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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.

I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.

Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.

Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.

I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.

advice

im a 15 yr old female.

Ok so theres this guy I met at my school.
and weve been talking and everything and he seems like a really nice guy and everything, but im scared of liking him to much or giving him a chance cause i dont want to get hurt. With pretty much all my last relationships the guys have fucked me over pretty bad, and im tired of it. I just want to be with a good guy who wont hurt me. But how do I know if this guys any different?
Help please?

As the old saying goes, "It's better to have lost and loved, than never to have loved at all."

Don't assume the new guys that come into your life are like the old guys that treated you like dirt. Just use your past experiences as learning experiences. You know what an asshole is- most all of them carry similar behavior patterns, so you can keep your eyes and ears open and have a general idea of what to be on the lookout for to notice if he is an asshole or not. The thing about it is, the best way of finding this out is to give the guy a chance.

You have to be willing to risk your heart in order to find someone who will cherish it. You never know, this guy you speak of may just be the one to cherish your heart. You will never know if you don't take the risk.

I have dated some jerks, and even a major asshole, but if I would have been afraid to take that risk, I would have never found my husband, who is the sweetest man in the whole world. Finding that one special guy is worth all of the previous heartbreaks.

Don't be afraid of getting your heart broken. Yah, it hurts, but our hearts are WAY tougher than we give them credit for.

ygs-29/f

f/17
me and my boo, weve been talking for a long time like 6 months, and i think its time i ask him out since hes so shy. I seriously think hes never been in a relationship before and im surprised he grabs my hand wen we walk or puts his arms around me alot. I want to ask me out but dont know how. Hes really shy with that, and how can i ask him to be my boyfriend without flipping out, like getting a heart attack because he gets nervous?????I really want to be his girl, i need advice. How can i ask him to be my boyfriend???

I would be willing to bet that he won't flip out or have a heart attack. It seems that, even though he is shy, he must like you since he holds your hand and puts his arms around you. And you say he kisses you. If he doesn't like you, I'll eat my hat.
Just tell him like you told us- you want to be his girl.

my name is Rachel and iam 18 and i smoke and i get the ciggerates from my cousin but the thing is she didn't know that i got them from her until this morning and now she is pissed off at me becouse when i was 17 she let try smoking becouse i was curious and wanted to know what it was like but she made me promise to never do it again so i promised her i wouldn't do it again but now she won't even speak to me becouse she's mad becouse she thinks my mom'll find out that i started smoking at her house and won't let me come back anymore and she thinks i hate her but i don't .I don't know why i wanted to smoke i didn't know it would make my cousin this mad at me becouse we've never even had a fight before in my life becouse we used to be so close like sisters.I don't think she'll belive me if i tell her i'll quit becouse i told her i wouldn't do it again the last time and i lied to her and went behind her back how do i regain my trust and not make her mad at me anymore i hate when she's not speaking to me what should i do?

urgent!

Well, don't tell her you are quitting and continue smoking. Why lie about it? That's worse than smoking in front of her after she said she wishes you wouldn't.
As for her thinking your mom will be mad at her- why should she? YOU made the personal choice to smoke. You still choose to smoke. Your cousin didn't twist your arm, or hold you down and force you to smoke.
You're 18- go buy your own smokes.
But coming from a smoker- quit while you can. It gets harder as the years go by. Some can quit all easy, whereas others, like me, find it extremely difficult. They say quitting smoking is as hard as quitting heroine.

So, I have been going out with this guy, for a little over three weeks. He told me that he can't see us in the long-term having a relationship because I'm an atheist and he's a catholic. Like, when we get married - everything will just be screwed up. He said he still wants to be friends with benefits, the thing is. I can't understand why he would want to be that, you know?

What would you do?

Dump him. Plain and simple.

Why waste your time on someone who doesn't want to have a relationship with you?

By being friends with benefits, he's a single guy with someone he can have on the side for sex. He's wanting to have his cake and eat it to. No way. You deserve better than that by a far stretch. You are not some guy's "Ol' Reliable". For a guy so worried about the whole belief thing, he sure isn't being very Christian, there...

Find a guy who respects you. This one is a pig.

ygs-29/f

hey!
do you enjoy the perks of being Å paid user? or is it not worth it?

thanx so much!

It has some pretty cool features.
I can see the age and gender of the person asking the question, which REALLY helps a lot of times. That is, unless they don't specify, but that isn't too often.
That is what I like the most about being a paid user.
That, and the money goes to help keep this site up and running so we have a place to come and give advice. :)

I bought the Dangerously Straight shampoo (I don't use conditioner) and I was wondering if it actually works? I have straight hair with a slight wave and I use a flat iron to get rid of the slight wave. Does this stuff REALLY work?

Generally, the point of such shampoos is to help your hair hold the straightening throughout the day after you use your flat iron. Same goes with curling shampoos.
Ah, it would be so much easier if they actually could come up with a magic shampoo to straighten or curl your hair by simply washing. I wish they could. But they sure haven't yet- but they like to try to get you to believe they do by putting such fancy names on the bottle as "Dangerously Straight."

I am a Female Freshm,an in highschool(fifteen years old) there is this guy who likes me. He's a true Hottie and he's really nice! But the thing is, is that one of my best friends went out with him for two years and it wouls be extreamly akward fro me and her with this one! what do i do?

I know she's your best friend and all, but if you really like him and he really likes you, then I say go for it. If she gets mad about it, if she is TRULY your friend, she will get over it.

Don't base your love life on how your friends feel about it. It's your life to live, not theirs.
Yah, may sound harsh or even rude, but it is true.

If I were to have lived by the so-called rule of not dating your friend's ex, I wouldn't be happily married, and she would have never had the chance to get over it and be happy for us.
P.S. She was only mad for maybe a week...

Will only a psychiatrist prescribe you anti depressants? Can your regular doctor prescribe them? Thanks.

I personally believe that psychiatrists and therapists are more qualified to pass out drugs that effect your brain in any way, considering that their entire profession IS your brain.
Well, what's going on in there, anyhow.

All beliefs aside, EITHER can prescribe them. It is just up to you to decide who you think would make the best choice for you. There are so many anti-depressants out there, and each effect people differently, and each have different side effects, some of which are rather unsavory. You don't want to have someone prescribe something just because it happens to be the hip new anti-depressant.

ALWAYS educate yourself on any prescription medicine before you actually take it, so you have an idea of what to expect in side effects. You can search it via the web, or better yet, ask your pharmacist.

Word of advice- ask how long the prescribed anti-depressant has been on the market. I wouldn't advise taking something new- request something that has been on the market for at least 5 years. Something new hasn't been used in the general public for long enough to know if there end up being any HARMFUL side effects. Very sad, but very true.

The lawyer ads on TV say a lot about such incidents of new meds that end up having harmful side effects... "If you took such and such a medication and now have such and such a disorder or illness from it, call us..."

Not to try to scare you out of taking medication you may need, but just trying to teach you how to stay informed and beware. :)

my boyfriend, i cheated on him. we have been in a relationship for little over a year, im going to make this short as possible. basically, we got into a fight [usually we resolve and what not] but these two boys were with me when they knew we were fighting. basically i hooked up with them bc i was mad at my bf. i cried the whole night regretting it. i then had to tell him; thats when everything was horrible. i told him, he wouldn't even talk to me, he just walked away while i cried because i truley regret it. he then cried after school because it finally hurt him so much. he even said i dont care if she cheated, i still love her. i dont know what to do, we've talked but things just aren't the same. i know i fucked up okay i just want everything to be okay between my boyfriend and i, we were best friends before together so yeah. how can we resolve this? ugh >:[

Of course things aren't the same. They doubtfully will be for a long time. You broke his trust, and it will take you a long time to gain it back.
Just have patience, and don't give him any reason to feel he needs to mistrust you.
Everything will be ok between you guys in due time.
The old saying is true- 'time heals all wounds'.

I'm a 16 year old female and I have some hair on the back of my neck. To the point where when I put my hair up I become uncomfortable. I shaved this area, but the stubble is so unattractive and there's no possible way to get rid of it. What is a solution that isn't drastic because I let it grow out after shaving it and the amount of hair was much worse than what I had to work with before...?

As they always say, what you shave grows back thicker.
Have you tried waxing? Since it is on the back of your neck, you would be better off having someone help you, if you choose to do that.
Or, you can try to use permanent dye. Make sure it is the lightest color you can find. I don't know how well that will work since I don't know how dark your hair is, and you will have to repeat the process every couple of months. I would only try that if you are absolutely desperate for a new option.

I know this sounds quite weird haha but.. when i go to the bathroom, basically at school where there are like 2 stalls, i like can't pee if there is someone else in the bathroom. like i CAN pee if im going to like explode, but i just cant pee. i dont know why its like i am ashamed of it. its a mental thing and i dont know. whatss up with this it annoys me so much because sometimes i really have to pee.

hahaaa sorry if this is weird

I'm not a guy, but I know you are far be it from alone in your 'fear'.
We chicks have to go into stalls. We don't have to worry about peeing out in the open for everyone present to take note of how we go about our business.
I know this sounds weird, but if you feel uncomfortable with others around, why not go into a stall? If anyone asks you why, just tell them something witty, such as you didn't want them to feel... jealous, as you fear they would if you were to wee in the urinal where they could see. ;)

ok so my boyfriend an i have been going out for about a yr and a half but on and off... we are going out for the 4th time now for like 3 months and well his friend told me that he said that he sometimes doesnt like me at all and then at other times he likes me alot... i know im going to like ask him about it and all but im just really confused on what i should do.. any advice is appreciated thanks..oh im 15/f by the way

Ok, so you are 15. Is he the same age?
If so, as you are confused as to what to do, he may be confused about his feelings. You guys are young pups yet. If you have been going out off and on for a year and a half, that means you guys have been together off and on since you were what? 13?

You are pretty young to have been in such a, basically, lengthy relationship with one guy, and same goes for him. I'm not saying that is a bad thing at all. I'm just trying to make you understand my point on the possibility of feelings confusion.

Your best bet is like everyone has said, talk to him about it. Only he can tell you what is going on in his head. Besides, he is your boyfriend- he is someone you should be comfortable discussing your thoughts and feelings with.

Hope that made some sort of sense to you.

OK so theres this boy..my best friend actually.Well i really really really like him(i missed like thousands of reallys btw)..and he says he likes me too and that im the love of his life.but he has a gf.What should I do?..I REALLY LIKE HIM IM GETTING CRAZY...and im 99% i means it when he says he like me too.please help!

Well, you have made your point clear as to how much you like him.

Now. He says you are the love of his life... but he has a girlfriend... What?!? I know he is your best friend and all, but I would tell any other girl who tells me something such as this that the guy is a jerk- not worth their time. I will tell you the same, best friend or not.
Being spoken for and telling another how much he loves her is NOT a good thing. If he's doing this behind her back, who's to say he won't do it to you? Guys like that is who gives the male population a bad rap. I'm sorry, but that is the flat-out truth. (But I'm sure you won't see what I'm saying since you say you like him so much, you are surely blinded by your feelings. Nothing wrong with that, just beware.)

Listen. He needs to either break up with the girl friend and be with you, since you are the love of his life- OR he needs to stay with his girl friend and stop telling you that you are the love of his life.
Either way- dude's got a girl friend. He needs to figure out who he wants to be with and stop leading you by the nose, if that is what he is doing.

At my school cliques are everywhere. That is o.k that is not the problem the problem is that I'm alone in alittle clique of my own everyone calls me a freak how do I get out of it and became noticed.

Hey, I've been in your shoes. I also became noticed, and I never asked to be.
One day, everyone who treated me like I was some kind of asshole loser all of the sudden wanted to be pals and hang out.
Yah. After all of those years of them calling me a freak, they all of the sudden thought I was cool. I just thought to myself "They never gave me the time of day when I wanted to be friends, so why should I give THEM the time of day now that they decided they want to be MY friend?"

If I could go back and change that decision, I wouldn't. I respect myself enough to not want to be noticed by people who think I'm a freak. It's their loss, not mine.

I'm not saying you don't respect yourself- don't think that I am. What I am saying is that it's not worth ditching your friends to roll with the jerks who've been calling you names. If they don't want to be your friend, then why go out of your way to try to make them want to be? You deserve better than that in this life.

Trust me, this whole clique thing ends when you walk out those doors for good. Your social status and popularity status in high school don't matter once you enter the world.

This question is for 23 year old males. I have a nephew who is 23 and is the following normal behavior for a 23 year old. I am very close to him (and have always been close to him as well as his 16 year old brother - my other nephew) but he doesnt call me anymore or IM me any more and the only time we we spend together is at family functions. He lives only 5 minutes away. Does he do it because he thinks it annoys me or is there another reason? I am really hurt and I love him (as well as his brother - my other nephew) HELP

I'm not a guy, and I'm sad to say I'm beyond 23, but maybe I can help.
Maybe it is because he is just a busy guy? He is 23 years old and surely trying to get his life started and put on track. Or, maybe he is just out enjoying his young life while it's still around.

As we get older, life catches up to us more and more, and sometimes we wake up and realize, "Gee, it's been quite a while since I talked to my favorite aunt. Where did the time go?" It would be my guess that this is probably the cause. I don't see any reason why he would blatantly avoid someone he is so close with and loves.

I highly doubt he intends to hurt your feelings.

My advice? He lives 5 minutes away- cruise on over there and talk to him. Only he can give you the actual answer to your question. Ask him what he's been up to these days, and maybe that would give you the answer you seek without outright saying "What's the deal, here."

I am on birth control. He used a condom. But we did it a different way than we usually do and after he cummed and pulled out, the condom was still inside of me. It didn't break. And I know there's the possibility that some might have leaked out the top but I don't know. I'm looking into getting the morning-after pill. Any other suggestions?

Considering birth control itself is 99% effective, I don't think you have anything to worry over...

i'm pale as pale can be, and i don't tan very easily. but it's not like i ONLY burn, because i only burn if i'm not wearing sunscreen. i want advice on HOW TO GET TAN! i've tried gradual tanning lotions but they're all too dark, and i'll never go to tanning salon cause it just feels extremely unnatural. when i want to tan, i use Panama Jack 15 spf tanning oil and it works pretty well. what i want to know is how much should i stay outside with this oil on? should i reapply it every half hour? please, any tips are great. thanks!

Honestly, I am not the right person to answer your question. I, myself, don't believe in aging my skin any faster than need be, and tanning ages skin and causes wrinkles...
I would rather have nice skin for always than nice tanned skin in my youth...

15/m.... me and my boyfriend (16/m) were having sex and he had a condom on. During the sex, which was my first time, and I loved it, his condom came off and when he pulled his dick out the condom wasn't there and we couldn't find it.. like I don't even feel it.

What should I do?

Firstly, good for you and your boyfriend for practicing safe sex.

Well, considering you are a guy, being pregnant would be a miracle for the front page of the tabloids, and you would feel a bit out of kilter visiting your local gynecologist...

I sure hope by now you found it, considering I'm a little slow on answering questions these days, but next time try to get him to use a better fitting condom without making him feel inadequate about his size.
If this particular incident occurs again, go to the emergency room. Don't risk having problems from an MIA condom.

I know it may seem a bit embarrassing, but keep in mind people have gone to the hospital for some pretty strange things being jammed up their butt.

I think it was on the show ER a guy had a Barbie doll stuck up his butt. (Yes, fiction, I know. But still a strange anal entrapment.)
People have gone to the emergency room to have vibrators, ink pens, and other strange items such as light bulbs removed from their keesters. (Light bulb? Guess it was dark in there...) And those things are not fiction.

So don't fret about going to have a condom removed. With the strange objects people put into, and lose, in their bodies, a lost condom is far be it from something to be ashamed of.

Hi I was wondering if there is something I can do to help me wake up in the morning. No matter how early I go to sleep, it is impossible for me to get up. It's kind of to a point where I'm thinking maybe something is wrong with me.
-No matter how early I go to sleep, I am still SUPER tired in the morning.
-My mom has to wake me up in the morning because I don't wake up to an alarm- i sleep right through it.
-I've tried OTC sleeping medicine-doesn't help
-Drinking hot milk/tea before bed-doesn't help
-When I wake up my mom has to like shake me and usually I fall back asleep very quickly- then she will come back and she is mad at me. I really can't help falling back asleep because I'm not exactly conscious yet.
-I usually don't have a problem falling asleep, just waking up.
-Usually if when I finally wake up which takes me like 35 minutes, I can BARELY open my eyes until I get in the shower.

If you can help me or know a way or medicine to make me WAKE UP in the morning that would be great. I'm asking now so that I'll be able to get in a habit for next school year. Oh yeah btw Im
14/F
Thankyou!!!

I have the same problem.

Coffee is what I found to be the best medicine. All I ever have to do is think of the smell of fresh coffee in my cup, and I'm up and heading for the kitchen.

If you don't like black coffee, cream and sugar does magical wonders for the flavor. You can also get flavored non dairy creamers, such as french vanilla, hazelnut, among many others.

I have a kodak easyshare C633
how do i get to the self timer?

http://www.kodak.com/global/en/service/publications/urg00639toc.jhtml?chapsec=urg00639c1s2&pq-path=10/3905/6839/9637/9638

The instructions are around the diagram.

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