Im a 30 year old guy work as a relationship and sexual therapist counsellor ,and presently studying psychology at Uni .I have a few diplomas in sports and fitness food and nutrition remedial and theraputic massage ,Stretch expert ,weight loss ,armed combat,weight lifting ,power lifting .I train most days that i can which is about 3 to 5 days a week .Live on the central coast NSW .I love the beaches ,markets ,Gym ,barbecues,nudity ,football ,and many other things .Im a single dad .
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I'm a 20 year old guy 5'11'' tall and 140lbs. I weight train 4x/week, doing 2 workout roughtines each twice/week. The 1st focuses on upper body (curls, flys, pushups, rows, etc.) while the 2nd is lower body (calf raises, squats, lunges, etc.) I run 3-5x/week, performing HIIT (High Intensity Interval Training) where I run four, 5 min. intervals (2 min. slow, 2 medium, and 1 sprint for a total of 20 min.) I also do ab workouts 3x/week, performing renegrade rows, leg lifts, and various bridges. I eat very healthy though I'm afraid I may not be eating enough since I usually limit my caloric intake to around 1800 calories a day with lots of protein, a decent amount of complex carbs, and a minimal amount of fat. I'm at a loss as of what to do, whether to increase calories to help build muscle or limit them to cut fat. I have seen some results through these methods. Though I was never fat, I lost around 13 pounds over the course of around 2.5 months. I fear I might be "skinny fat" (slim frame/build but with underlaying fat in the gut) There is some definition in my chest/arms/legs/upper abs, though Im still pretty skinny. My biggest concern is the pouch I still have in place of my abs. My body fat caliper measurements place me at around 9% so I dont know why Im having this problem. I dont know if my exercise plan is having a positive, negative or any significant effect at all. Im not tring to get huge, I just want that "beach body" defined muscles, abs, etc. but with more of a swimmers build rather than a body builders. How do you think I should change my fitness/nutrtion regiments to achieve this goal? Thanks (link)
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How you going mate ,Let me just say your still only young and bodybuilding is a bit differet to other sports most dont peak till they are about 35 and still going strong into their 40s that is the beauty of body building its a way of life ive actually lived it for a lot of years done my couple of hours actual weights then there was all the other stuff like aerobics running sports swimming basketball touch footy .then there was diet sleaping different supplements.
Anyway back to the issue your still growing yet and some people are slow developers your a natural light weight by the sounds of it a bit like myself when i started back in the eighties.
I dont know what you do to train or what your diet is or how many times you eat a day .How long you sleep your rest periods etc etc etc .There is so much to know to give you a proper accurate assesment .So instead i will just say this .Training is consistency to lose weight or to put it on to build muscle or get stronger it does not matter it is all down to being consistent .
SO 1 CONSISTENT ,2DIET ,You want to build up you force feed you push food down your throat you try to have seven or 8 meals from when your awake till you go to sleep .But eat good food like fruit vegetables a youghart salads meat etc etc but trim fat of meat and grill your meat and take all skin of chicken etc .Have your 3 normal meals
Then after breakfast 2 hours later have some fruit and sultanas nuts then have lunch a few sandwiches or some pasta salad a peice of fruit .Then in the afternoon have another feed a couple of peices of fruit throw in a yougart then at tea time have a lashings of mash potato plenty of carbs to burn the next day some veges bit of mash punkin the reason u want it mashed is that way it settles for the nite because when your asleep you want you body repairing the ripped muscle that you tore during your work out , not processing food .Anyway after tea just before going to bed eat something very lite on the stomach and not a lot never bloat yourself in meals just fill up comfortably .By that time youve had breaky morning tea lunch afternoon tea tea then supper that adds upto six meals youve ate in one day now also take to the gym your protein drinks maybe a couple of energy bars when you wake up have breaky also have a small protein drink also take a drink to drink, while your at the gym the in the afternoon have another small protein drink then before bed have a small protein drink in the end youve had six meals and 3 or 4 protein drinks all good healthy food eaten comfortable dont bloat yourself .Any brand protein powder dont buy the dear stuff its all protein no matter what just get the cheap stuff .
3 .Sleep you have to sleep because your muscles grow while your asleep so try get your 10 hours a nite because they need to repair .Plus rest is good to rebuild energy
4 .Okay training try do your body twice over seven days somehow fit it all in in 3 days have a days rest and then do it all again if you only train 4 days a week same thing try get to train your whole body twice .To get big you need to go big continually press your boundries look for more weight and look at setting goals like next time i train i want to get 6 reps of that weight continualy set goals go big to get big do sets to pump and burn and deplete the muscle your working no pain no gain .Always change your routine around muscles can become complacent they know what your about to do and they are ready for it so dont get into the same routine to long you need to shock your muscles continuously keep them guessing and deplete them so you know you have had a good workout .You need to do your body twice or it is to slow building up .So here it is consistent ,Force feed diet protein drinks.Sleep rest grow,weights go heavy go big to get big do sets of heavy deplete the muscle and keep the muscles guessing shock them dont let them get use to working out the same way to long .They will grow mate if you follow what ive said trust me ive trained my entire life and have diplomas in training degrees in fitness
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I'm 23/female. I got out of a serious long term relationship recently, and am trying to date, but take things slowly. I don't want to have sex till I'm serious about someone, and I really don't think this is such an antiquated concept
I am occasionally somewhat naieve about men, as I'm bisexual and mostly dated one woman for the first part of my life, and then one guy for a long time.
What I want to know, is it natural for all guys to try and push for sex?
I went on a few dates with a couple different people, and even after I said "We arent going to have sex and I don't want to at this point" as we were kissing, they still try and push it in that direction. I slept with neither, obviously, but both situations got a little out of control, from my perspective of things.
Does it make a guy a jerk to push for that? Or is it just natural? I really don't want to have sex for the first few months of dating. (link)
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Hi 23 this is a comman problem for a lot of guys especially the younger ones .There is nice guys out there that do not push once they have been told NO .When i was younger and probably immature i was probably a bit of a pusher a lady would say no and i would still beg and try hard .Sometimes the woman would come across and sometimes they would not change their mind .Which does happen so guys will still try hoping to change your mind .Now that im older and more mature if a lady said no to me i accept this straight away because to me respect is everything .No means No .What you can do as a female if you dont want them to keep trying after you have said no is make sure your very assertive and direct to the point say their name.. example Garry i said no Iam not that type of girl and if i ever decide i will let you know in the mean time i want you to stop and cease and then make sure they answer you that is important that you get them to confirm it by saying okay or yes .If they winge or go oh bloody hell come on .Dont cop it look at them make them look at you and say do you understand and make them say yes .They will respect you more later for it and if the relationship does go further it will be built on respect its a good start to any relationship .And once you have made yourself clear and they answer and if they still do it then they dont respect you so walk away .Boys and men need to be taught sometimes we can be buggers but at the end of the day respect for each other
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I'm 12 in a half and I lost all my virginity to my boyfriend, he's 15.My bestfriend said that losing my at my age is really bad.I don't think its that bad that i'm not a virgin anymore.Is it bad i'm not a virgin at 12.Most of the time I have sex with him. My friend says I should tell my parents i've had sex. Should I tell my parents? (link)
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Hi Virginity at 12 ,Iam a male and i also lost my virginity at twelve many years ago though .I had sex with two older girls that were 14 .I did not tell my parents and i doubt that the girls told their parents either .Although they were not virgins when i slept with them .The trouble is you are young and you dont want to ruin your life by being a teen mother.Also the boy was 15 once he turns 16 he could be charged for having sex with a minor .You know mothers are pretty good if i was a girl and a teen and Knew what i knew now i would go talk to my mum .Tell her the truth that it was your decission and im sure she will not be happy ,but after the initial shock she will come around and discuss things with you we were all young once and it is part of human life that we all are going to have sex sooner or later .Attitudes have changed a lot .I have a 13 year old daughter and she is still a virgin i try to tell her to wait till she is married but i know in my heart it wont .but if she came to me i would support her as best i can and would just be honest with her about what boys are like i have already told her how boys are just after sex and they tell their friends and so many things can happen it is not realy worth it all in the end.Best to get a education and just hold hands and kiss and dont go any further .If they love you they will wait till you are ready
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my friend who is 18 has sex with her 20 year old brother .She told me she instigated it .should i tell her mum (link)
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No I do not advise you to do that .She entrusted you as a friend in confidentuality .If anything talk to her about it but no one else .If you value your friendship don"t betray it .They are both adults so it is not like they are hurting anyone although it is not right and morally wrong ,Best to just talk to her when the times arise but not to get involved
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