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my mom wont let me get my belly botton peircered so i did it my self now i can't find a belly ring any where and i dont have any money

Study harder in school to develop your ability to think.

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So my prom is coming up.. in 1 week to be exact. I'm a senior in high school and lets just say I don't have many friends. I'm not really sure why not. I'm kinda the girl who gets picked last when its time to pick teams for games.

Anyways, on with the story. so prom is next week and last year's prom was ok. Its my senior prom and I really want it to be amazing. I want the whole experience. being in a big group, taking lots of pictures with friends, being in a limo or party bus, going to an afterparty. all of those things I didnt get to experience last year. And i know to you it may sound childish and selfish but its really important to me. I'm going off to college in a few months and there aren't any Prom's in college. This will technically be the only time I will get to experience something like this and I want it to be amazing.

SO.. I talked to my friend Nicole and she said I (and my date) could be in her group. Well we made these plans about 2 weeks ago and just today I texted her and said "do you know any details about prom yet? like if we are getting a party bus and when are pictures?" and she replies "you can come to pictures but the party bus is already full"... so pretty much she's kicking me out of the group.. (This was all during school) so I went to my boyfriend and told him and I got so mad and frustrated that I just started crying..

I know I may sound like a drama queen or whatever but this year's prom really means a lot to me. I'm always that girl who nobody knows. I want to stand out and be part of something special. I want to feel beautiful in my dress and I want to look back at this thinking "wow that was a great night" but all i see right now is a disaster... I'm just so frustrated. I already have a million things on my mind like I have to go spray tanning and I need to get my hair done and get my nails done etc etc ect.. the last thing I need on my mind right now is more stress.. My boyfriend said he would help and try to find another group to go with, but I'm not sure if any more groups are willing to let us in, considering prom is next week!!!

helppp!!! I just wanted this prom to be special :( but now it sounds like its going to go downhill :( please. this really means a lot to me.. I wish my mom was here to help me but she moved to Europe for work and I don't have any other friends that can help me out.

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I like this boy, but he said he doesn't like me, how do I get him to like me?

Ask him at knife point.

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How do I quit eating junk food?

Stop buying it.

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Why does it seem like guys are not as insecure of their bodies as girls are? It seems like guys will just get naked right in front of people like nothing, when I don't feel like girls would do that (I know I wouldn't and I am a skinny girl)

Boys only care about things that matter. And video games sometimes, but that's a character flaw.

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I am an anarexic i do tell people but they dont do anything. I told my best friend and she acted as if it was nothing. But its not nothing! When my stomach growels i see that as a good thing. But that isnt the problem i need somebody to tell me how to tell my mom. She is already strugglin as a single parent with 9 kids and 2 that droped out of school. And i dont wqnt to cause anymore trouble. So please somebody contact me and give some help i am only 12 years old. Please somebody!

Tell a teacher.

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what is an emo nickname for Arissa?

Cutmywrista.

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Well today my mom was breathing down my neck as usual about my english grade and college. I need to upgrade my english marks for a college course, so i have to sign up for an adult high school for the course. She keeps reminding me about it and she keeps telling me i better get it done quick every time she sees me and i was getting sick of it. So for once in my 17 years of living i actually stood up to her and told her to stop pressuring me about school. Then she lashed out at me about how she doesn't care about me anymore. What should i do now?

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whats the similarities/differences between heroin and cigarettes? i mean they both are addicting drugs.. they both can kill you.. what is the difference? why is one illegal and one is not? that pisses me off... :/

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That's why.

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Hi im a 15 year old female and sometimes I feel like I want to be in a relationship. Then, days later I want to just be single. I'm currently still single but sometimes I want to be in a relationship but I do not want to get in a relationship then want to be a single again and vice-versa . so what should I do?

Read a book.

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My girlfriend is addicted to vicaden and three weeks ago, I found out from my bank statement that she stole almost $900 dollars from my ATM card. I confronted her and she told me she wasn't going to tell me if i never found out. She is feeling guilty and very sorry. She has secret texts, phone calls and acts strange when I ask her what she did for the day. She is always yelling at me and picking fights, when she is wrong and I bring it up. I have always felt that she is hiding somthing but I could never figure it out. I try to meet her needs as much as I can, but I am a graduate student and I do the best I can but she is unsastified. I found out this week that she stole 65 dollars from me and told me she forget to bring it up and when I asked about it on Friday, she wanted to break up, the second time she wanted to break up over me giving her money or she taking it without my permission. I feel like I am her golden ticket and she is just hanging on for herself. She has kids and I get along with them. Our sex life is unsatisfactory and she always complain when she intiates it and i go for it. I feel that she loves me and I love her too, but I am confused on what to do. I tried working things out but its like she is always picking fights and acting like a "clutz", her way of calling the stolen money, the lies and disrespect. She says her mom put gas in the car when she used my car to do so. The trust is not there and everytime I am at work, I wonder what she be doing. Any help or advice would be helpful. I am 24 male and my girl is 30 female.

Break up with her. Make sure she no longer has access to any account of yours.

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I don't know how to treat the boys in middle school.How should I really treat them?

Nicely.

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ok i really want to sleepover with one of my friends but my other friend wants me to what should i tell her and not hurt her feelings.. please HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

The world isn't ending, just do it next weekend.

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I kno that people ask this question all the time but, which guy should I choose? I usually think that the people who ask this question are weird but now that I'm in this position.....

Guy 1- really shy but if you get to kno hm he's hilarious and talkative. He really likes me and we are currently going out but I feel like I'm cheating on him b/c I dont love him as much as he loves me.

Guy 2- one of my brothers best friends and I think he's HOTT but my friends are completely repulsed by him. He's hilarious and really flirty with me but I dont kno if he likes me.

Guy 3- really talkative and hilarious and all my friends agree with me when I say he is defiantly cute but I also like his best friend.

Guy 4- guy 3's best friend. pretty shy but super HOTTTTTT. He's always making jokes gets super jealous if he sees me with my boyfriend.

Please give actual advice and tell me who you would date if you were in my shoes. I know it's up to me but still it really IS hard to decide!!!!!! I am hiding their identitys to avoid embaressment on my part or their part. Thank you so much!!!!

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I have a boyfriend of 4 years. Here recently, a couple days before our 4 year which was like a week ago I went on to my boyfriends Facebook, just to randomly check up on him. I go through his messages and come across a conversation that my boyfriend started up. It goes along the lines of " Hey so I just wanted to let you know I had the biggest crush on you back in BCIS class and I thought you were cute" she said aww why didnt you tell me? i feel the same kind of thing. and he mentioned he STILL thinks shes cute and that the vodka helps. Gave his number to her and the next morning puts "even sober I meant all that" After that, I was BEYOND pissed and confronted him about it. He claimed he got drunk with a couple friends and left his Facebook up and his friend talked to a couple people. Obviously I don't believe him and his friend called me up and wanted to make sure he told me he's the one who talked to her and sorry for getting him in trouble and that he thought it was funny at the time. Also, I went ahead and messaged that girl, and of course she didn't respond like I thought. Which makes it seem more supicious. With all that said, I am not sure how to approach this issue. I often bring up I am still upset with him and he continues to deny it all. I feel as though it is never-ending. I don't know if I should either brush it off or end it between us because I don't think I could trust him after seeing that.

Any ideas?

Wait, you logged onto his Facebook "just to randomly check up on him"? No matter how you spin it, you completely violated any sense of trust or privacy. Don't try to make yourself out as a caring girlfriend that was looking out for him; you were being a selfish, insecure girlfriend.

As far as the rest of your question goes, there are just too many conflicting personas and scenarios for me to give informed advice. But I think any other chinks in this four year relationship can probably be traced back to a lack of trust and an abundance of insecurity.

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To be honest, I have posted advice on this before, but it's getting out of hand. My boyfriend and I have been dating for three weeks now. We talk on the phone every night. Well, at least I do. He used to play video games and watch tv whenever we would talk on the phone and I told him it bothered me, so he stopped doing so. But now it's like...ugh. He's all quiet and weird on the phone and I'm always the one talking while he says one word replies like oh and yeah and mhmmm. It's getting on my nerves. I mean, what is the relationship if we barely see each other anymore because he's grounded? I like him a lot. We have a good chemistry. He's extremely sweet to me in person, showering me with compliments and loud with chit chat. But on the phone he's like a different person. I realize guys don't like talking on the phone as much as girls do, but come on. I don't want to complain or nag at him for being so antisocial, but I also feel like I am being strangled to Geath because I am always the one talking. The phone is our only means of communication because he's still grounded from the computer, and I won't see him tomorrow like we usually do because his bike is screwed up. Am I overreacting? Does it really matter how he is on the phone if he treats me like a princess in person? What do I do?

You should stop talking on the phone if it aggravates you so much. You should wait for his grounding to end.

You should play with Barbie dolls until then.

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15/f

We were in class one day and he had made some kind of reference/motion to alcohol that I didn't get so I was like, "HUH?"

He was like, "PARTY."

"And?"

"DRINKING!" He said.

Then it hit me and I of course went, "OHHHH!!"

He said, "God, you're so retarded. You're so childish. I swear, I just want to yell at you sometimes! You're so frustrating."

And then he looks at me and starts laughing. I pound my head against my desk in frustration and he just laughs harder and says I'm "so funny", like he says all the time.

...I know I overthink things a lot, but is my friend bipolar or something? We're not close at all, just acquaintances more or less, so should I ignore him? After all, I'm not exactly childish, I'm just slow on the uptake on the darker things in life.. Why is that so annoying to him? Something like this seems to happen every time I don't get his jokes, but today he really kinda blew up..

Your friend is an idiot. No one should be drinking at 15.

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Does the guy Jizz when you give a hand job?

Ideally.

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