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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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I am 18. He is 20. We have been best friends for 3 years and have done some fooling around during our friendship, but we haven't taken things farther. I asked him on a date and he said yes! But I want to plan it. So where should I take him? we are both super nerds/geeks.
I'll just lay out some ideas:
Movies, Casual Dining, Fishing, Day out at the beach, Amusement park, Water park, Zoo, Aquarium, Picnic, Mall.
I hate my stepdad.. He married my mom about 11.5 years ago and hes turned into an ASS! He absolutly HATES ME and I do the same. He doesnt even Treat me like a human. Sometimes i do but he says i talk to my mom like a dog. Yet my mom says they are soulmates....Wow O.o Welp He pushes her and Treats her like SHIT and i cant do anything about that.?? I want to live with my Real dad but my mom says no. They also say are getting a divorce and im like YEAH WHOOP:D)In my head) But then they dont.. Help!!!
I went through something similar when I was younger, The only thing you can do is to ride it out and try to get along with him. Nobody is asking you to adore him just get along with him. Trust me, Respect pays a huge roll and if you both can learn to respect one another it will lift any sort of tension you both have and making living a hell lot easier. You made it clear you don't like the guy but reality is kiddo this is about your mother and what she wants. If she wants to be with him then you are going to have to respect her choices, Your mother is a grown women who is entitled to date whoever she wants too date. If they ever do get divorced then you don't have to worry about the ass hat anymore but in the meantime ride it out. That's about all you can do
I need some advice on how to break up with my boyfriend. We've been going on since June 9th of this year but I really don't see a future with him. I feel nothing when I'm with him and I don't know why it got like this all of a sudden. There's been times where I almost broke up with him but there's something that's stopping me but I don't know what it is. But the truth is I think we're better off as friends. What should I do? How can I break up with him without hurting his feelings that much because I do care about his feelings. Thanks in advance.
You can simply tell him that you don't feel the relationship is working out on your part and you'd like to remain friends. j
Or here are a few other lines you could use:
" My heart doesn't seem to be committed into this relationship and I don't feel it's going to work out"
" I have thought about our relationship lately and I feel we are better off being friends because I don't feel we are right for each other"
Or your best bet is too be honest and tell your boyfriend exactly what you told us above. It's best to know early on then to know later.
"The longer you hold on to something that is not there, The longer you prolong your pain"
-This is a true saying- Better to do it sooner than later.
I have met a guy while i was traveling and we got on so well
but I live in 200 miles away from where he lives He asked my online details and we communicated on facebookhe he called me cute, asked my number
one day he came to visit my city by coach (he invites himself to visit me) to see me
we had dinner together he kissed me on a lips more than once i just wondered wheather he likes me
Likely but be very careful how you meet people, I found it awfully odd that he would randomly invite himself to visit you without your permission first. This doesn't at all creep you out??...It sure as hell would have me running the other way. It's odd someone would travel 200+ miles to see someone they met over the internet. If I were you, I wouldn't be giving your information out to people you do not know despite how long you've been talking too them. Would you just randomly give me your number and information?..I would hope not.
So i really want to lose weight but i dont want to take dieting pills so is there any other way that i can lose weight? please help!!
Dieting and Exercise
Eat a lot of fiber, Fish, Chicken, Tuna, Veggies, Fruit
Stay away from anything sugary such as soda, diet soda, juice.
Avoid eating to much starch - Potatoes, White Rice (Surprisingly high in sugar!) Substitute pasta for wheat pasta. If you want rice go for wild rice or whole grain. Drink a lot of water and if you feel the need to drink something with flavor have some tea but don't add sugar.
Crunches, Sit ups, Free weights, Walking and even something like going up a flight of stairs repeatedly will burn calories, If you like swimming hit the beach. Jogging is good exercise but too much or excessive jogging is bad for your knees.
When eating a meal go for the smaller plates and eat one serving. Don't go for a second round and snack in between meals! Low fat yogurt with granola is great! and if you like cinnamon sprinkle some on your food, Cinnamon is said to give a fuller feeling!
If you are interested you could also try weight watchers online here is a website:
http://weightwatchers.com/plan/www/online_01.aspx
Activities: Bike ride, Hike, Walk your dog anything outdoors will do it! If you like sports then go for it!
Good luck with your weight loss, I wish you the best of luck!
My bff told me I was the slut of the one class n I believe her. I wear short shorts that almost show my butt. I wear no sleeved shirts I wear low shirts. belly shirts I also wear short short dresses and I am 11 and a half. I made out with guys and i slept with a guy at his house. Is it true be truthful. Also how could I tell my other bffe(best friends for eternity)?
I don't believe in calling anyone a slut
I do believe that people get the impressions that you give them, If you dress too revealing to the point where people think low of you then maybe it is time to change your appearance. I would generally tell you not too care about what other people think but reality is you are 11 years old and showing your body at such a young age is a bit inappropriate. Now your best friend could of worded it a little better than she did but perhaps she is trying to imply that you reveal to much of your body. At 11 years old, You are very young and should be dressing age appropriate. If you don't want people to think little of you then don't give them a reason too. Also, It is nothing to be proud of being called a slut. Not only does it give you a bad reputation but also a poor self image.
I'm a twelve year old girl and I feel like I have to just change my life completely. This one guy I was friends with in fourth grade told me how he felt about me, and I rejected him. I suddenly just hated everything about him. And I ran away. That was in fifth grade. So I've finished my sixth grade year and it's just gotten worse on my part. I don't know who's my friend and who is not. There's this really nice, cute guy I know but I don't know whether I like him or not because as soon as I forget him, I see him again and I just think about him more. Also, I feel like a lot of the kids in my grade talk about sex and it really scares me. Some days I just have a nervous breakdown just trying to figure everything out. Please help, thank you. I really appreciate it.
You are 12, You are going through the change of a child to a teenager. This time in your life everything seems overwhelming and confusing. Right now, Just focus on you and take things one step a time. Don't worry about guys right, Sex is not everything either. Sex comes later down the line when you are older and ready. I know that everyone seems to be talking about it but you need to realize that you are actually one of the smart ones for knowing you aren't ready. Look at what is happening, People are having children at 13 years old and I can promise you that is NOT the smart choice to make at such a young age. I didn't end up having sex until I was almost 18 and I don't regret it one bit!! :) Don't worry about it, Just focus on you and get through middle school that is what you should be doing anyway. Have fun being a kid and enjoy it, Your true friends will stick by you through thick and thin and that is how you know who your true friends are. The ones that are there for you. Remember it's one day at a time that's all it really is and things will get better. Just worry about you and nobody else
i love my best friends boyfriend, i have no idea what to do. shes already caught us sexting an he says he loves me. i love him to. HELP!!!!
If she is your best friend then why do you want to go and betray her? This is HER boyfriend, It is wrong of you to come between that. YoungMommy is right, Guys come and go.....but friends are supposed to be forever. I can promise you, If you go through with it you will almost likely ruin your friendship. Find a guy somewhere else that is not in a relationship with your best friend and stop texting him.
Does a hicky show up right after u kissed ages 12 to 11
Sometimes
If you want my opinion you are young and it is very trashy of someone to have a hickey on their body were everyone can see it. It's not attractive and it's kind of gross.
Sure some people will disagree with me but this is my opinion, Nobody needs to see other people's business on their necks etc. Also, The user above me is WRONG if you were to suck on someone's neck they don't ALWAYS get a hickey. This depends on how rough you were to be.
18/f
I will try to be straightforward here. Mine and my boyfriend's relationship has been on the rocks for a while. I seem to put a lot of effort into it, and he barely does. Friend, girlfriend, or whatnot... He treats me differently from other people. He seems to get annoyed of me, but yet I make him happy. He seems to put his stress out on me and doesn't notice it and gets annoyed at every little thing I do.
He's the oldest out of 5 siblings, raised by traditional parents who expect him to set a good example to his siblings, heavily depended on his family, works full time to save money for his tuition since he's transferring over to a university and is moving out of the house, not just that he's planning to be a surgeon so he's focused on school.
Recently, I asked about how he felt since he seemed to be very distant from me. He said that he's been busy with work. And that he does still love me, but just not as much. So we have this scale that we use a "like" and a "love" scale that we usually say, just to see where we stand about our feelings for each other. Both the like and love scale is scaled from 1 - 10 each and are basically connected to each other. He said his love scale was at 1, and his like scale was at 3. Which is really bad. He said that lately he's only been thinking about is medicine and studying.
I notice that whenever he senses that I'm moving on, he gets a bit worried but his mind is still set on school. Others think he's taking me for granted because he knows that I would always be there waiting for him.
So my questions are, what should I do at this point? How does that work out when he says that he likes me a little, but also loves me a bit as well? Do you think that he actually does love me he just doesn't notice it because he's so stressed out and he think I'm always going to be here so he doesn't really think about it?
Here is the first thing you wrote: "I seem to put a lot of effort into it, and he barely does."
Relationships take 2 to work out not 1, From the sound of it your boyfriend puts himself and school before his relationship. I'm not going to say that is wrong but he seems to not have any time to work around a busy schedule. It is not fair to keep someone around if a person can not make time to see them and spend time with them once in a while. This is what he is doing. I suggest you sit down and discuss how you feel with him and tell him what you told us. Nobody is constantly busy studying to the point where they don't have an hour to spare. If he isn't willing to make time for you and your relationship then your best bet is too move on and meet someone else who is more available and convenience for you rather than hung up on school work to the point where that is all they do. You can't make a relationship work when it just one trying, It doesn't work that way.
how can i turn my boyfriend on through my laptop?
If you are under the age of 18, Anything sexual would be considered illegal.
Viewing anyone under the age of 18 through phone, internet or anything of this matter could fall under child pornography whether it was consented or not.
I recommend doing whatever you want in person and not over the computer or cell phone.
hi, boyfriend of 9 months says we're a couple. what does he exactly mean? thanks.
He is referring to you two are together.
You are dating, You are a couple, You are his girlfriend etc.
I know this isnt exactly a question,. Just wanna say i love your colum and Congrats on being featured!!!
Jasmine
Thank you! :)
21 m
thank you for your input, but the one major detail I'm sorry i left out is that there is a 50 percent chance that the child may not be mine. "A" believes it is mine. i figure who's knows more than she does about who was, and wasn't, there at the time. how do i handle the situation not knowing if the child is mine or not?!
Ah! left out very important detail ;)
Well once the child is born you could request a paternity test, This can only be done once the child is born though there is no way to tell while she is pregnant.
Good luck and if so congrats!
I feel like I've been chasing this guy that I've liked off and on for years. He says he likes me, but he likes someone else, or he says he'll take me on a date and that he's not interested in having a relationship right now because he's preparing to go on a mission, but then I find out that he IS in a relationship. Not to mention that he's LIED to me all these years. When I found out about his relationship, I wanted to call him and yell at him and ask him so many questions to why he lied to me again.
I have been thinking about this a lot, and I've come to a decision that I have got to stop chasing him, and just let him come to me if he has a problem. Am I doing the right thing? Thanks!
Move on completely
Being done with someone doesn't mean waiting around in hopes they one day come to you with an explanation of why they lied. You've clearly wasted your time chasing the guy why waste it even more by putting yourself on hold? The guy is a compulsive liar not only has he led you on but he had your hopes up and in the end he could just tell you the truth. Stop wasting your time with this guy and find someone who will be honest with you and respect you. This guy isn't going to give you a reason to why he lied, He made that pretty clear.
21 m
hey I have recently become the center of a huge problem. I have been in a relationship with a girl for seven years, we have a two year old daughter, and have had ups and downs, we will call her "B". also there is this friend of mine, a girl, whom Ive known for 10 years and is one of my closest friends, we will call her "A". One day 5 years ago "A" and "B" meet and become best friends,almost like sisters, closer than I am to either of them, and it stayed that way for 5 years. in 2007 "B" cheated on me for three months with an ex of hers, "A" was by her side the whole time. it blew over, I got over it, we settled back into our life again. things go back to normal, until six months ago, me and "B" were going through a tough time again, nothing major. but through the arguing me and "A" became very close again. I start spending more time with "A". showing less and less attention to "B". Me and "A" flirt, play, talk, laugh, and then, we tell each other how we feel about one another. I like her, she likes me. so we talk about my girlfriend; (her best friend), and what we should do. We don't want to be together, but there are feelings that haven't been addressed through out the friendship. We realize if we continue on this way someday soon a line will be crossed, don't know when, don't know how, just "something is going to happen". Still, we both decide to ignore it, and someday came about a week later... i went to her house one night and spent the night... nothing happened really, kiss, hug, touch, all behind my girlfriend's(her best friend)back. we decide it was a one time thing, it will never happen again. month later, it did...And then a week later, and then a few days later, and then every day, taking it further and further, until.. we had sex in February 2011. I then kept going to her house regularly through out February in to March, lying the whole time, too "B"s face. "A" lied too, saying anything to hide what we were doing, at this point it was like living a double life me and "A" were "together" when not around everyone and in public or around "B" and just friends. I couldn't take it anymore. I told be I'm breaking up and doing things on my own. I moved in with "A" and we were pretty much an unofficial couple. That lasted a month. April first I moved back home because "B" and "A"s ex decided two can play the game and were fooling around. me and "A" couldn't deal and put a stop to it. so I'm back home trying to mend the scar i have torn into "B"s heart all while she is hating me and her best friend for doing this to her. things are getting better, a month goes by. i have stopped talking to "A" at this point, and "B" and I are good. I receive a call from "A" hailing good news and bad news.. Good news, she a very healthy 21 yr old young woman. Bad news, I'm gunna have another little baby... yes, she is six weeks pregnant. "B" was listing to the convo because I assumed I had nothing to hide. So yet another scar cut open, not only did i cheat on "B" with her best friend, and leave her to be with said best friend. Now I am having a baby with her to. which brings us to the present, Me and "B" are still together trying to work things out at home for our daughter. I rarely talk to "A", who is now five months along. I did go to the first ultra sound about a week ago but we have no other communication other wise. things are tense at home and i am having trouble figuring out the right thing to do, about everything "A", "B", babies, I just don't know anymore, it all just seems like a bad episode of jerry springer. there are way more details if you need them, but can anyone give me advice on what to do next???
This is a messy situation you've got yourself into
You cheated, Your girlfriend "B" has every right to be pissed. You have another child on the way so the right thing to do is to be a man and accept responsibility to your actions. You said you went to the first ultra sound, Honestly you should be going to all the ultra sounds. This IS your child too "A" didn't make this baby on her own.
You can try to work it out with "B" but I'll tell you what.... Expect her to never trust you the same again. You have 2 children, You need to accept that and work it out with both "A" and "B" it would be 100% wrong to not have any further contact with "A" because you don't want to make the situation worse. What ignoring the situation with "A" can do is eventually send you to court for child support if you don't support her and that child and you will fall yourself into a bigger mess then you are already in. This is called being responsible, When you have a child with someone you are always going to be in contact with that child's mother to some extent. If you don't want to fuck up the situation and want it too work with "B" then you should sit down and talk about the situation with "B". "B" needs to know that you have another child on the way and you are not only a father to her child but too her friends as well and somehow she is either going to accept it or she won't.
what if you are having second thoughts about getting married.
Put the wedding on hold until you know for sure, It's better to know before hand then to walk down that isle and be sorry you did it.
im 15 years old and last year on thanksgiving my family got together and my 56 year old aunt brought her bf who is 26 and every family thing he is always there with my aunt and i hang around with them because i think they are really cool. Anyways I know that he's been in jail a lot of times and he has tattoos all over his body and I know he smokes weed. He txts me and he recently told me he broke up with my aunt and that he really likes me. I really like him but it kinda scares me. He said he wants to have sex with me but i told him im only 15 and he says he will wait until i turn 18 to do anything...He knows where i live but I don't wanna stop talking to him cuz i like him. (My mom and dad have told me to stay away from him but I can't help it...They know he has txted me before but I told them we stopped txting) Everytime he txts me i get this nervous feeling in my stomach...i just dont know what to do cuz i dont wanna stop talking to him...I can't say goodbye to him...
Run.....Run fast
This guy is a 26 year old man who is trying to hook up with someone who is 16 years of age and has been in and out of jail.
For starters, It is 100% wrong. If you two were to ever have any sort of relationship that were sexual that IS statutory rape whether you consented or not, What he is doing is something of a pedophile. This man is an adult, You are a child. There is something wrong and sick about someone who wants to get with someone who is only 15 years old. You have a nervous feeling in your stomach because you know it is wrong. Your parents are right, Stay away from the creep. If he text you again REPORT IT. Also I mind as well toss in there that in my state at least "Sexting" is illegal of anyone under the age of 18, If caught you could be registered as a sex offender. You don't want to screw up and you don't want to get in a shit load of trouble then do the smart thing and stay the hell away from him. I'm not trying to be an ass but seriously think about this. It is not normal behavior for a grown man to be trying to hook up with a child. Would it be okay if a 45 year old man had sex with a 5 year old? No of course not. It would not be okay if someone of 26 were to do it too a 15 year old.
Phone calls and text messages can easily be deleted but I'll tell ya what....The data is still traceable despite being deleted or not. Use your head for once and stop talking to him.
You can continue to ignore the advise I give you but if you do not want to get in a shit load of trouble then do something to prevent that now, The more you talk to him the more you leave evidence you've fed into it and these days you'd be surprised what's traceable. This man may think he knows everything but you can't be too smart to be in and out of jail. If that's not his only fuck up.... That's just disgusting.
Hey there :D I'm 19/f.
I've been with my bf for almost 4 years, and we are best friends, totally in love, etc. So that doesn't really help my problem.
I can't stop thinking about having a baby. Thinking about it, looking up names, calculating costs... it's all like a guilty pleasure for me; because I know I am too young and should finish college and get married first. But it's like... this obsession that I have. I am also pretty mature for my age and my mom thinks that I am really modest, so she doesn't mind saying all the time how she can't wait for grandchildren-because she thinks that I would never even think about it till I'm older-but that just fans the flames for me. Even though my bf and I use condoms and BC, EVERY TIME we have sex I get all anxious and nervous thinking that... what if... and then when the idea of being pregnant sticks in my head I get extremely excited and happy about it and have to take like two pregnancy tests to show that I'm not, and then I'm like.. half relieved and half sad. I do worry a lot about what other people would say about me, and them being super disappointed in me though. I'm so confused by what my body is telling me!!! Is there any way to take my mind off of this? It's really bothering my bf. haha. Oh and another question, not long ago I was babysitting my aunt's baby and I was carrying her down the street, and I got tons of bad looks. Is it that uncommon to see a 19/20 year old with a baby? Do you automatically think they are irresponsible people? That's the vibe I got. Thanks :D and sorry, I didn't mean to write a whole book.
It isn't about whether you think you are mature enough to have a child, It is about whether you are mentally,physically and most of all financially ready. Babies require diapers, clothes, food, medical care etc. Are you independent? Do you and your boyfriend both have full time jobs that pay more than $8.00 an hour? Are you able to provide for yourself on your own? If this is a no you are not ready. You stated that you are in college, Honestly I would get yourself through college first before thinking about having a child. Once you have a baby the child becomes all about them and not you. That baby will drain you out and stress you even more than you would be now. You want a baby out of impulse, Not because you really feel you are both able to provide for one. I would wait until you are both financially ready and that you are out of college. It is unfair to bring a child into this world out of selfishness. Stop looking up names and calculating things, Focus on YOU first. Once you are able to handle being independent and you are financially stable enough to provide for a child THEN you talk about having a child but right now you are not ready. You may see people with children but I will tell you one thing........Not all of them were smart and MOST of them are likely having a hard time. Wait a few years then discuss it over
What does it mean when a person you are dating says "my life depends on you"?
My life depends on you?..
Sounds like you are dating someone who doesn't know how to be independent and take care of themselves. Frankly, This statement would probably scare me off to some degree. The columnist below me has a point, How long have you two been dating? If this is something suddenly out of the blue any earlier than the first year......I'd jet
Nobody needs to be in a relationship with someone who is needy and dependent upon others, When someone is in a relationship they usually look for someone who they can count on, raise a family with etc. This is definitely not someone who sounds like they can do neither. My advise? Find someone who isn't afraid of being independent.