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Adding people on facebook so I am not alone at university when I get there?
Okay well in a few weeks I am going to university near London, and as I'm from the countryside and quite far away I started browsing through the facebook pages for the uni and tried talking to people/adding them like a lot of people are doing, mostly so I wouldn't be totally alone haha.
Anyway, I added some guys and girls (and a few added me as well) but when I try and talk to the men they just don't seem like they want to talk at all, like single word answers and then they just stop all together, which to be honest, isn't helping me think I'll fit in at all.
The other thing is a lot of the people are black/dark which to me isn't a problem because I have a black boyfriend but I don't know if that is why I'm getting the feeling they don't want to talk or what...
The other thing is that when guys add me they talk to me as if I would have sex with them within a week, and I swear that's not like me at all, I had never even hugged a guy before this year, so I don't know if its just me coming across as a slut, though I don't know how, I never have pictures up with a lot of skin and I'm usually laughing in my pictures :/
On a side note the girls are fine and seem happy to talk about preparations and things like that, so that makes me feel a bit better but, I was really hoping I could be friends with guys too because I wanted to start a new life and I never really managed that before.
I don't know how to get advice on this issue actually, I just wanted to let out my worries I guess, sorry for wasting your time but feel free to post if you think you can help somehow :).
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I totally understand where your coming from! But here's the thing. People are not going to like some random person on facebook adding them. I'm strict on who I add, but hey this isn't about me.
People add random people all the time, but that doesn't make them seem cool or popular just plain stupid and I'm not calling you stupid. Back to the topic.
My advice to you is just be yourself when you get there. Work on your work and greet people when they greet you. Another way to get to know people is in study groups or asking for help.
They might not like you at first especially if you're smart. But if you let time flow you'll have many friends. Especially if you're nice and let the real you show!
~Jacharity~
P.S. I said real you. Don't pretend to be someone you're not. If someone says they don't like you because you're a certian way. Just say "OK. Thank you for your opinion," and move on.
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Okay,
I would stop adding random people to your facebook.
1, It's never really a good idea to add people you don't know at all to your page.
2, Of course you can expect people to not have much to say, You are after all just a random person.
Your best bet would be to wait until you go to the University and try and meet people in person. I'm not saying it will happen but you really don't want to give yourself a bad rep before you even get your foot in the door. Friend requesting random people is also known as "friend whoring" and the last thing you would really want is random people in your business. These are just some things to think about, I know you want friends and to meet people but you are really going about it the worst way. I would probably delete all the people you do not know and just ride it out once you get there. I'm pretty sure you won't be the only one not having friends but don't be desperate about it.
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