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I really do need help :/
I used to be with this guy for 2 years.. and he fucked me over badly, he left me and didnt want a relationship anymore, i wont lie we were too controlling , i dont understand why he did that but i admit that it was wrong of both of us for being like that, we never even let eachohther have friends from the opposite gender it was so stupid,.. anyways after the breakup i realized how stupid i was and he did too, he cme back to me, said he regret it, and wants to be togethr, im stupid and ofcourse gave in, but didnt get with him yet, i told him it was gonna take alot of time to gain his trust, he told me hell wait til whenever i need, and then when i told him i was ready he told me to give it time, that im rushing stuff, he feels like we have nothing in common anymore, after 2 YEARS? we have nothing in common? just because he met other people, but we agreed to just give it time, he started calling me baby again, tell me he loves me, and were always talking on BBM 24/7.. he has not even talked about us for a while, were growing closer but he still hasnt talked about it, my question is.. i dont wanna get SO attached to him like i used to be.. and i got so hurt and heartbroken i cant even explain it, and i wanna finish it up, either were together or not, how do i bring this up, SHOULD i bring this up with him ? what do i say? its not fair that he left me and now wants to give it time.. its not fair to me, and i cant take going everyday wondering if im talking to him all the time and its not leading to anything, i need advice on what to do and what to say, i get really nervous when it comes to him. i feel like he has the upper hand, and i want to have more power, please help me.. thank you to anyone who took the time <3
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When a couple breaks up, Even just one time it takes forever to be able to trust one another yet alone be suitably comfortable to the point where you aren't bracing for another break up. That is if the person ever fully gets over it.
Being dumped is draining and when you get back together it just 99% of the time isn't the same. Sometimes it takes people a while to realize they just aren't meant for one another and that is okay.
From the sound of it, The spark just is no longer there for you and this guy. You two basically fell out a long time ago and you are just now realizing it. This is one of the main reasons why I never give second chances......
You can never fully repair a break up no matter how hard you work at it, Break ups are permanently damaging in multiple ways. Emotional, Physical and sometimes Mentally. I would like to say sometimes being friends with an ex just prolongs the pain....but if you think you two are mature enough to manage one then go for it but I think your best bet is to start over and meet someone who is right for you.
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From where I'm standing.. sounds to me like you make better friends for each other than a partener to date. If you want to be in a relationship with him..I feel like you should have to fix or atleast understand the past before you can have a future that wont turn out the same. If you dont fix the problem that you ended your relationship with I will probably end the same again.
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Me and a guy did that for 5 years straight..so I know what im talking about lol...just tell him you would like to know when hell be ready for next step and how he feels about the relationship...often when being together that long and breaking up the guy finds other girls who are completely different so he likes not being tied down cause he was for years but if he truly loves you he might wanna take it slow so he dont hurt you agian
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