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Broken up
Me and my boyfriend just broke up because I couldnt seem to feel secure in the relationship and he just wasnt making me happy anymore.
Ive never felt so bad though :/ like i honestly think i might be going into depression. I broke it off last night but I cried a lot and he just kept agreeing and saying we werent meant to be right now. He did say that he really wanted to date me in a year when he wasnt so focused on school and boxing. (It was long distance) I just feel so hurt and like none of our 2 years was real :{ I guess im asking for help and advice on how to get over this. im in a really bad place and I dont want to feel this pathetic and sad for too long. Do you guys think he really means it when he says he wants to be with me in the future?
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Break ups are hard.
It's going to take time especially because it was last year. It's not like you're planning on going out tomorrow and going a date. You had feelings for him but it just didn't work out. You also did what was best for YOU, and you weren't happy. You need to grieve for a bit and just think about what you want. Don't worry about him in the future. If you two are meant to be you're meant to be. If he is the one you're meant to be with it'll happen. There is no telling what the future holds for you though because there maybe someone who fits you better. I believe things happen for a reason. Try to stay positive! Good luck!
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I also answered your previous question
This is the first step, Breakups are not easy.
The best way to move on is to learn to accept that it was no more than what it was. It isn't your fault, It's not his fault it just simply wasn't meant to be. Focusing on YOU is how you move on, I was in a relationship for 5 years and yes, I also went through some bad times but it's over 3 years later and I am happy again. Healing takes time but I suggest if you have friends spend time with them, Spend time with family. Do things you love to do. Go for walks, Go to the mall with a friend etc. The worst thing you can do is mope around the house and think about it. Honestly? If the guy wants to get back together in a year when he will be able to see you in person etc. Then that's fine but I seriously wouldn't try and have an online relationship. Like I previously said, They just aren't real. In the meantime I would take some time off on dating and when you are ready try and meet other people that can have a real relationship with you.
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I'm glad that you were the one to initiate the break up. You're doing the right thing (I read your previous story asking for advice about what to do w/ the relationship). There is no easy way to get over a break up especially when you've been together for 2 years. You're going to be sad for a while but keep yourself busy with your friends and as time goes on it will get easier. You should get yourself all prettied-up and go out with your girlfriends. You sound like a really sweet girl and I'm sure guys will be lining up for a chance to get to know you. Even though you probably won't be ready to date for a while getting attention from other men reminds you that there are other people out there and that the end of this relationship does not mean the end of your love life.
No one knows besides your ex if he meant it when he said he would like to date you in a year. However, some guys say that just to ease the blow of the break up, and sometimes the really big jerks say it to give you false hope because they know it may prevent you from seeing other people in case your ex decides that he wants to get back together with you. Don't do that. Don't not put yourself out there and maybe miss the chance of falling in love because you're holding onto false hope that he'll want to get back together with you someday. In my opinion it wasn't really fair of him to say that to you. He obviously knows how loyal you are and how badly you wanted the relationship to work so its really unfair for him to give you the idea that maybe he'll decide he wants to be a real boyfriend when its convenient for him. Just know that you deserve better and when its real love a guy will walk through fire to be with you and will do everything in his power to make it work. Please move on. You will find a guy that is crazy about you and treats you like you deserve to be treated. If you ever want to message me I would be more then happy to talk to you, I really mean that.
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