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I'm done with him
I feel like I've been chasing this guy that I've liked off and on for years. He says he likes me, but he likes someone else, or he says he'll take me on a date and that he's not interested in having a relationship right now because he's preparing to go on a mission, but then I find out that he IS in a relationship. Not to mention that he's LIED to me all these years. When I found out about his relationship, I wanted to call him and yell at him and ask him so many questions to why he lied to me again.
I have been thinking about this a lot, and I've come to a decision that I have got to stop chasing him, and just let him come to me if he has a problem. Am I doing the right thing? Thanks!
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Let's look at the totals here:
1. You still want him even though he has already proven that he is a liar and a cheater.
2. You want to rank him out about this stuff, but that's a waste of time since you shouldn't be giving someone with no integrity any time at all.
3. You pine after a guy who isn't available to you.
4. Your competitiveness with another girl for his affections is making you irrational and desperate.
5. There are probably other guys who would be good for you and who want you buy who you ignore because you have put all your eggs in that guy's basket.
So seeing all that, don't you think you had better do a re-evaluation of yourself and your relationship with men? Is your father as unavailable physically or emotionally to you as that guy is? Because women often repeat their relationship with their fathers in who they choose as partners. If I have hit the nail on the head about this, you can either get counseling for this or just be more wary of guys like the one you are angry with right now.
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Wow.. yeah girl you shouldn't be waiting around for a guy.. the guy is suppose to be waiting for you , never ever fall into this trap again , I knowit may be hard , but you need to pull yourself together. Is it worth even thinking about what to do with a guy who just made you wait and lead you on for those years and of course lie? thats not a very good choice in picking someone out , you need to go out and find someone new , please dont waste your time , the man is suppose to be the one waiting and chasing you 100000% its never the girl waiting for the guy.. if the guy wants you trust me he will , if he does then you know his feelings are real , another thing.. you said he just talks..never believe a guys words.. if he expresses those words but then backs itup with ACTION... ACTIONS doing things he says like in this case take you on a date and not going to well.. he doesnt support it with action , all I can tell you is tell him goodbye and never talk to him again :) by that time trust me wow you will already be liking someone else
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You are definitely doing the right thing. I totally get how you feel about this. Something similar happened to me and I held on for so long.
You definitely deserve someone better who won't lie to you and won't say he likes you but then just doesn't act like it anymore.
Find someone better because this guy is not worth your time.
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Move on completely
Being done with someone doesn't mean waiting around in hopes they one day come to you with an explanation of why they lied. You've clearly wasted your time chasing the guy why waste it even more by putting yourself on hold? The guy is a compulsive liar not only has he led you on but he had your hopes up and in the end he could just tell you the truth. Stop wasting your time with this guy and find someone who will be honest with you and respect you. This guy isn't going to give you a reason to why he lied, He made that pretty clear.
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Waiting for him to come to you is not 'done with him'.
You are still hoping he comes back. You are still hoping he'll explain what happened.
That's okay. But when you are really done, you wont be hoping any longer. If you are really done with him, IF he does come to you, you'll send him away.
Nothing he can say will explain what actually happened. Let it go.
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Hey,
I think you are doing the right thing. I'm glad that you realized that you deserve someone better - a guy who likes you for who you are and doesn't lie and make up lame excuses. He seems like a total player, and if he's in a relationship, I'm willing to bet that he's lied to other girls, too. Moving on looks like your best choice.
Good for you,
Diary
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