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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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My teacher is 27 and Im 17 and he always asks me do I like him if I'm alone with him. I do have a crush on him, but I never tried to do anything with him and I never will. Sometimes I blush when hes around but that's it.If I go to the restroom and Im tardy to class, he will take me to class and he acts weird, he asks weird questions, like he asked me did I love him in front of our class. He will get really close to me and ask me do I love him and if I say no he just says that he loves me. I cant tell if hes serious sometimes or if hes just playing. Sometimes he makes me go in the hall so he can talk to me about nothing that's important. He calls me his girlfriend in front of teachers and students and they just laugh at him because they think hes joking. I don't know if hes playing or what. He'll be in class teaching and put his arm around me. I don't think he'll try to do anything but sometimes he gets close to me and its really uncomfortable, even when I back away. He just stares and smiles at me a lot. Or he'll walk over to my desk and stand there for a while. I'm a pretty strait forward person, so after a while I turn around and ask him what he wants. He'll ask if I need help or something. One time he looked up my schedule and took me out of PE class because I was mad at him and someone told him that I didnt like him, he took me out of class just to ask me if I didnt like him and he looked seriously hurt.
Maybe I'm just overreacting but I just wanted to know what somebody else's opinion was about the situation. Sometimes I just can't tell if hes joking because he knows I have a crush on him or if hes being serious. Please answer, thanks
This teacher has crossed the line on way to many occasions.
Report him
You are a student and he is a teacher he is in the wrong and is putting himself in hot water.
How long should a person wait to have sex with someone?
Well everyone has different opinions
I would wait at least a few months until you are comfortable and are both ready. Sex should be with someone you fully trust, love, respect and KNOW very well. It is not something you just do to get it over with this is how you end up regretting it.
Okay well in a few weeks I am going to university near London, and as I'm from the countryside and quite far away I started browsing through the facebook pages for the uni and tried talking to people/adding them like a lot of people are doing, mostly so I wouldn't be totally alone haha.
Anyway, I added some guys and girls (and a few added me as well) but when I try and talk to the men they just don't seem like they want to talk at all, like single word answers and then they just stop all together, which to be honest, isn't helping me think I'll fit in at all.
The other thing is a lot of the people are black/dark which to me isn't a problem because I have a black boyfriend but I don't know if that is why I'm getting the feeling they don't want to talk or what...
The other thing is that when guys add me they talk to me as if I would have sex with them within a week, and I swear that's not like me at all, I had never even hugged a guy before this year, so I don't know if its just me coming across as a slut, though I don't know how, I never have pictures up with a lot of skin and I'm usually laughing in my pictures :/
On a side note the girls are fine and seem happy to talk about preparations and things like that, so that makes me feel a bit better but, I was really hoping I could be friends with guys too because I wanted to start a new life and I never really managed that before.
I don't know how to get advice on this issue actually, I just wanted to let out my worries I guess, sorry for wasting your time but feel free to post if you think you can help somehow :).
Okay,
I would stop adding random people to your facebook.
1, It's never really a good idea to add people you don't know at all to your page.
2, Of course you can expect people to not have much to say, You are after all just a random person.
Your best bet would be to wait until you go to the University and try and meet people in person. I'm not saying it will happen but you really don't want to give yourself a bad rep before you even get your foot in the door. Friend requesting random people is also known as "friend whoring" and the last thing you would really want is random people in your business. These are just some things to think about, I know you want friends and to meet people but you are really going about it the worst way. I would probably delete all the people you do not know and just ride it out once you get there. I'm pretty sure you won't be the only one not having friends but don't be desperate about it.
can i get pregnant with my tubes tied
Very unlikely
Me and my boyfriend just broke up because I couldnt seem to feel secure in the relationship and he just wasnt making me happy anymore.
Ive never felt so bad though :/ like i honestly think i might be going into depression. I broke it off last night but I cried a lot and he just kept agreeing and saying we werent meant to be right now. He did say that he really wanted to date me in a year when he wasnt so focused on school and boxing. (It was long distance) I just feel so hurt and like none of our 2 years was real :{ I guess im asking for help and advice on how to get over this. im in a really bad place and I dont want to feel this pathetic and sad for too long. Do you guys think he really means it when he says he wants to be with me in the future?
I also answered your previous question
This is the first step, Breakups are not easy.
The best way to move on is to learn to accept that it was no more than what it was. It isn't your fault, It's not his fault it just simply wasn't meant to be. Focusing on YOU is how you move on, I was in a relationship for 5 years and yes, I also went through some bad times but it's over 3 years later and I am happy again. Healing takes time but I suggest if you have friends spend time with them, Spend time with family. Do things you love to do. Go for walks, Go to the mall with a friend etc. The worst thing you can do is mope around the house and think about it. Honestly? If the guy wants to get back together in a year when he will be able to see you in person etc. Then that's fine but I seriously wouldn't try and have an online relationship. Like I previously said, They just aren't real. In the meantime I would take some time off on dating and when you are ready try and meet other people that can have a real relationship with you.
did anyone ever try using extenze or hear a story about it? i was just wondering if it actually works to enhance the male penis size? or if they just say it does.
Its all bullshit just like everything else. There purpose is to make it sound convincing and sell there product. Stay away from scams.
what are some good songs to help me get over a guy?
Well, Here is the perfect one...
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u_eVRqCH_Bk
Can you get pregnant from giving a bj
No
In order to get pregnant, The penis has to have contact with the vagina.
so i like this guy. he was in my school and passed out this year. i am a year junior to him so i'll pass out next year!
i have been talking to him for quite a while now.. and i really like him. he likes me too. he asked me out recently.(though we both are confused on what to do because.. the problem is he is going to another country :/ for his college! and yeah well he would come back to where i live cause his family is here, but still i mean i dont know what i should do?)
There are few things to think about
1, You still have another year of High School left
2, He will likely be a few thousand miles away from you
If he goes to college in another country, How exactly do you plan to maintain a relationship? Online relationships are not the same as one in person. All an online relationship is just a person talking through a computer etc. Online relationships take 5X more effort to even make it work.
Really? I would seriously hold off on a relationship until you know he will be available to you and be able to see you. This guy asked you out but obviously right now on his behalf he isn't really available for a relationship. If you two are meant to be then just ride it out until he is back in town where you both can have a real relationship not one that is online. Your best bet is to remain friends in the meantime, Sure it sucks balls but here is reality: You can proceed to have an online relationship and know that it ain't going to work out...Or have a friendship you know will last forever or until he is back in town!
I don't eat anything when I go to school because I don't like the food. I cabnt pack a lunch everyday, I just wait to go home and eat. Sometimes I feel sick and sometimes I throw up liquid when I haven't eaten anything. Why do I feel like I have to puke when I don't eat?
Not eating is not healthy, If you do not have time to pack a lunch before you leave then try packing a lunch the night before. We aren't doctors, We can't really give you a proper reason to why you are throwing up liquid. If this is an on going problem then you should see a doctor as there could be something seriously wrong.
Not eating can lead to being malnourished, Lack of vitamins, calcium, protein etc. Not drinking enough liquids can lead to dehydration. Pack something the night before and take it with you, You can even pick up a bottled water at a store for less then a buck....There is no excuse to skip out on a meal.
He's seventeen, a senior, male. I'm sixteen, a junior, female.
He's my best friend.
He knows me. He calls me, he texts me everday. He tells me about his day and I tell him about mine. He know's my secrets and I know his.
He protects me. He beat up my ex-boyfriend when he slapped me. He doesn't let anyone hurt me, inside or out. He wont allow me with boys he doesn't approve of.
He cares about me. He hugs me when I cry. He holds my hand when I'm anxious, or nervous. He tickles me when I'm down. He wrestles me when I'm in that goofy mood. He's the funniest person I know.
We have never kissed, or had any kind of romantic relationship. We aren't like that.
But he's dating a new girl. She doesn't like me because of how close I am to him. He says its not, and that it won't, but everything I've mnetioned before is starting to fall apart, and I don't know how I can live with out him...
What am I supposed to do?
Have you tried talking to your friend? If you two are as close as you say you are then you shouldn't have a problem expressing your concerns on how you feel. Tell him what you told us, You feel that his new relationship is causing you to drift apart. On the other hand if he is in a relationship you cannot expect him to spend all of his time with you. This guy is now with someone, That is of course will be his main priority. If you are too the point were you don't hear from him AT ALL then you could explain to him that you are upset and really wish to hang out from time to time. Perhaps, You and his new girlfriend could come to an agreement too all hang out together. That way she doesn't feel paranoid about it, Learn to respect one another. Whatever you do, Do not demand his attention 24/7 or you both will definitely drift apart.
I'm 13 and this is my friends account she's 18
I always watch lesbian porn and I wanna masturbate but I don't, and idk if I'm a les because I still love guys
Believe it or not.. It is not uncommon for women to look at lesbian porn. A large variety of women fantasize and this does not mean you are a lesbian. Different things turn different people on and the whole point in porn is to arouse a person and fulfill their curiosity, fantasies etc. If you knew just how much women looked at other females for sexual pleasure you'd be surprised.
Is this wrong? Absolutely not. It's common and many many people look at porn. If you enjoy looking at women then that is 100% perfectly fine.
This summer I went to a place a 1000 miles away from my home with my aunt and uncle for the third time. Three days before we left I met one of the local boys who was friends with my brother when he went there. I am very into hiking so we went hiking together. We got along very well and I felt attracted to him. He is 18 and I am 16. I have never met someone who I instantly liked a lot. I feel like I may be exaggerating and acting over the top but I feel like we belonged together. I have never felt this way about any other guy I have been with for a while. I felt heartbroken to leave three days later because we spent all our time together.I wish he was more talkative on facebook, it would be easier for us to keep close. I was even thinking about looking at colleges where he lives so I could be near him. Is this ridiculous of me? What if he doesn't even like me anymore when I see him in a year? Should I put aside my feelings for him for now? Thanks for your advice!
Your way to hung up on the idea, Think about it you both live a good couple of hundred miles apart how the hell do you plan on making it work? 88% of guys don't like texting back and forth that much, What makes you think he would devote all his time into keeping an online relationship when he can go and have one in person and same goes for you? I'm not trying to be an asshole....I'm pointing out the obvious.
You both spend a nice 3 days together, You should of known beforehand that it wasn't going to be anything more than a quick friendship. You've allowed yourself to feel more than what it was and now you've sat on it too the point where you are living in your fantasy world. You are 16 years old, In another 2 years you will be 18 and you will mature, meet new people and life will go on for you and for him. To allow yourself to be hung up on someone who lives miles away and will never be able to have a relationship with is torturing yourself, You are holding yourself back and preventing yourself from possibly finding real happiness in your location to where you are now. Stop looking at colleges to be close to him, That is a really awful reason to even want to go to any college. College should be about what is suitable for you career wise NOT so you can be with someone who you will eventually get over in a few years.
i got home oe day to find blood on my sheets and blood stained panties that arent mine. i asked my boyfriend if he had sex with another girl and he told me no. should i believe him or not.
If you found blooded sheets and panties that didn't belong too you then you have every right to suspect your boyfriend cheated. It couldn't possibly be anymore obvious then it is. Your boyfriend denying it is almost like you walking right in on him screwing another women and he keeps denying it when she's in bed with him. Duh!
Of course he is going to deny cheating, You've pretty much caught him red handed. Dump his lying ass and get over it.
Okay so lately me and my ex boyfriend(we are basically back together but I keep telling him no because my family or friends arent ready to accept him back into my life) have been growing kinda distant. Its not my doing and Ive been getting really emotional over it all. He just moved a few states away but weve done long distance for more than a year. Its like the more I try the less he does. He still says he loves me and wants to be with me for a really long time but im just not feeling the love really. He says its all in my head and nothing is wrong but I just dont know. For example, last night I tried talkiing to him about it and telling him that I was upset and asked if we should see other people. He was like do whatever you want. And I got upset and was like wow do you even care if I leave? And he said that he does and he still loves me but hes tired of me asking the same question over and over. But he doesnt call very much and barely texts me back. I know hes always been bad with the phone but we are back to long distance so he should be dying to talk to me like before. What Im scared of is pushing him away by being too clingy but I dont want him to forget about me either. If anyone knows a way that I could win over his heart again or feel better about this because maybe it really is in my head. I mean it is the first few days of him living away from home but when I first moved away last year I loved talking to him and telling him about my adventures.
Another problem is that I feel completely dependent on him. I really want to fix it. It might be the main reason we are fighting...because I keep wanting more and more. I just really want to be loved and feel like I still make him happy. Hes so focused on boxing and stuff that he seems to always be too tired for me. I know for a fact he isnt cheating on me because hes not the type at all. I really want to feel okay and not so freaking pathetic without him. Please someone help me and give me some good advice about all of this. I dont want to lose him but I dont want to keep being upset.
Here is what you said: " I dont want to lose him but I dont want to keep being upset. "
You barley have him, This guy pretty much told you he don't care if you stay or leave. Reality is, Long distant relationships are hard as hell to maintain and take 5X more commitment to make it work and many times it just simply never works out. You said it yourself, Your not even sure if you love him. Distance sometimes will cause love to fade and slowly we begin to move on even without realizing it. This guy lives a few states away, Your parents disapprove of him and you aren't sure if you still love him. This right here says you should move on, As long as you cling to the little you have the more you will prevent yourself from meeting other people. Someone once told me long ago "The more you live in misery, The longer you prolong your own pain" You are miserable and will likely be until you move on. The sooner you begin to realize this guy is a few states away and the spark died long ago the sooner you can start to take the steps towards moving on.
Here is a very brief overview of my past with my ex. I dated him in high school and his parents ended up taking him out of school to be home schooled. It broke my heart and I thought of him everyday. I ended up dating another guy and ended up marring him. We have been together for 13 years and married for 8.
Just recently, my ex and I have re-communicated and for me it was a love at first sight all over again. My husband knew how I felt about this man over the past 13 years and okayed for me to see him. My ex and I immediately clicked and we have way more in common then my husband and I. We have the same interest in music, outlook on life and are adventurous. I am also happy that he can talk to me about the good, the bad and the ugly about him. I know he hides nothing from me, because he's told me some pretty in depth stuff.
Anyways, I know him and I rushed things too quickly and ended up sleeping together soon after meeting up again with my husbands approval. I thought he was pushing me away when in fact he didn't want me to regret him for not allowing me to do so. We rushed in and old feelings came back. I have decided to stop sleeping with him and work on the friendship part to make sure I don't make a mistake by leaving my marriage to go to something that may not work. I do love my ex dearly and enjoy the bond we do have together. I feel like him and I really are the true Bella and Edward. I remember reading Twilight series before I seen my ex again and cried because I wish I had had my happily ever after with him.
I feel like my hubby is the second best and that my ex and I really have a very special connection. He does not hide anything from me and I know this to be true because he wouldn't have said some of the things that he has. I asked him if we could work on the friend part and see where it goes. My husband told me that later on down the road if my ex and I still click then he wouldn't stop me and not because he doesn't want me, because he doesn't want me to not be happy. He and my ex both said that if it turns out that my ex and I are destined for each other that it's important that my husband becomes my friend and he still be in my life because we are good friends and we also have a son together.
I just want to end the lover part with my ex and be his friend to make sure this is what is truly what we want and not just based on lust or new sparks. We know all new relationships have these moments and they die out eventually.
It also allows me to re evaluate my marriage.
I need some advice on this topic.
You pretty much already know what you want by what you've said above, If you want to be with this dream guy then do the RIGHT thing and divorce your husband. Although you have your husbands approval what you are doing is wrong, You are married. Technically, Continuing to see another man while married is leading your husband on. Divorce him and then once it's finalized your free to do whatever you want.
i am 15 teen years old and i need a job too save for new shoes, and i wanna work a t mcdonalds how old do i havee to be?
As far as I know McDonalds hires as young as 14, You should be all set.
I'm extremely worried because I have an amazing friend and we hang out as a threesome with my cousin, who's 13. (like me) I think that my friend would much rather hang out with my cousin than me, and my cousin discreetly keeps trying to get me away as much as possible. Unfortunately, it works, and so they spend lots of time without me and I think they're becoming best friends and slowly (and non-deliberately) pushing me out! Please help me!
Talk to them, Explain to them that you feel left out. People can have more than one best friend and there is no reason to why you can all hang out as a group. (Next time skip on the threesome, It doesn't sound right) If they choose to leave you and not want to hang around you then obviously your so called friend isn't as much of a friend as you thought she was. Friends don't back stab and they do not betray. If you feel more comfortable talk to your cousin, Tell her your feelings are hurt and that you thought it would be fun to do things as a group. See what she says...
Every time I ask "mom, can I get gauges" she always yells "NO"!!!! If I ask "why not" all she says is "because I said no". If you are going to ask....... I'm 13 years old...... and please don't say I'm too young.... I have thought long and had about this,and have decided that I really want them. I know everything I need to know about them, like how to clean them, and take care of them so they won't get infected. I don't really want big ones..... like a 12 gauge?? Or mabeye a little bigger?? But not too big. So please, how can I convince her to let me get them??
As a former tattoo artist you legally need to be 18 to be able to pierce things on your own.
You would need your mothers permission in order to get it done, The best way to be convincing is to maybe take some responsibly around the house and do some ass kissing.
Anyway.....I'm just going to say it. Gauges are probably the most unattractive piercings I've ever experienced.....
I used to be with this guy for 2 years.. and he fucked me over badly, he left me and didnt want a relationship anymore, i wont lie we were too controlling , i dont understand why he did that but i admit that it was wrong of both of us for being like that, we never even let eachohther have friends from the opposite gender it was so stupid,.. anyways after the breakup i realized how stupid i was and he did too, he cme back to me, said he regret it, and wants to be togethr, im stupid and ofcourse gave in, but didnt get with him yet, i told him it was gonna take alot of time to gain his trust, he told me hell wait til whenever i need, and then when i told him i was ready he told me to give it time, that im rushing stuff, he feels like we have nothing in common anymore, after 2 YEARS? we have nothing in common? just because he met other people, but we agreed to just give it time, he started calling me baby again, tell me he loves me, and were always talking on BBM 24/7.. he has not even talked about us for a while, were growing closer but he still hasnt talked about it, my question is.. i dont wanna get SO attached to him like i used to be.. and i got so hurt and heartbroken i cant even explain it, and i wanna finish it up, either were together or not, how do i bring this up, SHOULD i bring this up with him ? what do i say? its not fair that he left me and now wants to give it time.. its not fair to me, and i cant take going everyday wondering if im talking to him all the time and its not leading to anything, i need advice on what to do and what to say, i get really nervous when it comes to him. i feel like he has the upper hand, and i want to have more power, please help me.. thank you to anyone who took the time
When a couple breaks up, Even just one time it takes forever to be able to trust one another yet alone be suitably comfortable to the point where you aren't bracing for another break up. That is if the person ever fully gets over it.
Being dumped is draining and when you get back together it just 99% of the time isn't the same. Sometimes it takes people a while to realize they just aren't meant for one another and that is okay.
From the sound of it, The spark just is no longer there for you and this guy. You two basically fell out a long time ago and you are just now realizing it. This is one of the main reasons why I never give second chances......
You can never fully repair a break up no matter how hard you work at it, Break ups are permanently damaging in multiple ways. Emotional, Physical and sometimes Mentally. I would like to say sometimes being friends with an ex just prolongs the pain....but if you think you two are mature enough to manage one then go for it but I think your best bet is to start over and meet someone who is right for you.