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my name is Rachel and iam 18 and i smoke and i get the ciggerates from my cousin but the thing is she didn't know that i got them from her until this morning and now she is pissed off at me becouse when i was 17 she let try smoking becouse i was curious and wanted to know what it was like but she made me promise to never do it again so i promised her i wouldn't do it again but now she won't even speak to me becouse she's mad becouse she thinks my mom'll find out that i started smoking at her house and won't let me come back anymore and she thinks i hate her but i don't .I don't know why i wanted to smoke i didn't know it would make my cousin this mad at me becouse we've never even had a fight before in my life becouse we used to be so close like sisters.I don't think she'll belive me if i tell her i'll quit becouse i told her i wouldn't do it again the last time and i lied to her and went behind her back how do i regain my trust and not make her mad at me anymore i hate when she's not speaking to me what should i do?
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well if your sooo close why isnt she talking to you. and smoking is never the answer. it causes lung didease etc. i think you should really sit her down and talk. drug counseling is good but kinda extreme plus yor parents would find out. well lieing was your second mistake and you should make it up to her. keep trying dont give up. call her, email her, or get her face-to-face. really this all sounds baby-ish and you should tell her. your younger but your willing to talk it out and explain. she on the other hand is like 'well ill just give her the silent treatment and shell learn her leason'. no thats not the answer and almost never solves the issues.
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well maybe you can quit but it will be really hard tell your cousin you'll need her help and do stuff to keep your mind of smoking i'm 15 and my foster parents made me quit cold turky and it's really hard.. but hey i believe in you and i don't know you you can do it i promise
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katie
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Well sweetie, the only reason she is that upset with you because she cares about you. She's probably felt betrayed and hurted since you lied to her. She's also worried because she doesn't want you to become addicted. Smoking is one of a bad addiction there is. It causes cancer, lungs cancer, diseases, etc. She doesn't want you to be sick.
You shouldn't give up and keep on trying to gain her trust back. it can get frustrating sometimes and you feel like she doesn't care about you.. but she really does. Trust is a fragile thing, once you break it.. its done.
You should sit her down and show how sorry you are and that you promise to quit. Tell her once you make this committment, you will stick with it. You don't expect her to trust you right away but ask her for another chance so you can prove yourself to her. convince her .. show that you're sorry. Give her some times too.. let her cool down and think about her decision.
hope I helped. good luck =]
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Well, don't tell her you are quitting and continue smoking. Why lie about it? That's worse than smoking in front of her after she said she wishes you wouldn't.
As for her thinking your mom will be mad at her- why should she? YOU made the personal choice to smoke. You still choose to smoke. Your cousin didn't twist your arm, or hold you down and force you to smoke.
You're 18- go buy your own smokes.
But coming from a smoker- quit while you can. It gets harder as the years go by. Some can quit all easy, whereas others, like me, find it extremely difficult. They say quitting smoking is as hard as quitting heroine.
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