pictures were that important, I'd try contacting photobucket.

For future reference though, you shouldn't really EVER share accounts. Besides, they're free, so why share to begin with?

What can I do about a runny nose?

Under my nose, is a bit raw from all the sneezing and wiping my nose. And every time my head is down, my nose gets all runny and ...makes a gross mess.

What can I do for tomorrow in school? We have essays to write and I can't keep my head up.

Is there anything I can do? I'm taking a tissue box of course but anything else?

Steams will help you breathe. If you've never done them, you take a bowl (preferably plastic) and fill it with VERY hot water, even boiling if the bowl can take it. Then you put a few herbal tea bags into it, and put your head over the bowl and breathe the steam (put a towel over your head too). This will help temporarily, and is great for falling asleep.

For a more long-term solution (like school) take something like Sudafed (even though it tastes horrible) or something for sinus pressure (depending on what you have). CVS makes something called Cold and Allergy Elixir. I find this stuff to be absolutely amazing; it works great and lasts a looong time. It's worked for everyone in my family, so I gues it's worth a shot. It's not that expensive either.

Best of luck tomorrow, and hope you feel better! =]

Do you know any home recipies that can reduce redness of a sunburn, bc im really red. And tommorow is picture day, Any advice would be Appreciated! thankyou.
16F

Ouch! Use Aloe Vera (not a home remedy, but still quite natural)

Oatmeal mask- mix 3TBSP ground oatmeal and 1.5-2 TBSP milk or cream, apply to face and lay down for about 10 minutes (it'll peel/crumble/flake/generally make a mess if you don't haha)

Also, use a matte foundation (like Dream Matte Mousse- its simply AMAZING) or equal parts foundation and moisturizer followed by pressed powder, to keep your face from being excessively shiny on film.

Plus, if you spend a lot of time doing your hair, you won't think about a little redness in your picture. It's not as bad as it looks so don't worry =]

I'm a 13 year old girl going into 8th grade, and i am getting a new backpack. I was wondering if an llbean one would be out of style or babyish? If so what other kind do you reccomend, and if not, what color should I get. I was thinking pink but is that kind of childish?

LL Bean backpacks NEVER go out of style, are you kidding? =]

I had one for a coupel years in middle school and i LOVED it. Jsut don't get a super-trendy pattern that you know you'll be sick of later on, because these backpacks last for YEARS and never wear out (you'll want to use it)

I got a bright blue Hawaiian print and regretted it. I now have a Mudd messenger bag, which a lot of people have this year (the messenger bag style). I guess that wouldn make it "trendy".

Whenever you get a backpack, though, make sure it's one that YOU like, and will be comfortable for you to carry. Remember, YOU'RE the one lugging that around all year!

And by the way, pink NEVER goes out of style

my hair is really long like down to my waist. its wavy and sometimes curly. some days its fine. but other i get attcked by the frizz monster. do u no any SHAMPOOS that stop frizz. im burnett by the way. and my hair is 100 % natural. thnxx

Pantene Smooth and Sleek truly works wonders. Any shampoo that works on frizz and/or has lots of moisturizing should be fine.

Also, I've read that sleeping on slightly damp hair, then brushing in the morning, helps to tame frizz too.

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