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jealous friends?
all through middle school i had like 3 good friends. then i went to highschool... and there's a lot more people. i made new friends. so what... right? well my new friends are kind of the "fast" crowd and i wont do everything they do and they're cool with that. i hang out w/ them a lot during school because none of my old friends are in any of my classes. i still hang out with my old friends on weekends, and call them all the time, and talk to them at school when i can. i eat lunch w/ them about half the time. but they get mad at me sometimes and get all snappy for no reason. and purposefully make snide remarks about my other friends. if i tell a funny story or something about something i did with my other friends, they get all mad "oh you were with them friday night." i mean really, i'm not their propery. my other friends dont like my old friends that much either, but when i ask them to stop talking bad they do. my old friends wont. how do i make them understand that i'm not going to ditch them?
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I guess you'll just have to prove it over time. I think you're probably right thinking they are jealous. You might feel the same if they brought someone new into the group who you didn't like. They will get over it one of these days, until then maybe don't even mention anything fun you do with the other group. Just keep them separate. :)
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Friendships change in highschool, it's just the way of things and learning to balance them is a huge part of it. You seem to being doing pretty good so far but you need to be a little clearer with both your groups. Practicing saying these things and make sure you mean them:
"I don't want to hear bad things about them, they are my friends too. I wouldn't want anyone to talk about you that way."
"You are my friend and important to me."
Repeat as nessicary, untill they all get sick of hearing it. In time your old friends with branch out and find new intersts and friends too.
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you dont really need to make then understand that if there not going to accpet that youve made new friends and didnt exactly move on they shoudlnt be so pissy about itthere most likely just jealous maybe you could invite them along with your friends...but you should tell them that your not going to leave them that you just like to be with other people sometimes and not just them all the time cause i think we all know that the same people over and over gets boring after a while
hope that works...
sincerly Quinn
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