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No one is giving me the support I want n it been so hard 2 me because I haven't tell anyone how I fell
You've didn't really tell me what it is about I'll just give you the best advice I think would be best.
I know how you feel. I've been shamed by many people because I'm not the person they want me to be and for years I've been too ashamed to tell the guys about my hair and my phobias but now I do by th third date if mo the first or second so I don't waste my time. I still have a while to go. Sure it'd be better if you had a friend but if not you can do it yourself like me. If they can't accept you've as you are they aren't accepting you as a person. You don't need their acceptance than because they mean nothing to you at the point.
Good luck.
Best wishes
- Ja'Mae
My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:
I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day
I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin?
Be honest.
One is you can't fake being a Virgin. Even if he is one I'm sure he knows there is supposed to be blood.
Two he will find out the truth one way or another because you never know when you'll run into an ex or get a call from them.
Three if he can't accept you for you, he's not the one. It's not like you were whoring around and, even if you were, the past us the past. Guys come and go as they please. The one will do anything to stick by your side because he loves you.
- Jae
This is our last big flare up. For a little background we have been married for 12 years. Second marraige for me and third for him. My father-law lives with us but not children. We both. Work for the airlines and are gone a lot.
Now I came home sick from a six day trip. My husband took care of me and he me gt better. I was working on our taxes and he was in the garage. I went I to the garage to tell him the chicken is still frozen and dinner will be late.. He ask me to tell his father. As I was trying to explain I was heading to the basement to pull papers he kept saying tell my father dinner was going to be late. I got so frustrated I slam the door.his father was told about dinner and was ok with it because he makes his own dinner half the time anyway. Later on in the office John,my husband and I got into it again. I ask him if me could come up with a single file system because I spend a lot of time looking for papers with several different files on the same subject. Then I made the comment paper files are out dated. He said in a arty way you like paper that is why you like getting the bank statement sent. Again I get mad because of the attact against me. We argue...I leave he leaves....nothing solved... That night he calls around 7:00pm and I ask if I could meet him for dinner. He said no. He came home around 8:30pm. Took a shower and climb in bed. At that point I took a sleeping pill because I do not want to deal with him. We have a dysfunctional relationship. We do not have sex and have not had sex in over six months. John can not get a hardon. Anyway the next day we argue again. He pushes me buttons. He gets up in my ace. So I punched him, he garbed me threw me down, I bit him and scratched him. Things got thrown and broken. Then him father starts cleaning things up. Like it s none of his business.
So now John left for a trip, we say we want to divorce and right now we no not like each other.....so what should we do? Oh we tried counciling and it does not work. Help
Sounds like a lot of work and home frustration. Go on vacation. Take a load off and get away from all the work and home and his father. If you need to pay for someone to watch him and the house. Go somewhere romantic and will leave you two alone for a month or two. It'll be like a second honeymoon. Sometimes this works to get all the stress away. Sometimes this all you need. (I do not recommand a cruise. Too much distraction. Go somewhere you two can have fun, is romantic, and you two can be left alone)
Also I don't know if you believe in God or not, but I do. I reccomand praying to him for help.
her mother is going to prison for one year for forgery related charges. I am wondering if I should take me 14 year old daughter to visit her but I am not sure if I want her to be in that kind of environment
it has nothing really to do with the mother. She made some stupid mistakes but it was out of character so I think she just got herself into a bad situation and make some poor decisions, She also never did anything bad at all before this. Also, her mother is showing regret and no defense at what she did and has admitted to being a bad influence to her daughter so that is why I am still willing to stick by her. And I am not defending her or saying she should not serve her punishment or anything either, it is really only the type of environment. I hear also it is a hassle to get in and you don't even get much time to speak. Also, if I take her to visit she might think "mom went to jail, she has no right to tell me what to do anymore" .Which would just be a stressful thing. I even heard her express a kind of joy at her mother being locked up and having to take orders from other people. While that is understandable since she did commit a crime, since her mother has shown remorse for what she did and clearly still cares for her daughter, I think eventually it needs to be put behind us. If I do decide to take her what should I say to her beforehand?
my wife is saying that if she wants to visit let her, but if she doesn't it is fine
No because my mom refused to take me to visit dad. She called him the bad guy. Five years later she kicks me out chosing her husband over me. I was afraid to contact dad because she convienced me he was bad since he had been in jail and it was safer to stay away. My aunt on my mom side convienced me to talk to him. A couple months later I live dad and have no contact with ma whatsoever. Please let her see her mom so she can have a mother and not be afraid of her. I don't want her to miss a chance like me.
b0ys always say i'm h0tt 0r cute 0r whatev. but i want a b0yfriend, and i can't seem t0 get 0ne. i really d0n't get it! like i think ab0ut it all the time, i'm n0t ugly i kn0w that, b0ys think i'm cute and everything but why can't i just get 0ne, especially that i really like. the 0ne i d0 doesn't like me. but i need him t0 get t0 notice me 0r soemthing. help! thanks! :D && b0ys advice w0uld be great from y0u guys t00!
I don't know anything about the guy you like, but I can say list things that he likes in a girl. if you don't know list all your strengths. find out what you are missing. I'm not saying your personality is bad but he might not like your personality or he likes somebody else. maybe he likes a certain type of girl like a sexy nerd. hope this helps; this is all I could come up with with the little information you gave me. there's not much I can say.
I have no idea what to do. So I guess I should start with the whole story. We weren't dating for a very long time just 3 months. We went on a double date to the movies and he put his arm around me and I thought it was perfect but then the next morning he texted me and said "I have to break up with because my parents are making me." I didn't think this was true but I just didn't want to believe the fact that he was lying to me. He also said it was because his grades really suck. Then when I went to school one of my best friends told me that it was a total lie and that he just wanted to date this other girl. I was so mad that I called him and I wanted to talk with him but he never answered and then I texted him and we both said some pretty bad things to each other. Then about 2-3 weeks later he texted me asking me if I liked anyone and I said no but it was a lie because I still like him. And he said that he likes a couple of other girls and that I was one of them. I think he will try to ask me out again, but I'm not sure what I should say. I need some advice on whether or not to say yes or no. I just want some more input on this other from my bestfriend. Thanks
I would say no. I've been in the same situation. I had told my ex that I had liked him but he chose a different girl over me so we didn't talk for a couple months. Then he was able to find and contact me and he asked me out. he explained to me that it was a mistake and he liked me not her. We ended up going out but broke up a couple months later. He then again approached me and ask me out and like an idiot I said yes. We broke up for the second time. Again after a couple months he approached me but this time he proposed. you think I would have learned my lesson but I didnt and. said yes. after about 6 months he broke up with me and called me a clingy b***h.
What can I say first time shame on him second time shame on me third time I'm just a idiot. there was no trace of our relationship except for the tears falling from my eyes and a broken heart followed behind me.
I can't tell you what to do but I am begging you and asking you please don't make the same mistake I did; you will regret it.
For the past week I've been waking up around 12ish and feeling very sick. Then I fall back asleep and countinue to keep waking up throughout the night. Any reason why? Please help.
Not enough info. Maybe it's when you stop eating or drinking. Sometimes that can cause stomach aches. I wake up at 12 or other times all the time. It's because I'm usually hot even when it's really cold. So if that's the reason maybe go to a doctor. My mom won't take me so I can tell you what to do. am looking it up now.
One says: Here's the deal. If you eat a lot of sugar/carbohydrate during the day, your's body's response when you're sleeping is going to be that much more acute. So...if you know you've had too many carbs during the day, your best bet is a protein shake or a can of albacore tuna. The protein helps to level out the insulin response. Also, I would try 200-400 mcg. of chromium before you go to sleep. The combination of the protein and the chromium should do the trick. I know exactly what you're going through and after 20 years of this, that combination is one of the best I've found. Also, it doesn't hurt if you wake up at like 5 or 6 a.m. to have 2or 3 oz. of juice watered down. It prevents both a drastic drop in blood sugar, but also doesn't elevate it and make you feel terrible when you get up in a few hours.
at: http://www.topix.com/forum/health/hypoglycemia/T9NQCDK5JLKO8FCQH
One says: Have you had a doctor perform blood work? I think that would be a good idea just to rule out any problems with your blood sugar or thyroid.
At:http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20111101102057AARzJxm
Hope this helps.
xoxo,
Jacharity
Hi,
I'm 14\f
I need help BAD.
My mom, my sister and me we all been having some herd time's in life.
But my mom and me... well I will just say that we have not been gotting alone.
Some time's it me I know but some time...I will just say it's NOT ME.
When she's worried she like's for other feel pain too. She not being fair.
I will tell you more. Like the time just a few days ago. Mom wanted me to get stuff to go in the wash(I don't do the wash I only help because some years ago I put to much soap... you get it don't you?)
And she wanted underwear and from the way she said it(and I ask I said like white things) I thought she meant white and white only.Next day she got mad and ask me why the hell did I not put colers to be washed( you know why I did not.)
It's not just this time but stuff like this happens all the time. Some time I think she mean for this stuff to happen. Like talking when we are in the bathroom and she no were nere it. Talking and walking away, all that junk. NOT FAIR. If we(me and my sister) can't hear you(my Mom) can some one please tell me how we can do what she said. And it's not like I dont say'can you say that again please'?
She said we need to hear batter. We say stop talking wallking away.
Don't know what to do about her.She's make this place a living hell.
OMG! Same problem I have with my mom. I'm getting kicked out on my 17th birthday which is in 3 and a half months. Anyway the best I can say is get mp3 player and ignore it until you can move out. A little advice. Save as much money as you can. Don't go to this thing called S.O.S because they won't help. I tried. It's called verbal and emotional abuse. Sometimes mental. Hopely she'll change. If she doesn't it'll get worse. So go buy an mp3 player. It helps to ignore hurtful things.
xoxo,
Jacharity
P.S. good luck
So I dont't know what to do because I'm a junior in high school and I like this guy who is also a junior... but the problem is that he like's my sister. That's not the worst part, she's my TWIN sister. /: I started liking him this year during football season because I'm a varsity cheerleader and he's a varsity football player and we just got closer. But then once I started getting closer to him, my sister tried getting closer to him also and she then told me she started liking him. -____- I don't know what to do because I do like him but i don't want to tell anybody. What should I do? :o
I understand. You don't want to get embarrassed. Get him along and tell him how you feel. If he don't like you back find someone else. I'm sure there's some guy out there who wants to go with you at school. This happens all the time. Turns out 9/10 there's a guy there that feels the same way. Just not with a twin sister. I know something that would make you feel better about this situation. Kind of. Imagine if your mom wanted him. Yea. My mom tries hitting on all the guys I like to prove she is better looking than me. She looks like me, but taller, her face a little different, and she ways more. Know that makes me angry.
xoxo,
Jacharity
So there is this guy in my class at school who is really shy..not like...shy....but I mean REALLY SHY... he dosent really talk to anyone other then his closest friends and his brother. So for about two years we have just been looking at eachother... like mostly it is, he looks at me,I look at him, I look away really fast because if he is just looking at me cuz he thinks I'm weird...that would be embarassing.. so, we never talk, but today when he looked at me...it was lke 24/7. Every time I would look at him, he would be staring at me... and today, he cracked a little smile at me. I don't know if he was looking at something behind me or what...but I can't conjure up the courage to talk to him. I like him a lot, but i don't know if he knows it.... so, do you think he likes me?? And how can I show him I like him without talking to him??
oh. I love this question because I'm shy also! I'm like realy shy like that. You're probably wondering well how are you typing know its because I don't have to talk to you face to face.
Things you could do:
Flirt innocently(so you won't scare him off)
Examples:
1. smile and look away
2. offer a note
3. leave a rose or some kind of flower at his
locker.
Other things:
1. Ask one of his best friends or his brother.
2. Stop being shy and ask him!
~Jacharity~
is male ejaculation is bad for marriage life?
im ejaculating once in 3 days.... plz answer whether its tough to give birth to a child in future?
After looking further into this I found out that people do, do it, but it increases the probablilty for the sperm to not get to the egg. You can have a low sperm count.
Fore more information: http://www.cnn.com/HEALTH/library/low-sperm-count/DS01049.html
~Jacharity~
Do you have kids? How many?
Would you be okay with them being on an advice website like this? My dad doesnt like it.
I don't have them, but I've been around many and most woudl say i would be a good mother.
Well it depends. If their 12-14 i would want to see what they were puting on the website and see what responses they got back. If they started talking about sex I would want to see the responses. If they were talking about boy or girl problems I would want to see the response because they could give them bad advice. Anything like friends or something liek that they could do on their own as long they are not fighting or threating to kill someone.
If they were 15 and up of course and they can talk about whatever. I just would let them know they can come to me about anything.
Another rule would don't give out a personal email unless they knew them.
~Jacharity~
When a guy tells friend that he thinks you are too innocent what the hell does that even mean?
My guy friend was trying to hook me up with his friend, so we all went out and i asked my friend what he thought and he said, i was alright looking but was too innocent, what does that even mean? please help! and what do you recommend i do for the future?
It depends on the guy. Sometimes it means you are not experienced and sometimes it means that you are the person who wouldn't go at it with a boyfriend until you really did trust them which takes a month or two. Depends on the girl. Like me I'm a virgin and proud to say so.
And as for the future let them think what they want. If I were you I showed what they were missing because they either wasn't willing to wait or wanted someone who had slept around so many times.
Sometimes even the girls that sleep around alot look good with the clothes but bad without them if you get what i'm saying lol.
~Jacharity~
ok i have this big issue with girls at school all because of a boy that ie een dateing for about 5months now. well these girls are starting to hate meh because i got something they dont have. so they began to tell him all these lies saying that i am fake and he should leave me for some other girl crazy right. so he told meh he he would never leave me and he dont believe what they are saying. but all i want to know is what am i supose to do at this point let them keep talking or shut them up and how do i bear threw these rumors thankxx
Been there done that. Show them what you are and I don't mean going down to their level and fighting. Gather your friends and/or your boyfriend and just keep walking and talking ignoring them.
Show them that no one is listening to their rumors. And as for your boyfriend if he really loves you he won't leave you. If you trust him you won't bug him about it. I mean you can talk to him about it, but don't annoy him by that being the only thing you talk about.
Maybe ask him to kiss you in front of them or that girl or both just to prove he isn't going anywhere and the rumors are not working.
That'll show them!
~Jacharity~
so i'm going to sixth form next year... a new school, hopefully new friends... but the thing is i ALWAYS used to be the shy quiet one and just about everyone keeps commenting how quiet i am. i'm not nerdy or anything like that though. i feel like before i move on to another school i want people to believe i'm not the passive shy girl they used to know before summer, but i don't really know how. i'd appreciate any tips to be more outgoing and to stand out more in a crowd then just blend in.
thanks :)
Tsk Tsk Tsk. No i'm kidding. If you really feel this way than why not start talking to people and showing how fun you are.
Now I'm not saying being creepy and run into people face and say hey what's up? Want to be friends?
You could join groups, clubs, sports. Maybe get a partner in class by asking them would they like to be your partner. If you get friends in class. You could like met up with them and talk to them all the way to class. For example if you have a friend(s)/group of friends in the same class at hour 4 than meet on the stairs that lead to your 4th hour class and talk all the way there to show you are not that shy person anymore.
~Jacharity~
can i get pregnant with my tubes tied
It's possible. Some doctors tie it the right way, but the woman still gets pregnant afterwards.
~Jacharity~
okay
so i like this guy. he was in my school and passed out this year. i am a year junior to him so i'll pass out next year!
i have been talking to him for quite a while now.. and i really like him. he likes me too. he asked me out recently.(though we both are confused on what to do because.. the problem is he is going to another country :/ for his college! and yeah well he would come back to where i live cause his family is here, but still i mean i dont know what i should do?)
I have a long distance relationship. This one you answer your self. I'll give you the question.
1. Do you have another trust?
A. If you do, do you have enough trust for
him?
If yes to both of those questions than go for it. Just text each other or call or send letters. To be trueful the longer the heart waits the stronger the relationship will be if the two really do love/like each other.
If no than you'll never get to know what's it like to date him and if you wait he'll either want to wait for you if he really loves/likes you or he might find someone new.
Either way you are finding out if he really loves/likes you.
~Jacharity~
I want to kill my self i stayed back twice and i hates school now things never go my way
I understand you're frustrated, but that's no reason to kill yourself. Just pick up the book and study.
If that doesn't help get extra help after school. Pratice your work. I'm sure the teachers wouldn't mind.
I wish you luck this year.
~Jacharity~
Okay well in a few weeks I am going to university near London, and as I'm from the countryside and quite far away I started browsing through the facebook pages for the uni and tried talking to people/adding them like a lot of people are doing, mostly so I wouldn't be totally alone haha.
Anyway, I added some guys and girls (and a few added me as well) but when I try and talk to the men they just don't seem like they want to talk at all, like single word answers and then they just stop all together, which to be honest, isn't helping me think I'll fit in at all.
The other thing is a lot of the people are black/dark which to me isn't a problem because I have a black boyfriend but I don't know if that is why I'm getting the feeling they don't want to talk or what...
The other thing is that when guys add me they talk to me as if I would have sex with them within a week, and I swear that's not like me at all, I had never even hugged a guy before this year, so I don't know if its just me coming across as a slut, though I don't know how, I never have pictures up with a lot of skin and I'm usually laughing in my pictures :/
On a side note the girls are fine and seem happy to talk about preparations and things like that, so that makes me feel a bit better but, I was really hoping I could be friends with guys too because I wanted to start a new life and I never really managed that before.
I don't know how to get advice on this issue actually, I just wanted to let out my worries I guess, sorry for wasting your time but feel free to post if you think you can help somehow :).
I totally understand where your coming from! But here's the thing. People are not going to like some random person on facebook adding them. I'm strict on who I add, but hey this isn't about me.
People add random people all the time, but that doesn't make them seem cool or popular just plain stupid and I'm not calling you stupid. Back to the topic.
My advice to you is just be yourself when you get there. Work on your work and greet people when they greet you. Another way to get to know people is in study groups or asking for help.
They might not like you at first especially if you're smart. But if you let time flow you'll have many friends. Especially if you're nice and let the real you show!
~Jacharity~
P.S. I said real you. Don't pretend to be someone you're not. If someone says they don't like you because you're a certian way. Just say "OK. Thank you for your opinion," and move on.
I am a girl, 14. He is also 14, 15 next week.
I have a best friend that is a guy, and he goes to another school now that we've moved onto high school. We text all the time, sometimes even during school, when we can. We have nicknames for each other, we have "our song" that is only ours (two or three actually), we have favourite things we like to do together, and it seems like I'm getting close to liking him. I've liked him before, which turned out in a massacre, but we patched it up and look where we are now. We're closer than ever. I even get jealous when he talks to my other friends, which I know sounds unreasonable, but I don't know why, I just get jealous. So, what should I do? Act on it, or just simply carry out this really good friendship with him?
It depends. If what happened last time turned into a massacre because you liked him went into a massacre because you told him or someone else told him no.
If that isn't what happened why not? Go for it. The worse that could happen is if he says no. If he is your true friend he'll let you donw gently and won't let this effect your friendship. You'll still be close.
Just say Hey (his name), what's up? Carry on a convo for a few seconds and than ask can you tell him something that is deep. Than tell him how you feel and hen your finished say "and I was wondering if you don't like me that we don't let this effect our friendship and we can still be friends."
Good Luck!
~Jacharity~