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fighting with boyfriend
last night we were online talking and i asked him who he was talking to, his ex gf carrie who goes to mentor and i dont even know her but i have heard about her and im like oh.... because i got extremely jealous and i never thought i would get jealous from him talkign to a girl and i dont even know why i did.... must have been because shes his ex and then hes like "she seems upset" and im like maybe she needs your makeup sex and i was being super gay about it and stuff and he stopped talking to me online and signed off to call her which made me feel bad....and.... then i signed off to go to bed cuz i felt upset and he called me and asked what was wrong and i said i didnt wanna talk about it and stuff and i went to bed but we still werent fighting and then today things were fine but i was still a little gay and just every little thing has annoyed me and i feel like talking to him im always being interrupted and i can never say what i have to say and everything i say is used against me and i feel bad for everything i say or do and i feel so frustrated and hurt and mad and sad all at the same time so we were on the phone and hes like "youre always selfish and i have never said anything" so i got super hurt and defensive and pissed so i was like "whatever im going bye" and he said bye and i hung up. and he just has a way of making me always feel bad. cuz hes like "sorry im a shitty bf" and i didnt say nething and hes like "thanks for telling me im not" and stupid crap like that. and hes like "ur selfish and i dont know how to get through to u". i dont wanna talk about it to him because he never says nething when im with my guy friends....but then again none of them are my ex's! im sick of always being scared to do anything because he will make me feel bad.... i cant deal with always feeling bad for everything! its like he can do whatever he wants but i cant because its wrong if i do it. what do i do?
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JUST DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO! Some people get jelous more than others and scared more than others...but you ogtta just talk to him about it and just get it over with...talk to him in person so if you get mad you cant just hang up and "hide" again...you need to just get it over with...and then mayb if he gets mad ...if he even does...say "im sorry that im such a crappy gf"...=D r something like that...AsH!
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you really should tell him that you are jelous of him talking to his ex and you should tell him that he hurts you alot and also that he makes you feel bad..don't let someone do that to you..
hope i helped-good luck
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Next time he tells you "sorry I'm a shitty boyfriend" reply with... "Yes you are, you stop talking to me to go help your ex girlfriend, and then you try to make ME feel guilty about it?"
That's not right. I used to have a boyfriend who would do that. Everytime I would come up with a perfectly logical complaint (stop flirting with every girl you see/stop lieing to me/etc) his only response would be "I'm sorry, I'm just a shitty boyfriend"
That doesn't help anything. It's his way of trying to bring it back on you and make you feel guilty for something wrong that he has done. If he wanted to be a decent person then he would listen to what you have to say and try to get the two of you past it. If your upset with something he did wrong, should you really have to stick up for him and bring his ego up. Hell no!!!
Bring it back to him. Tell him he's selfish, not you. Tell him that he shouldn't try to make you feel guilty, or try to get you to boost his ego. He should be the one making you feel better, not the other way around.
If he can't get this through his thick head, then maybe you should break up with him. It will be better than going through a shitty relationship where you have to feel guilty for the bad things that your boyfriend does.
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well first of all, you shouldnt get defensive or anything when hes talking to his ex, and secondly, it was your fault that the fight started so your the one that should be apoligizing. thrice, if you really feel that way, (even though it is your fault) you should just dump him
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any guy that makes you feel like that is NOT worth it. like, not at all. he sounds kinda immature but theres no way you will ver work out your problems if you don't talk to him about it. he might not realize how upset you REALLY are. tell him everything you just told us about the way you get jealous cuz you want to be the only girl that matters to him and how upset and hurt you get when he says mean things to you and stuff. if he doesn't care then suggest you guys "take a break" once you see what other kind of guys are out there...you'll kno wether or not you still wanna be with your boyfriend. and he might see how much you mean to him and how he has ben being rude. if he thinks you'll always be around he'll keep treating you the way he does. he needs to kno your not gonna put up with his crap and you don't play games. but really, just talk to him and see how that goes before you "take a break" or break up with him. and as for his ex, he still cares about her if he calls her when shes upset, but if your ex was upset, you would care too. everyone does..no matter if they have feelings for them or not, they still care. but he's YOUR boyfriend so tell him to start acting like it.
=) HoPe I HeLpEd!
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Two problems as I see it.
1.) You are insecure and jealous, You deal with it by shutting up and pouting.
2.) You're boyfriend is insecure and possibly jealous too, he deals with this by guilting you and crying out for attention with his "I'm such a loser" act.
YOU TWO ARE HURTING EACHOTHER! STOP NOW!
If you can't trust your boyfriend to talk to another girl, even an ex you shouldn't be with him. As for his whining next time he does it tell him you don't like to hear it. Don't tell him is a good boyfriend or that he isn't a loser/bad person/whatever, cause thats just giving him a reason to say that stupid attention begging things agian.
You two aren't communicating, you are playing childish games. Get over it.
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