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I want to ask im out but dont know how
f/17
me and my boo, weve been talking for a long time like 6 months, and i think its time i ask him out since hes so shy. I seriously think hes never been in a relationship before and im surprised he grabs my hand wen we walk or puts his arms around me alot. I want to ask me out but dont know how. Hes really shy with that, and how can i ask him to be my boyfriend without flipping out, like getting a heart attack because he gets nervous?????I really want to be his girl, i need advice. How can i ask him to be my boyfriend???
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Well, i think if you guys are really good friends i think you should go about things very upfront.. usually, not always but it is the guy which asks the girl out, some guys may take it the wrong way if you ask them out.. One thing i suggest is not to asm him out, but instead tell him you hav really really strong feelings for him, and let him say something.. He can either reply with i feel the same way or i think we should be friends.. From what ive read sounds to me like there is definatly a connection between the both of you. I think the best thing to do is to go somewhere where it is just you and him, and tell him when you feel right.. You will naturally be nervous but think of it this way, those few minutes of you being nervous could lead to you having years of hapiness. So take the risk!
Once you tell him that you have feelings for him, the ball is in his court, it then kind of forces him to tell you how he really feels. If he says he has feelings for you, the relationship becomes more of a mutual thing and will just happen.
Just make sure you consider every situation that could happn. For example if you told him, and he didnt give you a reply, dont think he doesnt feel the same way, maybe he just needs time to think things through..
About the kissing situation, i think that if once you have told him how you feel and he says he feels the same way, then go in for a kiss - a long passionate kiss. This is a good point to do it as it will kind of break the silence and not make the situation akward as you wont be left with "he said he likes me, what do i do now"..
I wish you luck, let me know what you decide to do and how it all goes..
Hope ive helped..
Sanj
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if your such great friends then just ask him! if he really wanted to ask you then he would have. or if your positive he really wants you then U ask him lovey. i know it can b scary but if your so confident that he will say yes than why would that give you a heart attack? i think you should find i private place and say all your feelings. or better yet call him. then your not talking face-to-face. or if your worried about being tongue tied then maybe e-mail it. but its best to do this all on friday or the weekend. then it will all b up in the air and give you both time tohink about it. and get use to the situation
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Invite him over to watch a movie one night. Just the two of you. It can be funny or romantic, it doesn't matter as long as it's something you both can enjoy. While watching the movie, mention that you're kind of tired and ask if he wouldn't mind if you leaned on him. He probably won't since he already holds your hands and puts his arms around you. Cuddle with him like that. When the movie is over, or whenever you feel the time is right, look up into his eyes and smile at him sweetly. Glance your eyes slowly from his eyes, to his lips, and back to his eyes again. Lick your lips lightly and move in for the kiss. Lock lips with him for a few seconds and then pull away gently.
While your faces are still kind of close, maybe an inch apart, say, "You are so amazing. I want to be with you. What do you say?" Or something like that. You can word it however you want, but I'm sure you'll get the same answer either way. :)
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I would be willing to bet that he won't flip out or have a heart attack. It seems that, even though he is shy, he must like you since he holds your hand and puts his arms around you. And you say he kisses you. If he doesn't like you, I'll eat my hat.
Just tell him like you told us- you want to be his girl.
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hmmm...well ok so you like this guy right? just go for it your gonna get embarrassed of course your probably not used to asking people out and either is he maybe if you want him to ask you out give him some clues saying to him that i wish you would ask me out don't be too obvious but just tease him a little and after a while if he doesn't get it then just ask him out i did and it worked!!!!LOL
hope it helps
sincerely
katie
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OK first of all, you're so lucky to have someone who cares for you... And the best part is, if you both date, he'll be your best friend and your bf's....
Conversations that can help:
1. You: Hey 'Boo', I've been thinkin alot...About us....you know...
Boo: Uh-huh...
You: Do you think we are friends... umm... or something more than that...
His answer will say it all. Or you can simply write a note to him
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I know you wanna kiss him... So go for a walk...alone... take him to someplace quite and look into his eyes...And kiss his cheek...And look back into his eyes (with passion) trust me, guys always fall for this... Then if you kiss, Then its obvious that he likes you too...
Best Of Luck, sweetie, xxxxx DaRkSiDe89 xxxxx
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for the first part of your answer...in a situation like this your just going to have to go for it. the way it sounds, he probably isnt apposed to the idea of being with you, since the two of you already act like it. maybe he's just unsure of what you will say if he asks you, and yeah, he's shy. but im sure if you ask him, even if he does blush or something he would most likely love the idea, and have no problem with it really, so if i were you i would just go in for the punch.
the 'feel his lips' kiss you should try either right before or right after you ask him. just i dont know its kind of hard to explain how to kiss...ok tap kisses are light and quick, right? so for a longer more feeling kiss, you should lean into him a little more and put more pressure on his lips [nothing to hurt him of course...haha] and stay there for just a few seconds and release. and if you decide you want "spit" then you could go ahead and french kiss him by after leaning in for your kiss moving your tongue to his mouth and moving it around for a few seconds, and if he doesnt respond by doing the same then bring your own tongue back. i hope things go well for you just dont be afraid to move right in and do what you need to do!
xoxo helpachick
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