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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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ok so my kitten really stinks. its stinking up my whole house.i cant stand it. it really stinks badly. i dont know what to do. like the litterbox gets spread aroudn my house and i gets so messy. also, whats the best litter i can get my cat like that smells good. and what can i do about my cat getting doddle on her paw then going on top of my bed? thanks in advance. i rate!

Well, if your cat is just a kitten, then likely she hasn't quite mastered the whole litter box thing. Meaning, she gets poo-paw because she doesn't know to dig enough yet. Though it is a pain, you may have to keep an eye for her to go in her litter box and catch her to wipe her paws clean until she gets the hang of it.

She spreads litter all about because those big chunks of litter get stuck in her little paws and that causes them to get tracked all about.
Something I did for my cat was get Arm and Hammer FLUSHABLE cat litter. The flushable kind is much smaller granules, which makes less litter stuck in her paws. And it is made with baking soda, so it helps with the smell.

Other than having patience for her to completely litter box train, you should make sure to keep it clean at all times. Since kittens aren't the best litter diggers, a lot of mess gets left on the top, and I agree, the smell is unreal.

If she actually smells of litter box, it doesn't hurt to give her a bath now and again, since I have never met a kitten who is the bather they become as adults. She won't like it, but but if she needs it, she needs it.

Try out that litter, ok? See if it helps out with the smell and litter tracking.

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ok well me and this guy have been talking for about 2 days. not long at all i know. but we would talk on instant messenger and he asked me to come to the movies with him and we would hang out and stuff. so i said sounds good and gave him my phone number to call me so he could tell me what time he wanted to meet. but then he just stopped talking to me. he never called that night and i havent heard from him in like 4 days. did i scare him off? we seemed to get along rather good i thought..maybe it was to soon to give out phone numbers.. or what? i just dont know!

Maybe something big came up all the sudden, such as a family emergency?
I don't see how it could have been too soon to give out numbers or that you scared him off considering HE asked YOU to the movies.
When you see him online again, buzz him and ask what's up.

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im planning a sweet 16 for me and 20-30 people i have some ideas like i have songs that we can dance to and snacks but i don't know where to throw the party and wat else to do instead of just dance it can't be a pool party becuz its during the winter

-where can i throw my party?
-wat else can we do instead of dance and eat?

and the buget should be under $100


Well, I have no clue where you live to be able to tell you where and etc, but maybe you can ask some of your intended guests what they may think would be fun to do? Since they are the ones you plan to entertain, they can tell you what will entertain them.

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Well, the subject just about says it! How old do you think a person should be before becoming a nanny?

Well, if you are wanting to do it as a full time job then you need to be old enough to have gotten through high school.

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okay.. i'm 17/f.
I've been dating my boyfriend (19/M) for about three years. We don't have sex all that often, but everytime we do, we use protection and we always check the condom. I'm a week late for my period. I've been this late for my period before. Him and I haven't had sex in a long time. Do you think i should be worried? I know sometimes stress can lead to not getting your period. I'm really stressed because my boyfriend's moving another state away for college, my parents haven't been talking, I'm worried about my job, and my mom keeps asking me if i got my period and that keeps me worried. Do you think i should be worried? Any help is appreciated. =]

Chill out. Stress is likely your problem.

If you become 2 weeks late, however, take a test. I say 2 weeks, because since you are still a teen, you may still be having irregular cycles. Since your cycles may still be irregular, you have to allot yourself enough time for the pregnancy hormone to be strong enough to be accurately detected in your urine with either a home test or doctor's test. (Both are urine tests unless you request a blood test.)

You can also get tested free of charge at your county's health department, assuming you live in the U.S. And their tests are the same as you take at the doctor's office. (Which are in turn basically the same as a home test, believe it or not.)

Besides, how long has it been since you last had sex? You say a long time. If you had a period last month (which obviously you did to be only a week late...) then to be pregnant, your egg would have had to be fertilized within this ovulation cycle, meaning you had to have sex sometime between your last period, and this currently late one.

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My bf and I have been dating for 3 weeks, we started dating at the end of school so we don't get to see each other much cause he can't come to my house or anything and my parents wont let me go out anywhere.
We call each other ocasionally (well I call him)
and we talk for a couple of hours
At first, he was hard to work with because he doesn't trust anyone
But I earned his trust, and now we're really good.
I like him a whole lot & I don't want us to end up fighting all the time.
Lately, he hasn't called/answered my calls
or messaged/answered my messages
today I read his messages from other people
and some girl said

we can still be friends but there are limitations.. dont send me a message more then 3 times a day unless im talking. stop poking me..dont call my cell b/c im running out of minutes..

to him
I dunno if it's an ex or what
but it kind of scares me
I trust him enough not to cheat on me
But I just want to know what you think of this


(SORRY FOR THE LENGHT)

If you trust him not to cheat on you, then why are you even bothered by this?
And why, exactly are you reading his messages? That's kinda his personal and private stuff, you know...
If he has trust issues, then I certainly wouldn't be risking breaking said trust by invading his privacy.
And see what happens when you do something like that? You get freaked out over a message that you have no clue about and don't understand it's meaning.
I would just forget it. Unless he gives you reason to feel he is cheating on you, then no worries, right?

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i told my crush i liked him and he said that he liked me so i asked him out but he said no because i seemed to have boy troubles and its too late in the year.
i dont get it.

what should i dO?

Wait around until he thinks you no longer have boy troubles and it is the perfect time of year to be convenient for him... YAH RIGHT!

Obviously he doesn't like you so much as he claims to be so selfish. I would move on to someone who doesn't use such pathetic excuses.

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So what if someone gets cold sores every so often, but always inside the mouth never on the lip, and always very mild and rare. So if they give a blow job to someone when they don't have any cold sores in their mouth at the time, will the guy get herpes on his penis even if you didn't have it at the time you gave the blowjob? Thanks so much.

Herpes like cold sores and genital herpes are completely different viruses. So, no.

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i have alot of pokemon cards , where can i sell them at? if you suggest something online , it must not require a credit card... public places should be around st.louis , MO.

uhhhh' thanxxxxx

Maybe a comic book store that does the whole buy, trade, sell bit?

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ok. so i have this friend. let's call her 'L' well L and i have been friends since the beginning of 7th grade (it's june of 8th grade now) and we have always been FRIENDS like good friends not BFF but good friends, and like, last year she would get mad at me and my other friend, A would tell me and i would text L and be like i'm sorry for ______ whatever A would say i did wrong & that was why L was mad at me. well like, L is currently mad at me and idk why & neither does A and like, i am kind of sick of L always being mad at me! like idk what i did wrong... should i text her & ask her what's up or just let it go? she always gets over it in like, 24 hours but still it's really really annoyingg..

I wouldn't text her, I would ask her to her face. See, all this text messaging and IMing each other is so impersonal. You have no certain idea as to what they are meaning when you are talking to words on a screen because it is impersonal AND expressionless.

See, things like this are always best discussed face to face, or at the very least over a phone conversation. At least then you get an idea if she is angry when she talks, or sad, irritated, happy, or sarcastic. You catch my drift.

But, really, if she is annoying and just gets mad at you all the time, (basically for the fun of it?) why are do you still even bother being friends with her? She doesn't sound as though she is that great of a friend by what you say here...

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is it possible for a fracture in an animal to heal on its own? about how long would it take?

Yah, it's possible, if you don't mind allowing the animal to have a gimped up bone from not being properly set. And if it isn't properly set, it will ache even after healed.
I wouldn't allow it to go untreated, myself. It's not humane.
I don't know how long it takes bones to heal, but it would ever properly heal unless set and treated.

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I am 23 and female. I dated a guy for 5 years and I found out that he cheated on me. Now I want to say that the cheating was a lot. It was around 10 girls. He slept with 5 of them, and the one was my best friend. Now with that said I also want to say that we were young when we dated, and he wasn't even 21 yet. Ok so I obviously broke up with him, and when I did the tables turned and he was depressed. He could not deal with the break-up and since then he has not been the same. It is going on 2 years since this happened. I did not date anyone seriosly for a 1 1/2 of that time. I could not find anyone I really wanted to date. I was going to go back to him, because I felt like there was no one else for me. Well I ended up meeting someone right before I was going to go back to him. This guy is great he does so much for me in every way possible. He is just a great guy. I love him very much and everything about him. The problem is it still hurts to think of my ex. I feel guilty because I know he is not ok, and that I need to help him and make him feel better. I am so confused lately I just can't get myself to think straight. Anyway I want to know if this is normal and I need to continue on with my life, or if I should not ignore the feelings for my ex that I still might have?

What?!? Why in the hell should YOU feel guilty about how bad HE feels? You are not to blame for his lowly feelings of depression and self pity. He did that to himself, my dear.
YOU are not responsible for making HIM feel better. Who cares if he isn't the same? Who cares if he is all down in the dumps? He should be! He was an asshole to you! He deserves all of his self induced misery. Maybe he will learn a valuable lesson and treat the next woman as she deserves to be.
You found a great guy- GOOD. Your ex should have no bearing on your current relationship. So get on with your life, and enjoy it with the your new man.
Don't take his guilt as your own. You aren't guilty of anything, so why should he make you feel as though you are?
So. Confusion to an end, now, ok? Lay the blame where it is due and let him feel guilty for treating you like crap.
You, on the other hand, need to lay him to rest in your past where he belongs. You have a wonderful guy who treats you great, so why let this asshole effect you and your happiness?

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Me and my boyfriend had sex yesterday when he put the condom on it kept coming off like it was too tight and does anyone know a bigger condom?? Because we tried it 3 different times and each condom came off!! What should I do?!

If it is truly too tight, then yes there is a larger size called Magnum.

But I can't quite gather how it would keep slipping off due to being too tight- it seems it would do that if it were too big. If it were too tight it would be harder to get on and off.

What should you do? Make sure he is using a proper fitting condom, and make sure he is putting it on correctly. Yah, it may seem embarrassing, but you need to swallow that because such matters are of great concern to you- not only with the possibility of getting pregnant, but with the fact of all the nasty STDs out there.
So if the weight of all of this has to fall on your shoulders, then by all means, bear all the weight. It is for your own protection.

Put the condom on yourself, if you have to. (Practice putting it on a banana first, like we used to back in sex education, so that you know that YOU are doing it correctly.) You may feel silly, but don't. He will probably find it less of a hassle to stop and put it on and more arousing if YOU are the one doing it, since it requires touching... ;)

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ok so im home alone and the phone rang like 2 minutes ago and the EXACT NUMBER was:

Unknown Number
011442074275764

(i have caller id) and im thinking wtf kind of a number is that so i answer it and all i hear is static.. what couldve this been? you dont have to do this but can someone call this number and tell me what it is? because i'm too scared to dial it.. thanks for any help at all!!

What is probably best is to wait for someone else to come home, like your parents (unless you feel it unsafe to wait home alone), and tell them what's up. Have them dial it back, if you are afraid to.
If you are afraid to answer the phone when you see that number, then don't. No sense freaking yourself out.
But just remember, it is only a phone call. No one can hurt you via the phone. Just say "Who is this and why do you keep calling?" You never know, it could be a cell phone number and someone may be broke down on the side of the road and seeking assistance.
But like I said, if you are afraid to answer- then don't. If you get too freaked out, call a friend to come over and sit with you or go to a trusted neighbor's house.
ALWAYS remember that if you feel threatened in any way while home alone, leave the house right away and go to a trusted neighbor's house until someone gets home. Call the police from their house if police assistance is needed.

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Sometimes I feel like I'm lost in a downward spiral and nothing can pull me out. But I shouldn't feel that way! I don't know what's wrong! I have an amazing boyfriend, my parents get along, I'm being treated for depression, anorexia, and alcoholism, and things are supposed to be getting better.

But I feel like my family is falling apart. My mom is nearly broke and my dad never talks about it. I've seen the bills and I know how much my therapy and medication and everything is costing them. And this is how I repay them. By lying to my therapist, drinking behind their backs, cutting, and not telling them anything that's going on.

They think that everything is fine and dandy with me. I can't break their hearts and let them know that I feel worse now then I ever have. I can't hurt them like that again.

I feel like a stupid, attention starved whore who can't do anything right. And I don't know what to do. :(

The best thing you can do right now is except the help you are being given and use it to help yourself. That means no more lying to the therapist, no more drinking, no more cutting. Yes, it is hard to do and takes time and patience, but you are worth doing this for yourself.

Your parents and your therapist can't help you if you hide what you are doing and lie about what you're thinking and feeling. They WANT to help you. It won't break their hearts to discover you feel bad right now- it will break their hearts if they can't find you the help you need and deserve, which they can't do if you don't keep them up to date on what's going on and be truthful about it.

Don't fret over your parents' financial situation. For starters, it isn't your concern. But mostly, they are going broke to help their daughter get straight with herself and get her life on track, as any loving, caring parent would do. I know I would.

I would go broke and live in a cardboard box if that is what it took to help my son if he were in your shoes. Why? Because I love him and want the world to be at his fingertips rather than being smashed under it's shoe.

I would do whatever it took to get him headed in the right direction in this life. Money would be no object. It's paper. It's material. It's replaceable. My son isn't, and neither are you.

Now, seems to me your parents see things the same way I do. They will do whatever it takes to see that you lead a happy healthy life.

What do you do? Like I said, you have to be willing to help yourself. No amount of money, no amount of therapy, no amount of parental love and hope can help you one iota if you don't help yourself.

Don't think so negatively about yourself. Don't feel stupid and all that jazz. It does nothing to help your situation. Look to the positive- you are a troubled young lady who is looking to better herself and do what she can to ensure she will pick herself up off the rock bottom floor.

Keep your chin up and try to straighten your life out. That is the best right you can do for yourself in this life.
Best of luck to you and I hope you succeed in getting your life on track. :)

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Wrong category.
Sorry!

Some of my friends are going to Six Flags and invited me. I really want to go, but I`m scared of heights + i hate it when rides go upside down like that. I scream for them to stop the right and I almost cry. Haha, it sounds pathetic, but when I was little I was up in some tree really high and this girl was trying to give me a boost, so i fell and broke my jaw. Yeah, anyways, is there some way that I can overcome my fear of this stuff so I can go?

Well, I can certainly see why you have a fear of heights!
The only way to overcome your fear is to face it.
Listen, talking amusement parks, here, when I was a kid, I used to be scared to death of big rides like roller coasters because they were so high from the ground.
One time, I decided to face my fear and get on a roller coaster. Let me tell you, the "chicken exit" looked nicer and nicer each time it got closer to being my turn, but I refused to take it. I was bound and determined to see what this whole roller coaster hubbub was about.
The ride was scary at first, but I was determined to do my best and enjoy myself, so I loosened up and the ride became exciting and thrilling. I wanted to go over and over again, because it really wasn't as bad as I thought.
I absolutely LOVE roller coasters to this day.

The thing of it is, is that the rides are meant to be scary. They are thrill rides. You get on them and get flung about or hurtled through the air way above the ground in order to scare the crap out of yourself for the sheer fun of it.

All you can really do is to ride a thrill ride and try to enjoy it. If you can't enjoy it, then avoid them. There is no since in scaring yourself half to death and not having a good time about it. That just makes for an awful day at Six Flags, where you should be enjoying yourself.

I'm sure they have many rides to choose from that don't send you into the air that are equally as fun, and I hope your fear of heights don't keep you from going and having a good time. :)

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alrighgt so me and my boyfriend have had sex many time before and we have used a condom everytime exet yesterday we had sex 3 times in one day without a condom.. we ran out of condoms and so wejust did it without a condom he pulled out before he ejaculated each time but im worried if like it could be possiable that he missed some when wiping the sperm off his dick because we went again right after he ejaculated so im just worried about that.. should i be?

Of course you should be worried. Like YG said, there is sperm in his pre-cum, so you can get pregnant weather he wipes off the sperm or not.

The pull-out method is not an effective way to avoid pregnancy. I have an infant son that proves that fact. Luckily, though he was unplanned, he was far be it from unwelcome, considering my husband and I are perfectly capable of taking on the responsibility of children without having to rely on our parents for help. That, and we were both ready to start a family.

If you become 2 weeks late for your next due period, you need to get tested. If you can't afford a test, your county Health Department will test you free of charge, assuming you live in the U.S.

They will also provide you with condoms free of charge, so if you are nearing the end of your supply and find you have empty pockets, swing by and pick up a few.

It's much better to be a little embarrassed by asking for condoms than it is to go without and risk an unplanned pregnancy, especially if you have no means to care for the child independently.

You don't mention your age, but do you feel you could confidently raise a child on your own? If you don't, and you end up being pregnant, be sure to attend unplanned parenting classes. You will learn a wealth of information that can help you be the best parent you hope to be.

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okay so to start of im 17 years old female. anyway im 17 and i have been for the last 5months my mom will not let me do anything and im so sick of it i had to come in at 10:30 pm like im a baby or something its friday night and all of my friends are out drinking but no i have to be home by 10:30 i cant go out to partys and drink because i drive i cant even stay out past 11 on the weekends im going insane..!! some one please help

Gee. You get to stay out until 10:30? Boo-frickin- hoo, child.
I had to beg to go out at all. Maybe because my mom knew my friends were irresponsible people who stayed out at parties and drank it up while they howled at the moon? Not that she didn't trust that I wouldn't drink, but maybe because she worried I would get in a car with said irresponsible friends and die on my way home?

Give me a break, already.

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So today i had sex
I was on my period but my period stops for hours at a time, and sometimes even for a day.
It was stopped for a while, and i had sex during that time [with a condom].
I saw all the cum in the condom, but im scared that some got out.
There weren't any hols in the condom, Am i just being paranoid?
Or should I be worried?

I think you are being paranoid.
Have you ever tried to use a condom as a water balloon? I did back in my wild days with my wild friends, and let me tell you- it doesn't make for a very good water balloon fight. They are way stronger than the appear! We had to stomp on them to get them to burst. And we are talking FULL of water, here.
Listen, if you become 2 weeks late for your next due period, then take a test. But I would wager you have no worries.

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ok i have a boyfriend he is always tellin me to call hime back and when i call his friend to see is he there he say no he outside with 5 girls and 3 boys i'm his girlfriend i have no i =dea what he is doin out there with them girls cause i not with him so i;m not goin to accuse him of doin somthin that i didn't see

please help me with this cause this is becomin a problem

Maybe your boyfriend is an asshole. More likely, maybe his friend is.
No worries unless he gives you reason to be.

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