last night we were online talking and i asked him who he was talking to, his ex gf carrie who goes to mentor and i dont even know her but i have heard about her and im like oh.... because i got extremely jealous and i never thought i would get jealous from him talkign to a girl and i dont even know why i did.... must have been because shes his ex and then hes like "she seems upset" and im like maybe she needs your makeup sex and i was being super gay about it and stuff and he stopped talking to me online and signed off to call her which made me feel bad....and.... then i signed off to go to bed cuz i felt upset and he called me and asked what was wrong and i said i didnt wanna talk about it and stuff and i went to bed but we still werent fighting and then today things were fine but i was still a little gay and just every little thing has annoyed me and i feel like talking to him im always being interrupted and i can never say what i have to say and everything i say is used against me and i feel bad for everything i say or do and i feel so frustrated and hurt and mad and sad all at the same time so we were on the phone and hes like "youre always selfish and i have never said anything" so i got super hurt and defensive and pissed so i was like "whatever im going bye" and he said bye and i hung up. and he just has a way of making me always feel bad. cuz hes like "sorry im a shitty bf" and i didnt say nething and hes like "thanks for telling me im not" and stupid crap like that. and hes like "ur selfish and i dont know how to get through to u". i dont wanna talk about it to him because he never says nething when im with my guy friends....but then again none of them are my ex's! im sick of always being scared to do anything because he will make me feel bad.... i cant deal with always feeling bad for everything! its like he can do whatever he wants but i cant because its wrong if i do it. what do i do?
Next time he tells you "sorry I'm a shitty boyfriend" reply with... "Yes you are, you stop talking to me to go help your ex girlfriend, and then you try to make ME feel guilty about it?"
That's not right. I used to have a boyfriend who would do that. Everytime I would come up with a perfectly logical complaint (stop flirting with every girl you see/stop lieing to me/etc) his only response would be "I'm sorry, I'm just a shitty boyfriend"
That doesn't help anything. It's his way of trying to bring it back on you and make you feel guilty for something wrong that he has done. If he wanted to be a decent person then he would listen to what you have to say and try to get the two of you past it. If your upset with something he did wrong, should you really have to stick up for him and bring his ego up. Hell no!!!
Bring it back to him. Tell him he's selfish, not you. Tell him that he shouldn't try to make you feel guilty, or try to get you to boost his ego. He should be the one making you feel better, not the other way around.
If he can't get this through his thick head, then maybe you should break up with him. It will be better than going through a shitty relationship where you have to feel guilty for the bad things that your boyfriend does.
[view]
I'd like advice with a matter ive often thought about but never done anything about.
Im just turned 50 now. but during my school years I was often bullied, maybe because i was a quiet shy sort of girl at the time. The sort bullying kids make a bee-line for.
But i went through a thoroughly miserable traumatic time throughout my last 2 years of secondary school between 1968 and 1970. Thats age 13 to 15. I was consistently bullied by gangs of other girls, mostly within the same school year, every day of every week. All the time, all year. It was ceaseless and i never had a moments peace from it. It was sometimes the threat of something awful possibly happening that kept me frightened and nervous, but often it became violent, maybe being pushed down stairs at school or literally punched in the face for absolutely no reason at all. All everyone else did was laugh. I was on my own and couldnt do anything about it. I was all the time afraid and introverted.
My parents didnt understand or believe me, neither did anyone else. The teachers did nothing to help.
I ended being sent to court and sent away into a childrens home twice, Once at 14 and then just before i was actually 15 in may of 1970. Each time it was for a period of 3 or 4 weeks. but it was horrendous, i was scared to death. staff tried to give me internal examinations and once i had to stand naked while the homes doctor looked me over, for what reason i dont know, that was so embarassing and humiliating.
And all this simply because i was too frightened to go to school or left during the day before anything else happened to me. Once i was seen outside by the housemaster, Mr Cleary of Plant Hill High School of Blackley in Manchester. He dragged and pushed me around to get me outside the head masters office, I would have willingly gone there if he had just asked me. But as soon as the headmaster came out,instead of asking me whats wrong, he strapped me on my hands. I was so shocked, i suddenly wet my clothing. I then couldnt go into the class room.so i went crying into the wash room and then went home.
Since then i have been affected by no confidence, I cannot mix well with people. I am insecure, nervous. and still after al these years, think of it all the time. It was such a terrible growing up time. I have no self confidence or self esteem at all. People can easily dominate and patronise me and they often do, and i dont know how to deal with it. If i had felt happy and confident during my growing up this would not be happening. I would have the positive life and be able to cope like the rest of my family.
Is there any way i can be paid compensation for what i suffered then, and have suffered since, due to my experiences?I personally believe i should be paid at least four thousand pounds for what i went through. Maybe a couple of thousand for each year i spent each day filled with fear and taken from my home,being punished for being a victim. I suffered through no fault of my own, and i should be helped to have some happiness and contentment now that i am getting older and should be be having some peace now. I would so much appreciate your guidance on this matter.
I was surprised by the actual question that you ask. Money would never fix all of your problems and suddenly make you feel better. Your lack of confidence runs much deeper than that.
This obviously should have been handled differently back then. But, hearing tales that from my grandmother, people just didn't talk about feelings. If you were depressed, then you were seen as having something wrong with you.
Depression runs in my family quite a bit, while I was never bullied to the point that you were, I took every little bit of bullying (normal stuff that everyone goes through) to heart. I've also always been extremely shy and inverted my whole life. I've began to come out of it by pretending to be confident until it actually starts to happen.
You could look back and think about all of the things you should have done differently, or all the things that others shouldn't have done to you... but none of that will ever happen. It's behind you and there's nothing you can do to change it. Getting a big load of money will definatley not make everything go away.
But, maybe the actual act of going out and getting what you deserve would help your confidence. I would suggest you talk to a lawyer and see what they can do for you. Perhaps you aren't the only student that this happened to, and you can get help from peers of Plan Hill High School to share their story. Perhaps this will help you realize that your not alone.
Helping students now would be good too. Like the other's have said. It can help your confidence immensly if you are able to help someone less fortunate than yourself.
You need to realize that your worth while and someone depends on you.
I'm only 22, but I do know what it's like to feel that you have no confidence and can't do the simplest tasks if it involves mixing with people. It sucks.
Like I said, pretending to have confidence and holding yourself high can help you.
[view]
ok this summer i went to the caribbean for like 8 days. i have never burned in my life, but i burned this time because i didnt wear enough sunscreen. i got these little tiny bubble-like things on my burns, and it looked like sun poisoning but it wasnt (it didnt hurt&it just peeled off) i think thas just that was i peel. but i ride horses, and everytime i come back from riding i have these little bumps again... not even where i was burned! like little sweat bubbles or something... when i rub my skin they go away and i just peel... this keeps happening--i ride my horse every day--im not allergic (ive been around horses my whole life) but could it just be the physical activity? or the dirt or something? 5 for good answers...
oo btw- it doesnt hurt its just weird
One summer I went blue berry raking. It was a horrible experience, but that's besides the point.
The point is that I was in the sun every day from 7-8 am until 3-5 pm.
Being in the sun everyday, I started to get burned, and tan. I don't remember it hurting, but I do remember looking at my arms one day and seeing little bubble like bumps. Like you've described, they basically just peeled away. But a few hours later, after being in the sun more, they came back.
They didn't hurt or anything, and I always just assumed that they were heat or sun rash. From being in the sun too much.
I would suggest covering those areas up when you go out in the sun for long periods of time. If you can't cover them with clothing, then at least use a high spf sunscreen.
[view]
ok...so i've been wanting to get this puppy for SOO LONG! i'm fed up with my mom saying no and yelling at me for it. How are some ways i could get my mom to let me get this dog? I know how to take care of it because i take better care of my cousins dog than he does...but my mom doesnt let me do anything. i do everything for her. i take care of my cat, sister, i clean the house. i let her go out on weekends with her boyfriend while i have to stay home and watch my sister. i compromise with her. i do everything for her and she cant even let me get this dog! how could i get her to get it?
First you need to figure out why your mom is saying no. Is it because of the money? Dogs definately aren't cheap. They need food, treats, toys, vet bills, and possibly training classes.
Or is it because she doesn't think you can take care of it, or that you won't care about it after it grows up and isn't as cute?
Either way, you need to show her that your responsible and will help out as much as possible.
First, what kind of puppy do you want? You need to research the breed. Many breeds have different personality traits that aren't good for certain kinds of people. For example: Rottweilers need an experienced dog owner who will take charge and become what some call "alpha dog" Collies, especially border collies need a lot of space, and plenty of exercise and especially plenty of tricks to keep their mind busy so that they don't go crazy and become destructive. Terriers need owners who will socialize them very well, and make sure they don't become dog or stranger aggressive... etc.
Some dogs look adorable, but are very bad to have with small children around. Two examples are the Pomeranian (five pound devils) or a Shiba Inu (personalities like cat=I do what I want, when I want, and whoever's in my way gets bit)
It's hard to find information sometimes, because a lot of websites I've encountered only seem to give you the glorified personality traits. They give you what these dogs "should" be like for dog competitions, and not what these dogs are usually like in a family setting.
Anyway, NUMBER ONE: research the dog breed/breeds.
NUMBER TWO: research the money issues. After you find out which dog you want, you should find out how much s/he will have to eat when full grown. Find out how much it will cost to feed them. Then see about licensing the dog, getting his shots, buying a couple of toys (or makeing them). See how much money it is and try to find a way to help out. Do you have a job, or get allowence? If so then you can start by offering some of it to go towards buying dog food, or vet bills. Perhaps you could start saving money now to show your mom that you are able to do it.
NUMBER THREE: I know you already help with your cousins dog, and take care of the cat, but, having your own dog is way more work than you still may realize.
First, there's grooming. Dogs depend on us solely to groom them. Even short haired breeds need to be groomed regularly.
Then there's training. Puppies especially, need constant training. You need to take them outside every 2 hours or more to teach them to go to the bathroom outside. You also need to teach them things like sit, come, lay, no, down, etc. Come, or here is a very important thing for a dog to learn so that you can stop the dog from running in front of a car. Dogs need to continue to learn things so that they don't become bored and destructive.
Your also going to need to walk the dog daily.
All of these things take time, energy, and money. Are you really willing to give all of that to take care of the dog.
Your mother is probably worried that you will become bored with the dog and she will be stuck doing all of this. It happens to most dogs that parents get for their children or teens.
But, if you truly think your responsible enough, and have the time and energy for a dog, then reserach all this stuff out, and make your mom realize that your ready.
Perhaps make a list of the things you'll be doing with the dog. Make a daily schedule with things you'll need to do (training time, feeding times, etc) Make a list of the things you'll be paying for, etc...
Good Luck
[view]
how long after a break up should you wait before the next chase? I mean like... looking around for new people... if the relationship you've just come out of wasn't that serious... but I don't want to hurt his feelings by jumping straight back in... :S
16/f
You shouldn't skip out on opportunities for new relationships because of an ex.
It's nice that you don't want to hurt his feelings, but that is no reason to put yourself at a disadvantage. You shouldn't rub it in his face, but if he is a decent guy, then he will not try to hinder your life, or future relationships even if he is hurt by them.
I say go for it. He may be hurt, but that's part of life and he'll have to get used to it.
[view]
does anyone kno of really good techno songs? i rate 5's. thanks.
normally I wouldn't answer these kind of questions, but lately I've been listening to some electronic/trance/techno music and I have a few favorites.
Chicane
Robert Miles
BT
DJ Rap
Hooverphonic
Kosheen
Moby
Paul Oakenfold
Paul Van Dyke
Those are a few of the electronic musicians I've been listening to lately.
[view]
If someone smokes pot for about a week straight and stops 4 or 5 days before they are given a dip test for urine testing, will they pass the drug test?
Marijuana will be in your system for roughly a month after smoking it for a week or so.
[view]
i really like this guy. burt he lives, lik 30 min. away. and i havnt seen him for 2 years, because we meet at camp. but we stayed in toush. and he wants us to see eachother again. and i want to see him too. but he wants me to go to his houe. and i no my parnets wont let me go, but he doesnt understand that. and i dont no what to do. oh and will somone explain, how to make out with a guy. please and thank you so much, i will rate high.
I can't approve this question because of the two questions. It clearly says to ask TWO separate questions if you have two separate questions.
[view]
I am wondering if it is safe to use LymDyp on a pregnant cat? She just wandered here this morning and she has a bit of the mange. I want to clean her up before I take her to the vet.
If I use it on her, what's the worst thing that could happen? What if she licks herself?
You definately shouldn't try to clean her up before taking her to the vet.
How is it that you are sure that she has mange. And if you are 100% posative that it's mange, how can you be sure what kind of mange it is?
The Vet won't even be able to be 100% posative until he/she can get some testing done on the cat. They will need to take samples of all of the affected areas and test them. This means that they will need to take some "dirty" skins samples, then clean it themselves, take a sample, and the take some deeper skin samples.
You should never try to treat something like that on your own, especially on a pregnant cat.
[view]
ok i have a kitten and i sound really stupid when i say this but i don't know if it is a boy or girl.Some people say its a girl some say its a boy and i need to find a name for it. I tried to look at the thing but i can't tell it looks like it could be both atm.I thought maybe i could tell from the tits it has 8 tits! Does anyone know if a male cat has the same number of tits please could someone help.Thank Youxx
PEOPLE ARE STUPID :)
Not you of course. This is actually a perfectly logical question to ask about a kitten. They can be quite tricky sometimes :)
many columnist have told you "males don't have nipples"...
they are the ones that I call stupid.
Are you serious? Go look at the cute neighbor mowing his lawn without his shirt on. Does he have nipple?
ALL MALES HAVE NIPPLES.
It's stupid to assume that cats are any different.
You can't tell what the sex of the kitten is by how many nipples.
Anyway, you basically need to wait to see whether or not his balls drop. If he's a male, then you'll soon see them. If not, then it's got to be a girl. By the third month, you should be able to see at least a small portion of two little balls, if not, then you most likely have a female.
[view]
Does it harm a baby's immune system to kiss on them.
If anything, as long as your healthy, kissing a baby would help the babies immune system.
Babies immune systems are basically undeveloped when they first come out, that's why children get sick so much. They have to get sick in order to "jump start" their immune system. Eventually their immune system starts to take over and takes care of the sickness before it affects their body.
So, a healthy person that kisses a baby's cheek or whatnot, will expose the baby to things that they haven't been exposed to before. As long as those things don't harm the baby (that's why the person should be healthy)
But, since the baby is being exposed to new thigns, their immune system will get used to handling those new things for the future.
Ok, sorry for the incredubly long and borring answer to a simple question. :)
[view]
i didnt know what catagorei to put this under but i think it goes here. anyway im a female. ok my problem is that i like to mess with my vagina for some reason and i get a clear discharge but i dont know what its from and why its happening. i seem to get cuts down there and dont know why. my thing( i dont know what to call it but its not the vagina) gets chapped alot. i dont think its an std because ive never had any sex before. what do you think is wrong with me?
Discharge is normal, but chapping, and cuts are not. You may have a yeast infection, bacterial infection, or some other kind of infection.
Before attempting to take any kind of medicines, you should see a doctor to see exactly what it is. If you try to diagnose yourself, and take the wrong kind of medicine, then it could end up harming your body more than helping it.
[view]
okay I have a cute little dog and she is a white pomeranian and is only 7 months old she goes out side and eats poop just three minutes ago she ate some and got some on her paws she is so decusting what do i do I have tooken her to the vet and asked if this was nornmal and they said no and gave me some medicine to put on it and it made the poop tast better right now she is getting on my nerves about this i just gave her a bath and she goes out and teats it and gets it stuck to her paws oh and last night she ate poop and a poiseness eggcorn and threw up on my bed I am sick and tired of her doing this freaking thing she does it every day and she eats at least 50,000 peices a week what is wrong with my dog is she retarded or is this normal because this is getting rediciolous and i am getting to the point of locking her up in a bed room or trading her in
**EDIT***
If you kept your yard clean, then you wouldn't be having this problem, now would you??
The medicine was not to make the poop taste better, it was to make it less desirable to your dog. This is normal behavior for dogs.
It's up to you to keep her away from it.
First off, like everyone else has said, you should not leave the stuff in your yard. Leaving it in the yard where she can get into it like she has been is very bad for her. It will lead to her having dirty habits like this.
Dog's are normally very clean animals, but when they have to endure dirtiness like that, they will get bad habits. If you don't keep your yard clean, where she goes outside, then it will only get worse. She will continue to get her paws covered in it.
Secondly, if you haven't had time to clean up your yard, then you should take her out on a leash and keep her away from the piles.
Seriously, you shouldn't let your dog get into this much feces, especially if there are poisonous plants involved. It's up to you as an owner to keep her away from these kind of things.
If you can't handle the responsability of careing for a dog then perhaps you should trade her in for an animal that doesn't require as much care. Perhaps a goldfish?
[view]
hey i was wondering if anybody knew that jergens natural glow daily moisturizer actually works no matter the skin tones and how long does it take for it to work.-thank you
My roommate uses this. She went to the website a while ago and was ranting about how she couldn't find it in the stores because "everyone wants it".
You should really go to the website, you'll find out bunches of stuff.
So far, she has had no complaints about it, so it seems to be working fine.
Plus, it's only $4-$5, so it's worth trying out.
[view]
My hamster, Jelly, has been gaining weight very rapidly. I try to give her lots of fruits and vegetables, but she can't even fit into the tunnel anymore! I make her run on her wheel everyday, but afterwards, she finishes the bottle of water, and I have to refill it. Please help.
First off, what have you been feeding her? Commercial hamster foods are high in seeds and oils and lead to obesity. You should not feed her those anymore.
You should feed her some commercially bought rat or mice foods which are usually available as dry blocks or pellets. These diets can be supplemented with small amounts of dry, sugar-free breakfast cereals, whole-wheat bread, uncooked pasta, cooked chicken, tuna fish, cheese, fresh fruits (apples) and vegetables. The last 2 items must be thoroughly washed to avoid exposing pet hamsters to pesticide residues and possible bacterial contamination.
You shouldn't be feeding her a diet of fruits and vegetables, and only fruits and vegetables. They are too high in fat.
You should also keep water in her cage at all times. If she finishes a bottle that quickly, you might want to consider putting two bottles in there, just in case you can't get a chance to refill in for a while.
Also, cut back on the amount of this food that you feed her. If she is seriously overweight, which she appears to be, then you should probably cut her food content in half for a while. This may seem cruel, but, trust me, she will not starve.
To make it easier on her, feed her smaller meals, more often durring the day. Do you feed her twice a day now? Well, take the shortened, diet amount of those two meals, and feed it to her three times durring the day.
May seem a little confusing, but, lets say you feed her 1 cup of food through the day. Normally you would give her a half cup of food at morning, then at night. Now that your putting her on a diet, and she'll be eating less, it is much more comfortable for her if you feed her three meals a day of one third cup. This way, she will have a small amount of food in her stomach throughout most of the day, instead of a large amount in there twice a day.
Now, after you've done all of this, and kept up with the diet, then watch her.
If she doesn't seem to be losing any weight, or, worse, if she continues to gain weight, then it may be a some kind of medical problem.
If this is the case, you have to decide what to do. You may be able to find some information online, and figure out what is wrong with her. If you try that approach, then make sure you get pages with ".org" or ".gov" instead of just ".com" Anyone can make a .com website, but you have to have a little more expertise in order to get .org, or .gov website.
The best option would be to bring her to the Veterinarian. Of course, hamsters do not have a long life time, and many people don't find it beneficial to spend all the money it takes to bring them to the Vet. It's completely up to you.
[view]
my puppy keeps biting people! he's a two year old doberman pincher, and he's absolutely adorable! but he has this problem with biting. he's made all my friends terrified of him, and the elderly lady across the street had to have stitches (which i had to pay for) when brownie bit her face. (just her cheek) i love him to death, and he hasn't bitten me since he was 6 months old, but i don't know if i should keep him if he's going to attack everyone he meets!
I despise people that laugh about praising an animal for biting an old lady, and then give poor ratings for good advice about the dog being out of control.
I have news for you... your dog is out of control if he bites a lady for trying to take her own son away from him. He is an aggressive and dangerous dog and deserves to be in a home where someone will actually train him to be a nice dog.
I hate it when people teach there dog that it's ok to be aggressive and bite other people. Especially high risk dogs like doberman pinchers.
Read on. Maybe you'll actually learn something. I do hope I've caught your attention this time.
You have a serious problem. You should probably talk to an animal behavoralist for help with this.
Doberman Pinchers are very powerful, and if you let a doberman bite someone, then they can inflict serious harm.
You should start by watching your dog at all times. Do not ignore the fact that he will probably bite. Do not let strangers come up to him, and do not tell someone that he's nice just because you don't want people to think that your dog is mean. You need to first accept the fact that you do not have a sweet adorable puppy right now. You have a full grown aggressive and very dangerous dog.
By being aware of the situation, you can then work on fixing it.
Read through my column. If you sort the answers by the topic of "Pets" then you can find many long answers on how to work with aggressive animals.
I found one good example:
http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=277329
Also see this question:
http://advicenators.com/column.php?u=selectopaque&mode=qview&q=286864
If you do not help your dog get over his aggression, then he will soon need to be euthanized. If he is too much for you to handle, then you should put an ad in the paper for someone who has the patience to teach an aggresive dog. He is going to need constant care right now.
Don't say things like, "he only bit the old lady on her cheek"
Do not try to make your dog seem nice by saying he "only" bit her on her cheek. You need to see your dog for what he is if you really want to help him.
If you try to ignore the problem, then he will never get better and will eventually need to be euthanized.
If you need more help, then send me another question and I may be able to help more.
[view]
Is it safe to give a cat oatmeal and milk human form,and the best way to see what is going on inside a cat's stomach is it by drawing blood or x-ray?
I wouldn't recommend feeding your cat anything besides the cat food specially formulated for it- if it's a kitten, feed it kitten food, if an adult, adult maintenance food, overweight, feed her diet food, if she's a senior, feed her senior (geriatric) food. These foods are all formulated to be the best for your cat. Ask your veterianarian which one would be best for your situation.
Now, why are you trying to see inside your cat's stomach?
If you draw blood, then you will be able to see what's inside your cat's blood. You can tell a lot of things from the blood of an animal. You could also draw other liquids, like urine, and tell some things that can't be found out with a simple x-ray.
If you want to see something on the microscopic scale, then you need to draw blood, or another liquid.
But, if you want to see what's inside a cat's stomach on a higher scale, then you should take an x-ray.
What's the best way? It all depends on what your looking for. Some cases, you probably need both.
But, seriously, dont' try that at home. Your cat won't like you if you do.
[view]
ok i bought a siamese kitten and she keeps on crying all the time! The only time she does not cry is when i hold her she is 10 weeks old but she keeps me awake all night and now i feel so tired and i have not gone to school.How can i stop her crying???
That's what siamese do.
They cry...
Loudly.
Very loudly.
Also, see this answer. It may help you.
http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=selectopaque&mode=qview&q=340315
[view]
I have a dog named Smokey. It's a girl. She was suposed to have leg surgery because she tore a legiment or something, but now she is walking better. Should she still have surgery?
Don't listen to someone who will say "of course the vet will say she needs surgery because it will make them money"
I have never met a Veterinarian who said something that wasn't true, just to get more money. Veterinarians DO NOT make a lot of money, so they go into the profession for the love of animals, not for money.
Now, I'll give you my opinion of this.
Animals instinctually DO NOT show that they are in pain. Your dog may be hiding her limp because that's what her instincts tell her to do.
Animals are different than humans. Humans get hurt, they complain so that someone will make them feel better. But, when an animal (in the wild) gets hurt, and they complain, or show that they're hurt, then they are the first to be attacked, eaten, etc.
This is why dogs and cats rarely ever show us that they are hurt. I had a dog with arthritus, but no one could see him limp, except for the people who knew how to look for it, and where to look for it. He hid the fact that he was limping because of his instincts.
I think this is what your dog is doing. Smokey is walking better because she doesn't want anyone to know that she's hurt. Instinctually, she thinks that she will get hurt, attacked, or thrown away if she can't walk as good.
You need to go to the Veterinarian, they will probably need to get some x-rays, and only then will they be able to tell if she really is well enough.
If you don't know how to look, then it's nearly impossible to tell whether an animal is sick or hurt.
[view]
I had just gotten a kitten for my birthday and I was wondering if there was a way I could get it to slowly stop meowing as much. It also doesn't really like being touched but I think that's because the lady that owned it had his litter outdoors. I'm trying my best to handle him and get him used to being around people but he meows every few minutes. So any ideas on how to calm him down?
I'm guessing you just got him, right? He is probably going to be meowing like that for a while. He misses his brothers and sisters, and is in a new house where everything is really big and towers over him.
Cat's need to be socialized in the first 12 weeks of their lives. This is the period when they basically learn everything that needs to be known about their personality. If he is left outside for those entire 12 weeks, then he will be quite wild for most of his life.
That's the general idea of cats.
If you really want him to stop meowing, then try not to pet him while he meows. Pick him up and set him on your lap so that he doesn't feel scared. If you pick him up and are standing up, then he might think that he will be dropped. If you are sitting down, and he's on your lap, then he will have more protection underneath him and will feel more secure.
While he's on your lap, pet him gently, and talk soothingly to him. Maybe even give him some treats. But, once he cries, stop petting him, only to start again once he stops crying.
This will take a long time at first, since he cries every few minutes. But as time goes on, he will cry less and less, and you won't have to constantly stop petting him.
Also, if you really want to go all out, I've tried this with some pretty scary, wild, angry cats at the Vet's office, and they have calmed down. It might take a while, but, make sure he sees your eyes, and blink, very very slowly. Just keep blinking slowly.
When a cat blinks slowly, it is a calming signal, and means they're calm. Most cats do it when they are purring. If you do this to your kitten, he may start doing it back and feel calmer.
[view]
|
